Hi Anu,
I m 32 yr old girl and been married in arrange marriage with a guy he is also 32 it's been one year.
He is very harsh to talk to and I get usually very hurt because of his words. I always feel like walking out of this marriage for peace.
He is very unromantic and ungrateful. On top of this our views on marriage, togetherness and sex are very different.
I never had sex with him till now. And I don't feel like having sex with him. There are many fights between us. The way his mother and father talk I feel stuck in my life.
There is no progress in career because constantly we are under tensions.
My past relationships were very nice and sweet so I always happened to compare him with my ex in my mind.
I don't know what happens to me. When he comes close to me I stop talking breaths.
We just cuddle each other and hug but other things like kiss and sex I don't feel to have. Please guide me as soon as possible.

Ans: Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main Results – A Step-by-Step Guide.

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.

Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admissions!

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Ans: Hello dear.
Forget the past and look forward to a bright future. It is a good idea to enroll in CSE if you are interested in this field. This is a practical area that also has a promising future if you excel in it. Anyone can start from scratch at any stage. Hence, it is not too late for you. Choose any top-tier private college and enroll in CSE without overthinking. Work hard. Success is achievable.
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Ans: Hello Dear.
Yes, if you appear for your 12th again through NIOS in the 2025–26 session and pass in 2026, then you will be eligible for JEE Main and JEE Advanced 2026, as your new qualifying exam year will be 2026. I would like to suggest that instead of wasting time on JEE (M) and JEE (A), appear for a state-level engineering test and score well to get admission to a top-tier college without any headache. In the final year of UG, appear for GATE and clear it to get admission to PG in IIT. This is the golden path to enter into IIT.
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Ans: Hello dear.
It would be better to open the NEET form as a candidate and start filling. Everything is to be filled according to your school T.C. and Aadhar card details i.e.. age, address, school name etc. Hence, open and start filing. It is very easy.
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Ans: Why don't you choose the BTECH course in NDA instead of entering defense after completing the course in an external environment?

BEST OF LUCK.

POOCHO. LIFE CHANGE KARO.

Ans: Hi,

After completing the HSC in CEC, aspirants can choose to pursue CA, similar to how students after PCB or PCMB can opt for Medicine. CA is considered one of the toughest courses, but it also offers excellent career prospects.

Alternatively, you can pursue a B.Com and then proceed to CA, or you could complete a B.Com followed by an MBA in Finance Management, which can provide better opportunities in the job market.

The options mentioned above are among the most significant. In addition, there are many other possibilities after completing an undergraduate program in B.Com, BBA, Company Secretary, or BA in Economics.

There are numerous job opportunities available in India depending on the course you choose. It is unnecessary to go to the Gulf for work, as it can often be a waste of time. After a few years abroad, when you return to India, you may have to search for a new organization to continue your career. Therefore, it is generally not advisable to seek employment in the Gulf.

Kindly choose the course that best fits your schedule and give it your best effort.

Best of luck.

POOCHO. LIFE CHANGE KARO.

Ans: Hello;

It will vary from person to person, extent of financial planning and advice required etc.

It would not be appropriate for me to hazard a guess.

You may check with CFPs in your city.

Best wishes;

Ans: Many banks have marginally reduced home loan interest rates, and your current rate at 8% is already among the better ones in the market.

Now, let's evaluate your decision clearly and simply — whether to use the Rs. 5 lakh lump sum to prepay your home loan or invest it for long-term growth.

 

Understanding the Current Loan and Investment Scenario
You have a home loan of Rs. 52 lakh.

 

The remaining tenure is 16 years.

 

Current interest rate is 8% per annum.

 

You have Rs. 5 lakh available for use.

 

You are thinking whether to prepay or invest.

 

This is a common and important financial decision.

 

We must assess it from all angles before choosing.

 

The right decision depends on goal, emotion, tax, and future cash flows.

 

Emotional Perspective: Peace of Mind vs. Growth
Prepaying reduces debt. It gives mental peace.

 

You feel more in control. EMI burden reduces.

 

You sleep better with lower outstanding balance.

 

But it stops your money from growing faster.

 

Investing in mutual funds or stocks offers growth.

 

But it comes with risk and market ups and downs.

