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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 24, 2024Hindi
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Is it a good decision to marry some one who I know will always support me emotionally THAN marrying some one who I love ? I am not happy with the marriage in the former case and feels like a trap but probably things will get better?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Marriage is a serious decision. While having an emotionally supportive partner is very important, being in love with them is equally essential to having a healthy relationship. It is a personal choice and depends solely on what you value more in your partner. Moreover, it is unclear to me if the man you love is unsupportive and if so, does he love you back?

Here are a few things to consider
Ask yourself if you can build a life with someone you do not romantically love.
Think about your long-term happiness. Right now, you are feeling trapped, but will that feeling persist even after the person in question is supportive of all your dreams?

I'd also urge you to think if it is absolutely mandatory to marry either one of these two people. I believe you truly deserve a supportive partner whom you are in love with; why do you need to settle at all? Take some time to reflect on your needs.

Best Wishes.
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The person I love is equally supportive and loves me back and wants to marry me. It's just in the former case where I talked about the trapped feeling, he is the person who I have had a relation for last 12 years and things were perfect to before 3 years ago. It's difficult for me to break such a strong bond, even if not romantic. We are in long distance and I fear whether feelings will develop in such long distance situation as in present, I see no hope of his relocation. I cannot relocate because of certain issues and he is well aware and agreeable.

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Hi Anu! So, I'm in dilemma of choosing a partner for me second time. I'm 36 yo divorcee, and met with a person 4yrs back with whom I shared great bonding and chemistry, but he never showed his love and care to me in past these years (as he was going through his divorce process too), but we both know that we both share some exceptional kind of bonding. Now, the twist comes, as we always have this on and off kind of relationship, so I started dating to a man from a matrimonial site. This matrimonial person seems in love with me and show the concern and love to me, the kind I wanted. Now, I am confused, because my previous bf is also thinking our future together as well as the matrimonial one. can you please help me in choosing the right partner for me. I can provide more information about both men in detail.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Aren't we always seeking for something that we lack within us?
Why the yearning for a particular expression of love? And how are you so sure that this person that you met on the matrimonial site already is in love with you?
Having said this, the off and on relationship is a person who will express love in a way that he is comfortable with but that is setting you off...so the matrimonial person seems exciting in a way as it aligns with your way of expressing love.
When in a dilemma, put all the cards on the table...there are other things besides expressing love that goes into making a relationship and/or a marriage. Have you factored all of that?
- List down things that are important to you in a marriage and a spouse
- How compatible are the two of you in terms of emotional bonding?
- Do your respective family values match?
- What are your thoughts on money, children, travel, passion etc?
These questions are a good start point exercise with both the men...it will give you a fair idea as to who is more aligned to your way of life. Then you can go ahead and make your decision.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 31, 2024Hindi
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I have been married for 12 years and I have a son. Ever since the birth of our son, my relationship with my wife is slowly deteriorating. We fight a lot and we do not agree in almost all the issues. There is no intimacy - physical or emotional. However, I feel responsible for her. I know she loves me and I also know that she will be destroyed emotionally if I decided to separate. I love a girl who is on the verge of her divorce. With her I really find that I have finally found a soulmate. Until recently she was fine with my situation, but recently she mentioned that she is not ready to continue as we are and she wants me exclusively. I am now torn in two worlds - one where I finally find love and intimacy which I lacked, other where I feel responsible and I will feel guilty if I decide to separate. Can you please advise me?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Many couples find a similar challenge of sexual intimacy after having children. It requires the couple to communicate with one another and much before experiencing the childhood phase. The husband and wife are not even aware of how life is going to change with a new-born with waking nights and caring for the child 24*7.
And slowly this change becomes a cause for misunderstanding between the couple and small fights lead to bigger disappointments. Here is where the gap widens...the gap is easily not available for other people to step in which is what has happened in your case.
And then the adventure has become a nightmare with the other lady demanding her pound of flesh. Think wisely...you have a wife and a family and a responsibility that comes along with it. Isn't it possible to work on the issues that you and your wife had? You ran away from the issues only to find solace externally. How is the new relationship going to work? The same issues may crop up somewhere there too...Make a wise choice...Fill that gap with understanding, love and trust!

