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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2024Hindi
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I want to move on but I cannot please help me

Ans: if its a break up you are going through, it takes time to move on - you will go through phases like anger, jealousy, blame game, sadness etc - it can take a few weeks to a few months...take care

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hello mam i had a breakup a year ago and i still havent moved on from him. i am trying to push myself and have given myself enough time. But the core memory i share with him still hurts me. Then like this i get many days to get myself back. he is always on my mind 24*7 and due to this i cannot concentrate on my studies. i am stuck in this position and i dont wanna go back because ik he will never come. I have peak time of my career and i dont wanna regret this. My heart keeps wrenching and it pains a hell lotttttttt with the thought that its over and that one day he will be married too and i will have to see him with someone. idk what should i do?
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I am a 43 year old, have a dependend wife & 12 yr old daughter (7 STD). Earing 2.25 L per month. Monthly expenses 80k. No debts and staying in my own flat.& 1 more flat (earn rent Rs. 28 k monthly), 2 lac as emergency fund in savings. I invested 3 lakhs in equity stocks, 23 lakhs in MF lumpsum(Current Value 32 lacs), 18 lac in FD and 10 lac in NSC. Till date my PF is 36 lacs. I pay 80 k SIP monthly (investment value 19.50 lacs and market value 25 lac), PPF 1.50 lac p.a -Current value 9 lacs, NPS 1 lac p.a -Current value 6.5 lacs, SSY 1.5 lacs p.a.( Current value 9.5 lacs) and PPF for wife 1 lacs p.a (Current value 5.50 lacs) and PPF for daughter 50k p.a.from 2023( Current value 1.73 lac) Also Family medical insurance of 10 lacs.. and myself term insurance of 50 lakhs and LIC of 10 lakhs. Also I purchased LIC Child Money back of 10 lacs and SBI smart chap 5 lacs for my daughter education. I want to retire by 50's with the total corpus of 5 cr. Is it possible with above or increase investments??
Ans: You have built a very strong financial structure already at age 43. Your disciplined SIP of Rs 80,000 monthly, multiple long-term investments, rental income and debt-free lifestyle are powerful advantages for early retirement planning before 50s.

» Present Financial Strength Overview

– Monthly income Rs 2.25 lakh
– Monthly expense Rs 80,000
– Rental income Rs 28,000 monthly
– No liabilities
– Strong PF corpus Rs 36 lakh
– Mutual fund investments growing well
– Regular SIP Rs 80,000 monthly
– PPF contributions for self, wife and daughter
– SSY contribution for daughter
– NSC and FD holdings available

This is a very balanced portfolio structure.

» Retirement Target Rs 5 Crore by Age 50

Your goal is ambitious but achievable with disciplined continuation.

Positive factors supporting success:

– high monthly SIP already running
– strong PF accumulation ongoing
– additional rental income support
– low household expense ratio
– no debt burden

These are excellent strengths.

However, timeline is short (about 7 years).

So investment efficiency becomes very important.

» Emergency Fund Needs Improvement

Currently emergency fund is Rs 2 lakh.

Recommended level:

– minimum 6 to 12 months expenses
– should be around Rs 5 to 10 lakh range

Increase this gradually for safety.

» Role of Fixed Income Investments in Your Plan

Your portfolio includes:

– FD Rs 18 lakh
– NSC Rs 10 lakh
– multiple PPF accounts

These provide stability but lower growth compared to equity mutual funds.

For early retirement goal before 50:

– some portion of future investments should move towards growth assets
– continue existing safe investments but avoid increasing them further heavily

This improves corpus growth speed.

» Mutual Fund SIP Strength is the Key Driver

Your SIP of Rs 80,000 monthly is your biggest retirement engine.

To reach Rs 5 crore comfortably:

– increase SIP yearly when income increases
– even Rs 10,000 yearly increase helps strongly
– continue long-term discipline without interruption

This creates strong compounding impact.

» Review of Insurance Planning

Current protection:

– health insurance Rs 10 lakh
– term insurance Rs 50 lakh

Suggestions:

– increase health cover if possible
– term insurance ideally should be higher considering dependent wife and child

Protection planning strengthens retirement safety.

» Child Education Policies Review

You mentioned:

– child education insurance policies already taken

Generally these plans give lower returns compared to mutual funds.

Better approach after checking surrender values:

– consider partial surrender or paid-up option
– redirect future premium savings towards mutual fund SIP for education goal

This improves long-term growth.