 

If peace matters more, prepaying makes sense.

 

If growth is your priority, investing is better.

 

Know what feels right to you emotionally first.

 

Loan Prepayment: What Happens Financially
Your interest rate is 8% now.

 

If you prepay Rs. 5 lakh, your total interest reduces.

 

Your tenure may reduce. Or EMI may reduce.

 

Prepayment early in the loan saves more interest.

 

It gives guaranteed return. No risk is involved.

 

The effective return is same as your loan rate.

 

So, prepayment offers you a risk-free 8% return.

 

There is no tax to pay for this gain.

 

It is also simple and stress-free to do.

 

But once paid, that money is locked.

 

You can’t use it again unless you refinance.

 

Prepaying also lowers your home loan tax benefits.

 

Home Loan Tax Benefits You Must Consider
You claim Rs. 2 lakh yearly deduction on interest.

 

You also claim Rs. 1.5 lakh under 80C for principal.

 

These benefits reduce your taxable income.

 

So, effective cost of loan is less than 8%.

 

If you prepay, these benefits reduce or stop.

 

That means you lose part of the tax advantage.

 

If your tax slab is 30%, loan cost is closer to 5.6%.

 

In this case, investing may be better long-term.

 

Investing That Rs. 5 Lakh: Pros and Potential
You can invest in mutual funds for long-term.

 

Equity mutual funds can deliver 10% to 12% annually.

 

Over 10 to 15 years, it may grow 3-4x.

 

You also maintain liquidity with this approach.

 

You can withdraw in emergencies if needed.

 

Mutual funds are flexible and diversified.

 

Choose actively managed mutual funds only.

 

Do not invest in index funds.

 

Index funds just follow the market. No expert help.

 

In falling markets, index funds fall sharply.

 

They do not protect downside risk.

 

Skilled fund managers in active funds manage risks.

 

They can outperform the market over long term.

 

Actively managed funds offer better returns potential.

 

Also avoid direct plans without guidance.

 

Direct funds save cost, but lack expert advice.

 

You may pick wrong funds or exit at wrong time.

 

Regular plans through MFDs with CFPs offer support.

 

They help with reviews, rebalancing, and discipline.

 

That adds more value than low fees of direct plans.

 

So, choose regular funds with an MFD having CFP tag.

 

If you invest Rs. 5 lakh today in such funds, it can grow well.

 

Your Risk Appetite and Financial Behaviour
Are you okay with market ups and downs?

 

Can you avoid panic during a fall?

 

Can you hold on for 10-15 years?

 

If yes, investing is good for you.

 

If no, then prepaying loan is safer.

 

You must assess your risk profile.

 

Talk to a Certified Financial Planner for help.

 

Choose the option that matches your risk appetite.

 

Liquidity and Emergency Planning
Once you prepay, the Rs. 5 lakh is gone.

 

You can't get it back easily.

 

That reduces your liquidity.

 

If you invest instead, you keep access.

 

That money can be withdrawn in emergencies.

 

Liquidity is important in uncertain times.

 

Always maintain an emergency fund.

 

It should cover 6 to 12 months’ expenses.

 

Prepay only if this fund is already ready.

 

Don’t use all cash for prepayment.

 

Keep some buffer aside always.

 

Opportunity Cost of Prepaying vs Investing
Prepaying gives 8% return. No risk.

 

Investing can give 10% to 12%, but with risk.

 

Over long term, investing can give more wealth.

 

But returns are not guaranteed.

 

You may see short term losses too.

 

But with 15+ years holding, risk reduces.

 

If goal is wealth creation, investing wins.

 

If goal is safety and less EMI, prepaying wins.

 

Choose based on what matters more.

 

Use Balanced Approach: Prepay + Invest
You don’t need to do only one thing.

 

You can divide Rs. 5 lakh into two parts.

 

For example, prepay Rs. 2 lakh.

 

Invest Rs. 3 lakh in mutual funds.

 

This gives you lower EMI or tenure.

 

Also helps grow wealth for the long term.

 

This gives you mental peace and future returns.

 

It is a balanced and smart approach.

 

It avoids regret in future.

 

You win both ways – safety and growth.

 

Ensure your emergency fund is not affected.

 

Check if your mutual fund portfolio is aligned.

