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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 23, 2024Hindi
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Dear Ma'am , Please keep my identity confidential. I am facing a very unique problem, I am happily married man for last 18 years with 2 children, before my current marriage in 2003 my Marriage was fixed with a girl ( I was based out of Singapore at That time, I work in management position in one of top IT companies now in India) who was a very distant relative ( her Bhabhi and my Bhabhi were cousins). for some health reason at that time I backed out of from that marriage and when I was better we proposed marriage to her again but then she was already engaged. later I got married to my wife and she too has got married ( I am not in touch with her not knows anything about her husband and never tried to find out. even though I know that my elder brother and her elder cousin have become good friend and I stayed in far off city from them. problem started for me in September 2023, out of no where I started getting bad creams about her. once I found here ( in dream) at nreaby place where she was in bad shape and i brought here home. my dream ended there that night. after that regularly started getting some dreams or other almost every early morning. as it was going to an arranged marriage i had never spoken to here , not a single word. but since then dreams have not stopped some time negative and sometime positive like we are enjoying life together. one of psychologist suggested me to fins out about here current status just to validate that she is all fine in here life but I could not as no one from my family supported the idea of getting touch with as I have no details of her except she is married and working as Teacher ( she is M.Sc. B.ED) . Please guide me if there is normal and what can I do as these dream are not stopping and I am getting so involved that I am unable to forget her, Please guide.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Dreams can just play out like a movie on what bothers you or what you are fearful of or even things that you feel happy about. Certain experts also suggest that dreams can help in resolving underlying issues.
Whatever it is, do remember what you said: I am happily married man for last 18 years with 2 children.
The past better be where it must be. To go into what the other lady is doing and knowing her current status is only going to get you more entangled into her life. Do you really want this entanglement? Do you really wish to be a part of a situation where you spend mind cycles to figure out if all is okay with her and in the bargain disturb the peace in your life? I am sure you know what the answers are.
Find solace in the fact that she must have people who care for her and who love her. This will to a large extent keep you from looping into her life even at a subconscious level. And also start to be more involved within your family...this will keep you engaged and also give you an assurance that you are in the right place with the right people meant for you.
The mind does what it is directed to do; so direct it toward actions that support your growth and peace of mind.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 07, 2023Hindi
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I was in love with a girl, far from my place in South. She is from Rajasthan. She too liked me a lot and we were in touch through phone. Me a Hindu and she a Jain. Whenever I would tell I want to marry her, she would say get my dad married (her dad was a widower). Later I met her once when her family had come for Bangalore visit. She even took me to her relative's house and introduced her elder sister. We continued to be in touch. Few years later her sister was to be married and she invited me. I went to Jodhpur, stayed with their family during the wedding (in a separate room they had booked). Probably I got exposed to their family. I wanted to again propose to her. But through her family friends, fact that I was interested in her got to be known to her father and other family members. As per what I got to know, they even discussed our wedding but felt age gap was much (8 years). She stopped being in touch and her phone was not reachable. When I could get in touch, she told me the reason why their family disagreed. Now I am married to someone else and heard she is also settled. Problem is, I still get her dreams. Every girl I see, I relate to her. She is not out of my mind. Of course there is love deep within, but I dont know why I end up dreaming about her. How do I avoid this? She's gone into past and even now she's blocked my number or linkedin, yet I am unable to stop thinking or worse, dreaming. How do I stop this?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that you are in such a situation but dwelling on the past can hinder your present and future happiness. It's natural to reminisce about past relationships, but if these thoughts consume your waking hours and your dreams, it's crucial to refocus your energy. You have a loving wife who deserves your attention and efforts in building a better marriage. Instead of fixating on a relationship that didn't work out, invest your time and emotions in nurturing your marriage.

As humans, we want what we cannot have the most, more than what we have. I believe you are facing the same. But it's essential to accept that your ex has moved on, as evidenced by her decision to block you and so should you.

About your recurring dreams- if you are occupied with a certain thought the entire day, it is only normal that your dreams will reflect the same. Shift your focus to other things to break this pattern. And the more you obsess about it, the more you try to find meaning in some random dreams, the worse your situation will get. Talking about your feelings with a trusted friend can also dilute the matter and alleviate the burden. Remember, the past is behind you, and your present actions determine your future happiness.

Best Wishes!

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Hai i am 58 and retired my wife expired 30 months back i had two daughters who are working and yet to be married. very frequently these days i get dreams where i feel i am lost on my journey to somewhere or i am simply attending an office without any proper work or in my dreams i get one of my uncle (who is no more now passed away 7 years back )and his family members with whom i stayed during my studies for six years 40 years back. can you please analyse
Ans: Dear P,
I am truly sorry for your loss...

I am not a dreams analyst or someone who interprets dreams. I can only make a few guesses from what you have shared and suggest something that will guide you to be more positive and happier.
Dreams are a manifestation of deep desires, fears, dark memories, happier memories...dreams basically can indicate what lies deep within the subconscious mind. It's possible from what you share that 'LOSING' your wife has triggered many more situations where you had lost someone or you fear that you might lose someone or something. Maybe that explains the dream of you going to office without paper work...

