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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 07, 2023Hindi
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Mohit, I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We separated 3 years ago and he is married to another girl. How can I let go and move on?

Ans: There are 2 ways to live - Hold onto your past or move on.

You have to make a decision to move on.

Now you have to realise that you are responsible for majority of your emotions on a daily basis. It doesn't stem from your boyfriend. So you have to learn to build your own eco system of positive emotions.

Then, you start dating different guys, until you find someone you like. And you' will. Be more open and meet more guys.

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Cut off contact: If possible, try to cut off all communication with him. This includes unfollowing him on social media, deleting his phone number, and avoiding places where you might run into him. It's difficult to move on when you're constantly reminded of the person.

Stay busy: Try to stay busy with activities that you enjoy. Join a new club or hobby, spend time with friends and family, or focus on your career or personal goals. This will help you take your mind off of him.

Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Get enough sleep, exercise regularly, eat a healthy diet, and take time to relax and de-stress. Consider practicing mindfulness or meditation to help manage your thoughts and emotions.

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Remember that getting over someone takes time, and it's okay to take things slow. Be patient with yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself if you have setbacks. Keep focusing on your own well-being, and eventually, you'll be able to move on.

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Getting over someone can be challenging, but sometimes it can help to think outside the box and try new things to help move on.


Write a letter to yourself: Write a letter to yourself, as if you were writing to a close friend, offering words of encouragement and advice. This can help you gain perspective and remind yourself of your own strengths and resilience.
Create a breakup playlist: Make a playlist of songs that help you feel empowered, uplifted, and motivated. Listen to it whenever you need a boost of energy or inspiration.
Try a new hobby: Engage in a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try, such as painting, photography, or rock climbing. This can help you focus your energy on something positive and give you a sense of accomplishment.
Get a makeover: Try a new hairstyle or experiment with a different fashion style. Changing your physical appearance can help boost your confidence and make you feel more positive about yourself.
Volunteer: Engage in volunteer work or community service. Helping others can be a great way to gain perspective, connect with others, and feel good about yourself.
Create a vision board: Create a vision board with images and quotes that inspire you and reflect your goals and aspirations. This can help you stay focused on your own growth and development, rather than dwelling on the past.
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Practice self-care and engage in activities that make you feel good.
Seek professional help: If you're having difficulty moving on, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with tools and techniques to help you cope with your emotions and move forward.

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hello mam i had a breakup a year ago and i still havent moved on from him. i am trying to push myself and have given myself enough time. But the core memory i share with him still hurts me. Then like this i get many days to get myself back. he is always on my mind 24*7 and due to this i cannot concentrate on my studies. i am stuck in this position and i dont wanna go back because ik he will never come. I have peak time of my career and i dont wanna regret this. My heart keeps wrenching and it pains a hell lotttttttt with the thought that its over and that one day he will be married too and i will have to see him with someone. idk what should i do?
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Losing someone when in love causes grief. So, go through the pain and don't be in a hurry to heal as when you allow yourself to feel the pain, you are actually stepping into the healing process and healing one day at a time.
It's a suggestion if you can actually keep the gifts given by him etc away during this time. It can torment you more.
And while you are healing and when you feel like the world crashing on you, you need to distract yourself by:
- Physical activity/exercise helps displacing the stuck feelings giving a good release
- Join communities with larger than life causes as this helps looking beyond oneself

Life can dynamically change; what we can do is navigate through these and step into your own life.
Ask yourself: What is it that I can do now that I am single again? How can I make best use of this time?
Easier said than done; but believe that things do get better BUT take that first step towards your healing journey.

All the best!
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Hi there So i got like 97k in kcet and 73k ranks in comedk i want cse mostly im fine with ece also in the first mock round of comedk i got sahayadri college of engineering is that good And also what colleges i might get in Bangalore with these ranks and want good placements or do you suggest me to go take management quota seat in nhce or jain rather than all this
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Recommendation: If your priority is a Bangalore location, industrial exposure, and better placement prospects, opting for NHCE or Jain University CSE/ECE via management quota is advisable if the higher cost is manageable. Among merit seats, Sahyadri (Mangalore) is a solid backup, but in Bangalore, prefer institutes like NHCE and Jain for stronger campus recruitment, infrastructure, and networking. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Respected sir,I am a average student of class 12 I just wanted 1lakh jee mains so that I could get ece or something in bit sindri please suggest strategies as there is very little time available in jee mains
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Gen open category student, With Jee CRL 17420 got nit goa ECE, expect to get MSRIT or PESU CSE via KCET Rank 2860. What better NIT can be expected in CSAB for ECE or CSE. And is it preferred over MSRIT/ PESU. Any other guidance, open for options
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Recommendation: Prioritize MSRIT CSE for the best blend of placement record, peer competitiveness, and proven reputation if you seek top CSE outcomes, followed by PESU CSE for curriculum depth and global industry alignment, then NIT Goa ECE or similar-ranked NITs if you prefer a central government degree and core electronics exposure. For CSE, KCET options at MSRIT or PESU offer stronger immediate prospects than ECE in mid-tier NITs, but a remote NIT ECE may appeal if your focus lies in public-sector opportunities or research. Remain active in CSAB special rounds for all eligible NIT ECEs, but plan for high-quality CSE options in Bangalore for the best return on your effort and rank, and back these with clear decision timelines given rapid seat movement in private college rounds. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my percentile is 89.7 and crl 151013. What seats can I expect in csab counselling?
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Recommendation: Participate in CSAB special rounds as there is no risk, though the chances of attaining a core branch in a government institute are exceedingly slim. Simultaneously, secure backup admission in reputable private engineering colleges in Northern India, as they assure you a quality seat in popular branches like CSE, IT, or ECE at your rank.

Private colleges accepting your JEE Main CRL 151,013 for CSE, IT, or related branches include Chandigarh University, Mohali. Lovely Professional University, Jalandhar. Amity University, Noida. Sharda University, Greater Noida. Galgotias University, Greater Noida. Jaypee Institute of Information Technology, Noida. ABES Engineering College, Ghaziabad. Indraprastha Institute of Technology & Management, Delhi. GL Bajaj Institute of Technology & Management, Greater Noida. Maharaja Agrasen Institute of Technology, Delhi. All of these offer modern infrastructure, active placement cells, and transparent admissions for JEE Main-qualified candidates above your rank. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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