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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 20, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 14, 2024Hindi

Hello mam I also have intercaste relation for 1.5 years but how to convince parents

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is a huge task to convince parents on inter-caste marriages especially when you belong to a traditional and orthodox family.
What you might want to do"
- highlight your partner's ability to be integrated with your family (Your partner must be willing to put in this hard work; similarly you need to do it with his/her family as well)
- arrange a meeting in a public place between your partner and parents (Let both sides have a conversation on all the Ifs and Buts)

At the end of the day, it's two people wanting to spend their lives together BUT families do play an huge role. So be patient and go at this with the support of your partner. Be on the same side and DO NOT quarrel because of this. You will only be making this more difficult on yourselves. Stick together and solve it together; that's the only way this can work out itself smoothly...

All the best!

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Question by AS - Jan 04, 2022Hindi

Hi Ma’am. I’m having a problem with my parents about my marriage. I’ve been in a relationship for three years and I want to marry him. My parents are not agreeing as it is a society issue because it is an interstate and inter-caste marriage. I'm trying to convince my parents for that since long time but it's going nowhere and they are too stubborn to even meet him once. What can I do in this situation? How can I deal with their emotional drama as a parent-child relationship should not break because of these issues? Kindly advise me, Ma’am. AS

Ans:

Dear AS,

You need to focus on how you can marry the person you love and also have your parents support you.

Is this possible?

There is a chance only if you take them into complete confidence and appeal to their logic.

Many societies are still against inter-caste marriages and I am sure they have their reasons for it, just like your parents have strong reasons to oppose the marriage.

Have you tried to find out why they oppose it? Are they worried about how they will face your family members as this is a big thing across cultures in the world?

As their daughter, you have connections with them as well as the right to live your life your way. Bring in an elder member of the family and ask him/her to appeal on your behalf. If this doesn’t work, you might be forced to decide one way or the other.

Whatever you do, do it with conviction and maintain relationships along the way. It may be an uphill task but breathe, smile and live life.

All the best, Happy 2022!

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