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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2024Hindi
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I want to move on but I cannot please help me

Ans: if its a break up you are going through, it takes time to move on - you will go through phases like anger, jealousy, blame game, sadness etc - it can take a few weeks to a few months...take care

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hello mam i had a breakup a year ago and i still havent moved on from him. i am trying to push myself and have given myself enough time. But the core memory i share with him still hurts me. Then like this i get many days to get myself back. he is always on my mind 24*7 and due to this i cannot concentrate on my studies. i am stuck in this position and i dont wanna go back because ik he will never come. I have peak time of my career and i dont wanna regret this. My heart keeps wrenching and it pains a hell lotttttttt with the thought that its over and that one day he will be married too and i will have to see him with someone. idk what should i do?
Ans: Dear Hazel,
Losing someone when in love causes grief. So, go through the pain and don't be in a hurry to heal as when you allow yourself to feel the pain, you are actually stepping into the healing process and healing one day at a time.
It's a suggestion if you can actually keep the gifts given by him etc away during this time. It can torment you more.
And while you are healing and when you feel like the world crashing on you, you need to distract yourself by:
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- Join communities with larger than life causes as this helps looking beyond oneself

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You need to make a decision for yourself after looking at all the pros and cons. How are you going to be able to handle your parents once you make the decision to go ahead with the marriage?
Also, on your part, you are right in asking, how long do you need to wait?
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Hi Mam, My parents are not agreeing for the marriage with my boyfriend cause it's an interfaith relation. I tried convincing them but they keep on saying foul words to me, saying that they would kill themselves if I don't leave him. I had seen my family from childhood and I don't want to be in a similar situation as they are, my mother had a relationship with someone else after marriage, my sister is not the biological child of my father, I am aware of all those but I haven't blamed them for that cause I felt if that's what is making them happy let them be, I haven't even confronted them. Now they say all the good stuff that me and your father were very great to each other you should learn those things and all. I am struck in a situation now. I have a job and my boyfriend also has one, could you please suggest.
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Judging your parents and their choices is not going to anyway help you in your context. So, why even go there?
Instead focus on your situation and how you can make things happen for yourself.
- Are you financially independent and will you be able to manage the discomfort that will emerge once you choose to be on your own?
- Will your boyfriend support your decision and will he stand by you when you go against your family?
- What does his side of the family have to say about all of this?
If you notice the questions above, none of them are set to 'convince' your family. It is almost impossible to convince someone who does not want to be convinced. These questions will give you an idea and enable to handle your situation by stepping up for yourself.

All the best!
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