Losing someone dear is a very difficult journey and it can show up in different ways. The only way can process grief is through time and an understanding that nothing is permanent in life. It's a momentum of give and take, having and losing...Maybe if you are able to consciously adapt and accept this, over time your subconscious mind starts to change and adapt as well. Again, I will reiterate: You certainly will still miss the person and feel sad; it's just that you will start to miss differently as the acceptance will allow you to graciously be in a space of understanding. Difficult BUT Possible!
Also, practice the Art of Gratitude. Being thankful for every little thing, lets you be in a positive space allowing you to be at peace more often.

These are only suggestions from what I could gather from the information that you have shared and not an analysis or interpretation of your dreams.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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Hello Ma'am, hope you're doing good. My problem is that something happened with me and I have started questioning my marriage. I and my wife are married 12 years ago after a lot of struggle as her parents were not ready because of our different caste and religion. Later we got married with their blessings. she is a very nice woman. After marriage, my business started going well and we're financially very well. We live with my parents and our two kids. Everything was going fine (obviously we do fight) until I met my business partner's sister who is a divorcee and I didn't know how but I started feeling attraction towards her. Recently, I dreamt of cheating on my wife with her. Since I am not able to hold proper eye contact with my wife and even I have started questioning my love for my wife. Has it ended ? I am very tensed since then.
Ans: It's normal to feel conflicted and unsure when you start experiencing attraction towards someone outside of your marriage. However, it's important to remember that attraction alone doesn't necessarily mean that your love for your wife has ended.

Before jumping to conclusions or making any drastic decisions, it might be helpful to take some time to reflect on your feelings and the reasons behind them. Ask yourself questions like: What specifically attracted me to this other person? Are there any underlying issues in my marriage that might be contributing to these feelings? Am I feeling unfulfilled or disconnected from my wife in any way?

It could also be beneficial to have open and honest communication with your wife about what you're going through. Sharing your feelings with her, even if they're difficult, can help strengthen your bond and provide clarity for both of you. Remember to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, and be prepared to listen to her perspective as well.

Seeking support from a therapist or counselor can also be incredibly helpful in navigating these complex emotions and making decisions that are best for you and your family. They can provide you with guidance, perspective, and strategies for coping with your feelings in a healthy way.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize honesty, communication, and empathy in your relationship, and to take the time to explore your feelings and needs before making any decisions about your marriage.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 03, 2024Hindi
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Hello madam I a 32 year old married man with a kid , who is 6 years old. I have done arrange marriage with my own decision I agreed to my parents for the marrige at that time I was in a casual relationship with a girl I didn't said anything to the girl and get married to someone else. After that I tried to live a happay life with my wife without thinking about the girl whom I left behind, from outside I tried to be happy with my wife but my wife thought doesn't matches with me so I felt so disturbed from inside. Still I was trying to continue the relationship for sake of our child but suddenly I got my ex love contact and I was so happy that after so long time I got a chance to talk to her, I have tried to meet her but she always refused to meet me because she was in a relationship. I tried many times and due to some misconduct I again lost her for the second time. At this moment when she is not with me her thoughts memories are troubling me so much I am in pain, what am I suppose to do to get rid of the pain?? Please help
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is no point wanting a 'past' relationship just because you have one...what if that relationship did not exist, you would have possibly made efforts to make your marriage work, right?
Then do just that...DO NOT treat your marriage as an option...which marriage is a perfect one? And are all spouses tailor-made to fit one another?
So, if her thoughts don't match with yours, then even yours don't match with hers...so, should she also think of jumping into some other relationship. Please act mature about this especially with a child in the entire equation; try and understand each other...speak about your differences and find ways of working on them by accepting them. Ex-love etc looks all very nice, but come down to ground reality; please...work on your marriage!

All the best!
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Want to accumulate 50lakh within 7 years.how to do?guide please
Ans: Accumulating Rs?50?lakh in 7 years is achievable. Let us plan with a 360-degree approach. We will look at your current situation, investment strategy, risk management, and review process.

1. Clarify Your Starting Point
How much do you have invested currently?

What is your monthly surplus or savings?

Do you have any financial obligations like loans, insurance, or dependents?

This will give a baseline to project how much you need to invest monthly.

Please provide these details so the plan fits reality and your cash flow.

2. Estimate Monthly Investment Needed
To reach Rs?50?lakh in 7 years, you may need Rs?45,000–60,000 per month, assuming a 12–14% annual return

If your current savings or surplus is enough, you may need to adjust monthly contributions.

Once you share current assets and monthly savings, I can give precise allocation guidance.

3. Build a Goal-Specific Investment Structure
We break your 7-year goal into tailored baskets:

A. Equity SIPs via Actively Managed Funds

Put around 50–60?% of your savings here.

Equity helps build capital over time.

Active funds reduce market downside risk.

Buy through regular plan via Certified Financial Planner for driven fund reviews.

B. Hybrid or Conservative Funds

Allocate 20–30?% to smooth returns and guard capital.

Works well as you approach year 5–6 into your goal.

Helps reduce volatility and preserve gains.

C. Debt Funds or FDs for Safety

Use remaining 10–20?% in liquid or ultra-short debt.

Ideal for maintaining liquidity and protecting emergency funds.

4. Avoiding Direct and Index Fund Pitfalls
Index funds mirror the market. They cannot avoid cyclical losses.

Direct funds lack professional guidance and are hard to manage alone.

Actively managed regular plans from trusted MFD/CFP provide dynamic oversight and informed decision-making.

5. Tax and Exit Planning Strategy
Equity funds: Long-term gains free up to Rs?1.25 lakh, then taxed at 12.5?%.

Debt funds: Gains taxed as per income slab.

