Should I marry my boyfriend who comes from a different caste and isn't willing to support me against his family?

Ans: You have a choice - to sacrifice your relationship with either your family or your boyfriend. In the end, if you are not happy, they won't be happy either. So I'd recommend you choose the man you like coz your future life lies with him.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Any parent will worry for the future of their children.
The responsibility of making a marriage work, bringing in the money now rests on both the partners and maybe your parents are unable to still see that as a possibility. It only means you and your BF need to go that extra mile to actually address their concerns whatever the concerns maybe.
Once you address their concerns and find solutions, you will not need to convince them and they will easily accept your relationship. Address and work on their concerns...

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that standing in this day and age, you are facing a problem rooted in caste-related discrimination. I can only suggest you to sit with your parents and make them understand that someone's caste is not their identity. I understand that it will be very hard, especially when it's your parents, but parents can be wrong too. Try highlighting the positives and the achievements of your partner whenever you are discussing the matter with them.


Also have an open discussion about the entire ordeal with your partner. If he too feels that he is suffering because of this relationship, you might want to reassure him that things will be better soon.


Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Inter-faith marriages are still a big NO NO in many homes and yours is not an exception. Like in many other cases, my suggestion has been that both sides must want to get to know the other person. Like your parents need to see a different side of your boyfriend to be willing to accept him.
What is it that he can bring in their daughter's life that will ease their concerns about his faith/religion?
So, your boyfriend must be willing to be patient and make efforts on his part to integrate into your family. It takes time, so be patient.
Now, for your job...do not confuse emotions and your job. Your parents feels that you might take drastic steps with your boyfriend and hence want you closer to home so that they can keep an eye on you. Address this concern by being mature and immersing yourself more into work that gives them the confidence that you are not about to do anything behind their back.
Addressing what bothers them is a better way out rather than trying to convince them...as the same issues will keep coming back if you force them to accept something. So, be patient and responsible for things to sort themselves out...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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