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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 16, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 13, 2024
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Hi Anu ji, I am married since 2002 and have a single son who is 21 years. I like and love another lady who is also married and has 2 sons. We both are not happy in our respective married life. We also both love each other and have gone far ahead in our relationship n want to get married. My wife has caught me several times but i cant forget my girlfriend. what should i do

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be honest with your wife and tell her exactly how you feel. There is no point playing around with two women and hurting both of them. Make a choice and stick to it...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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