Dear Ma'am , Please keep my identity confidential. I am facing a very unique problem, I am happily married man for last 18 years with 2 children, before my current marriage in 2003 my Marriage was fixed with a girl ( I was based out of Singapore at That time, I work in management position in one of top IT companies now in India) who was a very distant relative ( her Bhabhi and my Bhabhi were cousins). for some health reason at that time I backed out of from that marriage and when I was better we proposed marriage to her again but then she was already engaged. later I got married to my wife and she too has got married ( I am not in touch with her not knows anything about her husband and never tried to find out. even though I know that my elder brother and her elder cousin have become good friend and I stayed in far off city from them. problem started for me in September 2023, out of no where I started getting bad creams about her. once I found here ( in dream) at nreaby place where she was in bad shape and i brought here home. my dream ended there that night. after that regularly started getting some dreams or other almost every early morning. as it was going to an arranged marriage i had never spoken to here , not a single word. but since then dreams have not stopped some time negative and sometime positive like we are enjoying life together. one of psychologist suggested me to fins out about here current status just to validate that she is all fine in here life but I could not as no one from my family supported the idea of getting touch with as I have no details of her except she is married and working as Teacher ( she is M.Sc. B.ED) . Please guide me if there is normal and what can I do as these dream are not stopping and I am getting so involved that I am unable to forget her, Please guide.

Ans: First breathe - secondly it's if you not been in any relationship before and it is absolutely fine to have few set of friends - having said this, we hope these are good friend/s - even if 1 or 2.


Do know there is nothing to fear - but yes one does get anxious as one has no clue about it. And so if you wish you may want to schedule a relationship guidance session with me - https://andwemet.com/relationship-guidance

Invest in yourself, feel good about life and invest in the relationship - a strong healthy relationship is a life changing experience.

All the best.

Ans: Sundeep, There are as many views as there are people and it is best not to get swayed by them. Ask the experts why they consider it to be a wastage. Do your own independent assessment on parameters like their curriculum, placements, speak to their successful students. Talk to their placement director, companies that hire their students, look at their NIRF ranking. Explore other options from engineering colleges--IITs, NITs, Top 200 Engg colleges by NIRF ranking.

Ans: Hello
Engineering (especially CSE) ke liye Class 9 ya 10 mein Computer subject lena bilkul compulsory nahi hai.
11th–12th mein PCM (Physics, Chemistry, Maths) lena hi main requirement hota hai.

Ans: In older IITs Guwhati seems to be possible for CSE. And then newer IITs.
TOP NITs are possible.

Ans: Hello Sanjay
Agar mismatch hai to: Affidavit (Notary se) banwa lein stating: "Ompal" and "Ompal Singh" refer to the same person.


Aadhaar Correction (Best for Long-Term): Father ke Aadhaar mein surname add karwa dein (Ompal Singh).Ye future admissions, passport, etc. ke liye safest rahega.

Ans: You have built a very strong financial base by age 44. Two debt-free houses, strong SIP discipline, EPF accumulation, child education savings and protection planning show clarity and commitment. Early retirement by age 50 is possible in many cases like yours, but it needs careful adjustment in the next 5 years because your retirement horizon is long (almost 35+ years after retirement).

Below is a structured assessment and improvement roadmap.

» Your Present Financial Strength

– Term cover of Rs 2 crore is appropriate for your income level and responsibilities
– Family health cover of Rs 10 lakh is good, but can be strengthened
– Two loan-free houses worth about Rs 2.3 crore together provide stability
– EPF corpus Rs 50 lakh is a strong retirement backbone
– SIP corpus Rs 53 lakh with monthly investment Rs 1.07 lakh is excellent discipline
– Child education corpus already started through SSY Rs 11 lakh
– PPF Rs 11 lakh adds safe retirement cushion
– Rental income Rs 22,000 supports future passive income planning
– One traditional insurance maturity expected Rs 20 lakh in 2033 adds support

Overall, your base is strong for someone targeting retirement at 50.

» One Important Reality About Early Retirement

Retiring at 50 means your wealth must support:

– Household expenses for 35+ years
– Child higher education and possibly marriage
– Medical inflation
– Lifestyle inflation
– Loan closure before retirement

So the focus now should shift from accumulation only to income sustainability planning.

» Your Current Monthly Expense vs Retirement Need

Today expenses are Rs 50–60k including school fees.

After retirement:

– School fees will reduce later
– But lifestyle expenses increase with inflation
– Medical costs increase after age 55
– Travel and personal goals increase after retirement

Practically, your retirement income target should be higher than today's number.

Your rental income already supports part of this.

That is a strong advantage.

» Impact of the New 3 BHK Purchase

Booking another property worth Rs 2 crore is the only area where caution is required.

Because:

– Loan continues till retirement window
– EMI reduces SIP flexibility
– Possession in 2028 means financial pressure close to retirement year
– Real estate concentration becomes high in total portfolio

Your idea of selling 2 BHK before retirement to close the loan is sensible and practical.

This improves retirement safety significantly.

» Health Insurance Needs Immediate Upgrade

Current cover Rs 10 lakh is not sufficient for a family of three in a metro city.

Suggested improvement:

– Increase family cover to Rs 25–30 lakh using top-up structure
– This protects retirement corpus from medical shocks

This is very important before age 50.

» Education Planning for Daughter

Child is in class 9 now.

Higher education timeline:

– Only 3–5 years away

SSY corpus Rs 11 lakh is a good start.

But education costs may require additional support from:

– SIP accumulation
– LIC maturity Rs 20 lakh (2033)
– Partial EPF later if required

Plan this carefully so retirement corpus is not disturbed.

» Retirement Income Planning Strategy

Your future retirement income sources may include:

– Rental income from one house
– EPF withdrawals after retirement
– Mutual fund SWP income
– PPF maturity support
– LIC maturity amount
– Possible second property decision

Because you already have multiple income sources, retirement at 50 becomes realistic if loan closes before retirement.

» SIP Strategy – Continue Aggressively Till 2030

Your SIP of Rs 1.07 lakh is the strongest engine in your portfolio.

Maintain this for next 5 years without interruption.

Also ensure:

– Allocation remains diversified across large, mid and small companies
– Periodic portfolio review every 12 months
– Avoid stopping SIP during market corrections

This step alone can decide early retirement success.

» EPF Should Be Preserved Till Retirement

Do not withdraw EPF before retirement unless emergency arises.

EPF acts as:

– capital stability layer
– longevity protection layer
– inflation balancing support

This is your safest retirement pillar.

» LIC Policy – Keep Till Maturity

Since maturity is approaching in 2033 and value is reasonable, continue it.

It will support mid-retirement liquidity needs.

» Asset Allocation Observation

Currently your portfolio has:

– strong real estate exposure
– strong equity SIP exposure
– strong retirement accumulation through EPF
– safe allocation through PPF and SSY

This is a balanced structure already.

Only improvement required:

Increase financial asset share slightly over next 5 years.

» Is Retirement at Age 50 Possible?

Yes, possible if these conditions are followed:

– Close housing loan before retirement
– Continue SIP till 2030 without reduction
– Increase health insurance cover
– Avoid additional liabilities
– Preserve EPF till retirement stage
– Plan daughter education separately from retirement corpus

If these steps are followed, retirement at 50 becomes achievable and comfortable.

» Action Steps For Next 5 Years

– Continue SIP Rs 1.07 lakh monthly
– Increase health insurance protection
– Avoid new liabilities
– Close upcoming housing loan before retirement
– Build additional emergency fund equal to 12 months expenses
– Review portfolio once every year with a Certified Financial Planner
– Keep rental income reserved for future retirement buffer

» Finally

You are already ahead of many professionals in your age group.

Your discipline, debt-free properties and strong SIP commitment create a solid base for early retirement success. With small corrections in health protection, loan closure timing and retirement income structuring, retiring at age 50 can become a practical and safe decision instead of a risky one.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: Kamaldeep, I fully empathise with your predicament, happens to all successful people in studies, job. I encourage you to believe in yourself and aspire to be among the best in the field of coding. God made every human to be successful, and you too are among them. Put in all the commitment, effort and dedication to follow the path you have chosen. Count your blessings that despite no interest in coding you earned a CSE degree. There are a set of tools today like 'CodeChef' that let you challenge your mind and improve your coding skills.

Assume that you on a path of no return--because use the confidence with which you hope to crack GATE, get admission in MTech to master coding. If you follow the current path with dedication I can assure you that you will come back to me in a few months that you are doing well in a job with lots of passion for coding.

Ans: Starting lean is a smart decision, especially in the early stage of building a digital marketing agency.

In the first 3–6 months, I would strongly recommend not hiring a full team immediately. Without a steady flow of clients, a fixed team can quickly become a financial liability. Instead, focus on building your sales pipeline first—client acquisition should be your top priority.

Once you secure a few consistent clients and have predictable revenue, you can gradually start adding resources for delivery (freelancers or part-time support initially, followed by full-time hires as you scale).

Working from your studio apartment is absolutely fine to begin with. As your team grows, you can consider a seat-based or virtual office setup before moving into a full office space.

This approach keeps your costs low, reduces risk, and allows you to scale in a more sustainable and controlled manner.

If you have any further questions, feel free to ask.

Ans: Yes, yoga can do more than temporary relief. For many office workers, lower back pain comes because long sitting makes the hips tight, weakens the core, and rounds the back. This changes posture. If posture does not improve, pain keeps returning.

Yoga helps by stretching tight muscles and strengthening weak muscles. Slowly, the body learns to sit and stand correctly again. This is why regular yoga can give long-term relief, not just short relief.

For desk-job back pain, these poses are very useful:

Cat-Cow stretch – reduces stiffness in the spine.
Child’s Pose – relaxes the lower back.
Bhujangasana (cobra pose) – opens the chest and improves posture.
Marjariasana with gentle twist – helps release back tension.
Setu Bandhasana (bridge pose) – strengthens the back and hips.
Pavanamuktasana – reduces lower back tightness.
Tadasana – teaches correct standing posture.

Also, every 45–60 minutes, stand up, stretch, and walk for 2 minutes. Small changes in sitting posture help a lot.

Please do not practice only from videos. Wrong posture during yoga can increase pain. A qualified yoga or meditation coach can understand your body and guide you safely for lasting results.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/