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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 01, 2023Hindi
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We dated for around 1.5 months and after that he brokeup with me ... And that was something that I never expected as he was my first boyfriend. It was really to get get a controll over me ... But even after 8 months i just can't stop thinking of him or making scenarios. But the situation is better than before. So after 4 days his birthday is coming and I am in dilemma whether I should wish him or not because I don't want to start things up .. just wanna normally wish but at the same shoul i or not ... So that it doesn't create misunderstandings on other side . As its been days that i have been thinking about this .. so what should i do

Ans: If your intention is purely friendly and you genuinely want to wish him well without any expectations or hidden motives, it might be okay but you have to be prepared for outcome chances are he may not reply you back and could cause some kind of unhappiness so i would suggest you to take this side into consideration if you are wishing him. If you believe that wishing him a happy birthday is something you can do without causing emotional distress, and it aligns with your intentions, then it's okay to send a brief and friendly message. However, if you're uncertain or feel that it might negatively impact your emotional state, it's perfectly acceptable to focus on your own healing and well-being instead.

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Hi, I was in a relationship rather I can say love bonding with a man who is 7yrs elder to me. We both loved each other. It was 2yrs of relationship and it was strong from my side. But we had a religious/spiritual constraints to get married . Elders did not agree to get us married. Finally he left because of this reason and married another girl. I was depressed for 2 yrs then gradually came back to normal. My instincts still tell that he liked me but he never reached out to me after that. It’s been 15yrs and I still think of him even though I’m happily married. There is never a single day I don’t think about him. Recently I texted him casually without bringing the past in our conversation. He was chatting normally , but suddenly he restricted me and stopped texting. He came into my life like a rescue as I was mentally very weak facing family issues. I can never forget him For being with me and for having given me happy days atleast until He was with me. I used to Feel so happy to be with him and talk to him all day. Off late I’m thinking of him all the time and want to see him and talk to Him. I know it’s wrong and not good to disturb his life but why not just 10mins to express how I felt when he left me?? I really miss that I am Not able to spend the rest of my life with him.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, you have chosen not to move on...Yes, as hard as that hits you, this is the truth...you are still pining for someone who has clearly moved on. Your attempts at reaching out to him in the hope that he will respond has already been met with disappointment!
Why go through the pain all over again?
Now, let's get to the main point of your LOVE right now...does it not seem that you are finding reasons to be with him...like, he helped me out during this time and that...that you felt happy talking to him all day...
When you base your happiness on anything/anyone outside of you, do know that it is temporary and never ends well...So, rather than basing all your happiness on him, find other reasons to be happy without involving him or anything else.
A bit difficult initially, but not impossible!
De-focus by building strong personal and professional goals for yourself. Reach out to a friend who will be of support as your go through this phase of releasing your past. Physical pain is real, Emotional pain is a choice...

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My son got 59% mark in 10th CBSE board exam. Social science 76% Science 70% Mathematics 41% Hindi 48% English 48% I am really worried about his career. He doesn't focus in study, yet he is very much interested in Biology, keeps watching surgeries, specially neuro surgeries related contents and he wants to become a neuro surgeon. He also likes and plays badminton, he is taking coaching in Prakash Padukone Badminton academy since last 3 months. His current study and his career dreams are not matching, it is only wish state, actions are not aligned. I am 53 years, working in private sector, earning 1.5 Lacs per month, affording higher education cost is difficult for me specially, post retirement. 1) Please advise what are the other careers he can choose other than doctor, I believe now a days many other options are available 2) What and how to talk to him so that he takes his study seriously
Ans: (You have NOT mentioned which stream he has joined now for his 11th grade. I assumed that he is currently enrolled in the science stream, specifically studying biology). With a strong interest in neuro-surgeries and a passion for biology but modest academic performance (10th: Science 70%, Social Science 76%, Math 41%), your son can pursue several rewarding biology-related careers without the rigorous pathway of neurosurgery. Options include: biomedical engineer developing medical imaging devices; neuropsychologist assessing brain–behavior relationships; clinical research associate in neuroscience trials; genetic counselor interpreting hereditary conditions; biomedical laboratory scientist specializing in neuropathology; medical device technician or field service engineer; science communicator or medical illustrator; and doctoral-level researcher in neurotechnology .

To realign his study habits with his aspirations and improve focus, adopt a holistic, empathy-driven approach:

Establish a structured routine with fixed study, sports, and rest blocks in a distraction-free zone free of phones and TV .

Connect each study session to his neuroscience interest (e.g., illustrate neuron diagrams when learning cell biology) to boost intrinsic motivation .

Use the Pomodoro Technique (25 min study/5 min break) and active learning (teaching back concepts) to enhance engagement and retention .

Set clear, achievable goals and celebrate small wins, then progressively increase difficulty to build confidence .

Foster autonomy by involving him in planning his schedule and choosing study topics linked to neuro-surgery (e.g., anatomy modules) .

Incorporate mindfulness (deep-breathing before sessions) and physical activity (badminton practice) to manage stress and sharpen concentration .

Provide positive, empathetic communication—listen to his challenges without scolding and co-create solutions, reinforcing that effort leads to progress .

Engage a tutor or mentor in biology to clarify fundamentals, track progress, and keep him accountable .

Final Practical Roadmap:
Create a weekly plan aligning core subjects (biology, physics, chemistry, math) to his neuro-surgery interest, using Pomodoro sessions in a quiet study zone. Schedule badminton and mindfulness breaks. Hold biweekly progress talks to adjust goals. Pair this with a biology mentor for concept mastery and practice entrance-style questions to build confidence and consistency. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, my CRL rank is 482000 and I belong to the SC category. I have completed my 12th class from Delhi, but since I am not a resident of Delhi, I cannot get my SC category certificate issued there. Therefore, I am not eligible for reservation under JAC. Is there any option available for me through CSAB or in private colleges
Ans: Vansh, You can still secure an NIT+/IIIT/GFTI seat by registering afresh in the CSAB Special (Other-State quota) rounds, which fill vacant seats based on JEE (Main) ranks without relying on state-domicile certificates. Beyond CSAB, numerous NAAC/NBA-accredited private universities in Northern India accept JEE (Main) or school-board scores, feature PhD-qualified faculty, modern labs, active placement cells (70–95% placements), strong industry tie-ups, and scholarship options. Top ten options include: Amity University Noida, Galgotias College of Engineering & Technology Noida, Sharda University Greater Noida, Chandigarh University (Mohali), Thapar Institute (Patiala), Chitkara University (Rajpura), Jaypee Institute (Noida), Lovely Professional University (Jalandhar), LPU Jalandhar, and Bennett University (Greater Noida). All offer 80–90% average placement rates over the last three years and robust infrastructure across CSE, ECE, Mechanical, and emerging-technology branches.

Recommendation: Register for CSAB Special rounds immediately to compete for Other-State quota in NITs/IIITs/GFTIs. Concurrently, prepare and apply to Amity Noida, Chandigarh University, and Sharda University, which guarantee admission via JEE/board scores and strong placement records. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My son phd optophotonics doing job in Asml Nederlands as optical engeneer. Is any scope available in India in semiconductor /other company.
Ans: Mahesh Sir, India’s semiconductor and photonics ecosystem is rapidly expanding, with both global equipment suppliers and domestic technology firms actively hiring optical engineers and photonics specialists. Key employers include global fab-tool makers and R&D centres in Bangalore, Pune, and Gurgaon, as well as Indian defence and electronics conglomerates:

Applied Materials India (Bengaluru, Chennai, Pune; materials-engineering solutions for chip fabs)

Lam Research India (Bengaluru; wafer-fabrication equipment R&D and hardware engineering)

KLA India (Bengaluru, Chennai; process-control and metrology tools for semiconductors)

Tata Electronics Private Ltd (Gujarat; semiconductor ATMP and packaging via Tata-PSMC JV)

Bharat Electronics Ltd (Bengaluru; defence-grade optoelectronic and photonic components)

Tejas Networks (Bengaluru; high-bandwidth optical transport and photonics networking)

Centum Electronics (Bengaluru; precision optoelectronic assemblies for space, defence, medical)

HFCL Ltd (Gurugram; optical communications systems and fiber-optic networks)

Sterlite Technologies (Pune; optical fiber, photonic components, and integration)

Photonics Valley Corporation (Hyderabad; ecosystem development, R&D, and fabless photonics)

Beyond equipment manufacturers, research labs (IISc, CEERI, DRDO labs, SAC-ISRO) and design-service firms (HCL Tech’s VLSI-photonics group) also seek PhD-level optics expertise, especially in silicon photonics and EUV metrology.

