Anu Krishna |1410 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 14, 2021
I have tried many times to initiate communication with my husband but he is very biased. He shuts me down immediately in front of his parents and friends.
It’s very embarrassing when he does that in front of people we know.
He likes to dominate and make fun of me which everyone else seems to enjoy but I don’t.
If I tell him that he feels I am being a spoilsport.
He says I have put on weight and look fat after marriage and I don’t have a job that’s why I am getting all these negative thoughts.
My mother in law also never supports me. She doesn’t tell if her son does something wrong.
If I make one mistake she will blow it out of proportion and discuss in front of everyone. That becomes another topic for argument.
All this is making me very annoyed and affecting our marriage now.
We don’t have a child yet but we are already fighting every day. Please help. I just want to start a happy relationship. But I don’t know how to do it.
He absolutely has no right to body shame you and make it a topic of jest.
The nest time, he calls you a spoilsport, please feel free to comment on his looks, his accent, his performance behind close doors and watch what his reaction is.
Sadly, his male ego will be hurt; at least it will give him an idea as to what he has been you through.
Communication as I mention must be firm and assertive; it must convey exactly what you want rather than what you don’t want.
And as far as it goes for you in-laws, ignore their childish behaviour towards you…honestly you cannot control anyone’s thoughts or actions and they are free to do as they please. But what gives them fuel is that you are provoked and hurt.
Is it possible to be unaffected by what people say of you and about you?
Yes, when you own your body image and are unapologetic about it!
Your body, your way…as simple as that and anyone has a problem with that, then it’s their problem!
Be at a lot of peace and act wisely!
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