Plan redemption in tranches near the end of 7 years to manage tax efficiently and avoid short-term costs.

6. Wrap-Up Checklist
Share your current financial position

Plan monthly investment to reach the goal

Set up SIPs in actively managed equity, hybrid, and debt funds

Track performance every quarter

Rebalance yearly

Monitor progress towards Rs?50 lakh target at year-end intervals

Final Insights
With discipline, you can reach Rs?50 lakh by year seven.

Monthly investment ranges from Rs?45k to Rs?60k at assumed returns.

Equity builds growth, hybrid smooths returns near goal, debt secures capital.

Use professional fund selection and rebalancing.

Monitor tax and withdrawals carefully at goal end.

Let me know your current investments and monthly surplus. I can tailor the plan to your exact situation.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am currently investing a total of Rs.10,000 per month. The breakup of my investments is as follows: Rs.1,000 each in Mirae Asset Large & Midcap Fund and Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund through direct SIPs via Coin by Zerodha. Rs.3,000 in ICICI Prudential Balanced Advantage Fund through direct SIP via Coin by Zerodha. Rs.2,500 each in Bandhan Mutual Fund and Franklin Templeton Mutual Fund through regular SIPs via a distributor. Please let me know if any changes or suggestions are required for better portfolio diversification or performance.
Ans: You are saving regularly and diversifying—this effort is deeply appreciated.

Now, let us assess your portfolio with a 360-degree view for long-term suitability.

This reply will be long, thorough, and focused on Indian context and simple language.

Overall Portfolio Review
You are investing Rs 10,000 monthly

Half of it is through direct plans via Coin by Zerodha

The rest is through regular plans via distributor

Exposure is across large-midcap, flexi-cap, balanced, and hybrid categories

This mix shows a good intent to diversify

But it has gaps in guidance, tax planning, and style alignment

Split Between Direct and Regular Plans
Direct Plans (Rs 6,000 via Zerodha Coin):

Rs 1,000 in Large & Mid Cap Fund

Rs 1,000 in Flexi Cap Fund

Rs 3,000 in Balanced Advantage Fund

Regular Plans (Rs 4,000 via distributor):

Rs 2,500 in Bandhan Mutual Fund

Rs 1,500 in Franklin Templeton Mutual Fund

Problems with Direct Plans for Long-Term Investors
Many investors choose direct plans thinking cost-saving is everything.

But in reality, there are many hidden disadvantages:

No help to review or restructure based on life changes

No one guides when market crashes or corrections happen

Asset allocation becomes confusing and unmanaged

Investors are left alone without a Certified Financial Planner’s support

Portfolio becomes a mixed bag with no focus or goals

No tracking of tax optimisation or exit planning strategy

Why Regular Plans Through CFP are Better
A regular plan via MFD and Certified Financial Planner gives full-time support

They guide you during ups and downs in market

They realign portfolio yearly based on goals

Help avoid emotional selling during bad market phases

You get a system-driven exit when goal is near

Better management of short-term and long-term capital gains

True wealth is built through advice, not just cost saving

Index Fund Not Recommended
Though not directly mentioned, many direct investors consider index funds next.

You must avoid index funds for the following reasons:

Index funds follow market blindly—no downside protection

Overexposure to top 5 stocks creates risk concentration

They can’t change allocation when market turns volatile

Index funds lack human expertise and sector judgement

You miss out on fund manager-driven alpha returns

Category-Wise Fund Assessment
Let’s go deeper into each fund category and see if it's serving your goal.

1. Large & Midcap Fund (Direct SIP)

Good blend of large and mid-cap stocks

But Rs 1,000 monthly is too small to make any impact

Fund overlaps with other equity funds in your portfolio

Suggestion: Consolidate or increase allocation if it is core holding

2. Flexi Cap Fund (Direct SIP)

Flexi cap gives diversification across market caps

Suitable for medium to long-term investors

But with only Rs 1,000 SIP, returns will not compound meaningfully

Suggestion: Increase allocation and shift to regular plan with CFP

3. Balanced Advantage Fund (Direct SIP)

This fund dynamically moves between equity and debt

Good for reducing risk during market corrections

You have invested Rs 3,000 monthly—decent allocation

Suggestion: Shift this to regular plan for guided withdrawal later

4. Bandhan Mutual Fund (Regular SIP)

Rs 2,500 is invested, but fund category is not mentioned

Earlier some funds from this house underperformed

Recent improvements are seen but not uniform across all schemes

Suggestion: Evaluate performance with CFP and switch if needed

5. Franklin Mutual Fund (Regular SIP)

Franklin has had liquidity and regulatory challenges in past

Current performance in some funds has recovered

But trust and liquidity risk remain a concern

Suggestion: Keep only if performance is strong and transparent

Key Issues Noticed in Your Portfolio
Direct plans are unmanaged with no retirement or wealth strategy

SIP amounts are too low in most funds for compounding

Fund house selection is not based on investment style consistency

There is no tax harvesting or capital gain planning

Multiple funds with small SIPs can dilute overall return

Ideal Portfolio Re-Structure
You must now restructure your Rs 10,000 monthly SIP as follows:

Rs 4,000 in a Flexi Cap Fund (via regular plan with CFP)

Rs 3,000 in a Balanced Advantage Fund (via regular plan)

Rs 3,000 in a Multi Cap or Mid Cap Fund (with regular support)

This gives diversification, expert support, and good market exposure.

