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19-Year-Old Introverted Male: How to Make Female Friends?

Ravi Mittal |605 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 12, 2024

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Question by Vivaansh on Jul 14, 2024Hindi

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I am introvert 19age unmarried adult how can I take step for making female friends

Ans: Dear Vivaansh,

Making female friends might seem daunting, especially for an introvert, but it is almost similar to making a male friend. All that matters is compatibility. You can try approaching girls in your college. Of course, if they seem interested too. Start with a hi. In case, they don't want to continue the conversation, please don't try to convince them.

You have another option- dating apps. They are not just for dating. You can make plenty of friends on dating apps. Write an engaging Bio. Write a little bit about yourself and the kind of friend that you are looking for to attract the right matches. Put a recent and clear picture as your display image. You can find like-minded people on these apps.

Try either option; it should work.

Best Wishes.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 21, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 20, 2023Hindi

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hi , I am a 40 year old man with 2 kids and wife , aged parents .Financially and health wise i am doing good and working in a reputed mnc. My relationship with parents , wife ,kids and siblings is in good spirits . however i am an introvert and don't have many friends .while i had friends in childhood and youth however they have moved in there life .i want to have an improved social life and also have joined a course to improve social skills and more strong relationship socially and at work . As course suggest to approach people , however i still don't approach/talk to people when opportunity is there .i also tried to have more positive attitude towards other people ..however still sometimes i start criticizing them in my mind...and sometimes i feel that approaching /talking may belittle me in front of them,,,, and talking /approaching opposite sex is even more difficult ... any suggestion to improve on this part and how i can improve my social life and get/find company of like minded people .

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things to understand here:
1. You are an introvert and you are happy being one
2. You are a forced introvert as you are unable to break the walls that you have put around you.

If you belong to the first category, enjoy the state of bliss as is. But from what I gather, you seem to falling under the second category wherein you want to expand your social circle and be a part of activities etc.
Then you have to put yourself out there.
1. Do understand that as much you want to be engaged with like-minded people, even these people will at some point in time think different from you.
2. Do accept people for who they are and that way you will come from a non-judgemental space while engaging with them.
3. Do connect with people who are totally different from you and it will help you expand your mind to be curious about them.

If this is a difficult thing to do...think....What if one of your children came to you with the same problem that you have now? What would you tell them to do?
Also, get into circles on social media that discuss topics which interest you. Join a gym or a hobby class and that is an avenue to make new friends irrespective of gender.
To add more friends, you need to be friendly as well...so open your heart and mind...

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 24, 2024Hindi

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After my graduation i am feeling a lot of alone i don't know how i can make friends and interact with like minded people??

Ans: I assume you haven't started working and in that case, for starters become a Alumni Association member of your college.

In addition try reading this book.
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a 1936 self-help book written by Dale Carnegie. Over 30 million copies have been sold worldwide, making it one of the best-selling books of all time. Carnegie had been conducting business education courses in New York since 1912.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 22, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 21, 2024Hindi

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Hi, I am 25+ years of old. Earning a handsome ammount of money arround 1lakh. I am a introvert, kind of kanjus you can say. I don't have any gf. I had one one one-sided relationship but because of low self confidence I didn't able to express my feelings. I don't feel myself as a ugly person but I am over waight, facing hair fall recently that's why I lose confidence approaching girls. I tried few dating apps but use. As I am a introvert I don't like to go to parties but definitely become comfortable after knowing the other person. Currently in Bangalore but being from a remote area I don't feel comfortable approaching a girl. What should I do.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how you are feeling. First of all, you are not alone in this. Secondly, it's time you recognize how much you have achieved in life. Kudos to that.

