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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 07, 2023Hindi
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I was in love with a girl, far from my place in South. She is from Rajasthan. She too liked me a lot and we were in touch through phone. Me a Hindu and she a Jain. Whenever I would tell I want to marry her, she would say get my dad married (her dad was a widower). Later I met her once when her family had come for Bangalore visit. She even took me to her relative's house and introduced her elder sister. We continued to be in touch. Few years later her sister was to be married and she invited me. I went to Jodhpur, stayed with their family during the wedding (in a separate room they had booked). Probably I got exposed to their family. I wanted to again propose to her. But through her family friends, fact that I was interested in her got to be known to her father and other family members. As per what I got to know, they even discussed our wedding but felt age gap was much (8 years). She stopped being in touch and her phone was not reachable. When I could get in touch, she told me the reason why their family disagreed. Now I am married to someone else and heard she is also settled. Problem is, I still get her dreams. Every girl I see, I relate to her. She is not out of my mind. Of course there is love deep within, but I dont know why I end up dreaming about her. How do I avoid this? She's gone into past and even now she's blocked my number or linkedin, yet I am unable to stop thinking or worse, dreaming. How do I stop this?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that you are in such a situation but dwelling on the past can hinder your present and future happiness. It's natural to reminisce about past relationships, but if these thoughts consume your waking hours and your dreams, it's crucial to refocus your energy. You have a loving wife who deserves your attention and efforts in building a better marriage. Instead of fixating on a relationship that didn't work out, invest your time and emotions in nurturing your marriage.

As humans, we want what we cannot have the most, more than what we have. I believe you are facing the same. But it's essential to accept that your ex has moved on, as evidenced by her decision to block you and so should you.

About your recurring dreams- if you are occupied with a certain thought the entire day, it is only normal that your dreams will reflect the same. Shift your focus to other things to break this pattern. And the more you obsess about it, the more you try to find meaning in some random dreams, the worse your situation will get. Talking about your feelings with a trusted friend can also dilute the matter and alleviate the burden. Remember, the past is behind you, and your present actions determine your future happiness.

Best Wishes!

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hi gure. i am unmarried fall for one girl through online marriage app and we are planning for marriage. few days back we got engaged as well.but after that i am in think that she is avoiding me. she go to sleep early even we were not in talk that much. i always in overthinking that she may have affair or she may ditch me. i cant control my emotion for her. if i cant get her call i called her madly. its make me so depress, nervous. i can not concentrate on work , other imp things. what should i do to get out of this help me ? help me get out of this sir
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

While overthinking can destroy a relationship, if you feel in your gut that something isn't right, there might be some truth and reason to it. My advice would be to have an open discussion about the same with your girlfriend.

We often see people making commitments but backing out later owing to several issues; it can be family-related or something else completely. It is better to speak about your worries right now than to get married and regret it. Maybe your partner is no longer interested in you or maybe she is facing some other trouble altogether; the only way you can understand what's happening is if you ask.

