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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 06, 2024

Kanchan Rai has 10 years of experience in therapy, nurturing soft skills and leadership coaching. She is the founder of the Let Us Talk Foundation, which offers mindfulness workshops to help people stay emotionally and mentally healthy.
Rai has a degree in leadership development and customer centricity from Harvard Business School, Boston. She is an internationally certified coach from the International Coaching Federation, a global organisation in professional coaching.... more

Question by Rajesh on Apr 05, 2024Hindi

Goodmorning I am working in PSU. I exposed a fraud in my company few years ago. Nothing happened to culprits. Rather they continued to gain elevations and reached to top management. Well as anticipated, I am being regularly victimized, my career for promotions got spoiled and now working disgracefully. I suffered heart attack in my office due to such disgraceful treatment in workplace. I even filed a law suit against my no promotion but all this take years and said culprits after enjoying time are retiring or hv retired recently. Suggest me to overcome this situation which many may be facing as consequences of honesty in our country. How can I use these people for mental harrassment and loss of time and money in career and life. I am male 57 yrs old and left with 3 years of service. Thanks.

Ans: I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you've faced as a result of exposing fraud in your company. It's disheartening to hear that you've experienced victimization and unfair treatment in the workplace, especially considering your dedication to honesty and integrity.

While it's understandable that you may feel angry and frustrated about the lack of consequences for those involved in the fraud, it's important to focus on finding ways to overcome the situation and move forward.Your health and well-being should be your top priority. Make sure you're taking care of yourself physically and emotionally. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you cope with the stress and trauma you've experienced. Continue pursuing legal avenues to seek justice for the mistreatment you've faced in the workplace. While it may be a lengthy process, holding those responsible for the fraud and your mistreatment accountable can provide a sense of closure and vindication. Keep detailed records of any instances of harassment, discrimination, or mistreatment you've experienced in the workplace. This documentation may be valuable evidence if you decide to pursue legal action or file a complaint with relevant authorities. Evaluate your career options and consider whether it may be beneficial to seek opportunities outside of your current company. You deserve to work in an environment where you're treated with respect and fairness. Lean on friends, family members, and colleagues who can offer you support and encouragement during this challenging time. You're not alone, and having a support network can make a significant difference in your ability to cope with adversity.Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or enjoying nature. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is essential for resilience and well-being. While it's natural to dwell on past injustices, try to focus on the future and what you can control. Set goals for yourself, both personally and professionally, and take steps to work towards them. Given that you have three years left of service, consider your retirement plans and whether it may be beneficial to retire early or explore other options for transitioning out of the workforce.

Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome this difficult situation. It's not easy, but by taking care of yourself, seeking support, and exploring your options, you can navigate through this challenging time and find a path forward

Asked on - Apr 30, 2024 | Answered on Aug 08, 2024

Thanks Kanchan. Its helpful and working on suggested areas giving a sign of relief and energy. Regrds

Ans: pleasure

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Question by AS - Nov 12, 2020Hindi

I'm 62, quite active socially. My problem is this that the people who are stronger than me emotionally or physically or even weaker than me, I always agree with them or keep mum. But keep on cribbing inside. This is, because, I don't want to make them angry or lose them. I can't express my feelings or show my anger even if someone owe's me a big amount of money in millions of rupees (which is true). And always fear and keep on brooding, visualising them fighting with me and insulting me. I also visualise them refusing to pay my money back to me. I worked my whole life and earned and saved few millions in my lifetime. People knew that I have money and people started asking me for loan on one pretext or other. Some included me in their business without a legal paper work and asked me to invest money in their business by becoming their partner. They looted me with both hands and now are refusing to return my money. My fears came true. I have already suffered two major heart attacks and my health is deteriorating every day and has made me almost bedridden. Very less amount has been left with me which is insufficient for the survival of my family. I keep thinking, fearing and getting more sick. Kindly advise, how I can overcome this situation.

Ans: Dear AS, what you focus on grows bigger with time as your mind has been trained to magnify it beyond what it truly is.

You constantly worried about what you would lose rather than what you have. And in the bargain, trying to please people so that wouldn’t lose them, you ended up getting cheated due your poor decisions.

Let bygones be bygones.

How about at this very moment as you are reading this, think exactly how you had managed to make those millions of rupees?

There is something wise in the way you managed your work/business/network to create that wealth, isn’t it?

So what is it?

Take out a diary and jot it down.

We have a lot of inner resources to bank on that we give ourselves credit for. And if you have done it once before, you truly know how to do this once more.

Just that, your health and loss of money are making you believe otherwise.

Start with:
1. Planning household expenses statement. Right now, only priorities will count. Anything extra will be out till you have disposable income on hand.
2. If you are planning to start something new, do that with the same confidence from the time you were financially abundant and. If you are employed some place, do what you would do with your skills in every project and enjoy the fruits of labour.
3. Take care of your health. Ask your doctor, what exercises can be done by you to keep your health well so that you can work happily

Do remember, nothing is worth worrying so much; your family loves you and want you around them for a long time.

So, look into their eyes and know that the stress that you are carrying around like a special baggage needs to be dropped down this very instant.

Take care and be happy always!

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