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Rinku Question by Rinku on Apr 05, 2023Hindi
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Hi.. am married and last year I had a relation with another guy who is younger than me.we had physical relation also. This year he told me he don't want to continue the relation. I was not ready to accept that. I ran behind him . Now we are in contact. Sometime had physical relation also. But he is telling he don't have any commitment with me. Now I want to end the relation. But am missing him badly. He was the only one who makes me feels special. The way he loves me everything Iam missing. But I know now I have zero space in his life. I have to quite. But I can't .. i don't know what to do...

Ans: Dear Rinku,

If you know in your heart that this man does not value you, why would you still want to pursue a relationship, that too, an extramarital one? Well, I can't comment on the choices you are making concerning your marriage, but to answer your question, you should definitely call it quits with this guy. You miss him, but the reality is he does not. Is that your worth?

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Dear LG, Please keep this anonymous. I have been married since 6 years. However, since past 5+ years we have not been intimate. We haave a 5&1/2 year kid. Since his birth we have had a lot of differences and his family interference was lot leaving me alone and wounded. I don't stay with my husband and in-laws since then. I had made up that work is worship. But 2 years back I met a colleague. He is 10 years younger to me and we have extremely similar vibes. We enjoy each other's company and cared a lot. Eventually i fell in love with him. But he always knew he wont be able to go against his family. We also had relationship. Now he has strated looking for girls and wants us to stop being intimate. He is saying he wants to be friends and not loose me but not have relationship. We both work together in same space and our area of work is also same. I am unable to forgive my husband and forget this person. He never goes away. He is always there telling that I want to see you happy. He needs me for professional development. And i am not able to loose our relationship. He says physical intimacy only I cant have remaining Im there. Then again says I don’t know when I will be there so I am unable to give assurance or promise. I am tormented with a child, work and my health is getting affected. Can you please help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are in such a tough spot. My advice would be to move on. Yes, I realize that it is easier said than done but let's put things into perspective- first, you have no future with this man, and he has made it clear. Are you okay to keep hanging on to him while he builds his own life? I am assuming no, especially since you have a child. Second, what about your self-respect? He is directly telling you that this relationship is headed toward a dead end. Do you believe you deserve to be with someone who does not want to settle down with you? I believe you deserve better.

I am not blaming him because he made no promises. You are not to be held guilty either because you were in a tough spot and you grabbed the first emotional support you found. But the current reality is that he wants out. And convincing him to stay is not an option. At this point, moving on with your head held high is the best decision. If you want to accept his friendship, that is completely fine. But if that's too much for you, you can always decline it. I understand that working in the same space with an ex is difficult, but as long as you avoid interacting outside of the office and keep things professional, there should not be an issue. On the emotional front, I won't lie, it will hurt for a while. But this too shall pass. I strongly recommend you not to value yourself so low that you stop believing that you deserve a person who loves you back as much as you love him.

Best Wishes.

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Hello Anu ji. I am 27 years old, I like a married man for past 2 years who is my colleague. He is has a 6-7 years son and a new born daughter. I never planned to tell him about my feelings not knowing he too has same feelings for me one day after getting drunk we kind of confessed and slowly came in relationship. We both love each other a lot but the thing is we can never be together. I am unable to bear this pain and I keep arguing over this with again and again and decided to break it off. He is too emotional and unable to bear this pain. I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to express all of our feelings and situation here. Please advise
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This relationship is a complex one and will become complicated very soon as it progresses...He will never want to leave his family and why should he? That will hurt you and make things very stressful on you...
Kindly talk about this when you are sane and not in a 'drunken' state. Nothing said in a state of inebriation matter much as when the intoxication wears off, people act all ignorant. So don not give it the importance that you are currently.
So, have a conversation knowing very well that there is a family that he is in and is responsible for and for him that will always be a priority and over a period of time will anger and hurt you.
So, get down to realism away from this fantasy world that you both are in and discuss it practically as adults in a sober state. A lot of revelations will leave you both with a good perspective on what the future can and will be.

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Hello, I m 21 female I m in a long distance relationship with 32 year male.this person was behind me and always asked me to give him a chance to prove his love for me. At that period i was afaird of relationships as I didn't have courage to go against wish of my parents as i know they wolud never agree for love marriage,so that is fir sure i'll do arrange Marriage. All these things have been explained by my side to this person.He gad feelings for me thats what he showed to me even I felt a connection towards him, so we decided let's not commit anything anout marraige as we both wee not sure about these thing. After some time i realised these person has already made his mind ki he'll date me and he wanted to have everything that an relationship has but he will not marry me.But i m completely in love with.Even i told him about it ki I can't share him n won't be able to see him.with someone else.i just can't imagine myself without him. I fought with him even begged and cried but he always defend his self sayi g i told already ki he loves me and will keep loving me but will not marry me . He vists me after 6-9 months interval every time he visuts me he needs to have physical relationship. I don't know whether I m right or wrong but i feel like I m being used by him. I tried several time to end this relationship but i end up chasing him.Plz help me,guide me
Ans: Dear Rutuja,
If you have the slightest feeling that he doesn't share the same feelings for you as you do for him, or that he has wrong intentions, you have every right to end the relationship. In fact, that would be the right thing to do. I understand that it is difficult to break up with someone you love, but does he love you? Don't you think you deserve someone who loves you and does not make you feel as if you are being used?

