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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2023Hindi
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Hi , I am Jose. I have a very complicated relationship issue. I loved a girl when I was about 18, she was from a financially better off family. This was a major reason that I hesitated to tell her about my love, instead remained a friend. She was better qualified too. I started working and wanted to be in a financially better situation before I confessed my love for her. In the meanwhile she got herself admitted in a college in the US, I decided to tell her, but was too late, she had already committed herself to her senior in college. We made a promise to each other that we will remain friends. We kept in touch through letters. Then I decided to get married as per the family wishes. Shortly she too got married to her boyfriend . We told our partners about each other. We continued to keep in touch thro email and phone calls once/twice in a year. We would meet once or twice every time she would visit from the US. We never had any physical relationship at the most it would be a peck on the cheek or just holding hands. We immersed ourselves in our personal / professional lives. We had 2 sons with our partners. Now the boys are in their 20's. In the meanwhile she found out her husband was having a relationship with some other woman, in the ensuing arguments it led to their divorce a couple of years back. Since 2021 I had 2 heart attacks, and survived. All these years I never had a happy life , we stayed together due to societal pressures and in the last 2 years we never had a physical relation too. She always had a hatred towards physical relationship. I hate forcing myself on her, so we have remained seperate in the last few years. After my 2nd attack, my friend helped me stop my smoking and somehow our chats on whatsapp or personal meets when she comes here have started becoming very mushy and with a lots of deeply loving words. I know I cannot divorce my wife as I would lose a lot of my immovable properties on which i depend for my rental income as I have actually gifted my wife a lot of my properties. Nowadays I am getting drawn towards my friend again and very strongly. Confused, and not knowing how to proceed. I am no longer working and depend on rentals for my earnings.

Ans: My dear friend,

It sounds like you're in a very complicated situation, and it's understandable that you feel confused and unsure about how to proceed. It's important to take some time to really think about what you want and what's best for you, as well as consider the impact of your actions on those around you.

First, it's important to acknowledge that your friend is currently in a vulnerable position after going through a divorce. While it's natural to feel drawn towards her, it's important to make sure that any actions you take are respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs.

At the same time, it's also important to consider your own needs and desires. You mentioned feeling unhappy in your current relationship and feeling drawn towards your friend again. It's important to really examine those feelings and think about what it is that you want in your life and your relationships.

However, it's also important to consider the potential consequences of your actions. You mentioned that you cannot divorce your wife without losing a significant amount of your income, and that you've already gifted her a lot of your properties. It's important to consider the financial and emotional impact that divorce could have on both you and your wife, as well as any children or other family members who may be affected.

One possible option could be to explore couples therapy or marriage counseling to see if there are ways to improve your current relationship and address the issues that have been causing unhappiness. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your feelings, but to do so in a way that is respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs as well.

Ultimately, the decision about how to proceed is up to you, but it's important to take the time to really think things through and consider all the potential consequences of your actions.

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Hi Love Guru. Please keep my identity as anonymous as possible.  I have few issues going on in my mind and want your suggestions. First, to get out of block and unblock chain. I met a girl who is my brother’s friend in 2017. We started chatting on FB, then exchanged numbers. We had a rapport till six months. There was a unique attachment between us during that period. Not chatting with her for even one day would make me uneasy. In October 2017, her engagement was fixed. I was normal, knowing that there cannot be much between us except being in contact. One day, at the end of our talk, she said, Love you. I laughed, saying “What nonsense that you always call me with different weird names. Now, after your engagement is fixed, you are telling me this.” Then, she blocked me on WhatsApp and I really felt like I was in a cage. Then, after a few days, she unblocked me. She got engaged but, after a few months, her engagement broke. We then again got in good contact. After few months her marriage got fixed. Now she is married. After her marriage, our contact was very, very less as priorities changed. I proceeded with my studies and job and she carried on with her personal and professional life. Two months back, she called me and said I am bored and feeling irritated with life so I called you to freshen my mind. I was also happy talking to her. I am that kind of introvert person who opens up with few and she was among them. For one or two weeks, we used to talk 30 to 45 minutes daily. Suddenly, she blocked me on WhatsApp. I called her and she behaved like a stranger to me -- like who’s this, I don’t know you, who you are and she ended the call and blocked me. Till date, she has blocked me. I think there are many things she is hiding from me -- from why her first engagement broke to marring another guy who is not of her caste when she is from a conservative family  Post her engagement, there were many times she blocked and unblocked me. She is running in my mind. I want to get rid of her. Please suggest how and what shall I talk to her so I get an end to this. Thank you for bearing to read all this. My second issue is I think I am addicted to pornography. Two to three years back, I used to watch a lot of porn and would prefer MILF porn, ie senior pornstars videos. I think, due to this, I don’t get much attracted to girls of my age. I respect them but I think, because of my addiction, I see females elder to me attractive rather than females of my age. Please help. Suggest how I shall get out of this as this also affects me academically, personally and professionally. Thank you, Anon
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Dear Anonymous,

I don’t think you really have any serious problems in your life at all; it’s your perceptions that are all wrong.

Let me straighten this out for you, one issue at a time.

First off, you have one weird, unpredictable friend who once told you she loved you and then went and married someone else.

Not once have you stated that you are in love with her or have feelings for her. In fact, when she said she loved you, you brushed it off.

She contacts you when she’s bored and cuts you off when she’s not.

And now, it’s come to the point where you really need to be the one blocking her and not the other way around...

You want to get rid of her? Block her once and for all. And if she still manages to get in touch, tell her politely that you have had enough of this one-sided friendship and not to contact you again.

Second, about what you think is a porn ‘addiction’... An addiction is something that interferes with your normal life, career and relationships. It’s an obsession that consumes you every waking hour.

And, from what you’ve said, I don’t think you’re watching such volumes of pornography every day, are you?

Furthermore, unless you’re into grannies, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being attracted to women older than you... everyone has a type!

If after everything I’ve said you still fancy you have problems, I’d suggest visiting a therapist. But before spending that kind of money, think long and hard about what I’ve said and decide for yourself whether you think you need it.

 

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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I'm 58 now, since he age of 18 I was in love with a neighborhood girl. She was Hindu but I a christian. Her family was comparatively well to do . This prompted me to keep myself from expressing my feelings, I got myself a job and waited to have some financial independence. In the meanwhile she fell in love with someone else and also moved to the US, I was too late in expressing my feelings to her, and I told her under the condition we remain friends. After she moved we kept in touch thro' letters or an occasional phone call in the late 1980's. In the begining of the 1990's both of us got married to different partners , but continued to keep in touch as friends, which both our partners were aware. We used to meet personally whenever she would come to India, which was once in a year or sometimes even 2/3 years. We both have 2 boys each and the boys are now in their 20's. A couple of years ago she got divorced as her partner was in a physical relationship with someone else. In the meanwhile I continued with my wife even though we were totally incompatible and we literally hate each other. We didn't think of divorce coz of social pressures and in my case I've gifted her a major chunk of my immoveable assets but I earn rent on these properties which helps me meet y daily expenses. Over the last 2 years I had 2 heart attacks. the second one brought us both very close as she was concerned about my health, she came down to India and spent a few days motivating me to lead a healthier life, which co incidentally my wife never does, instead blames and nags me on my lifestyle. We have never had a physical relationship, at the most when we meet it's a warm peck on the cheek or just holding hands. Now I am getting back to my teenage years, I'm madly in love with her and want her. I know for sure if I do that my children would disown me and I'll lose a large part of my property which gives me a earning. I want her. I'm right now confused, illogical and very emotional.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do realize that you have had to wait for this long for your love to be recognized and reciprocated as well. But that's the Nature of Time, If something does not yield a result at that moment, even if it fruitions later in time, it may not be very conducive to the people involved as everyone has grown in that particular relationship to form situational bonds. Meaning, you and she have become parents and your wife is still part of this equation.

It's not wrong to feel what you are feeling; but do not compare both the women. If your friend never existed, you would have had a different opinion on your wife altogether. Marriage is about accepting your partner at the core for who he/she is.

Now, let's take your situation and break it down. Suddenly, your friend who was married and because of which you respected boundaries is suddenly no longer in a marriage. So, that has given you an opportunity to think of how your life could have been with her and is tempting you to think of it. I understand that your health conditions would also have urged you to live life to the fullest. But, you are still married and you have a lot of financial tie-ups with your wife. Your friend possibly might not even want what you want. Plus, the children...it's one huge complication...

