Dear Anu, my girlfriend and I have been dating for the past 4 years in a live-in relationship.
Before that we were good friends and she's 3 years elder to me.
There came a situation that she was depressed due to something and I was supporting her which she thought as my love.
We started this relationship although there was no serious commitment from my side.
We had a good relationship, good moments. She paid my bills all the time even when I insisted, but there were lots of fights.
I feel she never understood me or anything I said or my thought process.
I don't think I really love her, because there is no spark and tried ending it many times.
In frustration I even started looking for other people so that maybe I can come out of it but she would find out and make me stay with her with some or other reason.
She's a very polite and sweet person and I don't want to be hurting her.
She's asking me to marry her which is making me nervous. What do I do ?

Ans: You have built a solid base with multiple income streams and disciplined investing.

At 40, you are in a strong position to create a secure and abundant retirement corpus.

Your goals are clear:

Repay your home loan in 15 years instead of 20.

Build Rs. 8 crore corpus by age 60.

This plan needs structured action and disciplined execution. Let’s assess everything carefully from a 360-degree view.

Salary and Cash Flow – A Good Start
Your in-hand salary is Rs. 1 lakh per month.

After Rs. 39,000 CPF + VPF and Rs. 28,900 NPS deduction, you save a big portion.

You are already investing Rs. 35,000 in mutual funds.

Equity SIP of Rs. 20,000 shows higher risk appetite.

Miscellaneous expense of Rs. 7,000 is low and controlled.

Overall, your income-to-expense ratio is strong.

There is good scope for maximising returns and building wealth faster.

Home Loan – Strategy to Close in 15 Years
EMI of Rs. 37,000 on Rs. 50 lakh loan is well within limits.

Goal: Close this loan 5 years earlier without stress.

First, increase EMI gradually every year by 5-10%.

Use annual bonuses or salary increments to make part-prepayments.

Even Rs. 1 lakh extra per year can reduce term by 3-4 years.

Review loan structure with lender once in 3 years to get best rate.

Do not stop SIPs or equity investment for loan closure. Balance both together.

LIC Policies – Immediate Assessment Needed
You pay Rs. 1.7 lakhs yearly as LIC premium.

These are investment cum insurance plans.

These offer low returns and poor liquidity.

Surrender policies and reinvest money into mutual funds for better growth.

Get a simple term insurance of Rs. 1 crore for family safety.

This will reduce premium cost and improve overall wealth creation.

This one decision alone can add lakhs to your final corpus.

Direct Mutual Funds – Not the Right Choice
You are investing through direct plans in some mutual funds.

This looks cost-saving but can become risky in long term.

Direct funds do not offer any ongoing guidance.

Market changes are frequent. Without advice, you may exit or switch wrongly.

Wrong timing can damage your entire portfolio.

A Certified Financial Planner with MFD code gives portfolio strategy.

Regular fund investments give peace of mind and better asset allocation.

Charges are marginal but value is high.

Please shift your funds to regular plans through an MFD having CFP credentials.

Index Fund Exposure – Needs Reevaluation
You are investing in Nifty 50-based index fund.

Index funds are low-cost but not always right.

They follow the market passively.

No option to reduce exposure in weak sectors.

No active strategy during corrections or crashes.

Actively managed funds perform better in Indian market conditions.

They provide risk-adjusted returns with more flexibility.

Certified Financial Planners can help select best actively managed schemes.

Avoid depending on index funds for long-term goals.

Your Existing Investment Mix – Analysis
Your investments are well diversified across multiple asset classes.

Let us evaluate one by one:

CPF + VPF Corpus – Rs. 80 lakhs

Very stable and safe.

Good for post-retirement pension-like benefit.

No changes needed.

NPS Corpus – Rs. 18 lakhs

Another strong pillar for retirement.

Tax-efficient and low-cost.

Suggest keeping equity allocation at 50%-60%.

PPF Corpus – Rs. 14 lakhs

Excellent for safe long-term returns.

Tax-free and fixed interest.

Continue till maturity.

Sukanya Samriddhi – Rs. 1.5 lakhs/year

Good for daughter’s education or marriage goals.

Stay invested till maturity.

Mutual Fund SIPs – Rs. 35,000/month

Right asset for long-term wealth creation.

Some funds may need rebalancing.

Mid-cap and small-cap should not cross 30% of portfolio.

Equity Shares – Rs. 18 lakhs

Good wealth-building asset.

High risk, but can deliver higher returns.

Do annual review with a Certified Financial Planner.

Target Rs. 8 Crore at 60 – What You Need to Do
You are now 40 years old.

You have 20 years to build Rs. 8 crore.

Let us look at possible actions:

Continue current SIPs of Rs. 35,000 monthly.

Increase this by 10% every year.

Shift direct funds to regular funds.

Rebalance mid-cap/small-cap exposure to keep risk moderate.

Reinvest LIC surrender value in long-term equity mutual funds.

Keep NPS equity allocation between 50%-60%.

Avoid index funds. Choose high quality actively managed funds.

Use Certified Financial Planner for long-term monitoring.

With this discipline, your Rs. 8 crore goal is very realistic.

Insurance – Only Term Plan is Enough
You are spending Rs. 1.7 lakhs yearly on LIC.

These policies mix insurance with investment.

Returns are around 4%-5% only.

Do this instead:

Surrender LIC policies after checking surrender value.

Buy a pure term insurance of Rs. 1 crore.

Annual premium will be around Rs. 15,000 only.

Invest balance Rs. 1.55 lakhs in equity mutual funds.

This will protect family and create higher wealth.

Tax Planning – Ensure You Don’t Overlap Sections
You are contributing to PPF, CPF, NPS, Sukanya.

All these are eligible under Section 80C and 80CCD(1B).

Ensure not to exceed maximum allowed limits.

Use balance funds for equity mutual funds or debt funds.

Emergency Fund and Short-Term Goals
Maintain 6 months’ expenses in a liquid fund.

Do not mix emergency fund with investments.

Plan separately for near-term goals like car, vacation, etc.

Use short-term debt funds for such goals.

Portfolio Rebalancing – Do it Yearly
Every 12 months, review and rebalance your portfolio.

Reduce exposure in overgrown asset classes.

Adjust between large-cap, mid-cap, and debt.

Track performance with support of Certified Financial Planner.

Exit poor performers and reallocate.

This keeps your goal aligned and risk under control.

Final Insights
You are already on a strong foundation at age 40.

Your income is good, savings rate is healthy, and investments are well spread.

But a few corrections are needed to maximise outcomes.

Shift LIC policies to equity mutual funds.

Avoid direct and index funds.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner for guidance.

Stay invested, increase SIPs yearly, and control unnecessary spending.

Your Rs. 8 crore goal is possible with this roadmap.

Stay focused, track yearly, and adapt as needed.

You are moving in the right direction.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment