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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 29, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 28, 2023Hindi
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Hi gurus, I am 24, have been in a relationship with a woman for the past one and a half years, out of which 7 months have been long distance, as she has gone to Canada for higher studies. In the meantime, I fell in love with another woman in my office, and she loves me back too, knowing my situation. I confessed about this to my girlfriend and asked to break the relationship as the card of loyalty has been broken already. She insisted that we try and come out of this mess, and that she was not ready to leave me. I had already told the other woman to not get over involved with me as I formally am in a relationship with another woman. Both of them are refusing to leave or move on. I am in a dilemma and feel guilty sometimes for messing two lives up. What should I do further?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Sounds like you are in quite a fix. I suggest you have a clear discussion with both the women in your life, and request them to let you quit the relationship because it's not ideal. Especially since neither one of you agreed to polyamory. And feeling guilty is human.

Best Wishes.

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I was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years. I tried many times to leave her, but ultimately I couldn't. Around April-May, I started distancing myself from her emotionally. I told her that if I ever marry her, I would also have to marry someone of my parents' choice - essentially saying I'd have two marriages. I started ignoring her intentionally. At that time, she got a job where she met a new guy - her team lead. He proposed marriage to her directly, introduced her to his parents via video call, and even had her meet his sister. I didn't know about this initially. But on the very day I found out, she was meeting his mother. That day, I directly went there, confronted her, got very angry, even broke her phone, and warned the guy as well - told him that if he truly wanted to marry her, he should talk to her family properly and bring a formal proposal. After that, I went to my hometown for 6 days. During that time, I asked the guy: "Why do you want to marry someone who is already in a sexual relationship with me?" Despite knowing everything, he was still interested in her. I realized he was probably just trying to use her and would eventually leave. Eventually, she understood this and blocked him. However, while I was away, they started talking again secretly. After I came back, they stopped meeting, and she acted as if she was fully committed to me. But 15 days later, she met him again and had sex with him twice on the same day. That same night, she had sex with me as well - which made me suspicious. I tried to confirm it with the guy, and eventually, he confessed. Later, she also admitted it and said it was a mistake, and that she thought he would marry her - but he ended up leaving her. I tried to reach him for 2 days after that, but he had disappeared, was unreachable through anyone. Later, I ended up marrying her. Now it's been about a month since the marriage. We have also filed an FIR against that guy. But even now, I cannot mentally move past what happened. I'm constantly disturbed. I started smoking again - I had quit 2 years ago. But now it's gone from 1-2 cigarettes to 5-6 daily. I feel lost. My mind says I should marry someone else, someone of my family's choice - because everything I thought was special between me and her, she ended up doing with someone else. And even now, after 2 months of marriage, she doesn't seem to show any regret or guilt. She still behaves like she did back then - nothing has changed. I thought she would improve after marriage, but it's the same daily fights, arguments, and instability. I don't know what to do. I feel stuck, mentally exhausted, betrayed, and confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that you are going through such a tough time. Let me start by urging you to stop ruining your health over this. Now, coming to your main issue- though there is no point in saying this now, your relationship was not solid to begin with; committing even after you wanted to leave your partner was not the right move. But what’s done is done. Now, presently, all you can do is try to communicate your concerns with your wife. If she seems unapologetic or your marriage seems to have hit rock bottom, you always have the option to rethink. A broken marriage is better than being stuck in an unhappy marriage. Please express your feelings to your wife and have an open conversation about it. And see where things go from there.

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Hello, I am currently in Class 12 and preparing for JEE. I have not yet completed even 50% of the syllabus properly, but I aim to score around '110' marks. Could you suggest an effective strategy to achieve this? I know the target is relatively low, but I have category reservation, so it should be sufficient.
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025
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Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

Should you DROP OUT and prepare for JEE / VITEEE / SRMJEEE?

Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
Instead of dropping immediately, consider:

???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

Risk = minimal

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