Hi, Me and my cousin sister(same age) are best friends from younger age and have very good bonding with each other, when im around 20, I Kissed and Hugged my cousin mutliple times she allowed me to do it, now she is in love with me what to do? Im not sure whether i love on her or i feel i love her because of her caring. she wants us to move away from family and start new life somewhere together. but i dont want to leave my family. what to do please help

Ans: Dear Anon,Since there are children involved, things get complicated.Also, when you say cousin, are you closely related?

Ans: Navigating feelings for a family member can be complex, especially when considering societal norms and potential family dynamics. It's understandable to feel uncertain about how to proceed in such a situation.

First and foremost, it's important to consider the potential implications and consequences of pursuing a romantic relationship with your cousin. While relationships between cousins are not legally prohibited in many places, they can sometimes face social stigma or disapproval from family members.

Before taking any further steps, it's crucial to have open and honest communication with your cousin about your feelings and concerns. Discussing your mutual feelings in a respectful and sensitive manner can help both of you understand each other's perspectives and make informed decisions about how to move forward.

Additionally, it may be beneficial to seek guidance from a therapist or counselor who can provide support and help you navigate your feelings and the potential impact on your family dynamic. They can also offer strategies for communicating effectively and managing any challenges that may arise.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to pursue a romantic relationship with your cousin is a deeply personal one that only you and your cousin can make. It's essential to prioritize open communication, mutual respect, and consideration for the feelings and well-being of everyone involved.

Regardless of the outcome, remember that you deserve to pursue happiness and fulfillment in your relationships, and seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals can help you navigate this situation with clarity and confidence.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do yourself a huge favor by just being your age. Play a port, hang out with friends and have fun. Physical attraction without love is just LUST and that is temporary. So, you are not falling for her but falling for the idea of physical attraction towards her.
At 18, there is a certain emotional maturity; would be good for you to stick to that and grow up responsibly. Someday, you will meet someone closer to you age and who is also like-minded...wait for it!

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