Don't beat around the bush or lose sleep over assumptions; sit your girlfriend down and ask her what's the matter. If she is no longer in love with you, you should consider yourself lucky to have learned it now rather than later, when things are more official and there are no breakups, only divorces. You deserve to be peacefully in love, not worrying about losing it every waking minute.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 23, 2024Hindi
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Dear Ma'am , Please keep my identity confidential. I am facing a very unique problem, I am happily married man for last 18 years with 2 children, before my current marriage in 2003 my Marriage was fixed with a girl ( I was based out of Singapore at That time, I work in management position in one of top IT companies now in India) who was a very distant relative ( her Bhabhi and my Bhabhi were cousins). for some health reason at that time I backed out of from that marriage and when I was better we proposed marriage to her again but then she was already engaged. later I got married to my wife and she too has got married ( I am not in touch with her not knows anything about her husband and never tried to find out. even though I know that my elder brother and her elder cousin have become good friend and I stayed in far off city from them. problem started for me in September 2023, out of no where I started getting bad creams about her. once I found here ( in dream) at nreaby place where she was in bad shape and i brought here home. my dream ended there that night. after that regularly started getting some dreams or other almost every early morning. as it was going to an arranged marriage i had never spoken to here , not a single word. but since then dreams have not stopped some time negative and sometime positive like we are enjoying life together. one of psychologist suggested me to fins out about here current status just to validate that she is all fine in here life but I could not as no one from my family supported the idea of getting touch with as I have no details of her except she is married and working as Teacher ( she is M.Sc. B.ED) . Please guide me if there is normal and what can I do as these dream are not stopping and I am getting so involved that I am unable to forget her, Please guide.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Dreams can just play out like a movie on what bothers you or what you are fearful of or even things that you feel happy about. Certain experts also suggest that dreams can help in resolving underlying issues.
Whatever it is, do remember what you said: I am happily married man for last 18 years with 2 children.
The past better be where it must be. To go into what the other lady is doing and knowing her current status is only going to get you more entangled into her life. Do you really want this entanglement? Do you really wish to be a part of a situation where you spend mind cycles to figure out if all is okay with her and in the bargain disturb the peace in your life? I am sure you know what the answers are.
Find solace in the fact that she must have people who care for her and who love her. This will to a large extent keep you from looping into her life even at a subconscious level. And also start to be more involved within your family...this will keep you engaged and also give you an assurance that you are in the right place with the right people meant for you.
The mind does what it is directed to do; so direct it toward actions that support your growth and peace of mind.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 23, 2024Hindi
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Sir I have been in a relationship of 2 yr now it's been a three yr she's gone now,she said our caste is not same so we don't have future together when his father found out about our relationship,we already known our caste already when we started our relationship now I wonder why did she said that.later,she said I moved on I don't want to be with you and don't contact me ever.. it's been 3 years now can't stop my self from thinking her everyday there is lots of thoughts coms into my mind what could be reason that she left me I'm dying thinking of her but don't care what I suffered from this.. sometimes I think ,is she found someone we living in a different cities know I think I should get hai government job which I promised to her and then go to meet her and talk about our marriage...is it right to do now.. please help me I ..... what could I do now
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Breakups are rough. I understand how painful it is, and all your feelings are valid. But hoping that a government job can sort everything out, is that the right thing to think? She did not break up with you for your job, she did so because of your caste. And wondering why she said all the harsh things will get you nowhere; it will not give you any closure. She could have meant it all or might have said it just to make sure you don't come back again. Whatever the reason, you should respect her wishes and find a way to move forward. I know it hurts to think that she has found someone else, but if you allow yourself to move on, soon you will find someone too- someone who loves you for who you are and someone who loves you completely. I can't force you to move on; the decision is yours. But don't rush- take a little time to think your plan through. If you get a government job, it's great; not because you will get her back but because you will have achieved something substantial. I strongly suggest focusing on yourself, because no one else will.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 27, 2025Hindi
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Anu mam, I am 21 about to graduate this year. So I am a single child and I just got to know that my parents are planning to separate. They are both seeing different people but none of them have cared to sit down and discuss this with me. I am old enough to make decisions. But I feel betrayed by my own parents. I don't have siblings or cousins with whom I can discuss this. I mean, what happens to me after my parents separate? Where will I stay? What about home? Both my parents are travelling or working late so we hardly spend time together at home to have a conversation. I have suggested several times that I want to talk but there is no response from either of them. There is always some urgent work to attend, some family event coming up and this gets brushed aside. I feel like I am not even their child any more. They have both mentally moved on... and I feel betrayed, lonely. I don't know what to do. Can you help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry to hear that. It is never easy to understand when your parents are planning to separate and it leaves you with a lot of questions when left unanswered can lead to a very unsettled feeling.
Perhaps they are still wondering how to break the news to you. If they have been avoiding this topic, then it is evident that they are not ready to tell you or it's still in an awkward phase.
You are 21 and obviously there's no point hiding this from you anymore. Make a dinner plan outside of home where they will not be able to move about and cite urgent work etc. Mid-way through dinner, ask them...they may deny or one of them may walk out; but at least they know that you are aware and will want to talk about it eventually. The path to a conversation has opened then and then you can make a plan about how to go about it.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 30, 2025Hindi
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I am 60 yrs old retired lady. I have 50 lakhs in mutual funds. Around 50 lakhs in equity. In cash I have 1 crore. How I should manage to get pension of Rs. 1 lakh per month because I have no pension from government. Please advice. Partially I should go in property investment.
Ans: You have Rs. 2 crore in investments. You need Rs. 1 lakh per month for expenses. Your goal is to create a stable and tax-efficient income. Let’s plan carefully.

Current Financial Position
Rs. 50 lakh in mutual funds.

Rs. 50 lakh in direct equity.

Rs. 1 crore in cash.

No government pension.

Goal: Rs. 1 lakh monthly income (Rs. 12 lakh per year).

