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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 02, 2023

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Samrat Question by Samrat on Nov 29, 2023Hindi
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Hii Ravi, hope you're fine. I have a question related to your past question-answer. In that question, the man has written that his wife was getting involved with random man until he caught her and now she is having a relationship with her friend and she was not in the mood to stop despite her husband's warning. In that question, what could be the possible reasons for that man's wife getting involved with random men and not stopping even after husband's warning?

Ans: Dear Samrat,

I am doing great, thanks for asking. Coming to your query, I assume you want to know what would make one partner continue cheating despite repeated ultimatums. One possible reason could be that she is no longer interested in the marriage. She has "fallen out of love," as we often say. She might no longer respect her husband or care about his feelings. The reasons for cheating can be very complex. It can also stem from dissatisfaction within the marriage, unmet emotional or physical needs, communication breakdown, or personal struggles that we are not aware of. Mental health issues or past traumas might also be involved. Nevertheless, there is no excuse for cheating.

I hope that helps.

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First of all, thanks for your answering my previous question. I am still unable to accept that a woman who has relatively happy marriage and children is getting involve with other men despite warning and claiming that he is only friend and jeopardizing her marriage. Let this kind of situation happens with me . How will I proceed when I come to know that my wife is talking and meeting to another man even after my warning for (let say) more than 5 years and saying that she has not committed adultery ? Your answer will be appreciated
Ans: Dear Samrat,
I apologize if I am incorrect. But I seem to notice that you keep asking the same question in different ways. It will help if you actually state what is bothering you.
You not willing ;to accept a woman who has relatively happy marriage and children is getting involve with other men despite warning and claiming that he is only friend and jeopardizing her marriage'? Is this about someone that you know? Or is it something that you want to know out of curiosity? If it is only a healthy debate that you seek, I suggest that there are other platforms that encourage answers and responses as a debate. You may want to ask these questions there.
If it is indeed about you having this problem with your wife, then ask so...also as Gurus, it becomes easy for us to address a person's challenge if they come straight to the point. I hope I am making sense.

Ifs and Buts in life are many...are you suspecting that your wife is in a relationship outside of marriage?
I ask because you have mentioned: How will I proceed when I come to know...does this mean that you know or you are expecting this or you have your doubts?
If you know, simply ask her...she does have the responsibility within the marriage to let you know of this.

If you don't know or are playing on your doubts due to your beliefs of: I am unable to accept that a woman getting involved despite warning...Then know that your lack of trust will kill your marriage...

So, my suggestion...do come to the point and ask your question directly. You will be able to leverage this platform better and find a path to your challenges.

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 03, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 01, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu ji. I have been hesitating to ask this question. Now I dare to tell my story. Iam married for last twenty five years and having three girls. For the last few years my wife is least interested in sex and remains away from home frequently. In fact before ten years we were living in a locality where one of my wife's friend was living with her family. Her husband was fond of sex with different woman and for this he used her wife to make freinds, cajole them and call them at night for watching blue films. My wife also got trapped in the net and one night I found her missing from bed. The main door was locked from outside. I kept waching her return and she came at 2.30 in night. I pretended sleeping and did not tell anything to my wife but shifted to new colony. Husband of my wife's friend kept coming to new house during my and children's absence. One day I returned from office after one hour and found the man in my house. I asked my wife to stop all this and since than he did not came but my wife started remaining absent from house many often with the lame excuse that she is going to visit her parents. I am upset and doubt that she goes to her friend's house. Should I let it go on?.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's possible she is involved in this vicious loop...
When you confronted your wife when you found the man in your home, what exactly did she say or how did she react? I don't find you sharing this anywhere in your question...and this would give an indication as to where her mind is...
It is quite possible that your wife has been a part of the other couple's exploits and is willing to be a part of it. I guess it requires the two of you actually getting around to talking about what exactly is going on.
If this is going to be her lifestyle, it's necessary to see how this is going to impact the girls at home and also whether you choose to accept this as her lifestyle.