Now, coming to your concern, being an introvert is not an issue, though it comes with its own set of challenges. I understand that you feel shy when it comes to talking to women. That's where dating apps come in. You have seen no results on them; I hear you. But give it another try, but this time, with a fool-proof strategy. First off, write an appealing bio. It's equivalent to writing a cover letter- you put forward your best attributes and convince people why they should date you. You can mention your achievements, you can be honest and disclose that you are an introvert, mention what you have to offer as a partner and don't forget to mention what you are looking for in your partner. This would give your potential matches a concise idea of you and also help attract the right people. Second, display image matters. While I am not encouraging you to put up an over-edited picture hiding your imperfections, do not put up the worst one either. Make sure it's recent, decent, and of you and you alone, and not in a group. Third, if you like somebody, don't be afraid to send a message. You are not committing to them, nor do you have to see them in person. Leave a message, interact, only if things go well, meet in person. There's no rush and no prior commitment. Fourth and the most important one, be patient. The right match can take a while but when you do find them, it will be worth the wait.

Best Wishes!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 06, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 05, 2024Hindi

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How to attract females towards oneself I m not happy in my married life Need some outside relationship

Ans: If you're unhappy in your marriage, it's essential to address these issues directly. Consider marriage counseling to explore your feelings and try to resolve conflicts. If the marriage cannot be repaired, discuss separation or divorce respectfully. Pursuing outside relationships while still married can lead to significant emotional pain and complications.

If you decide to end your marriage, focus on personal growth and being genuine in your interactions. Engage in social activities and communities that interest you to meet new people. Attracting potential partners is about being confident, kind, and authentic.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jul 15, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2024Hindi

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I am introvert by my nature ho can I take step for relationships

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Almost 100% of introverts have a very successful love life. I would not worry about it at all. For starters, I would recommend trying online dating. You do not have to interact face-to-face and you get ample time to know your match before you finally decide to meet them in person. You can even mention that you are an introvert in your bio and find people who have a similar nature to yours. You do not have to ask a friend to find you a date, you can do it yourself and most importantly, at your own pace. Do give it a try.

Best Wishes.

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Question by Niveditha - Jun 07, 2025Hindi

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Hi ma'am I'm 25 years old and my relationship with my parents is getting sour since a very long time they always want me to do everything that makes them happy and think about their happiness if I ever think about my happiness or do anything that makes me happy then they fight with me and portray me as a bad daughter and my dad has always said that if she will ever think about her happiness or do anything that makes her happy then I'm gonna leave everything and go so does my mom she also threatened to cut ties with me if I ever do anything that makes me happy my parents never supported me for anything they never ask me who I wanna get married to who I'll b happy with what profession i wanna take nothing but it's always about them in my family there are 16 members who have had love marriage and inter religion marriages my grandmother stays 15kms away from my house she has 3 kids 2 of her daughters had a love marriage one to a muslim one to a hindu her one daughter ran and got married to a hindu guy at that time my mom dad and her mom didn't even say a word but accepted him with open arms and my grandmother got her 2nd daughter married to her boyfriend who is a muslim during Covid 2020 without informing any of our relatives when my parents got to know about her daughters marriage they invited her for lunch at my place they didn't even say a word or opposed that marriage but accepted him with open arms and showered them with love When I fell in love with a hindu guy my mom started to seperate me from him and she is telling everyone to brainwash me to leave the person person I love and find a suitable Christian guy for me when ever we go to my grandmother's house my mom always brings up my boyfriend's topic and start fighting with me infront of them we went there 3 times and all the 3 times she fighted with me and told everyone to brainwash me my mom always support my grandmother's children if anything happens to them she will call them 10 times and ask how they are and when my grandmother was ill treating me my mom didn't even take a stand for me or raised her voice for me but she was watching everything as a movie is going on when I was crying after we came back to my house my mom didn't even ask me what am I going through she always support my grandmother who did bad with me if they will say not to let her work and get her married my mom will listen to her and her daughters and my grandmother also started forcing me that I should also listen to her and get married to a guy who they choose and i should not at all think about my happiness and what makes me happy in my life and i should think about her and my parents happiness and my uncle who lives in Hyderabad he also started to get interfere in my personal life since the time he got to know I fell in love with a hindu guy he also started to seperate me from him and forcefully get me marriage to a guy of his choice my uncle's wife has been expired 15 years back and this age he has a girlfriend who lives in banglore she is a divorcee and her daughter is also a divorcee who he met in Facebook i didn't interfere in anyone's personal life or seperated them from their boyfriend or girlfriend and everyone who have had love marriages in my family and everyone are happy with their partners when it comes to me my parents uncle my grandmother and her daughters who have had love marriage always try to seperate me from my boyfriend and forcefully get me married to a Christian guy if anyone in my family will fall in love with a inter religion person then he/she is a good guy/girl according to them if I fall in love they seperate me from him and forcefully get me Married to a Christian guy i told my parents many times to talk to him and know him but they are like no we don't like him and they always say he is not a good person and always judge my boyfriend even without talking or knowing him once but for others even without talking to their partners they say he is a good person and they will accept him with open arms and also invite them for lunch and everything and will always stay at their place during trips but if I do they will mentally harass me to leave the person I love and get married to a guy of their choice recently we went to Bangalore for my sister's marriage who also had a love marriage at that time my uncle had come to the wedding and he was asking my mom did u brainwash her to leave him and get her married to someone else and my mom was saying yes I did with my aunt's daughter who also had love marriage I don't understand why they always try to seperate me from the person I love and forcefully get me married to someone else who I'm not at all interested in when I'm telling them about him they are not ready to listen to me at all plus they are mentally harassing me to leave him if I take help of any of my relatives who had love marriages in this matter they will not listen to me but force me to listen to my parents and do as they say what should I do ma'am 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Ans: Dear Niveditha,
I gather that many members of your family are against your relationship and interfering in a way that will keep you away from him. My question to you is: Are you financially independent? If Yes, it helps you stand up for yourself. But is NO, then this will make you vulnerable to their decisions...
Now another question: why are they so against this boy? Is he younger to you or not working and financially sound? I mean, what is the reason according to you that they have chosen to be against this when they are okay with others in the family doing the same?
There is surely something that they are not comfortable when it comes to the boy that you are in love with. Find out what that is; it's the question of you life, so don't be so floored by love that you miss out on a red flag. Also, it will help if you stop comparing your situation to others and indulge in so much self-pity. Focus on what exactly is going on, ask your parents as a mature adult on why they dislike the boy and understand if it's real or not and act accordingly. so much of blame game and self-pity will only take your focus out and you will end up more miserable and not do what's the right thing for yourself.