Should you not live your life? Yes, you must and should BUT do weigh what you might lose for what you want to gain. Are willing to risk it for the sake of love? It's the only logical way to approach this situation.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2023Hindi
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Hi, myself is 31 years old guy and I was in relationship with the women (collegue of mine in previous company) who is married and had 1 son and she is 9 years elder then me. Basically I was going through a tough time as I had breakup in 2017 and started drinking and smoking which usually everybody does after a heartbreak. In year 2019 she got to know about my drinking habits and she starting giving her time to me so that I stop all this things. She used to behind me to stop all these things but gradually after a year or so we started developing feelings for each other. We used to talk to a lot like almost we used to share everything and in year 2020 we got into relation and we proposed each other. Everything was fine till 2021. In year 2021 I went for a group picnic where my Ex was also present and my biggest mistake was that I didn't shared this thing with her but she got to know this from one of our common collegue who was also part of the picnic & after that disaster started in our life. She started doubting me that I am still in relation with my Ex but I was not there & continuously I have to prove myself that I don't have any feelings for my ex & I love you only. I was ready to do anything for her even just to surprise her I travel to her city where she went on vacation to her parents house. But unfortunately that was the last time we were together the moment I came to my hometown things started getting worse as she again started doubting me and in anger I just burst on her and after that she stopped talking and bcz of which I went into a depression and due to which I was completely mess was not able to do anything in my life except drinking. Now it has been 2 years that we don't talk except only on some occasion she calls or msg. Still I am having the same feeling for her which I had 3 years back & I need her back in my life. Please suggest me what should I do in this scenario.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear you are facing such challenges in your life. Doubt and jealousy can ruin a relationship and your relationship is proof of that. While you might not have had bad intentions when you did not reveal your ex being present in the gathering with you, it is also understandable that your partner's trust suffered a crack which finally gave away completely. The thing to learn here is that open communication could have saved you all these sufferings. But that's all in the past. Right now you are separated from your partner and I assume she is not interested in getting back together. Your question should not be how to get her back, but rather how can I move on. Your job is not to convince her but to convince yourself that this is for the best. And it truly is; no relationship can survive in the shadows of doubt.

Focus on yourself. Spend time with your friends. Understand that you made a tiny mistake but you tried your best to convince your partner of your loyalty to her; it did not work out but you are not to blame. Some things just don't, and your relationship was one of those things. Forgive yourself if you feel guilty for not disclosing the situation to your partner. You know you were not a cheater and it's no longer your job to convince her of that. Give yourself ample time to grieve the loss and accept that it's lost. Don't keep looking for ways to get back together or you will never move on. It will hurt in the beginning but it will get better soon. Once you feel better, go out and meet people. I am not saying your ex-partner wasn't great but trust me, there are more people out there, who are amazing; they will help you not just heal but also grow.

It's time to let go.

Best Wishes!