Key Challenges
Your investments should last for 25+ years.

Inflation will increase expenses every year.

Fixed deposits and traditional plans may not keep up with inflation.

Real estate can lock funds and reduce liquidity.

Step-by-Step Financial Plan
1. Build an Emergency Fund
Keep Rs. 15 lakh in liquid funds or bank deposits.

This covers 12-18 months of expenses.

Avoid using emergency funds for investments.

2. Allocate Funds for Monthly Income
Keep Rs. 85 lakh in safe, income-generating investments.

Choose options that give regular and stable returns.

Returns should beat inflation but stay low-risk.

3. Invest for Growth and Wealth Protection
Invest Rs. 50 lakh in balanced mutual funds.

These provide growth and moderate risk.

Withdraw 4-5% yearly to support expenses.

4. Optimise Direct Equity Portfolio
Rs. 50 lakh in direct stocks needs review.

Retain only strong dividend-paying companies.

Shift risky stocks to safer mutual funds.

5. Tax-Efficient Withdrawals
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liability.

Use long-term capital gains to reduce tax impact.

Avoid withdrawing large lump sums at once.

Why Real Estate is Not Ideal
Property investment reduces liquidity.

Rental income is uncertain and taxable.

Maintenance costs and legal issues can arise.

Selling property in emergencies can take time.

Final Insights
You can generate Rs. 1 lakh per month with smart planning.

Avoid locking money in real estate.

Diversify into stable income options.

Review investments every year for adjustments.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner for execution.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

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I am 40 year old, have 38 lakhs in FD, 60 lakh in EPF, 40 lakh in PPF, 30 lakh in Mutual fund and 10 lakh in NPS. Have own house and another house earning rent of rs 15000 per month. Monthly expenses is 1 lakh. Son is in class 7. Can I retire ?
Ans: You have built a solid financial base. Let's assess if early retirement is feasible for you.

Assessing Your Current Financial Position
You have Rs 38 lakh in Fixed Deposits (FD).
Your Employee Provident Fund (EPF) balance is Rs 60 lakh.
You have Rs 40 lakh in Public Provident Fund (PPF).
Your mutual fund investments total Rs 30 lakh.
Your National Pension System (NPS) corpus is Rs 10 lakh.
You own a second house generating Rs 15,000 per month in rental income.
Monthly Expense Requirement
Your monthly expense is Rs 1 lakh.
Annually, this totals Rs 12 lakh.
After rent income, you need Rs 10.2 lakh per year.
Your corpus should generate this amount without running out.
Key Retirement Considerations
1. Longevity of Your Corpus
You may live for another 40–50 years.
Your investments should last for this period.
A balanced approach is necessary to sustain wealth.
2. Inflation Impact on Expenses
Your current Rs 1 lakh per month will increase over time.
Inflation reduces the value of money.
Your investments must grow faster than inflation.
3. Education & Future Responsibilities
Your son is in Class 7 and will need higher education funds.
Higher education costs rise significantly over time.
You must set aside a separate fund for this.
4. Healthcare & Emergency Fund
Medical costs rise with age.
Health insurance is essential.
A dedicated emergency fund prevents financial stress.
Evaluating Your Passive Income Sources
Rental income of Rs 15,000 per month covers only a small portion of expenses.
Your existing assets must generate regular income.
Safe withdrawals should sustain your retirement.
Investment Strategy for a Secure Retirement
1. Equity Mutual Funds for Growth (40–50%)
Your corpus should continue to grow.
Equities provide long-term wealth creation.
Actively managed funds can beat inflation.
A mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid funds balances growth and safety.
2. Debt Instruments for Stability (30–40%)
FDs, EPF, and PPF provide safety.
Keep some funds in liquid debt instruments.
Target maturity funds and short-duration debt funds can provide regular income.
3. Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) for Monthly Cash Flow
Instead of withdrawing lump sums, use an SWP strategy.
This ensures regular income without depleting capital fast.
It also provides tax efficiency.
4. Gold as a Hedge (5–10%)
Gold protects against economic fluctuations.
Consider Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs) for better returns.
SGBs also provide annual interest.
Insurance & Risk Management
Ensure you have term insurance for family security.
Maintain a comprehensive health insurance plan.
Keep a separate emergency fund for unexpected expenses.
Final Insights
Early retirement is possible but needs careful planning.
Your corpus must be structured for growth and stability.
Inflation and future expenses must be factored in.
Investment allocation should balance risk and liquidity.
Regular reviews are essential to keep your plan on track.
Would you like a detailed withdrawal strategy based on your exact needs?

