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Mutual Fund Agent's Dilemma: Brother and Client Ignores Calls After New Year

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som Question by som on Jan 13, 2025Hindi
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I am mutual fund agent i have client who is my younger brother like he gives me good regard and every time if he is busy than he calls back to me when he gets the time now from this new year i have fined out a drastic change in his attitude he rejects my call and not even he calls me back i think he has put my call on rejection list since he is my big client and i always give him top my services i am not understanding why he is behaving like this as i have emotion relation with him he is PCS office what is the reason of this attitude i am not able to understand this since he is HNI client i also not want to loose him please guide me i have also my self respect which i don't want to loose please help i have his whole family as a client.

Ans: Dear som,
You have placed more importance on your client that he valued you. For him, it was perhaps just a professional engagement, but you somewhere began to attach some emotion into it. It could have possibly stemmed out of fear of losing an entire family as a client which might have been very lucrative to you.
This is a desperate situation for you and your attempt to get in touch with him has resulted in him blocking you. Time to win the client back? Then approach it differently. Have a colleague call him instead and ask him to seek an appointment. Your colleague can meet with him and then brief you on what happened. Maybe after that you will get an idea as to how you can approach him again and re-engage. Whatever you do, never get desperate. It only will lead you to make mistakes. To think with a clear mind, keep calm!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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It’s never easy to see a close relationship change, especially when you’ve shared such a strong bond over the years. Friendships, like any other relationships, go through ups and downs. Let’s take a step back and understand what might be happening, and explore ways to address it.

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