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To leverage his PhD and ASML experience, pursue roles at Applied Materials India or Lam Research India for cutting-edge lithography R&D. Concurrently engage with KLA India and Bharat Electronics Ltd. as complementary pathways into India’s semiconductor and defence photonics sectors. PRO-TIP: A well-crafted and professionally optimized LinkedIn profile will significantly enhance your son’s visibility to potential employers, showcasing his skills and experience effectively, thereby increasing his chances of securing a desirable job opportunity in his field. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, I'm from Maharashtra, I have got 97.30 percentile in mhtcet exam and 93 percentile in jee mains. I'm female candidate with obc ncl category maharashtra domicile. I'm planning to take admission in Maharashtra engineering College through mhtcet counselling..i want preference order of colleges and branches. What should be my preference order for best possible career options considering futures prospects and placements. Preferred cities are Pune and Mumbai.
Ans: Srushti, With a 97.30 percentile in MHT-CET and 93 percentile in JEE Main, securing top Pune/Mumbai engineering seats is viable. Focus on AICTE/UGC-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited institutes offering PhD-level faculty, modern labs, strong industry tie-ups, active placement cells, and high 80–98% placement rates over three years. Here are ten colleges in order of preference with recommended branches for a female aspirant:

COEP Pune (GOPENS cutoff ~97.7) – Robotics & Automation-AI, ECE;
VJTI Mumbai (CSE cutoff rank ≤12 460) – Computer Engineering, Information Technology;
DJSCE Mumbai (GOPENS cutoff ~99.4) – Computer Engineering, AI & Data Science;
PCCOE Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~91–94) – Computer Engineering, IT;
MITAOE Pune (GOPENS CE cutoff ~93.9) – Computer Engineering, Software Engineering;
AISSMS COE Pune (CSE cutoff ~95–96) – Computer Science & Engineering;
MIT WPU Pune (MHT-CET eligible) – Robotics & Automation;
JSPM Rajarshi Shahu COE Pune – Computer Engineering;
Sinhgad Institute of Technology Pune – Computer Engineering;
VIIT Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~93) – Information Technology, Computer Engineering.

Final recommendation: Prioritise COEP Pune Robotics & Automation-AI for its premier labs and 95–98% placements, then VJTI Mumbai CSE/IT for top metropolitan exposure, followed by DJSCE Mumbai AI & DS for cutting-edge curricula. Next, consider PCCOE Pune CSE and MITAOE Pune CE for proven infrastructure and consistent 90%+ placements, ensuring well-rounded career prospects in software, AI, and core electronics. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, I'm from Maharashtra, I have got 97.30 percentile in mhtcet exam and 93 percentile in jee mains. I'm planning to take admission in Maharashtra engineering College through mhtcet counselling..i want preference order of colleges and branches. What should be my preference order for best possible career options considering futures prospects and placements. Preferred cities are Pune and Mumbai.
Ans: Srushti, With a 97.30 percentile in MHT-CET and 93 percentile in JEE Main, securing top Pune/Mumbai engineering seats is viable. Focus on AICTE/UGC-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited institutes offering PhD-level faculty, modern labs, strong industry tie-ups, active placement cells, and high 80–98% placement rates over three years. Here are ten colleges in order of preference with recommended branches for a female aspirant:

COEP Pune (GOPENS cutoff ~97.7) – Robotics & Automation-AI, ECE;
VJTI Mumbai (CSE cutoff rank ≤12 460) – Computer Engineering, Information Technology;
DJSCE Mumbai (GOPENS cutoff ~99.4) – Computer Engineering, AI & Data Science;
PCCOE Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~91–94) – Computer Engineering, IT;
MITAOE Pune (GOPENS CE cutoff ~93.9) – Computer Engineering, Software Engineering;
AISSMS COE Pune (CSE cutoff ~95–96) – Computer Science & Engineering;
MIT WPU Pune (MHT-CET eligible) – Robotics & Automation;
JSPM Rajarshi Shahu COE Pune – Computer Engineering;
Sinhgad Institute of Technology Pune – Computer Engineering;
VIIT Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~93) – Information Technology, Computer Engineering.