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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I am 42 staying in Pune with my wife and two daughters 7 years and 1 year old. I have 70 lakh in MF , 12 lakh in nps, 18 lakh in pf and 31 lakh in stocks. I have additional investment in 62 lakh in FD that is pledged to trade in derivatives through a consultant. Wife has physical gold worth 5 lakh. I have recently bought a land on loan and current liability is 25 lakh @8.5% ( total 70(land+construction)lakh is sanctioned for construction). My current expense is 1 lakh a month and i stay in rented house. My monthly income is 2.5 lakh from salary. Can I quit my job and move to my hometown in Ranchi. What is the financial plan if i want to quit.
Ans: You want to quit your job and move to Ranchi. Your current investments and expenses need careful planning. Let’s evaluate your financial situation.

Current Financial Position
Rs. 70 lakh in mutual funds.

Rs. 12 lakh in NPS.

Rs. 18 lakh in PF.

Rs. 31 lakh in stocks.

Rs. 62 lakh in FD (pledged for derivatives trading).

Rs. 5 lakh in wife’s gold.

Rs. 25 lakh loan at 8.5% interest (out of Rs. 70 lakh sanctioned).

Monthly salary of Rs. 2.5 lakh.

Monthly expenses of Rs. 1 lakh.

Staying in a rented house.

Key Challenges in Quitting Job
You need a stable income source after quitting.

Loan repayment should not burden your finances.

Derivatives trading involves high risk.

Relocation to Ranchi should not disrupt financial stability.

Step-by-Step Financial Plan
1. Build a Strong Emergency Fund
Keep Rs. 20 lakh as a buffer for 2 years of expenses.

Use FD or liquid mutual funds for this.

This ensures financial security after quitting.

2. Secure a Passive Income Source
You need at least Rs. 1 lakh per month in passive income.

This can come from investments, consulting, or business.

Rental income or dividends alone may not be enough.

3. Restructure Your Loan
Your land loan at 8.5% interest adds financial pressure.

Repaying Rs. 25 lakh from FD or stocks reduces the burden.

Avoid using risky derivative profits to pay loans.

4. Reallocate Investments for Stability
Reduce exposure to high-risk derivatives trading.

Convert Rs. 62 lakh FD into a mix of mutual funds and bonds.

Equity mutual funds can generate higher long-term returns.

5. Plan for Child’s Future
Your daughters are 7 years and 1 year old.

Set aside Rs. 25 lakh for education in safe investments.

Avoid blocking funds in low-return FDs.

6. Address Housing Needs
If moving to Ranchi, consider staying in a rented house initially.

Construction should not strain your savings.

Use part of your investments if you decide to build.

Final Insights
Quitting your job is possible but needs careful planning.

Ensure passive income before quitting.

Clear high-interest liabilities to reduce stress.

Invest wisely for long-term financial security.

Moving to Ranchi should not affect your financial freedom.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner for proper execution.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 30, 2025Hindi
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Hi team, I am working professional currently I received 10L lumsum amount from fd and lic can you please suggest where can I invest this amount for long term like 10-12 years, specifically for my kids any children education plan my 1st kid is 10 years old and 2nd is 1.5 yrs old ssy is alredy in place for both
Ans: Here’s a structured approach to investing your Rs 10 lakh lump sum for your children’s education over the next 10–12 years.

