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Samrat Question by Samrat on Oct 17, 2023Hindi
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Hii Anu, first of all thanks you answered my question. My question is related to previous one. As you have mentioned that attraction can happen to anyone and it doesn't say anything about your relationship status, I wanted to ask do you ever have come across with the situation where attraction arises from admiration turned into extramarital affair. To be precise, I wanted to know do all extramarital affairs or cheating in a relationship is always a result of something missing in a relationship or something is wrong with the person e.g. self-esteem issues or any kind of personal insecurity ?

Ans: Dear Samrat,
Attraction can turn into an extra marital affair but an affair does not need a precursor to it. It may or may not be dependent on anything.
Yes, most often a lack in a relationship can cause people to look outside of marriage but this may not be the only reason. It's also the time and place and how the opportunity presents itself and how much one is willing to explore the realms outside of a marriage/relationship.
A person who practices monogamy will have very strong opinions about why one needs to be true to his/her partner whereas where people believe in multiple relationships will justify things according to what they believe. So there is no black and white answer just the way life is...they grey area comes around to confuse, question, debate and set us on a path that aligns well with our beliefs.

All the best!

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Ans: Hello Samrat,

That's an interesting take and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Infidelity is very complex and though inexcusable, there are certain circumstances when people are forced to make choices that they would not normally. For instance, couples in unhappy marriages are often seen cheating on their partners. Even though it's unethical, we don't have a clear idea of what pushed them to make such a decision. Having said that, I agree that you might be onto something- in fact, research shows that there are, at certain times, some common attributes in people who tend to cheat. Narcissism, commitment issues, impulsivity, and the like are often observed among people who indulge in infidelity.

But even though these traits might be common among some individuals, it does not apply to all. Situational factors should be weighed in before evaluating.

I hope this helps.

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sir am 26 yrs old . and I was doing company secretary couse but unfortunately couldn't clear in 2024 i join my father's personl office he was a accountant and later started his own firm and he was a advocate.. but sometimes I feel that ca degree is important for our office work when it comes to audit . so for providing ace to office I want to pursue ca but it's too hard as am not able to clear cs like ( 199 ) marks left with only 1 marks to pass . so I have a doubt that am not able to pas cs so how can I pass ca . i don't talk with my parents about my this thinking .. it's like am able to clear cs ? with ofc ? or not ? or it's just a bad decision for me ! please sir replyyyt !
Ans: Dear Priyanka,

Thank you for being so honest about everything!

Do you like CA and CS first of all? This is the first question you have to ask yourself!

The next question I want to you ask yourself is, ‘am I scoring less marks because I have not studied / lack of interest or lack of understanding of concepts?’ Seek help if you really want to clear these exams!

Next question is ask yourself , “what comes naturally to me and I love doing it?”. It can be anything…. cooking, baking, teaching, accounting, handling customers in your dad’s office, taking care of office administration, etc, list out everything and then home down to one thing and start working on it with honesty of purpose, let that become your way to earning money!

And please sit and have a heart to heart chat with your parents!
If verbal communication is a problem, write a letter to them… I am giving you options, choose what is comfortable to you , but talk to your parents!

All the very best…

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