Avoid investing Rs 1,000 in 3–4 funds. Instead, concentrate in 2–3 funds with higher SIP.

Future Step-Up Strategy
Increase SIP every year by at least Rs 2,000–Rs 3,000

Set goals like retirement, child education, or corpus by 50s

Tag every SIP to a goal and time horizon

Don’t invest blindly just to save money

SIP with advice brings financial clarity and peace

If You Have LIC, ULIP, or Insurance Policies
If you hold LIC, ULIP or any investment-linked insurance policies:

Check surrender value of these policies

Don’t continue for maturity if return is below 6%

Reinvest that in long-term mutual funds with SIP/STP

Insurance should be only term plan with no investment attached

Emergency and Health Preparedness
Ensure Rs 2–3 lakhs in liquid fund or savings for emergency

Take a health insurance cover of minimum Rs 10 lakh for family

Include super top-up if needed later

Emergency fund must not be mixed with SIP investments

Tax Awareness and Mutual Fund Exit Strategy
Equity mutual funds attract LTCG if held over 1 year

LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%

Short-term gains are taxed at 20%

Debt funds follow income tax slab rates for both gains

Regular plan via CFP helps plan redemptions with tax impact in mind

Mistakes to Avoid
Avoid too many SIPs of small value in different funds

Don’t stick to direct plans just for lower cost

Don’t chase best past performance—look for long-term consistency

Don’t depend on Coin platform or mobile apps for financial advice

Don’t pick index or passive funds for core portfolio

Finally
Your discipline in saving is truly appreciated.

But now is the time to align your SIPs with long-term goals.

Avoid direct plans. Shift to regular plans with MFD backed by CFP.

Consolidate funds. Choose 2–3 schemes based on life stage and risk.

Invest with purpose—not just through platforms.

Take help. Review portfolio yearly. Focus on peace, not just return.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hello Sir, I am a retired 60 yr old man. My current corpus is as follows MF - Rs 1.30 Cr FD - Rs 20 Lacs Stocks - Rs 10 Lacs SCSS- Rs 15 Lacs My requirement is Rs 1 Lac a month for my living. Can my corpus sustain for 25 yrs based on my monthly requirement Kindly let me know what i need to do Regards
Ans: Your planning at this stage is commendable.
You have a good corpus and clear monthly requirement.
Let us create a strategy to make it last for 25 years.

1. Current Corpus Overview
Mutual Funds (equity/hybrid): Rs.?1.30 crore

Fixed Deposits: Rs.?20 lakh

Stocks: Rs.?10 lakh

SCSS (Senior Citizen Saving Scheme): Rs.?15 lakh

Total: Rs.?1.75 crore
You need Rs.?1 lakh per month for living.
Annual requirement: Rs.?12 lakh per year.

2. Assess Sustainability Of Corpus
To withdraw Rs.?12 lakh annually from Rs.?1.75 crore means ~6.9% withdrawal rate.

This is broadly sustainable if net returns can match this after tax and inflation.

Returns scenario:

Debt/hybrid returns ~6–8%

Equity returns ~8–10%

SCSS offers ~8% tax-free

FD yields ~6–7% taxable

A blended withdrawal of ~7% annually may be viable for 25 years, if returns hold up.

3. Restructure Asset Allocation
You should rebalance to de-risk and build income sustainability:

Suggested Allocation

Hybrid Balanced Funds: 40% (Rs.?70 lakh)

Provides equity exposure and stable income

Debt Funds / Liquid Funds: 20% (Rs.?35 lakh)

For emergency cushion and short-term needs

Equity Mutual Funds: 20% (Rs.?35 lakh)

For long-term growth and inflation hedge

SCSS: 15% (Rs.?15 lakh)

Already tax-free yield; good for income stability

Fixed Deposits: 5% (Rs.?10 lakh)

Use for immediate liquidity; ladder for short-term needs

Stocks: Can shift Rs.?10 lakh to hybrid or equity to match this allocation.

4. Weekly & Monthly Income via SWP
Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) can generate monthly income:

Use hybrid balanced fund SWP of Rs.?50,000/month

Use equity mutual fund SWP of Rs.?25,000/month

Use SCSS payout (quarterly or monthly) ~Rs. 10,000

Use FD interest monthly via laddered withdrawal ~Rs.?3,000

Adjust to reach Rs.?1 lakh total

This provides regular income with tax efficiency.

5. Emergency & Buffer Planning
Keep at least 6 months expenses (Rs.?6 lakh) in liquid/debt funds.

This ensures no equity selling during downturn.

Use remaining debt funds for short-term buffer.

6. Tax Considerations on Withdrawals
Equity fund LTCG beyond Rs.?1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

Debt/hybrid gains taxed as per slab

SCSS interest is taxable unless kept under tax-saving deposit

Use SWP to smooth income and manage tax liability year-round

7. Health Cover & Longevity Safety Net
At age 60, medical expenses likely rise significantly

Carry a health policy of at least Rs.?10–15 lakh renewal coverage

Add senior citizen riders if possible

Consider top-ups after 65

This protects corpus from medical shocks

8. Minimising Investment Charges and Risks
Use actively managed hybrid and equity funds; avoid index funds

Actively managed funds handle market fluctuations

They offer downside protection during volatility

Avoid direct plans; as post-retirement, you need ongoing financial advice

Avoid ULIPs, annuities, and speculative products

9. Withdrawal Strategy Review and Adjustments
Review withdrawals semi-annually

Adjust SWP rates if expenditure changes or markets fluctuate

Rebalance allocation as hybrid or equity grows or shrinks

Maintain shaped glide path to defensiveness over time

10. Estate Planning and Nominations
Ensure all investment accounts have current nominations

Create a simple will covering assets and bank accounts

Arrange power of attorney if needed

This helps family in managing affairs smoothly

11. Risk of Longevity and Inflation
You may need income beyond standard life expectancy

Ensure equity portion sustains corpus over time

Reevaluate strategy every 3–5 years to reflect inflation, healthcare, etc.