Assessing Your Financial Goals
Your primary goal is to secure funds for your children’s higher education.
Your elder child will need funds in approximately 8–10 years.
Your younger child will need funds in approximately 16–18 years.
Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) is already in place for both children, which is a good step.
Key Investment Principles
Since the investment horizon is long, equity investments can provide higher returns.
Diversification across different asset classes ensures stability.
A mix of lump sum and systematic investments (SIP/STP) helps in managing risk.
Ensure liquidity for unforeseen expenses while keeping the majority of the funds in long-term instruments.
Allocating the Rs 10 Lakh Investment
1. Equity Mutual Funds (60–70%)
Actively managed equity mutual funds provide potential for higher growth.
Choose a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.
Large-cap funds provide stability, mid-cap and small-cap funds offer growth.
Consider splitting the lump sum into a Systematic Transfer Plan (STP) over 6–12 months.
This helps reduce market volatility risk.
2. Debt Mutual Funds (20–25%)
This ensures safety while still offering better returns than FDs.
Suitable for your elder child’s education needs in 8–10 years.
Short-duration debt funds or target maturity funds can be considered.
3. Gold Investment (5–10%)
Gold has historically been a hedge against inflation.
Consider Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs) for long-term appreciation.
SGBs also provide an additional fixed interest every year.
4. Fixed Income Instruments (10–15%)
Since you have LIC proceeds, check if any existing policies should be continued.
If any are underperforming, consider surrendering and reallocating to mutual funds.
Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) or Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS) can be considered for your parents’ support if needed.
Systematic Planning for Education
Start a dedicated SIP from the debt portion for the elder child’s education.
Keep a mix of debt and equity to manage risk for the younger child.
By the time your elder child reaches college, start shifting funds to safer instruments.
Insurance & Contingency Planning
Ensure you have a sufficient term life insurance plan.
Health insurance should cover all family members.
Maintain an emergency fund with at least 6 months of expenses.
Final Insights
Equity investments can provide higher growth for long-term goals.
Debt investments provide stability and liquidity for short-term needs.
Diversification across asset classes ensures balanced risk management.
Systematic investments (STP/SIP) help manage market fluctuations.
Regular reviews every year will help in rebalancing based on market conditions.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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I am 47 year old. Having 32 lakh in my PPF. 28 lakh in my wife's PPF.Having sukanya smruddhi of my 10 year old daughter 25 lakh. Having Nps 10.5 lakh. (Equity 50 remaining 50 % debt in nps). Just invested 28 lakh in banking and psu debt growth fund in 3 diffrent fund house. 70 lakh cash at bank. Wife house wife having equity mutual fund mix of large cap small cap and medium cap having 24 lakh current market value holding through broker. Wife is having 1.5 lakh in direct equity of mid and large cap bluechip.Wife is having NPS account for monthly pension of 5000 post retirement. Life insurance Endowment plan bharti axa elite advantage 10 lakh for 12 years primium 1 lakh for self.Insurance of daughter 10 lakh : 80,000 premium elite advantage policy. No loan. Goals: Education of daughter and marriage of daughter after 15 yearrequire 50 lakh. Want to purchase house 1 to 1.2 cr after 5 to 6 year.currently living in parental house. Retirement after 8 to 10 years -58 or 60 year. Current monthly expense 40,000 to 50,000. Yearly income varible from 3 lakh to 20 lakh depend upon consultancy work. Health insurance for family 10 lakh. Policy HDFC optima secure. No term plan. Please advice investment stratagy, for retirement and other goals.
Ans: Your financial position is strong, but you need a structured plan.

Understanding Your Current Financial Position
You are 47 years old and plan to retire by 58 or 60.

You have no loans, which is a great advantage.

Your PPF has Rs. 32 lakh, and your wife’s PPF has Rs. 28 lakh.

Your daughter’s Sukanya Samriddhi account has Rs. 25 lakh.

Your NPS balance is Rs. 10.5 lakh, with a 50:50 equity-debt mix.

Your wife has Rs. 24 lakh in equity mutual funds.

Your wife has Rs. 1.5 lakh in direct equity.

You recently invested Rs. 28 lakh in banking and PSU debt funds.

You have Rs. 70 lakh in cash in the bank.

Your wife’s NPS will give her Rs. 5,000 monthly after retirement.

You have an endowment plan with a Rs. 10 lakh sum assured, with Rs. 1 lakh annual premium.

You also have a similar Rs. 10 lakh policy for your daughter with an Rs. 80,000 premium.

Your annual income varies between Rs. 3 lakh and Rs. 20 lakh from consultancy work.

Your current monthly expenses are Rs. 40,000 to Rs. 50,000.

You have a Rs. 10 lakh family health cover through HDFC Optima Secure.

You do not have a term insurance plan.

Key Financial Goals
Daughter’s Education and Marriage: You need Rs. 50 lakh after 15 years.

House Purchase: You want to buy a Rs. 1 crore to Rs. 1.2 crore house in 5-6 years.

Retirement: You want to retire in 8-10 years while maintaining your current lifestyle.

Step 1: Restructure Your Insurance Policies
Your endowment plan is not a good investment.

The returns are low, and they don’t provide enough life cover.

Surrender these policies and reinvest in better options.

Buy a term insurance plan for at least Rs. 1.5 crore coverage.

This ensures your family’s financial security in case of any emergency.

Step 2: Optimize Your Cash Reserves
Keeping Rs. 70 lakh idle in a bank is not a good strategy.

