I am in relationship with my bf since 11 years now.And we want to get married to each other. But my family is opposing it as he doesn't earn well. It's been an year since I had introduced him in my family, but still my family members are not accepting him.What should I do?

Ans: You have a choice - to sacrifice your relationship with either your family or your boyfriend. In the end, if you are not happy, they won't be happy either. So I'd recommend you choose the man you like coz your future life lies with him.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch. Sometimes parents make decisions on our behalf without understanding what it is that we want; that doesn't necessarily mean that our parents are selfish. More often than not, they do it with our best intentions in mind. You might be misunderstanding your parents wanting to show off a rich son-in-law. It is possible that they want you to have an easy life. Having said that, it is also important that your feelings be taken into consideration. You have been with your partner for five years and that is a significant amount of time. I suggest you try to reason with your parents. You can try bringing them all together and ask both your parents and your boyfriend's parents to talk it out. If there is clear communication, nothing will be left to assumptions. Next, keep on mentioning all the positive things about your partner. Try to etch that in your parents' mind. Third, if you are not working, I suggest you start looking for a job. Regardless of your parents', husband's, and his family's financial conditions, you should have financial freedom. You can also contribute to building a better life for yourself and your family.
I am sure your boyfriend and his family are amazing; you have spent five years with him and that should give you a fair idea. But just a gentle reminder, no one can be sure of someone's true nature till they start living together. I am not insinuating that your relatives are right about badmouthing your partner's family; all I am suggesting is that you look into it a bit more thoroughly. Marriage is indeed a big decision and rushing into it would be foolish.
And one more thing, it's just a phase. Tough times don't last forever.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it is hard to see your parents disappointed by the choices you make in life. If the only issue is the distant relationship between your parents and your partner, then I am not sure why they are so against it, but then again, all families have a certain set of rules and opinions they can't bend for anything or anyone. This might be theirs. Maybe give it one last try; let them know your decision and express how happy it would make you if they could be happy for you and join you for your wedding. If it still doesn't work, I would suggest you focus on finding peace in the fact that you have tried.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Komal,
A partner's family opposing a love match is not uncommon, but the partner outrightly saying he won't support you or stand up for you in case of a clash is very concerning. Do you think you can live in a situation like that?

I can't tell you what to do with your life, but I would like you to reverse the situation and imagine if your partner was facing your family's backlash, would you support him or ask him to fend for himself? Depending on your honest answer, decide what you deserve.

Best Wishes.