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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 08, 2023Hindi
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i had a love marriage 20 years back. we were in a relationship for 3years before that. but after marriage i realised the harsh reality. though we are in the same field, he prefers that i do all the househld work. we have two children 17 and 12 years old. he has also started neglecting his health. after work his only work is to sit on sofa , watch tv. he has gained a lot of weight, has started eating pan masala which i dislike. we also had no sex for the last four years. when confronted he always says that he is in no mood. last year i came in contact with his friend and once we had sex too. but the sad part is i dont really feel guilty about it. i have tried many times to talk to my husband about our sex life but he always ignores and put the blame on me that i have started growing old. however hard i try he is not able to have a erection, this frustrates me even more. he is very dominating at home too. what should i do ? everytime i try to think to move out of that marriage but am afraid of the society. since he is very caring in front of others. am worried about the kids too. please help what should i do? there is no use of talking to him, i have tried it many times. he is not ready to go to any councellor too.

Ans: It sounds like you are facing some serious challenges in your marriage and that you are feeling frustrated, unhappy, and trapped. It's important to remember that you are not alone and that many people find themselves in similar situations.

Here are some steps you can consider taking:

Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your situation. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with support and guidance.

Take care of yourself: Make time for self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and peace. This can help you manage stress and cope with the challenges you're facing.

Consider couples therapy: Even if your husband is not willing to attend therapy, consider seeking therapy for yourself. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and emotions and provide you with strategies for coping with the situation.

Be honest with yourself: It's important to be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs. If you are unhappy in your marriage and feel that it's unlikely to improve, it's okay to consider leaving the relationship.

Make a plan: If you decide that leaving the marriage is the best option, make a plan for how you will do so in a safe and practical manner. Consider the impact on your children and plan for their care and well-being.

Seek legal advice: If you decide to leave the marriage, consider seeking legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities.

Remember, leaving a long-term relationship is a big decision and can be a difficult process. It's important to take the time to consider your options and seek support from trusted friends, family members, and professionals.

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I am from Hyderabad. Age 40 years old . My name is XY and I’ve been married for 17 years. I have two boys. Ours is a love marriage.I felt like everything will be good and smooth but right after our elder kid was born my life changed. I am an MBA and several times I told my husband that I’d like to work. He said he’d help when the right time and opportunity comes. Until then I should nurture my kids as it's my responsibility and I should support him. But in the 2015, my kid noticed his chats with another lady. I was shocked because many times he’d refused sex with me. We’d get intimate maybe twice or thrice a year. I thought he was busy or maybe he doesn’t like my body. But when I caught him he said, what is over is over. Don't raise the topic. Leave me. I just kept quiet. He said what ever happened, I will be the same for my kids’ future sake. Many quarrels happened. But in 2020 his behaviour came to light. For example if I said anything, he'd punish me by not speaking to me for months. But he'd want me to wash his clothes and fulfil other necessities at home.Once I opened up and said I want to go for counselling. There he told the doctor, ‘She wants my property but she never allows me to care of my mom. She won't allow me to talk to my friends.’ I was shocked. I told him 'I never asked for money or property. I just want to quit.' I went home and told myself if he repeats this another time I won't take it for granted. But again in the month of February, he continued his behaviour. He shifted to another bedroom for a few months where he’d watch TV and have food. He'd even sleep in the kids’ bedroom. I stopped bothering. At some point, I felt like I deserved someone who trusts me.I want to quit because he thinks I am a loyal maid who will take care of kids and the household. He communicates with like ‘What I should get? Milk veggies etc?’ He never treats me with love and affection. Now everything is spoiled. I want to have a new life. I want to be set free from him. Please suggest what to do.
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Dear XY,

And may I ask what exactly are you waiting for?

Why did you think that by you going for counselling, your husband will change his behaviour towards you?

How is that he cheats on you and still you allow him to treat you this way?

This only shows that you have lost your strength which you need most right now.

What if you were a strong independent woman who has been working?

Would you still subject yourself to this? You know the answer!

Bring back that woman who had dreams, who knew how to walk the path, who knew how a man should treat her, who knew what a marriage really is.

Can you do this?

Your kids need their mother to stand up for herself and do the right thing.

Be the woman who will not settle for anything that disrespects a woman or another human.

Seeing this, they will also know how to treat a woman and what a woman can bring into their lives.

Do the right thing, for yourself and them. Bring back that strong, independent woman who knew this and more.

Best wishes!