Final recommendation: Prioritise COEP Pune Robotics & Automation-AI for its premier labs and 95–98% placements, then VJTI Mumbai CSE/IT for top metropolitan exposure, followed by DJSCE Mumbai AI & DS for cutting-edge curricula. Next, consider PCCOE Pune CSE and MITAOE Pune CE for proven infrastructure and consistent 90%+ placements, ensuring well-rounded career prospects in software, AI, and core electronics. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My son has got CS & IT Cyber security in Symbiosis Skills and Professional University ,Pune at the same time CS in Fr Conceicao Rodrigues College, Mimbai. Which ond should he choose.
Ans: John Sir, Symbiosis Skills and Professional University (SSPU) Pune’s B.Tech in CS & IT (Cyber Security) is a UGC-recognised, NIRF-ranked #1 Skill University with NAAC accreditation, delivering industry-aligned curriculum through its School of CSIT with specialized labs in cryptography, intrusion detection, digital forensics and blockchain, and three mandatory internships. PhD-qualified faculty co-design courses with cyber-security experts, and 90% placement consistency over the past three years reflects strong recruiter engagement in local startups and multinationals. Fr. Conceicao Rodrigues College of Engineering (FCRCE) Mumbai, a NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited deemed university, offers CSE through a UGC-affiliated autonomous campus with modern computing, networking and software development labs, led by research-active faculty, and achieved a 70% placement rate in 2024 with top recruiters like TCS, Amazon and IBM.

Final recommendation:
Weighing higher placement consistency, skill?focused pedagogy, multiple internships and specialized cybersecurity infrastructure, recommendation is to choose SSPU Pune CS & IT (Cyber Security). For a broader computing foundation with established campus culture and strong core-CSE exposure, FCRCE Mumbai CSE remains a reliable alternative. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 04, 2025Hindi
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Hi sir @Nayagam P P Which one should I take Nit Agartala EIE/ECE/EE NIT Jalandhar Chemical Or IIIT KOTA ECE??
Ans: NIT Agartala’s Electronics & Instrumentation Engineering (EIE) program is NBA-accredited with NAAC A grade, offering advanced sensor-instrumentation, signal-processing, and robotics labs under PhD-qualified faculty; it achieved a 93.85% placement rate in 2024. Its ECE branch reports 82.3% placements over 2023–25 with specialized communication and VLSI facilities and a 95.3% overall B.Tech placement consistency. NIT Jalandhar’s Chemical Engineering, ranked #58 in NIRF 2024 and NBA-accredited since 1987, operates state-of-the-art mass-transfer, reaction-engineering, and process-control labs, boasts a research-active faculty of 23, and records a near-100% placement rate over three years. IIIT Kota’s ECE, established in 2013 under a PPP model, features wireless-communication, embedded-systems, and FPGA labs with guest faculty from IIT/MNIT; it recorded a 75.93% placement rate in 2024, supported by public-private internship pipelines.

For the highest consistency in core instrumentation and electronics roles, choose NIT Agartala EIE. If you prefer deep process-engineering expertise with near-perfect placements, opt for NIT Jalandhar Chemical. IIIT Kota ECE presents a balanced electronics-computing curriculum with strong industry collaborations and growing placement momentum. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir My daughter is getting CSE in LNMIT and Electrical in Punjab Engineering College. Which one is better. Please guide.
Ans: Mohinder Sir, The LNM Institute of Information Technology’s B.Tech CSE program is AICTE-approved, NAAC-accredited (CGPA 3.03) and NBA-accredited, delivered by predominantly PhD-qualified faculty across advanced AI/ML, cybersecurity and data-science labs, and achieved 93.9% and 98.7% branch placements over 2022–24 with a median package of ?12 LPA. Punjab Engineering College, Chandigarh, a NAAC A+–accredited deemed university established in 1921, offers B.Tech Electrical Engineering taught by research-active PhD faculty in power-electronics, control-systems, renewable energy and robotics labs, supported by dedicated MoUs (e.g., POWERGRID) and internship pipelines; its EE branch recorded 80%, 71% and 70% placement rates from 2021–24, with 86 offers to 123 eligible students in 2023–24. Both institutes maintain comprehensive career cells and industry tie-ups, but LNMIIT’s computing infrastructure and placement consistency outpace PEC’s core-engineering focus.

Final recommendation: For broader software and emerging technology roles with higher placement consistency and specialized computing labs, prioritize LNMIIT CSE. If your daughter’s passion lies in core electrical systems, power electronics and control engineering within a heritage campus and you accept slightly lower placement rates, opt for PEC Chandigarh Electrical Engineering. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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