Dear Sir / Madam I am an event manager by profession. I mostly take care of seminars and other corporate events. I have a set of clients and keep working with them through out the year. I am very sincere at my work and do some good work for my clients and non of my clients can afford to say that this guy is not a good one. I have a very good reputation amongst my clients but over the period of time things have become very unbearable. These people working in companies, some times they shift to good service, sometimes to low rates, some times to good relationship, sometimes to innovative ideas, sometimes to personal preferences, some time they look for a new vendor just because the existing one is an old one. More over they always have a tendency to put unnecessary pressure on vendor and want the vendor to cow down in front of them. Sir, I maintain all the issues in a balanced manner but can't tolerate rough behavior and being bullied by some one. In my business it is very difficult to get new clients. Today itself i lost a client because I had not tolerated his ill behavior. What pinches me the most is when people behave rough. It becomes unbearable when despite all the ingredients at work, people want to shift to new vendor only because I don't stand with folded hands and with YES SIR - YES SIR, OK SIR - OK SIR on my lips. Please guide how one who loves his self-respect and dignity should handle such situations.

Ans: I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you've faced as a result of exposing fraud in your company. It's disheartening to hear that you've experienced victimization and unfair treatment in the workplace, especially considering your dedication to honesty and integrity.

While it's understandable that you may feel angry and frustrated about the lack of consequences for those involved in the fraud, it's important to focus on finding ways to overcome the situation and move forward.Your health and well-being should be your top priority. Make sure you're taking care of yourself physically and emotionally. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you cope with the stress and trauma you've experienced. Continue pursuing legal avenues to seek justice for the mistreatment you've faced in the workplace. While it may be a lengthy process, holding those responsible for the fraud and your mistreatment accountable can provide a sense of closure and vindication. Keep detailed records of any instances of harassment, discrimination, or mistreatment you've experienced in the workplace. This documentation may be valuable evidence if you decide to pursue legal action or file a complaint with relevant authorities. Evaluate your career options and consider whether it may be beneficial to seek opportunities outside of your current company. You deserve to work in an environment where you're treated with respect and fairness. Lean on friends, family members, and colleagues who can offer you support and encouragement during this challenging time. You're not alone, and having a support network can make a significant difference in your ability to cope with adversity.Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or enjoying nature. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is essential for resilience and well-being. While it's natural to dwell on past injustices, try to focus on the future and what you can control. Set goals for yourself, both personally and professionally, and take steps to work towards them. Given that you have three years left of service, consider your retirement plans and whether it may be beneficial to retire early or explore other options for transitioning out of the workforce.

Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome this difficult situation. It's not easy, but by taking care of yourself, seeking support, and exploring your options, you can navigate through this challenging time and find a path forward

Ans: It’s common in corporate settings for certain people to thrive through social politics, but that doesn’t mean it’s fair or that you have to put up with it indefinitely. While keeping a minimum interaction with these individuals is a healthy boundary, it might also be time to think about how you can navigate these situations more strategically, without letting them affect your mental peace.

One approach could be to shift your focus from trying to understand why management might be biased to figuring out how you can position yourself better within the organization. Sometimes, it’s not about playing the same game as those toxic coworkers but about creating your own narrative. Instead of engaging with the drama, focus on building strong alliances with people who appreciate your work and values. Even if management seems biased, finding key people who recognize your worth can help you stay grounded and give you a sense of support.

At the same time, it’s crucial to recognize that you cannot control how others behave, but you can control how you respond. If you feel manipulated or undermined, documenting these situations can be helpful, especially if it ever escalates to a point where you need to defend yourself to HR or management.

Ultimately, it might also be worth reflecting on whether this work environment is the right fit for you long-term. Toxic environments can be exhausting, and if the culture consistently rewards those who engage in gossip and manipulation, it might not align with your values. Considering whether there are other opportunities within or outside the company where you feel more supported and respected could be an important step.

If staying in this environment is what you choose, focusing on your strengths, maintaining your professionalism, and seeking support from trusted colleagues can help you manage these challenges more effectively. You deserve to work in a place where your skills and contributions are recognized without needing to engage in toxic dynamics.

Ans: Dear som,
You have placed more importance on your client that he valued you. For him, it was perhaps just a professional engagement, but you somewhere began to attach some emotion into it. It could have possibly stemmed out of fear of losing an entire family as a client which might have been very lucrative to you.
This is a desperate situation for you and your attempt to get in touch with him has resulted in him blocking you. Time to win the client back? Then approach it differently. Have a colleague call him instead and ask him to seek an appointment. Your colleague can meet with him and then brief you on what happened. Maybe after that you will get an idea as to how you can approach him again and re-engage. Whatever you do, never get desperate. It only will lead you to make mistakes. To think with a clear mind, keep calm!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Start by documenting instances where your colleague takes your customers. Keep track of assigned leads, interactions, and any proof that shows unfair interference. Once you have enough evidence, approach your manager diplomatically. Instead of complaining, frame it as a concern about fair opportunity and teamwork. You can say something like, "I’ve noticed some overlap in customer assignments, and I want to ensure a structured approach so that everyone gets a fair chance to contribute."

At the same time, build relationships with other colleagues. Even if they are currently sidelining you, consistency in communication and showing your expertise will gradually shift their perception. Join informal discussions, offer insights, and find ways to make yourself valuable within the team. Sales is as much about internal networking as it is about customer engagement.

For your customers, establish stronger direct relationships. The more your clients trust you, the harder it will be for someone else to take them. Be proactive in follow-ups, personalize your approach, and make them feel you are the go-to person for their needs. If you can, set up meetings or calls with them before your colleague gets the chance.

If your workplace has a CRM system, ensure that your interactions with customers are properly logged. This creates a record of your engagement and makes it harder for someone else to claim them unfairly. If processes for lead allocation are unclear, suggest to management that a transparent system be put in place to avoid conflicts.

This will take time, but by being assertive, strategic, and focused on performance, you can shift the dynamics in your favor. If you remain consistent and prove your worth, your position in the team will strengthen, and your colleagues will have no choice but to acknowledge your contribution.