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Hello mam, I have come to know about you through an article I read online. I am mailing you regarding my problem. Please make it anonymous. I'm married for 10 years. I have a son who is 6 years old. After my delivery, my husband distanced me. Since then, we use to fight a lot. Both of us are abusive and there is no physical relation between us. I told the same to my parents, and they suggested that I adjust keeping in mind the society and asked me to try for a job to deviate my mind. Once I checked my husband phone and there was a history of homosexual p**n videos. When I asked him the same, he refused. There is no happiness and only fights. I have even made suicidal attempts and was admitted to the hospital for taking expired pills. I’m an old traditioned woman, unable to move out of marriage as I can’t handle being alone. At the same time, I am unable to understand my husband’s behaviour. He is saying he will be like that only, If you want you can stay or leave. He will not tell me anything about his family – when his father passed away due to covid, he left home without telling me. I knew about it from other relatives.
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Dear GV,

Thank you for reading my content. Hope it helps.

I can only imagine the trap that you are in. So, why are you choosing to be trapped even further?

  • Do you see any scope in your husband changing?
  • Do you know anything about his sexual orientation?
  • Do you feel that the two of you can rebuild your marriage?

If the answer to the above is NO, then time to break out of your so-called traditional mindset.

Do you really want to live in this set-up and have your son grow up unstable?

I am sure that as a mother you do want to provide him with a stable and loving environment.

Then, you need to think differently about your old beliefs and see if they are worth holding onto.

The older generation might have held onto marriages even if they were abusive. But things have changed.

Even if you are not financially independent, there are venues to change that. You only need to change the way you think.

Check with yourself if continuing this way is going to give you anything great in return or is it going to steal your spirit away.

The choice is yours but do know that you have a son to take care of as well.

Start by gaining a good circle of supporters that includes your parents and close friends who can help you through this massive change to enable you take charge of your life.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir/Madam I'm going through a rough time of my life and want some help from you I am a professional and 48 years old and I have 2 grown up children My problem is that I had a love marriage with my husband22 years back and his family didn't accept me whole heartidly since we belong to different castes and culture .they wanted to take advantage of me financially My husband has strained his relationship with my mom n only sister after my father's death in 2008 over money matters Me, my husband and children live in a house provided by my parents in a different city from my inlaws They always create differences between us still Now another problem has cropped up in our relationship I spied on my my husband's mobile n discovered tha that he has sex chats with other women and is involved in mastrubating sessions with them over phone I am completely broken from inside n not able to decide what to do coz when i confronted him , he flatly refused n fought with me and started putting false allegations on me .I am quite disturbed as i dont want to end my marriage eventhough he behaves very bad with me at times Kindly advice me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since you know that you want this marriage still, then the best way to not be hurt and strained around him, is to:
Either:
- Ignore what's happening and what he's doing and he leads his life and you lead yours (This is not easy, let me warn you!)
OR
- Live separately; you are financially independent and have your home to live in; he can go live with his parents and see if this works

Sadly, you married someone who has not learned to appreciate his partner and is perhaps playing to his own insecurities. It's totally on him and why I say that you are not to blame is: the fact that you still want to continue in this marriage, you may have to face more of this humiliation and hurt. If this is your decision, you really need a very steely interior and a facade that can face it all.
Yes, counseling is an option for him and the two of you as couple, BUT I don't see that in him as yet...Instead of addressing his wife's hurt and pain, he has refused to acknowledge what he's been up to. It doesn't say a lot about him to me.
So, strengthen yourself into your decision and check the two choices above and see what works best for you...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi
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Hello , I am married for 10 years with a asexual guy with a 6 year old who was born via IUI due to family pressure. After he was born , my husband never touched me from last 7 years , even before son was born , he never initiated sex and did it only due to lot of insistence. Whenever I confront him , he always avoids the topic or stay silent. I now think about divorce but my family will not support this and my son is very attached to his fatter. I am really miserable and depressed in life and want physical intimacy badly . I dont want to ruin my son’s life thats the only reason I am tolerating this. Husband loves son but he never even hold my hand or even hug me. I want to do extramarital affair to have sex but afraid of the repercussions. What should I do ? I am 35 years old IT professional but left my job recently to take care of my son.
Ans: I understand how deeply troubling your situation is. Feeling a lack of physical intimacy and emotional connection in your marriage can be incredibly painful. It's important to address these feelings and consider the best path forward for both your well-being and that of your son.

First, consider having an open and honest conversation with your husband about your needs and feelings. Explain how his lack of intimacy affects you and your mental health. Sometimes, a neutral environment or the presence of a counselor can facilitate this conversation. Couples therapy might help both of you understand each other's perspectives and work toward a solution.