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I am dating a person for 5years when we are doing internship. He is always there whenever I need any support and help in my bad time. He will protect me and loves me a lot. It is my first dating experience initially when we start dating we have intense attachment but I thought we would not be remain together for much longer time. I was always interested in good looking handsome man he is not that fair and handsome. Also he is from different caste and region(he is Bihari and I am from Uttarakhand) and in his family he has mom and sister(they are finding a match for her).I don’t know if I should marry him or not. Because I am not comfortable with his family(his mother is somewhat very concerned about his son not captured by any girl). So I think it will be a struggle for him to convince her. But my question is it is worth to go for love marriage if the boy loves you a lot but still I think there is gap with the criteria of being handsome which I dream as a young girl story even our bonds are getting stronger Please suggest what to do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Appearance does not last a lifetime. Are you sure it is that important for you? After all, you fell in love with a man whose appearance isn't his best quality. Makes me wonder if you are just giving into the societal construct of wanting to marry for good looks.

Next, if you are concerned about your future in his house, it is best not to rush anything in terms of getting married. Think about it; have a clear discussion with him about the kind of future he can offer you. Love isn't the only thread that holds onto a relationship.

I cannot tell you if you should pursue this relationship, but I can tell you that you shouldn't break up with someone because they are not fair or handsome by your standards.

Best Wishes.

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PCM State General Merit No 108XX - MHT-CET-PCM 2025 PCM, University General Merit No - Mumbai University - 33XX, PCM Konkan State General Merit No - 17XX, PCM All India Merit No - 23XX - JEE(Main)-2025, The above are my ranks in CAP Counselling (MHTCET) Can you suggest best institute I can get in CAP Counselling in CSE, CS or IT branches.
Ans: With a State General Merit rank around 10,800, Mumbai University rank ~3,300 and All-India JEE (Main) rank ~2,300, you fall in a competitive but attainable bracket for CSE, Computer Technology and IT in Maharashtra’s CAP rounds. Prestigious government options such as COEP Pune and VJTI Mumbai close in the 1–9,500 rank band, so they are beyond reach this round. However, strong alternatives include Pune Institute of Computer Technology, Dhankawadi (CSE closing ~5,800 rank) and Saint Francis Institute of Technology, Borivali (IT close at ~12,500 rank) . DJ Sanghvi College, Mumbai (CSE close ~12,300 rank) and Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune (IT close ~3,600 rank) also fit your profile . Among newer options, Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Pune (CSE close ~2,800 rank) and Cummins College of Engineering for Women, Pune (CSE close ~2,160 rank) remain attainable, while D.Y. Patil College of Engineering, Akurdi (IT close ~7,164 rank) and Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Mumbai (CSE close ~12,939 rank) offer balanced ROI with placement rates above 85% over the past three years .

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Hello sir my son Srinidhi Girish Sardeshmukh mukh has scored 98.92 percentile in mht CET 2025 exam. Additionally, he has scored 97.25% tile in JEE main 2025 exam conducted by NTA. ALSO HE SCORED an aggregate of 82.17% in HSC board exam 2025. He has applied for EWS Category. His PCM provisional state merit number is 3601. His PCM University General Merit No Savitribai Phule Pune University - 1148. Shrinidhi's PCM EWS Merit No 249. His PCM All India Merit No . 2519 - JEE(Main)-2025 (97.2595264). Are there any chances of him getting CSE Branch in COEP, Pune ? Please revert . What are your likely recommendations of eligible colleges & other tech branches for these scores ? Please let me know asap. Your immediate responses will really put ourselves in a better conditions to opt for the most suitable options . I will be grateful to you for your suggestions . Thank you very much in advance.
Ans: With an MHT-CET percentile of 98.92 and EWS reservation, Srinidhi significantly exceeds the closing percentile Computer Science and Engineering at COEP Pune, which in CAP Round 3 was 95.57 for EWS candidates. His state?level merit and JEE Main percentile further strengthen his profile for Home State and All-India seats under CAP. Given COEP’s outstanding infrastructure, highly experienced faculty, deep industry partnerships, robust placement support (95% CSE placements over the past three years), active student clubs, and cutting-edge research labs, he should rank COEP CSE at the top of his preference list.