12. Summary Roadmap
Immediate: Rebalance portfolio; set SWP to generate income; buy health cover

Within 6 months: Build debt/liquid buffer; update nominations and will

Ongoing: Monitor withdrawals, rebalance annually, adjust SWP based on expenditures

Long-Term: Post 85 years, reduce equity gradually and rely more on debt/SCSS/FD income

Final Insights
Your corpus of Rs.?1.75 crore can support Rs.?1 lakh/month for 25 years.
A structured SWP strategy across hybrid, equity, SCSS, and FD is key.
Health insurance and buffer protection are essential.
Actively managed funds via regularly advised plans are preferable.
Review and rebalance periodically for sustainable growth and comfort.

You are well placed to live independently and securely with this plan.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2025Hindi
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Good afternoon sir. I have a flat which I bought for 62 lakhs and the property is 14 years old now. I wish to sell this for around 95 lakhs. Where can I reinvest my money to save long term capital gain. Shall I buy a new flat or invest in fd or plot ? Also I am bit confused to not to sell and put the flat on rent approx 35k I will be getting but since the property is 14 years old I feel the selling value might decrease with time? Looking forward for your guidance sir.
Ans: You are thinking in the right direction. You are asking the right questions at the right time. Selling or holding this property is a big decision. Let us evaluate it from all angles.

Property Holding – Key Numbers and Facts
You bought this flat for Rs. 62 lakhs.

The property is now 14 years old.

You expect to sell it for Rs. 95 lakhs.

You are unsure whether to sell or give it on rent.

Expected rent is Rs. 35,000 per month.

This is a common situation many face after holding a property for a long period.

Evaluate the Rental Income Option
Let’s assess the rent-first approach.

Pros of Renting:
Monthly rent of Rs. 35,000 is regular income.

Total yearly rent is Rs. 4.2 lakh.

You still own the flat and can sell later.

But consider these limitations:
Property is already 14 years old.

Rental income will not grow very fast.

Maintenance costs and repairs will rise every year.

Vacancy or tenant damage may reduce income.

Finding good tenants regularly is not easy.

Emotional stress in property management is real.

Rental returns rarely cross 2%–3% of property value. This is very low.

Rs. 4.2 lakh rent per year on a Rs. 95 lakh property gives poor return.

That too before tax, maintenance and vacancies.

Expected Depreciation In Value
Property value does not increase forever.

Older flats often see price stagnation or fall.

New buyers prefer newer buildings with better amenities.

Older buildings face legal or structural repair issues.

Government redevelopment or road projects may also affect value.

It is wise to exit before the property becomes harder to sell.

Capital Gains on Sale of Flat
You are selling a flat held for more than 2 years.

So, long-term capital gains (LTCG) will apply.

Sale price: Rs. 95 lakh
Indexed cost: Higher than Rs. 62 lakh
Gain: Sale price minus indexed cost

Capital gains above Rs. 1 lakh are taxable at 20%.

But you are eligible to save this tax if you reinvest under the correct rule.

How to Save LTCG Tax Smartly
Let’s understand the available options and their implications.

Option 1 – Reinvest in a New Residential House
Under specific section rules, you can save LTCG by buying a residential house.

You must reinvest only the capital gain, not full sale amount.

Property must be in India and completed within specific time.

You can only invest in one house.

This locks a large sum into another immovable asset.

But you already feel real estate may not grow well.

If you buy again, you repeat same cycle of low rental return and poor liquidity.

Option 2 – Invest in Specific Capital Gains Scheme Bonds
You can invest LTCG amount (not full sale amount) in notified bonds.

These bonds have 5 years lock-in.

Interest is very low (around 5.25%).

Interest is taxable every year.

After 5 years, capital is returned.

But these bonds don’t beat inflation or give real wealth growth.

It only helps to defer tax, not build financial strength.

Option 3 – Invest in FDs
Fixed deposits are not tax-saving instruments for capital gains.

You will still pay 20% LTCG on capital gain.

Also, FD interest is fully taxable.

Returns are not inflation-beating.

Not good for wealth creation or retirement planning.

FDs serve short-term needs or emergency use only.

Option 4 – Invest in Plot
Buying a plot does not help in saving LTCG tax.

You must build a house on plot within 3 years.

Plot gives no rental income.

Again, no liquidity and low flexibility.

Plot is not a wise option. Capital gets locked without returns.

Recommended Strategy – A Balanced and Growth-Focused Path
You are at a critical decision point. Here is a holistic approach.

Step 1 – Decide to Sell Now
Property is 14 years old. Maintenance cost will rise soon.

Price appreciation will likely stagnate or decline.

Rs. 35,000 rent is not attractive on Rs. 95 lakh value.