All the best!
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Sir My Son is having cse Jaypee noida, DSAI in Thapar,CSE Manipal bengluru likely get manipal main in next round, which is abetter choice . please help in selecting one.

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Preference order: (1) DS AI @ Thapar (2) CSE @ Manipal Bangalore (3) CSE @ Manipal main if offered (4) CSE @ Jaypee. The final choice will be yours.
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Sir.my pcm b 63%.I eligible for JEE Mains.

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Sir me 27 saal ka ho chuka hu aur mujhe avi civil engineering se diploma karna hai to kya me kar sakta hu aur aage jake mujhe job lene me koi dikkat to nhi hogi mere age ko leke pls guidance kijiye

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Ans: Hello dear.
With the MHT-CET score, his chances of getting CS or ECE are very slim in Govt colleges, but he may get a seat in private colleges located in remote areas. If NMIMS offers you CS/ECE, then go with it.
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My son get iit delhi civil kya uska place ment it co. Mai ho jayega

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Sar Meri daughter ko MH CET mein PCB main 67% marks Aaye Hain aur PCM mein 47 percent marks Aaye Hain vah AI engineer ki padhaai karna chahti hai aap kuchh suggest Karen kaun sa college sahi hai Ham Nagpur mein rahte hain

Ans: Hello jaiprakash
Please contact the administrative office of your preferred college in Nagpur and inquire about the availability of the AI branch through the management quota. If available, proceed with the admission. Note: Based on his score in PCM, branches like AI / ML / CSE may pose academic challenges for her.
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I scored 68 percentile in jee mains and 74.6% in 12th cbse boards...i am already a dropper..which college can i get which is really good in studies and placement...i want to do only cse or its branches...i am a gen ews category girl student from UP...otherwise i was thinking to take admission in LPU because of its good placement

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Getting into CS and computer-related branches seems difficult with the mentioned JEE score. If LPU is offering you CS, then take the admission without any hesitation.
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