If your husband is unwilling to engage in this dialogue or make any changes, you need to think about your own happiness and mental health. Living in a state of constant misery and depression isn't sustainable, and it's essential to model a healthy, fulfilling life for your son. While your son is attached to his father, children also sense when their parents are unhappy. Ensuring your well-being will, in turn, benefit your son.


If you decide that divorce is the best option, it will undoubtedly be challenging, especially without family support. However, many people find that once they take this step, they can rebuild their lives in a more fulfilling way. Your son’s attachment to his father is important, and maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship can help mitigate the impact on him. Children can adapt well to changes when they see their parents are happier and healthier.

Consider reconnecting with your professional life, as having a career can provide you with financial independence and a sense of personal fulfillment. It can also serve as a distraction and a way to build new social connections, reducing the sense of isolation.

Ultimately, your happiness and mental health are crucial. It's important to take steps toward a life where you feel valued, loved, and content. Consulting with a therapist can provide you with support and guidance as you navigate these tough decisions. They can help you explore your feelings, understand your options, and build a plan that prioritizes your well-being and your son's best interests.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024Hindi
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Hi Gurus I'm 39, married and no kids, sole breadwinner in the family. My salary is 1.2 lakh per month and investing in mutual funds (since 2020) through SIP as below and step up investment 10-15% every year. Current corpus stands at 14 lakh. I have 10lakh in my PF account and I get another 5 lakh from gratuity. Mirae Asset tax saver fund 5k Parag parikh tax saver 3k Quant elss 3k Canara robecco small cap 5k SBI small cap 5k Tata digital India fund 5k I have parked 20 lakhs in debt fund and FD which I'm planning to use it to buy a flat within a year. Every month I keep aside 15k towards savings and emergency fund. I move it to debt fund, FD and I invest small portion of my bonus in existing MFs as lumpsum. My goal is to accumulate 2 CR by the time I turn 50 and need suggestions and plans to achieve the same.
Ans: You are 39 years old, married, and the sole breadwinner. Your monthly salary is Rs 1.2 lakh, and you have been investing in mutual funds since 2020. Your investments include a combination of tax-saving mutual funds, small-cap funds, and a sector-specific fund. You have also parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits for buying a flat within a year. Additionally, you have Rs 10 lakh in your Provident Fund (PF) and Rs 5 lakh in gratuity.

You have set a goal to accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50. This is an achievable goal, but it will require some adjustments and strategic planning to optimise your savings and investments.

You are also setting aside Rs 15,000 each month towards an emergency fund and savings, while reinvesting some of your bonus into mutual funds. Let's go step-by-step to achieve your goal while ensuring financial security along the way.

Current Investment Strategy
Your investment portfolio includes:

Three tax-saving mutual funds
Small-cap mutual funds
A sector-specific fund
Rs 20 lakh parked in debt funds and fixed deposits for a future property purchase
Your current investment strategy is diversified across equity and debt instruments. This diversification is good, but there is room for improvement in your equity mutual fund selection and tax efficiency.

Analysis of Current Investments
Equity Mutual Funds
Small-Cap and Sector-Specific Funds: Small-cap funds can provide high returns over time but also carry higher risks. Over-exposure to small-cap funds can make your portfolio volatile, especially as you near your retirement goal. A sector-specific fund, while offering focused growth, can also be risky if the sector underperforms.

Tax-Saving Funds: While tax-saving mutual funds (ELSS) provide tax benefits, there may be an overlap in the holdings of your ELSS funds. Additionally, ELSS funds have a 3-year lock-in period, which reduces liquidity.

Debt Funds and FDs
You have wisely parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits, which ensures stability and liquidity for your property purchase. However, investing large amounts in fixed deposits may not be the most tax-efficient strategy in the long run due to the high tax on interest income.

Suggestions for Achieving Your Rs 2 Crore Goal
To accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50, you need a more optimised approach. Here are the steps:

1. Review and Adjust Your Equity Allocation
Increase Mid-Cap and Flexi-Cap Exposure: As you are still 11 years away from your goal, consider shifting a portion of your investments from small-cap and sector-specific funds to more balanced options like mid-cap and flexi-cap funds. These funds offer a balance between risk and return, providing more stability than small-cap funds while still offering high growth potential.

Reduce Sector-Specific Fund Exposure: Sector funds can be volatile. Consider reallocating your investment in this fund to more diversified equity funds like flexi-cap or large-cap funds. These funds are less volatile and provide more stable returns over time.