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I am 43 years old and we have a 3rd old single child (son) - i am in consulting business with varied annual income. I am currently investing monthly SIPs in the following categories and wanted to check if this is the right mix. I have started investing in MFs since 2020 without any expert guidance. Large Cap / Blue-chip 57,500 Small Cap 50,000 Multi Asset 55,000 Nifty 50 25,000 Index Fund 5,000 Flexi Cap Fund 25,000 ELSS 25000
Ans: It's commendable that you're actively investing in mutual funds to secure your financial future. However, there are a few considerations to ensure that your investment mix is appropriate for your financial goals and risk tolerance:
• Diversification: While your investment in various categories such as Large Cap, Small Cap, Multi-Asset, Flexi Cap, and ELSS shows diversification, it's essential to review the allocation within each category to ensure optimal diversification.
• Risk Management: Small Cap and Flexi Cap funds typically carry higher risk due to their exposure to smaller companies and more volatile market segments. Ensure that your risk exposure aligns with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
• Asset Allocation: Consider reviewing your asset allocation strategy to ensure it aligns with your long-term financial goals. Multi-Asset funds can help provide diversification across different asset classes, but it's essential to monitor their performance and adjust allocation if necessary.
• Expert Guidance: Since you mentioned that you started investing without expert guidance, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can assess your current investment strategy, understand your financial goals, and provide personalized recommendations.
• Regular Review: It's essential to regularly review your investment portfolio's performance and make adjustments as needed based on changing market conditions, your financial goals, and risk tolerance.
Overall, while your investment mix shows diversification across different categories, consider seeking expert guidance to ensure that your investment strategy is optimized for your financial goals and risk profile.
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I am 21 yrs old i want to invest 40 to 50 000 per month in mutual funds, i want to invest for min 20 yrs kundly suggest mutual funds Arnav p
Ans: It's impressive that you're thinking about investing at such a young age. Here's a suggestion for your monthly investment in mutual funds:
• Diversified Equity Funds: Since you have a long investment horizon of at least 20 years, you can consider investing a significant portion of your monthly amount in diversified equity funds. These funds invest across various sectors and market capitalizations, offering growth potential over the long term.
• Large Cap Funds: Allocate a portion of your investment to large-cap funds, which invest in well-established and financially stable companies. These funds provide stability to your portfolio while offering steady returns over time.
• Mid and Small Cap Funds: To capitalize on the growth potential of mid and small-cap companies, consider investing in mid and small-cap funds. These funds have the potential to deliver higher returns over the long term but come with higher volatility.
• Flexi Cap Funds: Flexi cap funds offer flexibility in asset allocation across market capitalizations based on market conditions. They can adapt to changing market dynamics and provide opportunities for capital appreciation.
• Balanced Advantage Funds: Considering your age and long investment horizon, you can also include balanced advantage funds, which dynamically allocate between equity and debt instruments based on market valuations. These funds offer downside protection during market downturns.
Before investing, it's essential to assess your risk tolerance, investment goals, and time horizon. Additionally, consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can provide personalized recommendations based on your financial situation and goals.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Sir, I have invested Rs-5,00000.00 amount in Aditya Birla sun life psu Equity fund Direct growth in lumsum ( one time investment) for 10 years and it's returns is more high I.e 48% .Is it correct decision or not. Please guide me for better secure and bright future.
Ans: Investing solely based on past performance, especially when chasing high returns, can be risky. Here's why:
• Thematic Funds Risk: Thematic funds like PSU equity funds focus on specific sectors or themes, which can be volatile and risky. While they may offer high returns during certain periods, they can also underperform or incur losses during market downturns or changes in sectoral trends.
• Chasing Returns: Investing based solely on recent high returns may lead to overlooking fundamental factors such as the fund's objective, underlying holdings, and risk profile. It's crucial to consider factors like consistency, volatility, and alignment with your financial goals.
• Market Timing: Timing the market, especially in lump-sum investments, is challenging and often unpredictable. Trying to enter or exit the market at the 'right' time can result in missed opportunities or losses. It's essential to focus on long-term investment strategies rather than short-term market timing.
To secure a better and brighter financial future:
• Diversification: Consider diversifying your investments across different asset classes and fund categories to spread risk and capture opportunities across various market segments.
• Goal-based Investing: Define your financial goals, investment horizon, and risk tolerance clearly. Invest in line with these objectives rather than chasing short-term gains.
• Regular Review: Monitor your investments regularly and review their performance relative to your goals. Make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your long-term objectives.

In addition to the points mentioned, consider investing through a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized advice and guidance tailored to your financial goals and risk profile. Here's why:
• Expert Guidance: A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can assess your financial situation, understand your goals and risk tolerance, and recommend suitable investment options aligned with your needs.
• Professional Advice: An experienced financial planner can help you navigate the complexities of the investment landscape, offer insights into market trends, and provide objective advice to optimize your investment portfolio.
• Holistic Approach: A CFP takes a holistic approach to financial planning, considering factors such as tax implications, estate planning, insurance needs, and retirement goals in addition to investment strategies.
• Regular Monitoring: Your financial planner can regularly review your investments, track their performance, and make necessary adjustments to ensure they remain aligned with your objectives over time.
• Peace of Mind: By entrusting your investment decisions to a qualified professional, you can gain peace of mind knowing that your financial affairs are in capable hands, allowing you to focus on other aspects of your life.
Investing through a Certified Financial Planner can enhance the effectiveness of your investment strategy and increase the likelihood of achieving your long-term financial goals.
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Chief Financial Planner,
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I'm investing in 3 sectorial/ thematic funds like psu, infrastructure, defence,and 3 small cap funds and 1 large cap fund and 2 mid caps funds and 1 flexi cap is my portfolio good or any changes required please review
Ans: Your portfolio seems adequately diversified, but there are some considerations to address, especially regarding sectoral/thematic funds. While these funds offer the allure of investing in specific industries or themes, they come with inherent risks:

High Volatility: Sectoral and thematic funds are more susceptible to market volatility and sector-specific risks. Economic, regulatory, or geopolitical factors can significantly impact these sectors, leading to volatile returns.
Cyclical Nature: Sector performance tends to be cyclical, with periods of outperformance followed by underperformance. Timing the market or predicting sector rotations can be challenging, making it difficult to achieve consistent returns.
Lack of Diversification: Investing heavily in a single sector or theme exposes your portfolio to concentration risk. If the chosen sector underperforms, it can significantly impact your overall portfolio returns.
Limited Upside Potential: While sectoral funds may outperform during specific market conditions, their performance can lag during other periods. Over the long term, diversified funds may offer better risk-adjusted returns by spreading investments across multiple sectors.
Given these perils, it's advisable to reconsider your allocation to sectoral/thematic funds and instead focus on diversified active funds. These funds offer broader exposure to various sectors and industries, helping mitigate concentration risk while potentially delivering more consistent returns.

Consider reallocating your investments towards diversified active funds, such as multi-cap or flexi-cap funds. These funds have the flexibility to invest across market caps and sectors based on prevailing market conditions, offering a balanced approach to wealth accumulation.

Additionally, consult with a certified financial planner (CFP) to tailor your investment strategy to your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon. A CFP can provide personalized guidance to optimize your portfolio and navigate market uncertainties effectively.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Hello Ma'am , I am investing in below mutual funds through SIP. ICICI balanced Advantage 2K HDFC Balanced Advantage 3K Tata Midcap and Largecap 3K Nippon India Small Cap 2K Motilal Midcap 2K ICICI Prudential Commodities 5K Quant Small Cap 5K Is it good funds for long terms ( Horizon of 8/10 years) ? I want to invest more 10K in SIP then which fund should I chose ? Thanks
Ans: Hello,
It's great to see your interest in investing for the long term. Let's review your current mutual fund portfolio and suggest additional options for your increased investment:
1. ICICI Balanced Advantage: This fund follows a dynamic asset allocation strategy, making it suitable for investors looking for a balanced approach with the flexibility to adjust to market conditions.
2. HDFC Balanced Advantage: Similar to ICICI Balanced Advantage, this fund aims to provide capital appreciation by dynamically managing the allocation between equity and debt instruments.
3. Tata Midcap and Largecap: Investing in both mid-cap and large-cap stocks can offer diversification benefits across market segments, potentially enhancing returns over the long term.
4. Nippon India Small Cap: Small-cap funds like this one focus on investing in smaller companies with high growth potential. They can be more volatile but offer the opportunity for significant capital appreciation over the long term.
5. Motilal Midcap: Mid-cap funds target companies with medium market capitalization, aiming to capture growth opportunities in this segment of the market.
6. ICICI Prudential Commodities: Commodity funds invest in commodities like gold, crude oil, etc. They can provide diversification but may be more suitable for investors with a higher risk appetite.
7. Quant Small Cap: Another small-cap fund that focuses on investing in small-sized companies poised for growth.
For an additional SIP investment of 10K, you may consider adding a large-cap or diversified equity fund to your portfolio to further diversify across market segments. Large-cap funds typically invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable performance. They can provide stability and consistent returns over the long term.
Additionally, it's essential to regularly review your portfolio's performance and make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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Hi, I am 26 year old. I am willing to start SIP for 100000 every month. How to invest these Corpus to achive 1.5cr in next 5 years. I don't have any savings. In real-estate having 30L without no income.
Ans: Given your age and investment horizon, aiming for a corpus of 1.5 crores in five years is an ambitious goal. However, it's essential to create a realistic investment plan to work towards achieving it. Here's a suggested approach:
1. Assess Risk Tolerance: Given your relatively young age, you may have a higher risk tolerance, allowing you to consider aggressive investment strategies. However, it's crucial to balance risk with your financial goals and comfort level.
2. Diversified Portfolio: Instead of solely relying on SIPs, consider diversifying your investment across various asset classes to spread risk. While SIPs in mutual funds can form a significant part of your portfolio, consider allocating a portion to other asset classes like equities, debt instruments, and possibly real estate.
