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Mohan Question by Mohan on Jun 08, 2024Hindi
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Hellow, Anuji, I m 24, my gf is 25 and her elder sister is of 30. Elder sister was my friend at start and her younger sister proposed me as she loved me by listening to glimpses of mine by her sisters mouth. We r in relationship for a year now, she really loves me and I too. But later on I came to know that, her elder sis loves me too, and she conveyed this to me thru letter. I was too emotional about how I made her sad( elder one), in between, for 2 3 days, we had physical contacts, this came to know to younger sis who I love the most. She is much upset now, feeling broken. What shd I do now

Ans: Dear Mohan,
I am sorry but this is going to sound harsh to you...
What sort of emotions are you talking of that makes you jump from one person to the other?
You have just broken the younger sister's trust. An apology is not going to set anything right and yes, she is broken and maybe should also be upset with you.
What sort of a sister actually does this to her younger sister? The two of you have a lot of explaining to do to the younger sister...
And well, she may very well not be prepared to let go of this for now..Face this...every action has a consequence...
Trust takes time to build and when it's broken, well...wait...she may forgive you both or not! Face her...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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I don't mean to sound judgemental here...but what exactly are you stressed about? You seem to be hopping about from one relationship to another without working on things when they get stressful.
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