2. Reassess Your Tax-Saving Funds
Optimise ELSS Investments: You already have multiple ELSS funds, which may result in overlapping holdings and lower diversification. You could consolidate your ELSS investments into one or two well-performing funds. This will simplify your portfolio and improve returns while still offering tax benefits.

Consider the Lock-in: Keep in mind the 3-year lock-in period of ELSS funds. If liquidity is a concern, consider reducing your ELSS exposure once you’ve maximised your Section 80C limit.

3. Focus on Regular Funds over Direct Funds
Investing through a certified financial planner (CFP) in regular funds is better than investing in direct funds by yourself. A CFP can provide ongoing advice, portfolio rebalancing, and support during market fluctuations, which is crucial for reaching your Rs 2 crore goal.

4. Build a Strong Emergency Fund
You are already setting aside Rs 15,000 per month towards savings and your emergency fund. Aim to build a fund that covers at least 6 to 12 months' worth of expenses. Given your Rs 50,000 monthly expense, this would mean an emergency fund of Rs 3 lakh to Rs 6 lakh.

Continue to park this money in debt funds or fixed deposits for easy liquidity. This will safeguard you from any unforeseen expenses while ensuring that your long-term investments remain untouched.

5. Bonus Investment Strategy
You are already investing your bonus into mutual funds as a lump sum. This is a good practice, but consider utilising this money strategically:

Top-Up Your Existing SIPs: Rather than investing the entire bonus in one go, you could use it to top up your SIPs in your existing mutual funds. This will average your investment cost and reduce market timing risks.

Boost Equity Allocation: If your risk appetite allows, allocate more of your bonus towards equity mutual funds. This can provide higher returns in the long run, contributing significantly to your Rs 2 crore goal.

6. Step-Up Your SIPs Annually
You have mentioned that you step up your SIPs by 10-15% every year. Continue with this approach, as it aligns well with your growing income and inflation. This will accelerate your wealth accumulation and keep your goal on track.

For instance, a 10-15% increase in SIP amounts every year can make a significant difference to your final corpus. By increasing your SIPs, you will also take advantage of compounding and market growth.

7. Debt Fund Considerations
You have Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits. Once you buy your flat, this money will likely be reduced. However, after the purchase, you should maintain a portion of your savings in debt funds as part of your overall asset allocation.

Debt funds provide stability and reduce risk, which is essential as you approach your retirement goal. A balanced portfolio of equity and debt is necessary for sustainable growth.

8. Retirement Planning
To achieve Rs 2 crore by the time you turn 50, you need a mix of aggressive growth in the early years and risk mitigation in the later years.

Increase Equity Exposure for Now: As you have 11 years until retirement, continue focusing on equity funds for growth. However, once you are within 5 years of your retirement goal, gradually shift a portion of your equity investments to debt funds to protect your capital.

Avoid Real Estate Investments: Since you are planning to buy a flat within a year, avoid additional investments in real estate. Real estate is illiquid and may not provide returns aligned with your retirement timeline.

Maximise Provident Fund Contributions: You already have Rs 10 lakh in your PF, and this will continue growing with your monthly contributions. Provident Fund provides a safe and stable return and should remain a core part of your retirement corpus.

9. Tax Efficiency
As your investments grow, consider tax efficiency:

Tax on Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) on equity mutual funds above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%. Be mindful of these taxes when planning withdrawals.

Tax on Debt Funds and FDs: Interest income from fixed deposits is taxed as per your income slab, which is less tax-efficient than equity investments. You can reduce your tax burden by keeping longer-term investments in equity funds and shorter-term savings in debt funds.

Final Insights
With proper planning, accumulating Rs 2 crore by the age of 50 is within your reach. You are already on the right track with a balanced approach to savings and investments. However, minor adjustments in your mutual fund selection, better tax efficiency, and maintaining a strong emergency fund can further optimise your strategy.

Your commitment to stepping up your investments and regularly reviewing your portfolio will help you stay on track. Be consistent with your SIPs and disciplined in maintaining your long-term focus.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 06, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am male 36 years earning Rs 90000 a month working in a government organisation. My monthly expenses are Rs 50000. I am investing in following mutual funds and Provident Fund :- Axis Bluechip Fund - Rs 1000 monthly and current value Rs 70000 Axis Mid cap Fund - Rs 1500 monthly and current value Rs 60000 Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund - Rs 1100 monthly and current value Rs 40000 SBI Nifty SMALL cap index fund - Rs 2000 monthly and current value - Rs 29000 Provident Fund - Rs 20000 monthly and current value - Rs 10 Lakhs Sukanya Smridhi Yojna for my 4 years old daughter - Rs 2500 monthly and current value Rs 118000 I have my wife, 4 years old and mother who are financially dependent on me. I have own house. No loan EMIs are going on. I wish to retire in next 10 years. Is it possible?
Ans: At 36 years old, earning Rs 90,000 per month, and investing in mutual funds and the Provident Fund, you're building a solid foundation. With a manageable monthly expense of Rs 50,000, you are saving around Rs 40,000 per month. This surplus gives you a good start towards achieving your retirement goals.

