I am 48 years old man, have always been in love with my younger brother(44 years) (cousin). He and I were best friends since childhood and I am too much in love with him. For last 23 years, we have parted (fought) and I have avoided him like anything. He knew all about my love (letters/stalking/begging/crying) and thats why he distanced himself from me. He came back after 23 years (only on whatsapp chat), and again i started crying and what not and emotionally totally unstable. My wife, kids and even i am surprised how bad it is within me. He wants me as a friend (not overly emotionally invested). How can I be a normal human being with him? Is it even possible? I hate being like this, how can i let go.... It's for so long what help do i need if any.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Now as you turn 50, gift yourself a life that you deserve; one that you are in charge of. A life that you wish to lead without being dependent on anyone for your happiness.
For what great joy, do you want to entertain a man who you yourself describe as toxic and who has already divorced you? What kind of a life will you have with him that you know and you still say that you can't think of a life without him?
Is it because you have gotten so used to the insecurity around him that you are unwilling to see a secure life with anyone else or just yourself?
Kindly do yourself a favor and be with yourself; this will allow you to heal from your past relationships. The vacuum will now be filled with more meaningful things. Rather than bring him back and sab theek ho jaayega, you make things theek for yourself. Take charge and live peacefully without inviting your past back into your life. Instead, by taking charge you will be able to build your life the way that you need to and along the way someday you might meet someone who respects and values you. Can you build your life? Are you willing to take charge?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Addiction to anything and anyone is never good and online romances can be a huge gamble too...you haven't met this man and you are in love with him and addicted to him?
It seems like a good escape from your marriage, so maybe if you find a way to make your marriage work by connecting better with your husband, things might actually improve for you...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/