Hii Anu, I am always curious about relationships and I have come across my relationship problems of my friends and solved them. But for a very long time I am wandering about the why even a happily married woman get attracted towards someone else ( I am not asking about males because I think I know about them) . Do these extramarital attractions are always result of deep unidentified issue in their marriages or it is a result of specific qualities that we admire ? Please help me to understand about these kinds of attraction outside committed relationships

Ans: Dear Samrat,
Attraction can turn into an extra marital affair but an affair does not need a precursor to it. It may or may not be dependent on anything.
Yes, most often a lack in a relationship can cause people to look outside of marriage but this may not be the only reason. It's also the time and place and how the opportunity presents itself and how much one is willing to explore the realms outside of a marriage/relationship.
A person who practices monogamy will have very strong opinions about why one needs to be true to his/her partner whereas where people believe in multiple relationships will justify things according to what they believe. So there is no black and white answer just the way life is...they grey area comes around to confuse, question, debate and set us on a path that aligns well with our beliefs.

All the best!

Ans: Hello Samrat,
It's important to recognize that every individual and relationship is unique, and there can be a variety of reasons why someone may seek emotional or intimate connections outside of their primary relationship, even when it seems satisfying. and there is no one-size-fits-all explanation for why some women may become involved in intimate relationships outside of their exclusive partnerships. People's motivations and actions are influenced by a complex interplay of psychological, emotional, social, and situational factors and this is not exclusive to women; individuals of any gender may experience this behavior.

Ans: Dear Samrat,

I am doing great, thanks for asking. Coming to your query, I assume you want to know what would make one partner continue cheating despite repeated ultimatums. One possible reason could be that she is no longer interested in the marriage. She has "fallen out of love," as we often say. She might no longer respect her husband or care about his feelings. The reasons for cheating can be very complex. It can also stem from dissatisfaction within the marriage, unmet emotional or physical needs, communication breakdown, or personal struggles that we are not aware of. Mental health issues or past traumas might also be involved. Nevertheless, there is no excuse for cheating.

I hope that helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Honeymoon period over and then real life takes over. Responsibilities at work and at home need time and attention and also the involvement of both partners.
Now, add children into the picture and then raising them in a digital age; that's again a lot of challenges, right?
Next, caring for aged parents...
Responsibilities can rob the romance out of marriages and relationships. But with proper understanding between both partners, even during tough times, it is possible to find a silver lining.
So, put in simple words, as the relationship grows, responsibilities increase and this can cause a dent in the love life of partners. Becoming aware that this is an inevitable phase in any marriage/relationship, the couple can still act as one unit and face struggles and support one another. Love can actually increase, you know?
But, only if the couple does not resort to blame game and passing the buck. A lot of movies show this aptly with much bickering and struggles.

The key to a sound relationship is to step in and show up at all times and be committed to working together in difficult times and happy times as well...possible? Yes, possible as long as the couple make that level of commitment! That's what you actually see in couples who still are going strong 30-40 years after marriage.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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