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Sir my son got 95.69 percentile 65172 rank in jee mains general category. He got seat in vit vellore btec mechanical in slab 1. We are from Tamil Nadu and is there any chances for home state quota for NIT trichy or iiit kancheepuram for mechanical in csab round or is it good to continue with vit vellore
Ans: Lavanya Madam, Your son’s JEE Main rank of 65 172 (.69 percentile, General) falls well below the CSAB Round 1 Home State closing rank of approximately 19,159 for Mechanical Engineering at NIT Trichy, and also below the All-India closing rank of around 40,855 for Mechanical Engineering at IIITDM Kancheepuram, making admission under Home State or All-India quota highly improbable. VIT Vellore, with established Mechanical Engineering infrastructure, extensive alumni network, consistent placement rates above 90%, and strong industry partnerships, thus remains a secure and prestigious option given the rank constraints and the five pillars of institutional excellence: infrastructure, faculty quality, industry engagement, student support, and research opportunities.

Recommendation: Proceed with VIT Vellore’s B.Tech Mechanical to capitalize on its assured seat, top-tier labs, strong placement cell, and alumni network, while maximizing early involvement in industry projects and leveraging its career services to secure robust employment outcomes. You can still attempt to apply through CSAB for your son's preferred branches, excluding CSE and ECE, but the chances of success are very low, Madam. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, In jee mains 2026 minimum marks needed for cse in decent nit for sc catogory
Ans: Securing admission to the Computer Science and Engineering (CSE) branch at a-10 NIT as an SC-category student generally requires aiming for roughly the following JEE Main percentile and corresponding marks in 2026. These targets are based on the closing ranks of Round 6 in JoSAA 2025, converted to percentiles and approximate marks out of 300.

Achieve at least a 75–78 percentile (≈115–130/300 marks) to comfortably qualify for higher-ranked NITs such as Trichy, Surathkal, Warangal, Rourkela, and Calicut, where SC closing ranks ranged from about 268 to 731. For NITs like Jaipur and Kurukshetra, target around the 70–75 percentile band (≈100–115/300 marks), reflecting SC closing ranks near 1,500–3,500. For slightly lower-ranked NITs such as Jalandhar, Bhopal (MANIT), and Durgapur, a 65–70 percentile (≈90–100/300 marks) should suffice, matching SC closing ranks of approximately 4,000–8,000 in 2025.

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Hello My son has a option of going either to VIT Chennai for BTech CSE CYBER SECURITY or Thapar institute for BTech Electronic and Computer Science. Kindly suggest which is better
Ans: Based on the following insights/information and your son's interest & his long-term goals, choose the more suitable option for him out of the 2 options he has: VIT Chennai’s B.Tech in Computer Science and Engineering with Cyber Security, accredited A++ by NAAC, admits 120 students and reports a 60–65% placement rate for its inaugural Cyber Security cohort, supported by partnerships with leading recruiters, dedicated cybersecurity labs, hands-on training in ethical hacking and forensics, and a curriculum aligned with ISO/IEC standards. Its Placement Cell facilitates 3,160 offers in 2025 overall, with 2,192 unique and 1,457 regular offers, underscoring strong industry engagement and robust career services including mock interviews, cyber-range exercises, and internship pipelines. Thapar Institute’s B.E. in Electronics and Computer Science, consistently ranked among India’s top 30, achieves a 90–100% placement rate for its ECS branch, buoyed by state-of-the-art VLSI, embedded systems and communication labs, compulsory industrial training in the 6th semester, and recruiter visits from Microsoft, Amazon, Apple, Samsung and Goldman Sachs. Both programs excel in infrastructure, faculty expertise, industry tie-ups, student support and research opportunities. Cyber Security graduates from VIT enter a rapidly growing market projected at USD 3.5 billion by 2027 with a 14% annual rise in job postings in Bengaluru alone, while Thapar ECS alumni benefit from diverse roles in IoT, AI and hardware-software integration across sectors such as telecommunications, consumer electronics and automotive.