3. Equity Mutual Funds: Since you have a substantial monthly investment capacity, you can allocate a significant portion to equity mutual funds. Focus on a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds to diversify across market capitalizations.
4. Systematic Investment Plan (SIP): Utilize SIPs to invest systematically over time, averaging the cost of purchase and reducing the impact of market volatility. Allocate a portion of your monthly investment towards SIPs in equity mutual funds.
5. Regular Review: Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio to ensure alignment with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and market conditions. Adjust your investment strategy as needed to optimize returns and manage risk effectively.
6. Emergency Fund: While focusing on wealth accumulation, don't forget to set aside an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses or income disruptions. Aim for at least three to six months' worth of living expenses in a liquid and easily accessible account.
7. Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a certified financial planner (CFP) to develop a personalized investment plan tailored to your financial situation, goals, and risk profile. A CFP can provide valuable insights and guidance to help you achieve your financial objectives.
Given your existing real estate holdings, ensure that your investment strategy accounts for diversification and liquidity considerations. Real estate can be illiquid and subject to market fluctuations, so maintaining a balanced portfolio is crucial for long-term financial stability.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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I am 38 yrs old with 1lakh salary living in rented house, due to some family issue all my saving gone ,again i hv starting saving from this year through Sip of 1k in each companies ,BOI small cap, nippon india power&infra,quant small,motilal oswal midcap,icici prudential commodities ,icici bluechip ,kotak infra&economics reform,axis nifty IT ,icici pharma index , nippon small cap, quant elss , quant aboslute, bandhan sterling value fund, hdfc focus 30 ,nippon largecap, hdfc multi cap, quant flexi cap , mahindra small cap, prag parikh flexi cap, quant large cap, quant psu fund, sbi balanced advantage , aditya birla sunlife osu equity , sbi energy opportunities fund, ppf 8k. Whether i need to conssolidate or better to invest in all with this amount till 1 yr and then consolidate as i want to retire at the age 55yrs and how much corpus i need for retirement at 55yrs and what amount i need to save as my monthly expense is about 55-60k?? Please help
Ans: It's commendable that you've restarted your savings journey through SIPs despite facing challenges. Given your situation, here's a suggested approach:
1. Review your portfolio: With a diversified portfolio of SIPs across various funds, it's essential to periodically review your investments' performance and their alignment with your financial goals.
2. Consolidation: Consider consolidating your SIPs into fewer funds to simplify your portfolio management and reduce administrative hassle. Choose funds that align with your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial objectives.
3. Retirement planning: To estimate your retirement corpus, calculate your expected annual expenses post-retirement and multiply it by the number of years you expect to live in retirement. Factor in inflation to determine the future value of expenses.
4. Savings target: Based on your retirement corpus requirement and the number of years left until retirement, calculate the monthly savings required to achieve your goal. Consider factors like inflation, investment returns, and any additional sources of income post-retirement.
5. Professional advice: Consult a certified financial planner (CFP) who can assess your financial situation comprehensively and provide personalized recommendations tailored to your goals and risk tolerance.
6. Emergency fund: Prioritize building an emergency fund equivalent to three to six months' worth of living expenses to cover unexpected financial setbacks.
7. Regular review: Periodically review your financial plan and make necessary adjustments based on changes in your financial situation, goals, and market conditions.
By consolidating your investments, setting clear retirement goals, and seeking professional guidance, you can work towards building a secure financial future.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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I am 38 yrs old with 1lakh salary living in rented house, due to some family issue all my saving gone ,again i hv starting saving from this year through Sip of 1k in each companies ,BOI small cap, nippon india power&infra,quant small,motilal oswal midcap,icici prudential commodities ,icici bluechip ,kotak infra&economics reform,axis nifty IT ,icici pharma index , nippon small cap, quant elss , quant aboslute, bandhan sterling value fund, hdfc focus 30 ,nippon largecap, hdfc multi cap, quant flexi cap , mahindra small cap, prag parikh flexi cap, quant large cap, quant psu fund, sbi balanced advantage , aditya birla sunlife osu equity , sbi energy opportunities fund, ppf 8k. Whether i need to conssolidate or better to invest in all with this amount till 1 yr and then consolidate as i want to retire at the age 55yrs and how much corpus i need for retirement at 55yrs?? Please help