Should you let this go on? - How fine are you with not being a part of this marriage in a way that must be? Are you willing to compromise on your married life? How will this affect the children? How will you work around the fact that your wife is possibly sleeping around with random people? What will your future seem like as a family?
Check your answers to these and you will know exactly what you are okay with and what you are not fine going along with. That will define your next course of action. It's as simple as asking yourself: What is that will truly see me in a happy place? You will know after answering these questions...a good reality check is in order!

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 13, 2025Hindi
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Hi. I have a monthly income of 1.5lakh. I have SIPs of around 35k monthly. The SIPs are of Nifty smallcap, nifty50index, midcap,parag parikh flexi, kotak midcap. I want to build a diversified portfolio and have an asset of 1cr in 10 years. I have a home loan emi going on which is monthly 20k now. It will increase in the coming months. Please suggest.
Ans: You are already showing strong discipline with Rs. 35,000 monthly SIPs. Starting early and staying consistent is the key to building your Rs. 1 crore goal in 10 years. Your current income and surplus allow you to plan in a structured way without putting pressure on your lifestyle.

» assessment of present portfolio
– Current SIPs are in smallcap, midcap, flexicap, and index funds.
– Smallcap and midcap funds give high growth potential but carry high volatility.
– Flexicap offers balance by letting the fund manager switch between market caps.
– Nifty 50 index gives broad market exposure but no active management flexibility.
– Index funds simply copy the market and cannot avoid downside in bad phases.
– Actively managed funds can shift allocation to protect returns during corrections.

» building a more diversified allocation
– Avoid over-concentration in smallcap and midcap segments.
– Keep largecap actively managed funds as a stability anchor.
– Maintain some exposure to debt mutual funds for safety and liquidity.
– Include an international equity fund for global diversification.
– This reduces risk from Indian market downturns and currency fluctuations.

» recommended asset split for 10-year goal
– Equity funds: 70% of monthly investment.
– Debt funds: 20% of monthly investment.
– Gold or other hedge assets: 10% of monthly investment.
– This balance offers growth, safety, and inflation protection.

» adjusting current SIP mix
– Reduce direct index fund allocation and replace with actively managed largecap or multicap funds.
– Continue with one midcap fund but avoid holding too many in the same category.
– Retain flexicap fund for dynamic market allocation.
– Keep smallcap exposure limited to 10–15% of total portfolio for high growth potential without excessive volatility.

» role of debt allocation in your case
– Debt mutual funds give stability during market falls.
– They also provide liquidity for planned expenses or emergencies.
– Over 10 years, the debt portion will be shifted towards equity in the early years, then increased again in the last 3 years for safety before withdrawal.

» impact of home loan EMI increase
– Your EMI will rise, reducing investible surplus temporarily.
– Plan in advance so you do not stop SIPs when EMI increases.
– Keep an emergency buffer equal to at least 6 months of EMI + expenses.
– This prevents you from redeeming growth investments for loan needs.

» estimating potential growth towards Rs. 1 crore
– If you invest consistently and follow a balanced allocation,
– Equity growth over 10 years can multiply invested amounts significantly.
– The debt portion will add stability and protect from market timing risks.
– Even with moderate growth assumptions, Rs. 1 crore in 10 years is realistic.

» tax planning for your investments
– Equity mutual funds: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh in a year taxed at 12.5%.
– STCG on equity: 20% tax rate.
– Debt mutual funds: taxed as per your income slab for both short and long term.
– Plan redemptions around your goal year to minimise tax liability.

» review and rebalancing
– Review portfolio performance annually.
– If one category grows beyond target allocation, rebalance to maintain risk level.
– Rebalancing avoids over-exposure to any single segment.
– In last 2–3 years before goal, gradually shift gains to debt for safety.

» safeguarding financial plan
– Ensure you have adequate health and life insurance.
– This keeps your investment plan safe even if an emergency occurs.
– Avoid stopping SIPs unless there is a severe cash flow issue.
– Continue business or salary income growth to keep surplus healthy.

» finally
You already have the right habit of disciplined SIPs. By reducing over-concentration in high-risk segments, shifting some index fund allocation to actively managed funds, and adding a planned debt portion, you can control risk while targeting Rs. 1 crore in 10 years. Staying consistent, rebalancing regularly, and protecting your plan with insurance will ensure you reach your goal confidently.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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