Selling now locks in gain and gives liquidity.

Exit now and don’t wait till market or property condition worsens.

Step 2 – Use LTCG Exemption Smartly
You have two options to save LTCG.

Either:

Reinvest only the capital gain (not full sale value) into a new flat.

Or:

Invest only the capital gain into notified 5-year capital gains bonds.

If you don’t want another flat, go with bonds.

Accept that bonds will give low return, but save tax legally.

You can use remaining amount (after reinvesting capital gain) in growth investments.

Step 3 – Deploy Remaining Money Into Mutual Funds
This is the key move.

Don’t invest in direct mutual funds. They have no personal support.

Invest in regular mutual funds through MFD guided by a Certified Financial Planner.

Use active funds, not index funds.

Index funds copy market and can’t avoid losses in fall.

Active funds protect downside better and seek higher returns.

Start SIPs and also use lumpsum investing smartly over phases.

This gives both safety and growth.

Step 4 – Split the Reinvested Amount Into Buckets
Don’t put all money in one place.

Split your funds into three parts:

Short term – Liquid funds or short-term debt mutual funds

Medium term – Hybrid or balanced advantage funds

Long term – Diversified equity mutual funds with SIPs

Each bucket serves a specific need and timeline.

This method gives liquidity, growth and protection.

Step 5 – Review Your Insurance and Emergency Plan
If you don’t have health insurance, take now.

Don’t depend only on cash for health issues.

Also, keep Rs. 5–10 lakh in FD or liquid fund as emergency buffer.

Emergency plan must be separate and untouchable.

Step 6 – Don’t Lock Into Real Estate Again
Flat resale market is slow and uncertain.

Rental yields are poor and taxable.

No liquidity, and selling is slow.

Property transfer has costs and legal work.

Mutual funds are faster, flexible and manageable.

Step 7 – Plan For Goals With Purpose
If you are planning for retirement or child education, link funds accordingly.

Don’t invest randomly. Purpose-driven investment brings clarity and focus.

Mutual funds offer customised plans for each goal.

Align investment with specific goals, not just returns.

Step 8 – Get Guidance From Certified Financial Planner
You are dealing with Rs. 95 lakh.

Tax law, mutual fund selection and risk balancing must be handled properly.

Take professional help from a Certified Financial Planner.

Use an MFD with CFP credential who understands your life needs.

Avoid decisions based on hearsay or internet shortcuts.

Finally
Selling your flat now is a smart decision. The age of the property, low rent, and poor growth make holding it less sensible. You can reinvest capital gain part in bonds to save tax. Don’t buy another flat or plot. Use mutual funds with guidance from Certified Financial Planner. Avoid direct plans and index funds. They don’t offer support or customisation. Divide your investment into short, medium and long term. Keep emergency buffer and buy proper health insurance. You can grow your money and protect it too. With proper planning, you will gain both peace and financial strength.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 20, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2025Hindi
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I'm banker by profession. I have monthly salary of 70k. I hv 12.55 lakhs in FDs with monthly interest payout of 9kpm. Bonds of 2 lakhs at11%. 1.5k per month interest payout. I have 1.8 lacs in PPF and i deposit 12-13k PPF every month. 2.25cr Pure Term plan with monthly premium of 2100rs. 30lakh health insurance cover at 9k pa. I have given 7lakhs to brother which will not give me back any interest but pricipal is secured and money will return in 1 year. I have a Car whose loan I have paid but monthly expense including maintenance, repair, insurance and running cost is 12k p.m. Other expenses on lifestyle is 15-20k pm avg. I'll be 27 year old in October. Not married. Live with parents. Parents own 2 house of cr each. 2 plot investment of 4cr. Parents earns 1lac pm and home expenses are done by them. Health insurance is adequate for parents. I have not planned any SIP till now, I was covering Emergency fund first which I have done. I have bifurcated savings as 7lacs as emergency funds and 7laxs marriage fund. Both I have saved now. PPF I'm doing for future Child education. I have monthly expense at 30kpm which I have mentioned above mainly through credit card and 30-35k permonth is saved by me permonth. How should I plan investments now. Please suggest. I want to build bunglow in future in parents plot which will cost 1.7 cr. We could sell one house.
Ans: You are managing your money well at a young age. Now is the right time to focus on long-term wealth creation with a disciplined investment plan.

Let us build a 360-degree financial plan tailored to your situation.

Step-by-Step Assessment of Your Current Financial Position
You are 26 with a salary of Rs 70,000/month.

Rs 12.55 lakhs in FDs gives Rs 9,000/month interest.

Rs 2 lakhs in bonds gives Rs 1,500/month interest.

You invest Rs 12–13k/month in PPF. Total in PPF is Rs 1.8 lakhs.

You have a large Rs 2.25 crore term cover. This is good.

Health insurance of Rs 30 lakhs is sufficient at your stage.

Monthly expenses are Rs 30,000. You save Rs 30–35k/month.

Rs 7 lakhs for emergency fund and Rs 7 lakhs for marriage fund are ready.

Rs 7 lakhs given to your brother is secure, will return in a year.

You wish to build a Rs 1.7 crore bungalow on family land.

You have no major liabilities. No loans. No risky investments. Very good base.

Your Key Financial Goals
Let’s define and structure your key goals properly:

Marriage in 2–4 years: Rs 7 lakhs already set aside.