Ans: It's commendable that you've restarted your savings journey through SIPs despite facing challenges. Given your situation, here's a suggested approach:
1. Review your portfolio: With a diversified portfolio of SIPs across various funds, it's essential to periodically review your investments' performance and their alignment with your financial goals.
2. Consolidation: Consider consolidating your SIPs into fewer funds to simplify your portfolio management and reduce administrative hassle. Choose funds that align with your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial objectives.
3. Retirement planning: To estimate your retirement corpus, calculate your expected annual expenses post-retirement and multiply it by the number of years you expect to live in retirement. Factor in inflation to determine the future value of expenses.
4. Savings target: Based on your retirement corpus requirement and the number of years left until retirement, calculate the monthly savings required to achieve your goal. Consider factors like inflation, investment returns, and any additional sources of income post-retirement.
5. Professional advice: Consult a certified financial planner (CFP) who can assess your financial situation comprehensively and provide personalized recommendations tailored to your goals and risk tolerance.
6. Emergency fund: Prioritize building an emergency fund equivalent to three to six months' worth of living expenses to cover unexpected financial setbacks.
7. Regular review: Periodically review your financial plan and make necessary adjustments based on changes in your financial situation, goals, and market conditions.
By consolidating your investments, setting clear retirement goals, and seeking professional guidance, you can work towards building a secure financial future.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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I am 38 yrs old with 1lakh salary living in rented house, due to some family issue all my saving gone ,again i hv starting saving from this year through Sip of 1k in each companies ,BOI small cap, nippon india power&infra,quant small,motilal oswal midcap,icici prudential commodities ,icici bluechip ,kotak infra&economics reform,axis nifty IT ,icici pharma index , nippon small cap, quant elss , quant aboslute, bandhan sterling value fund, hdfc focus 30 ,nippon largecap, hdfc multi cap, quant flexi cap , mahindra small cap, prag parikh flexi cap, quant large cap, quant psu fund, sbi balanced advantage , aditya birla sunlife osu equity , sbi energy opportunities fund, ppf 8k. Whether i need to conssolidate or better to invest in all with this amount till 1 yr and then consolidate as i want to retire at the age 55yrs and how much corpus i need for retirement at 55yrs and what amount i need to save ,my monthly expense is 55-60k?? Please help!!
Ans: It's commendable that you've restarted your savings journey through SIPs despite facing challenges. Given your situation, here's a suggested approach:
1. Review your portfolio: With a diversified portfolio of SIPs across various funds, it's essential to periodically review your investments' performance and their alignment with your financial goals.
2. Consolidation: Consider consolidating your SIPs into fewer funds to simplify your portfolio management and reduce administrative hassle. Choose funds that align with your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial objectives.
3. Retirement planning: To estimate your retirement corpus, calculate your expected annual expenses post-retirement and multiply it by the number of years you expect to live in retirement. Factor in inflation to determine the future value of expenses.
4. Savings target: Based on your retirement corpus requirement and the number of years left until retirement, calculate the monthly savings required to achieve your goal. Consider factors like inflation, investment returns, and any additional sources of income post-retirement.
5. Professional advice: Consult a certified financial planner (CFP) who can assess your financial situation comprehensively and provide personalized recommendations tailored to your goals and risk tolerance.
6. Emergency fund: Prioritize building an emergency fund equivalent to three to six months' worth of living expenses to cover unexpected financial setbacks.
7. Regular review: Periodically review your financial plan and make necessary adjustments based on changes in your financial situation, goals, and market conditions.
By consolidating your investments, setting clear retirement goals, and seeking professional guidance, you can work towards building a secure financial future.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

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