Hello dear, How you handle a relationship where both have love for each other but are not living happily?
We are married for 18 years now and have two grown up children.
My husband is very good. But he is not expressive. I feel he is very dry and unromantic from the beginning. There is no communication between us...Verbal or physical.
I have developed a sort of aversion to him and feel suffocated. I am not able to behave normally with him. I am always upset. Though he is very patient with me.
He is very good as a person and has no flaws, but he is always occupied with his work or mobile. I don't know how to handle myself.
Please advise how to make the relationship happier though I have no desire to make any efforts now as I feel it's all useless.
He doesn't see any problem. He feels this is very normal. The romantic relationship is not real, it's filmy. This is reality.
I feel we have a very formal relation. Just for society and children's sake I am stuck to him. I don't want to leave him but I also can't live with him. What to do?

Ans: Kusum Madam, sabse zyada vikalp rakho, aur state engineering colleges bhi shaamil karo, sirf JEE/JoSAA pe nirbhar mat karo bilkul. Aapke bete ke roshan bhavishya ke liye dher saari shubhkaamnaayein!

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Ans: It is very good that you are planning SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) in advance. Planning monthly income properly helps protect your capital and gives stable cash flow.

To withdraw Rs 1.5 lakh per month, the correct SWP structure depends mainly on:

– your age
– investment horizon
– whether income is required lifelong or for limited years
– existing retirement corpus
– risk tolerance

Still, I will guide you with a practical structure that suits most long-term SWP income needs.

» How much investment is required to withdraw Rs 1.5 lakh per month

Normally, safe SWP withdrawal rate should be around:

– 6% yearly for very safe structure
– 7% yearly for balanced structure
– 8% yearly for growth-oriented structure

Based on this:

Approximate investment required:

– Conservative structure: around Rs 3 crore
– Balanced structure: around Rs 2.5 crore
– Growth-oriented structure: around Rs 2.25 crore

This allows income sustainability without early capital depletion.

If withdrawal period is limited (example 15 years), required corpus may be lower.

If income required lifelong, higher corpus is safer.

» Which mutual fund categories are best for SWP income

Best SWP income normally comes from a combination approach.

Ideal structure:

– 40% Multi asset allocation category fund
– 30% Balanced advantage category fund
– 20% Flexi cap category fund
– 10% Short duration debt category fund

This structure provides:

– income stability
– inflation protection
– market downside control
– long-term capital sustainability

Avoid using only pure equity category funds for SWP.

Avoid using only debt category funds also because inflation reduces value.

Combination approach works best.

» Why multi asset allocation category fund works well for SWP

This category invests across:

– equity
– debt
– gold

It adjusts allocation automatically and supports stable withdrawal planning.

Very suitable for retirement-style monthly income planning.

» Tax efficiency advantage of SWP

SWP is more tax-efficient compared to interest income.

Because:

– only capital gain portion is taxed
– equity mutual fund LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%
– debt fund gains taxed as per income slab

So proper category selection improves post-tax income.

» How to structure SWP correctly

Better approach:

– keep 2 years withdrawal amount in short duration debt category fund
– keep remaining corpus in multi asset + balanced advantage category funds
– review once per year
– increase withdrawal gradually based on inflation

This protects income continuity during market corrections.

» Important preparation before starting SWP

Before starting SWP ensure:

– emergency fund available separately
– health insurance active
– no high-interest loans pending
– nominee details updated

These steps protect retirement income stability.

» Finally

To withdraw Rs 1.5 lakh monthly comfortably, target corpus should ideally be between Rs 2.25 crore and Rs 3 crore depending on risk level.

Use combination of multi asset, balanced advantage, flexi cap and short duration debt category funds instead of relying on a single category. This improves income stability and protects capital for long-term sustainability.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: Namaste
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If your daughter does not opt for Physics and chemistry she will not be eligible for B.E./B.Tech programs through JEE Main. Some of the finest options to join software industry without JEE:
1. With BCA/BSC degrees, and with MCA/Msc masters students can pursue career in Software Industry.
2. No need of JEE for IIT Patna and IIT Madras online/direct-admission BS degrees
3. Scaler school of technology Bengaluru
4. HCL TechBee, Bengaluru

Ans: No, your son's 61.49 percentile is too low for NITs/IIITs—even SC seats closed at 85-90%ile in JoSAA 2024-25.