Child education (after marriage): Already doing PPF. Need equity exposure.

Buy car or gadget in future: Use short-term mutual funds, not FDs.

Build bungalow of Rs 1.7 crore: In 5–10 years. Need a long-term corpus.

Retirement planning: Start now with SIPs in equity MFs.

Gaps in Current Approach
Here are the issues:

No SIPs yet. Equity exposure missing for long-term growth.

Very heavy in fixed-income instruments like FD, bonds, PPF.

No inflation protection. FD and bonds don’t beat long-term inflation.

Credit card usage is high. You pay lifestyle expenses with it.

No tracking of goal-wise investments. All investments are scattered.

Action Plan: Start Systematic Investments Now
From your Rs 30–35k savings, allocate in a structured way:

1. Monthly SIP Plan (Rs 20,000–25,000)
50% in Large and Flexi Cap Funds
Lower risk. Ideal for long-term stable growth.

30% in Mid Cap Funds
Higher return potential over 7–10 years.

20% in Small Cap Funds
Only if your risk appetite is high. Otherwise, avoid.

Avoid direct plans. Invest via regular plan through a certified MFD and CFP.
Direct plans have no support. No rebalancing. Risk of wrong fund selection.

2. Short-Term Bucket (Rs 5,000–7,000/month)
Use ultra-short debt funds or liquid funds.

For short goals like vacation, gadgets, insurance, repairs.

These are better than recurring deposit or savings account.

3. Avoid These Mistakes
Don’t increase FD allocation. You already have enough.

Don’t use credit card for regular expenses. Use cash or debit card.

Don’t invest in index funds. They mirror market, no downside control.

Actively managed funds perform better in India in the long term.

Goal-Specific Planning
A. Building Bungalow (Rs 1.7 crore in 8–10 years)
Start SIP of Rs 20,000/month now.

Use flexi-cap and multi-cap funds for this goal.

Rebalance every year with help of CFP.

Don’t break PPF for this. Use mutual fund corpus only.

If parents agree, you may sell one house later to top-up.

B. Marriage Goal – Already Achieved
Keep Rs 7 lakhs in a debt fund or ultra short-term fund.

Avoid FD for this. Better post-tax returns in debt funds.

C. Child Future Planning (Assuming marriage in 3 years)
PPF alone is not enough.

Open a SIP in child name (minor folio).

Use multi-cap or flexi-cap funds.

Add Rs 5,000/month to start.

Increase after marriage, based on affordability.

Insurance Review
Life cover of Rs 2.25 crore is very good.

Health cover of Rs 30 lakhs is excellent for now.

Once married, extend family floater to spouse and future kids.

Emergency Fund Strategy
Rs 7 lakhs already set aside. This is sufficient.

Park in liquid or arbitrage fund.

Don't keep full amount in savings account or FD.

Bond Holdings
Bonds of Rs 2 lakhs giving Rs 1.5k/month interest is good.

But don’t add more to bonds.

Keep it under 10% of your total investments.

PPF and Long-Term Goals
Continue Rs 12–13k/month.

Use this for future child education.

Don’t touch it for home or marriage.

Suggested Monthly Allocation Strategy
You can divide your monthly investible surplus like this:

Rs 20,000 – Equity Mutual Funds via SIP

Rs 5,000 – Debt Fund for short-term

Rs 5,000 – Cash buffer or small savings

Review yearly and increase SIP as your income grows.

What You Should Avoid
Don’t invest in ULIPs or endowment policies.

Don’t fall for real estate investment traps.

Don’t lend to relatives unless it’s fully secure.

Don’t increase credit card spending.

Don’t stay inactive. Time is most important for compounding.

What You Can Do Extra
Start reading financial books or videos.

Track net worth monthly. Use a simple Excel.

Learn basics of compounding and goal-based investing.

Take help from MFD and Certified Financial Planner regularly.

Finally
You are in a very strong financial position.
But you must shift from saving to investing.
Don’t delay starting SIPs anymore.
Focus on equity funds for long-term goals.
Avoid FDs and index funds for wealth creation.
Balance your expenses and keep monitoring.

Use regular mutual fund plans through Certified Financial Planner.
They guide on fund selection, rebalancing, and reviews.
Stay consistent. Time will do the magic.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 20, 2025

Money
My age is 46. My salary is 1.7k. Currently I have 10 Lakh im MF, 8 lakh in Nps, 6.5 lakh in PPF, 4.5 Lakh in Sukanya. I have term insurance of 1.5cr and health insurance of 10 lakh family floater. Paying 12000 emi of car loan with 24 month pending emi. 8.5 k loan on credit card with 4 month emi pending. Investing 38 k in MF, 15000 per month ULIP AND 12 K RD. Can invest another 20k per month. Monthly expenditure is 48k. I need 15 lakh after 5 years. 70 lakh after ten year. Another 50 lakh after 15 years and 1.5 cr after 20 years. Kindly review my portfolio and goal.
Ans: Snapshot of Your Current Finances
Age 46, salary in hand Rs?1.7?lakh monthly.

Monthly expenses Rs?48,000.

Car loan EMI Rs?12,000. 24 instalments remain.

Credit?card loan Rs?8,500 EMI. Four instalments remain.

Mutual funds current value Rs?10?lakh. SIP investing Rs?38,000 monthly.

NPS corpus Rs?8?lakh.

PPF balance Rs?6.5?lakh.

Sukanya Samriddhi balance Rs?4.5?lakh.

ULIP premium Rs?15,000 monthly.

Recurring deposit Rs?12,000 monthly.

Extra saving power Rs?20,000 monthly.

Term cover Rs?1.5?crore till 70.

Health cover Rs?10?lakh family floater.

Short?Term Repairs: Clear Costly Loans Fast
Credit?card debt costs high interest.

Pay the four dues within two months.

Use Rs?24,000 from savings for quick closure.

Car loan has fair rate. Two years left.

Keep paying EMI on schedule.

Avoid early closure now. Interest left is small.

Free cash should feed investment goals instead.

Strengthen Emergency Cushion
Target six months of expenses plus EMIs.

Needed buffer equals Rs?48k + 12k = Rs?60k monthly.

Six months buffer equals Rs?3.6?lakh.

Place buffer in liquid mutual fund.

Continue topping until full buffer reached.

Never park emergency cash in ULIP or PPF.

Review and Act on ULIP
ULIP mixes insurance and investing.

Returns often below pure equity funds.

Premium eats into cash flow heavily.

Check lock?in period end date.

If five years complete, surrender immediately.

If lock?in ongoing, stop further premiums.

Convert policy to paid?up mode.

Redirect freed Rs?15,000 monthly to mutual funds.

Use SIP via regular plan through CFP?backed MFD.

Recurring Deposit Assessment
RD suits goals within five years.

You need Rs?15?lakh in five years.

Current RD gives certain corpus.

Continue RD but cap at Rs?12,000 monthly.

Do not extend RD term beyond goal date.

Goal?Wise Buckets
Five?year goal: Rs?15?lakh

RD monthly Rs?12,000 continues.

Add Rs?5,000 monthly to conservative hybrid fund.

Shift hybrid part to low?duration debt in year four.

Ten?year goal: Rs?70?lakh

Channel Rs?25,000 monthly to flexi?cap equity funds.

Use three diversified active funds.

Invest through regular plans only.

Review performance every six months.

Gradually move 30?% to hybrid during year eight.

Fifteen?year goal: Rs?50?lakh

Allocate Rs?15,000 monthly to mid?cap fund.

Keep sip discipline for twelve years.

Shift gains to balanced advantage fund afterward.

Twenty?year goal: Rs?1.5?crore

Increase NPS contribution by Rs?5,000 monthly.

Add Rs?10,000 monthly SIP in multicap fund.

Let PPF contributions continue yearly at Rs?1.5?lakh.

PPF plus NPS plus equity give inflation?beating corpus.

Monthly Cash?Flow Layout After Shifts
Salary in hand Rs?170,000.

Household spend Rs?48,000.

Car EMI Rs?12,000.

Mutual fund SIPs old Rs?38,000.

New equity SIPs from ULIP stop Rs?15,000.

New hybrid SIP Rs?5,000.

NPS top?up Rs?5,000.

Emergency build Rs?10,000 (until buffer ready).

RD Rs?12,000.

Available surplus each month now fully used.

If hikes come, raise equity SIPs first.

Portfolio Mix After Adjustment
Large?cap 40?%

Flexi?cap 25?%

Mid?cap 15?%

Conservative hybrid 10?%

Balanced advantage 10?%

This mix suits age 46 risk profile.

Protection Enhancements
Term cover adequate at Rs?1.5?crore.

Keep nominee details updated.

Health cover Rs?10?lakh might be low later.

Buy super top?up of Rs?15?lakh.

Premium low if done this year.

Check critical illness rider as well.

Tax Efficiency Steps
PPF full limit cuts taxable income.

NPS extra Rs?50,000 gives 80CCD(1B) benefit.

Equity fund gains above Rs?1.25?lakh taxed 12.5?%.

Debt fund gains taxed at slab.

Plan redemptions in slices to stay below threshold.

Review Schedule
Semi?annual meeting with CFP?backed MFD.

Compare each fund to category average.

Switch out if trailing badly for four quarters.

Check goal progress percentages.

Rebalance if equity weight drifts 10?% off.

Behaviour Rules
Never pause SIPs during market falls.

Avoid new credit card EMI schemes.

Resist fresh car purchase until this loan ends.

Keep lifestyle inflation under salary growth.

Children’s Future Security
Sukanya for daughter continues yearly.

After RD goal hits, direct that Rs?12k to Sukanya or child fund.

Shift Sukanya gains to hybrid when she turns 13.

For son, start a separate equity SIP Rs?5,000 from next increment.

Estate and Documentation
Draft a simple Will within six months.

List mutual fund folio numbers clearly.

Mention PPF, NPS, term plan nominees.

Store documents digitally and in hard copy.

Action List for Coming Week
Pay remaining four credit card EMIs early.

Contact insurer to stop ULIP premiums.

Open three new mutual fund folios via CFP?guided MFD.

Set up fresh SIP mandates as per bucket plan.

Increase NPS contribution online by Rs?5,000.

Open super top?up health policy.

Set auto transfer Rs?10,000 to liquid fund for emergency.

Final Insights
Small steady moves create big future gains.
Clear the costliest loans first.
Redirect every freed rupee into goal?aligned SIPs.
Keep portfolio under expert watch.
Stay invested for twenty years with discipline.
Your targets of Rs?15?lakh, Rs?70?lakh, Rs?50?lakh, and Rs?1.5?crore then become realistic milestones rather than distant wishes.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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