Your current investments include:

Axis Bluechip Fund: Rs 1,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 70,000.
Axis Mid Cap Fund: Rs 1,500 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 60,000.
Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund: Rs 1,100 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 40,000.
SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund: Rs 2,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 29,000.
Provident Fund: Rs 20,000 monthly contribution, current value Rs 10 lakh.
Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana: Rs 2,500 monthly contribution for your daughter, current value Rs 1.18 lakh.
It is commendable that you are consistently investing in mutual funds and secured schemes like the Provident Fund and Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter. These diversified investments provide stability and growth.

Now, you have set a target to retire in the next 10 years. Let’s assess the feasibility of that goal.

Assessing Your Retirement Timeline
With a 10-year timeline for retirement, you need to ensure that your investments can generate sufficient wealth to cover your post-retirement expenses. You need to account for the following factors:

Inflation: Prices will rise over time, and your expenses will likely increase. Even if your current monthly expense is Rs 50,000, it could double in 10 years due to inflation.

Post-Retirement Monthly Income: After retiring, you will need a regular income to meet your living expenses, cover healthcare, and support your family.

Longevity: You should plan for a retirement period that could last 30 years or more. This means your retirement corpus must last for a long time.

Existing Dependents: You have a wife, a 4-year-old daughter, and a mother who are financially dependent on you. This adds additional responsibility and expense post-retirement.

Given these factors, retiring in 10 years is possible if you carefully plan and optimize your investments.

Recommended Asset Allocation for Retirement
A balanced investment strategy is essential for achieving your goal of early retirement. Here’s a step-by-step approach to structure your investments:

Equity Mutual Funds: Continue investing in equity mutual funds for long-term growth. However, I would recommend focusing on a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds: You currently have an investment in an index fund (SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund). Index funds tend to provide market-level returns, which may not be sufficient to meet your retirement goals. Actively managed funds offer the potential for better returns because fund managers can take advantage of market opportunities.

By switching from index funds to actively managed funds, you give yourself a higher probability of generating alpha (returns above the market average).

Provident Fund: Continue contributing to the Provident Fund, as it provides a secure, guaranteed return and will serve as a safe portion of your retirement corpus. The EPF also gives you tax-free returns, which are crucial for long-term security.

Increase SIPs Gradually: As your income grows or expenses reduce, try to increase your SIPs. A regular increase of 5% to 10% in SIP contributions can significantly enhance your retirement corpus over time.

Debt Funds for Stability: While equity funds are important for growth, debt mutual funds provide stability and regular returns. As you approach retirement, start allocating a portion of your savings to debt mutual funds. They will offer a regular income stream, while also reducing risk.

Debt funds are also tax-efficient as compared to traditional fixed deposits, especially for long-term capital gains.

Role of Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana
The Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) for your daughter is a great way to secure her future education. However, you should continue monitoring the progress of the SSY account and ensure that you’re on track to meet her future education needs.

The SSY will also give you tax benefits under Section 80C, making it an efficient investment option from both a financial and tax-saving perspective.

This is a long-term investment, and the current contributions look sufficient for your daughter’s needs. You can gradually increase your contributions as your income grows.

Why Direct Mutual Funds May Not Be Ideal
It is important to be aware of the distinction between direct funds and regular funds. Direct funds come with lower expense ratios but require hands-on management. If you opt for direct funds, you must actively monitor and adjust your portfolio.

However, investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) via regular funds ensures professional advice. Your investments will be periodically reviewed and rebalanced to meet your goals. Although regular funds have a slightly higher expense ratio, they come with valuable services that can help you stay on track for retirement.

Thus, it’s better to invest through a CFP who can guide you in adjusting your portfolio as per market trends and your financial goals.

Consider Your Emergency Fund
It’s essential to maintain an emergency fund that can cover 6 to 12 months of living expenses. Given your current expenses of Rs 50,000 per month, aim to set aside around Rs 3-6 lakh in a highly liquid and safe investment, such as a liquid fund or a short-term debt fund.

