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Snigdha Question by Snigdha on Apr 11, 2023Hindi
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How to get over him

Ans: Dear Snigdha

Getting over someone can be challenging, but sometimes it can help to think outside the box and try new things to help move on.


Write a letter to yourself: Write a letter to yourself, as if you were writing to a close friend, offering words of encouragement and advice. This can help you gain perspective and remind yourself of your own strengths and resilience.
Create a breakup playlist: Make a playlist of songs that help you feel empowered, uplifted, and motivated. Listen to it whenever you need a boost of energy or inspiration.
Try a new hobby: Engage in a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try, such as painting, photography, or rock climbing. This can help you focus your energy on something positive and give you a sense of accomplishment.
Get a makeover: Try a new hairstyle or experiment with a different fashion style. Changing your physical appearance can help boost your confidence and make you feel more positive about yourself.
Volunteer: Engage in volunteer work or community service. Helping others can be a great way to gain perspective, connect with others, and feel good about yourself.
Create a vision board: Create a vision board with images and quotes that inspire you and reflect your goals and aspirations. This can help you stay focused on your own growth and development, rather than dwelling on the past.
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Practice self-care and engage in activities that make you feel good.
Seek professional help: If you're having difficulty moving on, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with tools and techniques to help you cope with your emotions and move forward.

Remember that getting over someone takes time, and there is no one “right” way to do it. Be kind to yourself, try new things, and keep moving forward.

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Cut off contact: If possible, try to cut off all communication with him. This includes unfollowing him on social media, deleting his phone number, and avoiding places where you might run into him. It's difficult to move on when you're constantly reminded of the person.

Stay busy: Try to stay busy with activities that you enjoy. Join a new club or hobby, spend time with friends and family, or focus on your career or personal goals. This will help you take your mind off of him.

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hello mam i had a breakup a year ago and i still havent moved on from him. i am trying to push myself and have given myself enough time. But the core memory i share with him still hurts me. Then like this i get many days to get myself back. he is always on my mind 24*7 and due to this i cannot concentrate on my studies. i am stuck in this position and i dont wanna go back because ik he will never come. I have peak time of my career and i dont wanna regret this. My heart keeps wrenching and it pains a hell lotttttttt with the thought that its over and that one day he will be married too and i will have to see him with someone. idk what should i do?
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Losing someone when in love causes grief. So, go through the pain and don't be in a hurry to heal as when you allow yourself to feel the pain, you are actually stepping into the healing process and healing one day at a time.
It's a suggestion if you can actually keep the gifts given by him etc away during this time. It can torment you more.
And while you are healing and when you feel like the world crashing on you, you need to distract yourself by:
- Physical activity/exercise helps displacing the stuck feelings giving a good release
- Join communities with larger than life causes as this helps looking beyond oneself

Life can dynamically change; what we can do is navigate through these and step into your own life.
Ask yourself: What is it that I can do now that I am single again? How can I make best use of this time?
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