 

Take help from a CFP-backed mutual fund distributor.

 

Review your portfolio every year.

 

Stay invested without panic during market falls.

 

That is how wealth creation happens.

 

Final Insights
You are thinking wisely about using your Rs. 5 lakh lump sum.

Prepaying the home loan gives peace and fixed savings. It is a safe path.

But investing in mutual funds has higher potential returns. It needs patience.

There is no single “correct” answer. Both are good depending on your goal.

If safety and peace are top priority, prepaying is better.

If long-term growth is your goal, then invest in mutual funds.

Ideally, a 50-50 approach works best for most people.

It gives balance. And keeps options open.

Review this decision every year with a Certified Financial Planner.

That ensures your financial journey stays on the right path.

  

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: You Have Made a Good Start
You are 29 years old and already investing monthly in mutual funds.

You are also investing in NPS regularly, which helps in retirement planning.

Saving Rs 30,000 per month in RD shows good discipline and consistency.

You have a clear goal of retirement at 60 and buying your own house.

Your financial awareness at this age is impressive and rare.

Current Mutual Fund Allocation Needs Restructuring
You are investing in sectoral and mid/small-cap funds.

These carry high risk and are not suitable as core portfolio.

They are good for extra returns, not for stability and long-term balance.

Consider including large-cap and flexi-cap funds to create a strong core.

These funds offer growth with better risk management.

Annual SIP Hike Is a Wise Habit
Increasing SIPs by 10% yearly builds a strong compounding habit.

It helps you keep pace with inflation and rising future costs.

Continue this pattern every year, even during volatile markets.

Use the RD Maturity Smartly
Once RD matures, split the money as you planned.

Keep half in an emergency or liquid fund.

Invest the other half in mutual funds through STP.

STP spreads the lump sum over time and avoids market timing risk.

NPS Is a Long-Term Asset
Keep investing in NPS for retirement benefit and tax savings.

Ensure you select the right asset mix in NPS.

NPS allows equity allocation up to a limit.

The right mix can help grow your retirement corpus better.

Emergency Fund Should Be a Priority
Emergency fund should cover six months of expenses.

Use low-risk, liquid options to store this fund.

It protects you during income loss or sudden costs.

Buy Insurance Independently
Do not depend only on your employer’s health and term cover.

Personal term insurance gives you full control.

It is important if you have dependents or plan to take a home loan.

Health insurance must also be purchased personally.

Medical costs are rising fast and can strain your savings.

Buying a Home Needs Planning
Fix a timeline and estimate the cost of your home.

Based on that, calculate the money needed over the years.

Save for home separately from your retirement fund.

For short-term goals like this, do not use equity funds.

Instead, use safer options like short-duration debt funds.

Avoid Index Funds for Your Profile
Index funds simply copy the market and cannot protect downside.

You need active fund managers to handle your investments.

They aim to beat the market and reduce volatility impact.

Active funds offer better balance of growth and protection.

Avoid Direct Funds If You Want Guidance
Direct funds have lower cost but no advice or strategy support.

Mistakes can happen without expert review and monitoring.

Regular funds via a professional help you stay disciplined.

Portfolio review, fund switch, and rebalancing are handled.

This adds value in the long term beyond just cost savings.

Tax Rules You Should Know
Long-term capital gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains from equity funds are taxed at 20%.

Debt funds are taxed as per your income slab.

Always check tax impact before redeeming your investments.

Step-by-Step Actions to Take
Rebuild your SIP portfolio to include large-cap and flexi-cap funds.

Retain small/mid-cap funds but with a smaller share.

Build a 6-month emergency fund first from RD maturity.

Invest lump sum from RD slowly over 6-12 months via STP.

Buy term insurance and health insurance right away.

Continue NPS with equity tilt for growth.

Start a separate saving bucket for home purchase.

Review your SIPs every year and increase as your income grows.

Keep tracking your goal progress at least once a year.

Finally
You have laid a strong base early in your life.

Keep this momentum with annual review and disciplined savings.

Use every salary hike to increase your investments.

Avoid unnecessary loans and credit card expenses.

Follow your plan and seek help when needed.

Focus on long-term wealth and risk protection, not short-term returns.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment