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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 16, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 27, 2023Hindi
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Dear Sir / Madam I am an event manager by profession. I mostly take care of seminars and other corporate events. I have a set of clients and keep working with them through out the year. I am very sincere at my work and do some good work for my clients and non of my clients can afford to say that this guy is not a good one. I have a very good reputation amongst my clients but over the period of time things have become very unbearable. These people working in companies, some times they shift to good service, sometimes to low rates, some times to good relationship, sometimes to innovative ideas, sometimes to personal preferences, some time they look for a new vendor just because the existing one is an old one. More over they always have a tendency to put unnecessary pressure on vendor and want the vendor to cow down in front of them. Sir, I maintain all the issues in a balanced manner but can't tolerate rough behavior and being bullied by some one. In my business it is very difficult to get new clients. Today itself i lost a client because I had not tolerated his ill behavior. What pinches me the most is when people behave rough. It becomes unbearable when despite all the ingredients at work, people want to shift to new vendor only because I don't stand with folded hands and with YES SIR - YES SIR, OK SIR - OK SIR on my lips. Please guide how one who loves his self-respect and dignity should handle such situations.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You win some, you lose some! That's life and you know it...

You seem to hold onto certain principles that are robbing you of good work. One can maintain their self-respect even by actually giving into certain demands from the clients provided it reflects well in your balance sheet.
The question to ask is:
Am I being too rigid on my principles that it has begun to work against me?
What can I do to maintain my self-respect and yet gain the trust of the clients?

You have done work in one particular way and it has worked for you till the time, the clients chose you. When you know that business or work is slipping out of your hands, ask yourself these two questions and know that it is possible to get work without compromising and still maintaining professional ethics.

So, deep dive into yourself and shake any rigid belief that is standing in your path and soften the belief in a way that you manage to work around it and still keeping your principles intact. Alternate ways of thinking can set you free...

All the best!

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Ans: I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you've faced as a result of exposing fraud in your company. It's disheartening to hear that you've experienced victimization and unfair treatment in the workplace, especially considering your dedication to honesty and integrity.

While it's understandable that you may feel angry and frustrated about the lack of consequences for those involved in the fraud, it's important to focus on finding ways to overcome the situation and move forward.Your health and well-being should be your top priority. Make sure you're taking care of yourself physically and emotionally. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you cope with the stress and trauma you've experienced. Continue pursuing legal avenues to seek justice for the mistreatment you've faced in the workplace. While it may be a lengthy process, holding those responsible for the fraud and your mistreatment accountable can provide a sense of closure and vindication. Keep detailed records of any instances of harassment, discrimination, or mistreatment you've experienced in the workplace. This documentation may be valuable evidence if you decide to pursue legal action or file a complaint with relevant authorities. Evaluate your career options and consider whether it may be beneficial to seek opportunities outside of your current company. You deserve to work in an environment where you're treated with respect and fairness. Lean on friends, family members, and colleagues who can offer you support and encouragement during this challenging time. You're not alone, and having a support network can make a significant difference in your ability to cope with adversity.Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or enjoying nature. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is essential for resilience and well-being. While it's natural to dwell on past injustices, try to focus on the future and what you can control. Set goals for yourself, both personally and professionally, and take steps to work towards them. Given that you have three years left of service, consider your retirement plans and whether it may be beneficial to retire early or explore other options for transitioning out of the workforce.

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Hi, i am 52years old, wanted to retire early, following are my investments, MF - INR 65L, Equity - INR 22L, 3 houses, one is self-occupied, other 2 houses valued at INR 90 L and INR 32L respectively, i have home loan outstanding of INR 12L, FD of INR 36L , PF INR 32L, monthly expenses requirement is INR 1 L, kindly help me to plan my early retirement. Thank you in advance for your reply on my question.
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As there are many things to consider for an early retirement, one of the first is to start thinking about it in a more realistic manner. An early retirement is not necessarily stop working life, but think of it as a more comfortable schedule that provides you opportunities to relax and pursue your passion and interests and live life on your own terms. You may or may not undertake an activity which can be monetized, meaning which provides you some sort of income - not necessarily to cover your living expenses in whole/part. So do give it some thought of how you intend to keep yourself occupied once you retire from your "current schedule". Will you generate any source of income or will you incur/require more expense.

At current age of 52, an early retirement even if we consider at 55 years of age, it a still a long life ahead. I will make a lot of assumptions in my response as these are not known from your query - such as life expectancy of another 30 years, average return of 8% on all investments for future etc. Are the 2 real estate properties earning any kind of rent that can be considered as income.
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It seems you haven’t provided the details clearly on this platform. If you could share more information, I’m sure you will receive helpful input.

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