Try state counseling (like Bihar BCECE), private colleges near IIITs, or leftover GFTIs via CSAB. Good core branches (Civil/Mech) possible in local options. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: No, with a CRL of 173,266 and an EWS rank of 26,615 (Bihar Home State), admission to NITs or IIITs is unlikely. You can try for Bihar Engineering College or participate in the state counselling through BCECE, as well as consider private engineering colleges. Admission to GFTIs or through CSAB rounds may be marginally possible in the final rounds, but chances are limited. ALL the BEST for Your Brother's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Sandip Sir, You can try SVNIT for Mechnical, Chemical, Civil, EE as chances are more & ECE/M&C in later rounds. Other chances are with NIT-Jamnagar, IIIT-Vadodara, and MSU-Baroda for CSE/IT Branches. I suggest you also cross-check the JoSAA opening and closing ranks data from the last 2–3 years before filling in the maximum number of your daughter’s preferred institutions and branches during counselling and if the need arises, can participate also in CSAB round later. ALL the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Govind Sir, With 93.60 percentile, CRL 1,00,144 and OBC-NCL rank 32,618 (MP domicile), your son should try both MP BE counselling and JoSAA. For SGSITS Indore, recent MP-counselling data show General home-state closing ranks around CSE 18,410, IT 37,589, ETC 48,484 in 2025, so CSE looks difficult, IT is borderline, and ETC appears the most realistic; OBC-MP quota may improve chances somewhat. For JoSAA, at OBC 32,618, expect mainly lower-demand branches in mid/lower NITs, IIITs and GFTIs, not CSE/IT in top institutes. My recommendation: SGSITS ETC/IT first, then good MP colleges like IET-DAVV/JEC, while keeping JoSAA + CSAB as backup. (I suggest you also cross-check the JoSAA opening and closing ranks data from the last 2–3 years before filling in the maximum number of your son’s preferred institutions and branches during counselling). ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Shlok, At a 90 percentile in JEE Main, your chances in JoSAA regular rounds are limited because JoSAA uses CRL for Open seats, and this percentile typically corresponds to a rank around 1.0–1.5 lakh, where most NIT and IIIT seats for the General category are already out of reach. With a BITSAT score of 225, you fall below most 2025 B.E. cutoffs at BITS, but some M.Sc. programs or lower-demand branches at BITS Hyderabad or Goa may still be possible depending on 2026 cutoff movements. With a MET score of 157, lower branches at MIT Manipal’s main campus and several branches at MIT Bengaluru appear more realistic than top branches. The best approach is to prioritize Manipal first, consider BITS as a second attempt or dual option, and Keep JoSAA and CSAB counselling, along with admission to 2–3 private engineering colleges, as backup options to maximize your chances of securing a suitable seat. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: With a CRL of 8,308 in the General category, the best targets are ECE and EE branches in strong NITs, while CSE in top NITs and IIITs is mostly difficult to secure. JoSAA uses CRL for closing ranks on Open seats. Recent cutoffs show IIIT Allahabad ECE closed at 7,228 in 2025 and 7,355 in 2024, so that is unlikely; MNNIT Allahabad EE closed at 10,898 in 2025 and 10,710 in 2024, making it a realistic option. NIT Calicut ECE and EEE also extended beyond your rank in 2025, making them good targets. If Delhi is his state of eligibility, NIT Delhi’s CSE, ECE, and EE branches become strong possibilities under the Home State quota. It is advisable to prioritize filling choices like NIT Delhi, MNNIT Allahabad, NIT Calicut, NIT Jaipur, and good IIIT options in ECE and EE first. However, I suggest you also cross-check the JoSAA opening and closing ranks data from the last 2–3 years before filling in the maximum number of your son’s preferred institutions and branches during counselling. This will help ensure informed choices and improve his chances of admission. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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