This emergency fund will act as a buffer during unforeseen circumstances and help you avoid dipping into your long-term investments.

Final Insights
To retire in 10 years, you will need a substantial retirement corpus. This requires careful planning and disciplined investments. Here’s what you should do:

Continue investing in mutual funds, but shift focus towards actively managed funds.

Increase your SIP contributions as your income grows. You are currently saving Rs 40,000 per month, but try to save and invest more if possible.

Maintain a healthy balance between equity and debt investments. While equities will give you growth, debt will provide stability.

Keep contributing to Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter’s future.

Avoid direct mutual funds unless you can actively manage the portfolio. Regular funds with a CFP offer better guidance.

Don’t forget to maintain an emergency fund.

With these strategies in place, you have a good chance of achieving your retirement goal in 10 years. But it’s important to continuously review and adjust your plan as you move closer to retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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I am 56 yrs age receiving sufficient monthly pension. Need to deploy 1 Cr retirement benefits into mutual funds for 5-10 years. Please can you advise on the funds I need to buy. Also please let me know if I can park the entire amount in a liquid etf and sell monthly to my bank for staggering the above deployment in 12-18 SIPs
Ans: You have Rs 1 crore to invest, a sufficient pension, and a 5-10 year investment horizon. Since you do not require immediate income, this allows for a balanced approach. Here’s a structured plan with a focus on stability, growth, and tax efficiency.

Asset Allocation for Stability and Growth
The first step is to divide your Rs 1 crore across different asset classes. Considering your age and financial goals, a balanced approach between equity and debt is suitable. The goal is to provide growth while keeping the risks in check. A 50-60% allocation in equity and 40-50% in debt is ideal for you.

Equity Allocation (50-60%): Equity provides inflation-beating returns over the long term. Since you have a 5-10 year horizon, equity can deliver substantial growth. However, risk needs to be managed.

Debt Allocation (40-50%): This portion brings stability. It ensures capital protection and provides regular interest income. This also helps to reduce volatility in the overall portfolio.

SIP for Staggered Investments: Smart Deployment Strategy
You are considering staggering your investment over 12-18 months. This is an intelligent strategy to reduce the impact of market volatility. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) allow you to spread your investments over time, which reduces the risks of market timing.

However, rather than parking your entire Rs 1 crore in a liquid ETF, consider liquid funds. Liquid ETFs are not ideal for regular withdrawals as they can fluctuate, unlike liquid mutual funds that are better suited for such purposes. Here's why:

Liquid Funds for Temporary Parking: Liquid mutual funds offer better stability than liquid ETFs. These funds are used to park money for short periods and provide easy liquidity with relatively better returns than bank savings accounts. You can redeem a fixed amount monthly and use it to stagger your equity SIP investments.

SIP into Actively Managed Funds: Actively managed mutual funds provide better chances of outperformance. Unlike index funds, actively managed funds are carefully curated by fund managers, offering higher returns when managed well.

Avoid Direct Mutual Funds and ETFs
Direct mutual funds may seem appealing due to lower expense ratios. However, unless you have a strong understanding of the market, the expertise of a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can make a significant difference. Regular funds with the guidance of an MFD (Mutual Fund Distributor) who has CFP credentials offer professional fund management.

Also, avoid parking your entire Rs 1 crore in an ETF. Index funds or ETFs don’t offer flexibility in market conditions. The disadvantages of index funds include no scope for outperformance since they simply track the market. In contrast, actively managed funds have the potential for superior returns as fund managers take active positions in market opportunities.

Fund Categories to Consider for Equity Allocation
When investing in mutual funds, diversification is key. Here are some categories that should be a part of your equity portfolio. Avoid specific scheme names, but focus on these categories:

Large & Mid-Cap Funds: These funds invest in a combination of large, stable companies and mid-sized, growth-oriented firms. This mix provides a good balance between growth and stability.

Flexi-Cap Funds: These funds invest across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap companies, giving flexibility to fund managers to shift allocations depending on market conditions.

Multi-Cap Funds: These funds allocate across market caps, reducing the risk of focusing only on one segment of the market. They provide long-term growth potential.

Thematic or Sectoral Funds: These funds invest in specific sectors like technology, healthcare, or manufacturing. However, these funds should be a smaller portion of your portfolio, given their higher risk.

Fund Categories to Consider for Debt Allocation
Debt mutual funds will help secure your capital while providing steady income. Here's a broad recommendation on debt categories:

Corporate Bond Funds: These funds invest in high-quality corporate bonds, offering better returns than traditional FDs while maintaining a moderate risk profile.