» Rental Income Advantage in Retirement Planning

Rental income Rs 28,000 monthly is a strong support.

This helps:

– reduce retirement dependency on corpus
– provide inflation-adjusted support over time
– improve early retirement feasibility

Very useful strength in your case.

» Action Steps to Improve Probability of Rs 5 Crore Target

Simple improvements can help:

– increase emergency fund to safer level
– increase SIP gradually every year
– avoid increasing new fixed-return investments
– review child education insurance policies
– strengthen health insurance cover
– maintain investment discipline for next 7 years strictly

These steps improve goal achievement chances strongly.

» Finally

Based on your current savings rate, strong SIP discipline, rental income support and low expenses, reaching Rs 5 crore by your early 50s looks achievable. Increasing SIP gradually and improving protection planning will make this target more comfortable and realistic.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 11, 2026Hindi
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Hi gurus...I am 33yr married female. I am making the following investments monthly 1. Sip of 17000pm 2. I invest in RD to be able to deposit in my ppf account ( trying to utilise full 1.5Lakh limit) 3. Every month my contribution ( including employer contribution ) to NPS is 9670pm Since my spouse is working in pvt sector, I would like to accumulate retirement money required to lead post retirement withdrawing 1.5 lakh monthly. Also, I will need to withdraw 10-15 lakh for home buying (planning in 5-7 years), and kids education after 15-18 years requiring 20 lakhs Pls suggest if this investment plan is good for my goal or I need to make any tweaks to achieve my goals
Ans: You have already started retirement planning at age 33 and that is a very strong step. Also, you are investing regularly through SIP, PPF and NPS. This shows discipline and long-term thinking. With some adjustments, your goals can become more comfortable and achievable.
» Understanding Your Present Investment Structure
Your current monthly investments are:
– SIP investment Rs 17,000
– RD for PPF contribution up to Rs 1.5 lakh yearly
– NPS contribution (employee + employer) Rs 9,670 monthly
These three together create a solid base for retirement planning. But since you have multiple goals, allocation planning becomes important.
» Retirement Goal Requirement Reality
You want retirement income of about Rs 1.5 lakh per month.
Important points:
– retirement may be after 25 to 27 years
– inflation will increase expenses strongly
– future monthly need may be much higher than today’s value
– so retirement corpus requirement will be large
This means present SIP amount alone may not be enough over long term.
Increasing equity mutual fund exposure gradually is important.
» Home Purchase Goal in 5 to 7 Years
You plan to withdraw Rs 10 to 15 lakh for house purchase.
Current approach:
– RD supporting PPF contribution is safe
– but PPF has long lock-in period
– withdrawal flexibility is limited
Better approach:
– create a separate mutual fund investment bucket for house goal
– choose balanced allocation between safety and growth
– avoid depending only on PPF for this goal
This improves liquidity and timing comfort.
» Children Education Goal After 15 to 18 Years
Education goal of Rs 20 lakh today will increase in future.
So planning should include:
– growth-oriented mutual fund investments
– long-term SIP increase gradually
– separate goal-based investment tracking
This will help you reach education target without disturbing retirement savings.
» Role of NPS in Your Retirement Planning
NPS contribution of Rs 9,670 monthly including employer share is a strong advantage.
Benefits:
– long-term disciplined retirement saving
– tax efficiency support
– employer contribution adds extra strength
Continue this without interruption.
» Importance of Increasing SIP Every Year
Your retirement success depends mainly on equity exposure.
Recommended action:
– increase SIP amount every year with salary increase
– even small yearly increase creates big future impact
– goal-based SIP planning gives better clarity
This improves retirement confidence.
» Need for Emergency Fund Planning
Before increasing investments further, check:
– minimum 6 months household expense reserve
– kept in safe liquid investment
– separate from long-term goals
This protects your financial plan during unexpected situations.
» Simple Allocation Improvement Strategy
For stronger goal achievement:
– continue NPS contribution
– continue PPF contribution for safety portion
– increase SIP gradually for retirement goal
– create separate SIP for house purchase goal
– create separate SIP for children education goal
Goal separation improves clarity and success rate.
» Finally
Your current investment plan is a strong starting structure. But to achieve retirement income of Rs 1.5 lakh monthly along with house purchase and children education goals, increasing SIP gradually and creating separate investments for each goal will make your plan much stronger and safer.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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