Have a clear conversation with him- address all your concerns. If he still maintains his stand of not getting married to you, then let him know that you are not on the same page as him. Remember, for a relationship to work, your future goals need to align.

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Bsc computer science Delhi University or VIT bhopal CSE cloud computing.....which is better
Ans: Poonam, Delhi University’s three-year B.Sc. (Hons Computer Science follows a Choice Based Credit System with 14 core papers—including Programming in C++, Java, Data Structures, Operating Systems, Computer Networks, Design and Analysis of Algorithms, Database Management Systems, Theory of Computation, Artificial Intelligence and Computer Graphics—supplemented by discipline-specific electives, generic electives and skill-enhancement courses totaling 140 credits under CBCS. The program enjoys AICTE approval, UGC recognition, NAAC ‘A+’ accreditation, a Central Placement Cell that achieved an 88.42% placement ratio in 2022-23 with 252 offers from 78 companies (highest-to-median packages undisclosed) and median UG packages of ?5.5 LPA (three-year) and ?8.5 LPA (four-year) as per NIRF 2024. DU benefits from a highly experienced, research-active faculty, extensive university clubs and industry tie-ups for internships, but admits only via DU-CET with limited seat flexibility and minimal specializations beyond core CS.

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Recommendation: For a student prioritizing a cost-effective, broad theoretical foundation with reputable public-university prestige and adequate placement infrastructure, B.Sc. (Hons.) CS at Delhi University is compelling. Conversely, for those seeking specialized cloud computing expertise, cutting-edge labs, flexible curriculum choices, higher placement rates and global industry tie-ups—even at higher fees—the B.Tech CSE (Cloud Computing and Automation) at VIT Bhopal is more aligned with emerging technology careers. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Dear Sir, My son has secured admission to Information Science Engineering (ISE) at Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology, Bangalore. He wanted to study at colleges like RVCE or PES, but based on his KCET/JEE rank, it is difficult to get admission to these colleges. Hence, I am exploring the option of a CSE management seat in these colleges. How are the future prospects of ISE at NMIT? Is it worth spending for a management seat? Your advice will greatly help us make a well-informed decision. Let me know if you need any further edits or have additional content to check!
Ans: Amit Sir, After carefully researching the fee structures for MQ seats at RVCE and PES—which can reach ?50–75 lakh including tuition, hostel, and related costs—it’s important to assess the return on such a significant investment. Spending more than ?25 lakh for an undergraduate engineering seat is rarely justifiable, regardless of affordability. A better approach is to pursue quality education at a Tier-2 college and supplement it with technical and soft-skills certifications; this combination can be highly effective for career growth. Success in any engineering branch depends on staying updated with evolving job market requirements. Regarding ISE at NMIT & the Scope of This Branch: The Information Science & Engineering (ISE) program at Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology blends robust academic foundations, accreditation, cuttingedge infrastructure, research engagement, and strong placement outcomes to prepare graduates for rapidly evolving technology roles. Established in 2001, the department holds NBA Tier-1 accreditation (Washington Accord) valid through 2026–27 and VTU affiliation, underscoring its adherence to global quality standards and rigorous outcome-based curriculum design. The syllabus spans core computing principles (data structures, algorithms), advanced domains (machine learning, cybersecurity, IoT, cloud computing), and hands-on capstone projects in state-of-the-art labs equipped with HPC clusters, specialized AI/DS workstations, embedded systems platforms, and dedicated research facilities for doctoral and postgraduate work. Faculty members actively engage in sponsored research projects from DST, SERB, AICTE and industry partners, fostering a culture of innovation and equipping students with problem-solving and analytical skills essential for complex system design. Industry tie-ups and MoUs with leading IT firms and technology providers enable structured internships, hackathons, and industrial training, bridging the academia–industry gap and ensuring graduates are workforce-ready. The dedicated placement cell records an 88.37% placement rate for ISE graduates in 2024, with recruiters including Infosys, Wipro, IBM, Dell and emerging startups, reflecting sustained demand for ISE skills across software development, data analytics, cybersecurity and network engineering wings. Broad IT industry projections anticipate over 30% growth by 2028 in areas such as AI/ML, big data, cloud services, and cybersecurity, driven by Digital India initiatives and global digital transformation. ISE graduates can pursue roles as software engineers, data scientists, cybersecurity analysts, cloud architects and IoT specialists, and also explore research, product management and entrepreneurial ventures in HealthTech, FinTech and Industry 4.0 domains. Backup pathways include specialized M.Tech and online certifications in data science/AI and emerging fields. With its accredited curriculum, modern labs, research orientation, industry collaborations and strong placement record, NMIT’s ISE program offers comprehensive preparation for future technology careers and leadership roles in a dynamic job market.

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