Inflation will erode its value over time.

Maintain Rs. 10 lakh in liquid form for emergencies.

Invest Rs. 60 lakh in a balanced mix of debt and equity.

This will improve your long-term returns.

Step 3: Plan for Your Daughter’s Education and Marriage
You need Rs. 50 lakh after 15 years.

Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) is a good start.

Continue contributions for tax-free returns.

However, SSY alone is not enough.

Invest Rs. 15,000 per month in high-growth assets.

This ensures you meet the target without stress.

Step 4: Investment Plan for House Purchase
You need Rs. 1 crore in 5-6 years.

Avoid putting all savings in a low-return debt fund.

Allocate 60% in safe debt instruments.

Invest 40% in high-quality large-cap equity mutual funds.

This balance will help you reach your goal faster.

Step 5: Retirement Planning Strategy
Your NPS balance is Rs. 10.5 lakh.

Increase equity exposure to at least 70%.

This will help in long-term growth.

Start SIPs of Rs. 50,000 per month in equity mutual funds.

This will help you build a strong retirement corpus.

Your wife’s Rs. 5,000 pension will not be enough.

Ensure she also invests for retirement growth.

Step 6: Secure Your Family with Health Insurance
Your Rs. 10 lakh health cover is good but may not be enough.

Healthcare costs are rising.

Consider adding a super top-up plan of Rs. 20 lakh.

This will protect your family from unexpected medical expenses.

Step 7: Increase Passive Income Sources
Your consultancy income is variable.

You must create stable income sources.

Invest in assets that generate regular returns.

Monthly income plans can be an option.

This ensures financial stability even if work income reduces.

Step 8: Reduce Risk in Your Wife’s Investments
Your wife’s Rs. 24 lakh mutual fund portfolio is spread across small, mid, and large caps.

Small caps are high-risk for a family’s primary corpus.

Shift some amount to safer investments.

Ensure she has a stable long-term investment plan.

Finally
Your financial position is strong but needs better structure.

Optimize your insurance policies for higher returns.

Invest idle cash wisely to grow wealth.

Plan separate strategies for each financial goal.

Focus on increasing stable income for retirement security.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I have 4 Crores in FD'S. Can you please advise me how to use that money so i can make atleast 10% PA after taxes..
Ans: You have Rs. 4 crores in fixed deposits. FDs are safe but give low returns. You want at least 10% per year after tax. Achieving this needs smart asset allocation.

Issues with Keeping Money in FDs
FD interest is fully taxable as per your tax slab.

If you fall in the 30% tax bracket, a 7% FD return reduces to 4.9%.

Inflation further erodes real returns.

FDs are not ideal for long-term wealth creation.

Step-by-Step Strategy for Higher Returns
1. Keep a Part in Debt for Stability
Keep Rs. 50 lakhs in short-term debt mutual funds for liquidity.

They give better tax efficiency than FDs.

You can withdraw anytime without a penalty.

These funds provide stable returns with lower risks.

2. Invest in Actively Managed Mutual Funds
Allocate Rs. 2.5 crores in actively managed equity mutual funds.

These funds outperform index funds over long periods.

They help in capital appreciation and wealth creation.

A mix of flexi cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds is ideal.

3. Consider Hybrid Mutual Funds
Hybrid funds balance growth and stability.

Allocate Rs. 50 lakhs here for a mix of equity and debt.

These funds reduce volatility while providing steady returns.

Long-term taxation is also favourable.

4. Tax-Free Bonds for Fixed Returns
Allocate Rs. 50 lakhs in tax-free bonds.

These provide stable, tax-efficient income.

Government-backed bonds ensure safety.

Returns are lower than equity but higher than FDs after tax.

Expected Outcome from the New Portfolio
Equity mutual funds can give 12-15% long-term returns.

Debt and hybrid funds provide 6-9% with tax efficiency.

Tax-free bonds give stable tax-free income.

This mix ensures safety, liquidity, and wealth creation.

Why This Strategy is Better Than FDs
FDs give post-tax returns lower than inflation.

Mutual funds provide inflation-beating growth.

Tax-efficient debt options improve returns.

This plan balances risk and reward.

Final Insights
Keeping all money in FDs limits growth.

Diversifying into mutual funds and bonds improves returns.

A mix of equity, debt, and hybrid funds works best.

This approach helps in reaching 10% after-tax returns.

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner ensures proper fund selection.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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