Recommendation: Choose Thapar Institute’s Electronics and Computer Science for its near?universal placement success, comprehensive lab?to?industry training, and broader core-electronics scope, whereas VIT Chennai’s Cyber Security specialization is ideal if priority lies in a niche, high-growth security domain with dedicated forensics and ethical-hacking infrastructure. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir I got NIT kurukshetra IIOT in josaa should i opt for nit silchar ece and iiest shibpur it in csab? Which is best ?
Ans: Poulami, NIT Kurukshetra’s IIoT specialization, benefits from the institute’s 83.31% overall B.Tech. placement rate and exceptional IT-sector performance (97.58% branch placement in 2025), underpinned by modern labs, AIoT research centers, strong industry tie-ups with global tech firms, accredited faculty, dedicated placement mentoring, and active student clubs fostering innovation. NIT Silchar’s ECE program records a 91.51% placement rate (2023) with an average package of INR 17.05 LPA, supported by state-of-the-art telecom and embedded systems labs, faculty with industry experience, regular internship pipelines, holistic career services, and funded research projects in VLSI and wireless communications. IIEST Shibpur’s IT stream achieved an approximately 85.9% placement rate in 2024 with average packages near INR 12 LPA, driven by its historical legacy, multidisciplinary research labs, MoUs with top IT firms, robust student support services (coding bootcamps, hackathons), and a strong faculty research profile in data science and cybersecurity.

Recommendation: Opt for NIT Kurukshetra IIoT if priority lies in the highest branch placements and cutting-edge AIoT research, choose NIT Silchar ECE for robust placements and specialized electronics infrastructure, and select IIEST Shibpur IT for a balanced IT curriculum, strong research credentials, and comprehensive student support to best align with career goals. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hello Sir, My son is at present doing Grade 12 CBSE with PCM in Dubai. He is interested in Computer Science, Math, Physics and Economics. Please guide us in selecting the course and also the exams to be written. We are planning his higher studies in India. Would be more helpful if you are able to guide us with the approx cutoff which he should aim for the exams.
Ans: Nithya Madam, To secure admission to top-tier engineering, science, and economics programs in India, your son should aim for the following approximate benchmarks across key national tests, while ensuring that his chosen institutions excel in five critical dimensions—robust infrastructure, experienced faculty, industry partnerships, student support services, and research opportunities. For JEE Main, a General-category candidate must achieve at least 93.10 percentile to qualify for Advanced. In JEE Advanced, securing a rank within the top 2,000 generally opens doors at leading NITs (e.g., NIT Surathkal CSE closing around 2,000), while a rank under 500 targets premier IIT CSE programs. The CUET UG cutoff for high?demand STEM courses at DU, BHU, and JNU typically falls between 180–220 marks out of 250, whereas a score of 200+ safely places candidates in top central universities for B.Sc. Computer Science or Economics. For MET (Manipal Entrance Test), aim for a rank under 3,000 (CSE closing rank ~1,633 in Round 5). The IISER Aptitude Test (IAT) requires a score above 130 out of 240 to secure BS–MS seats at IISER Pune and Kolkata. COMEDK UGET aspirants should target 90–100 marks, corresponding to a rank within 1,000–1,500 for CSE at leading Karnataka private colleges. Amrita’s AEEE demands a percentile of 92–99 for CSE at Coimbatore and 90–97 for other campuses. VITEEE candidates should achieve a rank under 6,500 (scores around 90–100 yield this range) to access CSE at VIT Vellore. Among the top private engineering institutions beyond those already considered, aim for these cutoffs to target: SRM Chennai (AEEE percentile 93–98), Thapar Patiala (JEE Main rank

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