Short-Term Debt Funds: Short-duration debt funds provide better interest than liquid funds and are suitable for short-to-medium-term investments.

Gilt Funds: These funds invest in government securities. Though they come with interest rate risks, they are the safest form of debt investment. They are ideal for conservative investors seeking stability.

Dynamic Bond Funds: These funds can adjust their portfolio based on the interest rate scenario, thus offering flexibility.

Tax Considerations for Mutual Fund Investments
Taxation is an important aspect of your investments. Here’s how mutual fund capital gains are taxed:

Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

Debt Mutual Funds: Gains from debt mutual funds are taxed according to your income tax slab for both short-term and long-term investments.

Dividends from Mutual Funds: Dividends are taxed as per your income tax slab, so it’s better to go for a growth option instead of dividend payout plans.

Emergency Fund and Liquidity
Ensure you have an emergency fund of 6-12 months' worth of expenses. You already have Rs 2 lakh in Fixed Deposits. You may want to increase this to Rs 6-8 lakh by either adding to your FDs or using liquid funds.

This provides a cushion in case of any unforeseen expenses. Liquidity is crucial in retirement planning.

Review and Rebalance Your Portfolio
Your financial journey does not stop after investing. It’s crucial to periodically review and rebalance your portfolio. Every year, evaluate the performance of your funds and make adjustments if necessary. This will help you stay aligned with your financial goals.

Estate Planning
Since you are approaching retirement, estate planning is important. Consider drafting a will or a trust to ensure the smooth transfer of wealth to your family. This adds a layer of security to your financial planning.

Final Insights
Investing Rs 1 crore into mutual funds can provide both growth and safety if done wisely. By staggering your equity investments through SIPs and allocating to both equity and debt, you can achieve steady returns. Use liquid mutual funds for parking and staggered withdrawals instead of liquid ETFs. The approach will allow you to reduce market risk and capitalize on long-term growth.

Finally, do regular portfolio reviews to ensure that your investments stay on track and are adjusted as needed.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I am 49 yrs old having wife (homemaker) and one son 13 yrs. I want to retire by age of 55 yrs. I have adequate health Insurance for family also have company health insurance. I have PPF 20 lacs approx., MF 30 lacs, Rental income 25K monthly, Direct Equity 50K, Emergency FD 2 lacs. Have 11 yrs remaining on housing loan EMI 25K. My in hand salary is 1.10K monthly. I want to get 1 lac per month after retirement. Please advice.
Ans: You have done well to build a strong financial base. Your savings and investments are diverse, and you also have rental income to support your retirement. Let's break down your current assets and liabilities:

Public Provident Fund (PPF): Rs 20 lakhs
Mutual Funds: Rs 30 lakhs
Rental Income: Rs 25,000 monthly
Direct Equity: Rs 50,000
Emergency Fixed Deposit: Rs 2 lakhs
Home Loan: 11 years remaining with an EMI of Rs 25,000
Monthly Salary: Rs 1.10 lakhs in hand
You also mentioned having adequate health insurance for your family, which is essential for financial security.

Retirement Goal: Rs 1 Lakh Per Month
You plan to retire at the age of 55, and your goal is to generate Rs 1 lakh per month after retirement. Let's now assess how to achieve that.

Assessment of Income and Expenses Post-Retirement
You will continue to receive Rs 25,000 per month from rental income. Therefore, the remaining Rs 75,000 per month will need to come from your investments.

Your current home loan is an ongoing liability, with an EMI of Rs 25,000. It would be ideal to explore prepayment options or at least ensure that this EMI doesn’t stretch too far into your retirement.

Now let’s focus on optimizing your investments and income sources.

Evaluate Your Investments
Your portfolio is quite diversified, with investments in PPF, mutual funds, direct equity, and a fixed deposit for emergencies. However, some adjustments may be needed to generate a regular income of Rs 75,000 per month after retirement.

