Help! I'm Overthinking Every Date - How Can I Stop?

Ans: Dear Harsh,
There are other people in this world other than just girls...You can surely start to interact with them?
Join a gym or join a hobby class where you will meet like-minded people. Focus less on girls till you actually master the skill of talking to men.
The unnecessary stress while talking to girls is making you even more stressed. So, instead of saying: I will try again tomorrow, why don't you instead say: I am happy with the friends I have made today and will make tomorrow...
See how much that will ease your mind without any conditions that you put on yourself as who you actually are talking to.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's okay if it is taking you a little more time than others to build a connection. Remember, everyone moves at their own pace.

If you are facing issues meeting new people, I would suggest using a dating app. You can mention your intentions in the bio- for instance, using the app for serious dating, or casually looking for someone to date, or marriage, etc. This way, you can attract people who have the same end goal as you. Mention the interesting things about you that make you unique. Put up a nice display image with a recent picture, possibly showcasing something that defines you. I am sure you will find the right match in no time. Plus, in online dating, you do not have to meet people face-to-face immediately. You can first chat and take your time to connect on a deeper level and then commit to meeting in person.

Also, there's nothing wrong in being a little picky.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, I want you to understand that it is no small feat to realize the quirks and imperfections in ourselves- you have done it. Your effort to understand and rectify them deserves to be acknowledged and appreciated.
Now, coming to your question, I can only give you some general advice on each-
Emotional instability and dependency- these behavioral patterns can stem from various factors; it can be a lack of confidence or some past issues that are left unresolved. It is difficult for me to tell you exactly why it is happening. It can also arise from a lack of validation. To manage it, you can focus on self-regulation- like meditation or journaling whenever you feel these emotions rising. This way you are expressing them but not damaging your relationships. Take up new hobbies or goals. Achieving milestones can build confidence.
Navigating Boundaries- You can speak to your partner in the early stage of the relationship to understand their boundaries. This way there will be clarity and you won't overstep. You can set up some boundaries too.
For better interpersonal skills, you can proactively follow some rules- like active listening, avoiding overthinking, asking open-ended questions, and resisting the urge to seek your partner's approval.
About the awkward questions- it is important to understand that you might perceive them as awkward, but the person opposite to you might think of it as a genuine curiosity. As long as it isn't intrusive or inappropriate, there are no awkward questions.
Like these, I can only offer you some general advice. But the best advice of them all would be to seek counseling. It has done wonders for people. And the first step, which is identifying the issues is already done. Bravo! What's wrong with taking a little professional help in navigating the next steps? They can guide you in a more structured manner.
Hope this helps.

Ans: Hello mam, I understand that you are having overthinking regarding your present relationship coz of your past. But we need to learn to let go of past, otherwise our present will be ruined coz of overthinking and insecurities. Think positive and try to engage yourself in some positive activities like Book reading, yoga, meditation etc. You can also take some sessions from counselor. Practice mindfulness. I hope it solves your problem.
Take care!
Regards
Dr Upneet kaur
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Ans: Do not put in efforts and time in getting to know the person unless you have met a few times. google on blogs written by me - I do write on how to date....