Public Provident Fund (PPF)
The current PPF balance of Rs 20 lakhs is a safe and tax-efficient investment.
Continue contributing to PPF, but remember that its lock-in period and lower liquidity make it less ideal for regular income.
Mutual Funds
Your Rs 30 lakhs in mutual funds will play a crucial role in achieving your retirement income goals.
Since mutual funds have the potential for higher returns, maintaining and growing this corpus is important.
You can opt for a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) post-retirement. This will allow you to withdraw a fixed amount regularly without depleting the principal too fast.
Regularly review the performance of your mutual funds. Focus on actively managed funds rather than index funds, as actively managed funds can potentially outperform in the long term.
Direct Equity
Your Rs 50,000 in direct equity is a small portion of your portfolio.
Direct equity investments can be volatile, and since the amount is relatively small, you might not want to rely on it for regular income.
Consider shifting a portion of this to mutual funds for better risk management through professional fund managers. Regular funds managed by mutual fund distributors (MFDs) who are certified financial planners (CFPs) are often better for long-term growth.
Fixed Deposit for Emergencies
Your Rs 2 lakh fixed deposit is useful as an emergency buffer.
Keep this fund intact and do not use it for income generation. It's always wise to have 6-12 months’ worth of expenses in liquid, easily accessible funds.
Home Loan Strategy
The EMI of Rs 25,000 per month is a significant expense. With 11 years left on the loan, this will continue well into your retirement unless paid off earlier. Here's what you can consider:

Prepaying the loan: If feasible, use some of your current salary or rental income to prepay a portion of the home loan. Reducing this liability before retirement will ease the financial burden later.
If prepaying is not possible, ensure that your post-retirement income can comfortably cover the EMI.
Retirement Corpus Requirement
Assuming you need Rs 75,000 per month from your investments (since Rs 25,000 will come from rent), you will need to build a sufficient corpus by the time you retire. The corpus should be able to generate this amount through systematic withdrawals and interest income.

With inflation and other factors in mind, a rough estimate suggests that you will need a retirement corpus of around Rs 1.5 crore to Rs 2 crore to safely generate Rs 75,000 per month. Let's now explore how to build this corpus over the next six years.

Investment Strategies to Build Your Retirement Corpus
Increase Contributions to Mutual Funds
Currently, you have Rs 30 lakhs in mutual funds. Over the next six years, this can grow significantly, depending on market conditions.
Consider increasing your monthly contributions to mutual funds. This will help you build a larger corpus by the time you retire.
Opt for equity-focused mutual funds for long-term growth. Equities tend to outperform other asset classes over longer periods.
Keep a balance between mid-cap, small-cap, and large-cap funds to optimize your returns. Avoid index funds as they may provide lower returns compared to actively managed funds.
Use Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) will help you build your corpus in a disciplined manner.
By investing regularly, you will also benefit from rupee cost averaging, which helps mitigate the impact of market volatility.
Avoid Direct Equity for Regular Income
Direct equity investments can be unpredictable and volatile. Since your goal is to generate regular income, avoid relying on direct equity.
Shift a portion of your direct equity investments into safer options like mutual funds managed by professionals. Regular mutual funds, managed by MFDs who are certified financial planners (CFPs), provide more stability and better risk management compared to direct equity or index funds.
Rental Income and Real Estate
Your Rs 25,000 rental income will be a steady source of income post-retirement.
Consider increasing the rent periodically to keep up with inflation.
Inflation and Rising Costs
It’s crucial to factor in inflation when planning for retirement. While you might need Rs 1 lakh per month today, the cost of living will rise in the future. Therefore, building a larger corpus than initially expected is always a good strategy.

Your rental income and systematic withdrawals from your mutual funds should help mitigate the impact of inflation, but do review your plan every few years to ensure you're on track.

Additional Considerations for Retirement Planning
Emergency Fund
You have an emergency FD of Rs 2 lakhs, which is a good start. However, as you get closer to retirement, it may be worth increasing this to cover at least 6-12 months of living expenses. This way, you won’t need to dip into your retirement savings for any urgent needs.

Health Insurance
You mentioned having adequate health insurance, including company-provided coverage. After retirement, you won’t have employer-provided coverage. Therefore, consider enhancing your health insurance coverage before you retire. This will protect you and your family from any unexpected medical expenses post-retirement.

Taxation of Investments
Your post-retirement income will be subject to taxation. Here’s a quick overview of how your investments will be taxed:

Rental Income: Taxed as per your income tax slab.
Mutual Funds (Equity): Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh will be taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.
PPF: Interest earned is tax-free.
Fixed Deposit Interest: Taxed as per your income tax slab.
Ensure that your withdrawals and income sources are tax-efficient. A certified financial planner can help you optimize your tax liability in retirement.

Finally
You are on the right path toward a comfortable retirement. With a few strategic adjustments, you can achieve your goal of Rs 1 lakh per month after retirement. Focus on growing your mutual fund investments and paying down your home loan, while also keeping a strong emergency fund in place.

By maintaining a well-diversified portfolio and periodically reviewing your plan, you will be well-prepared for your retirement at 55.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

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