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Anu Krishna |1595 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 06, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 03, 2024Hindi

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Hi i am 47 years old married guy staying with my old age parents living separately from my wife daughter and i am undergoing lots of Stress, Depression following boring routine like WFH,Watching TV & Sleep nor i have bank balance, Low salary 35000 pm and completely surviving on PL and CC financially please guide me out how to overcome all this

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's not easy being away from your family. The possible cause for your health issues can be loneliness...Can you at least start reconnecting with your daughter, other family members? What about close friends?
Once you are surrounded by people who care for you, you will find better focus in life and at work. This will help you achieving work goals as well. Do focus on your physical health by exercising regularly too.
Also, join a social circle that is filled with people who are like-minded and have similar interests as you. This will ensure that your mind is focused on positive things happening.
A small change in the way you think and do things can bring about better results.

All the best!
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Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with your spouse and son. It sounds like the arguments and lack of consensus are causing you a lot of stress and impacting your health. It's important to prioritize your health and seek support if needed.

It might be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse and son about how you're feeling and see if there's a way to work together to improve the situation. It could also be beneficial to seek professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you manage your stress and emotions.

Additionally, taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and enough rest can also help improve your overall well-being. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards finding peace and happiness in your life.

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Maam sir good morn.I m K.S .i am.the sole bread earner of my.family .i m 52 and do.not have a job. I m not a spend thrift but due to lot of loans i have taken for education etc i m totally stressed up. I.get depressed and do not have the motivation to move ahead in life. I want to clear up all my dues and i fight day in and day out to find a job but to.no success. Finance are getting.lesser.. I m on the verge of breakdown. Plz help.

Ans: Dear KS,
First things first. A lot of decisions have gone wrong. It cannot be erased, but certainly you must find a way of recovering from it.
Yes, it is highly disheartening, but once you decide that you want to be in a better place, you have to take certain actions to reach that better place.
So, time to quit being upset and taking firm actions on what to do next to get out of this situation that you are in.
Seek the help of someone within your family or friends circle who is strong with their finances and managing their monies well. Of course, they must be someone you trust as well. Share everything with them (you need the help, so kindly be truthful and honest with them).
Let them put together a plan of action that manages your existing financial resources and inbound channels and match that with all the payments and debts.
Allow them to 'advise' you as you need this strong advice right now. Discuss what's possible and what's not and they will come up with something that is close to perfect.
Once, you start with the first small baby step. things start to look up. Even clearing a small debt will take a load off your chest. So, get into that action mode NOW. And yes, do promise yourself that this situation is teaching you a lesson on how to be financially prudent and that you will learn from it.

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Hi I m 42 Years.old..i live wirh my wife and 8 year old Daughter ..I run A Recruitments business and Stock brokin business..My wifes works at Senior positon At a Bank..Till Covid all was Doin Good..After Covid My Business till today has not been Good..Now its reach to Bottom where i m Fully Broken..And Too much into Depression ..I Cant do A Job.as at this Age i m not getting A Job..We had planned after certain Time My Wife wil leave Job..but now i m not able to tell to To Leave Job..As my Into Lots of Financial Stress..i have Lived Life Kingsize wherein money is never problen ..but now i m too strssed..Getting Sucidal thoughts too But Seeing My Daugher Face i CNt take that Step...please Advicd me

Ans: I think you need professional help and you shouldn’t be ashamed to seek it. You’re in a depression and obviously not in a mentally healthy space, which is also probably why you are unable to get your business back on its feet. Look, your wife still has a job. Sort yourself out. Take some time to heal from the difficult times you’ve faced. Things will get better. Be strong for the sake of your family — they’re worth it!

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I am 48 years old married and my wife daughter are staying away from 10+years in same city i am completely surviving on debt plus stuck to one job from last 14+ years no increment not a high paid job salary only 35,000 i have no goals nor i feel like achieving anything with no buddy friends really not able to understand my situation following same wfh routine no changes please guide

Ans: The first step towards change is acknowledging that even though you feel stuck, you are not powerless. Small shifts in your routine can create momentum. It could be as simple as stepping out for a walk, reconnecting with an old friend, learning a new skill, or exploring opportunities outside your current job. The goal is to break the monotony and introduce something new into your life.

Emotionally, you need to ask yourself what you truly want. Do you want to work on your marriage, or is it time to redefine what happiness looks like for you? Do you want to stay in your job, or is it time to take a risk for something better? It’s okay to not have all the answers right away, but avoiding these questions will only prolong the cycle.

Right now, your life is running on autopilot. The moment you decide to take control, even in the smallest way, things will start shifting. You don’t have to fix everything at once, but you do have to start somewhere. Your situation is not permanent, and neither is this feeling. The key is to take one step forward, no matter how small, and then another. Change will follow.

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I am preparing for NEET UG. This is my second attempt. What alternatives I have if I am not able to score for GMCs. What are my options for bio tech I didn't apply for cuet. Which are best colleges for b tech in bio technology and how can I seek admission there without wasting any more of my time.

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I believe you might have completed the NEET for the second time on May 4, 2025, is that correct? What score are you aiming for? If you achieve a good score, you can aim for GMC; otherwise, consider any of the following courses:

- BAMS (Bachelor of Ayurvedic Medicine and Surgery)
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All of these courses are quite good.

Regarding your second query: Apart from NEET, you can pursue Pharmacy, Nursing, or Medical Lab Technology (MLT) instead of Biotechnology. Once you complete any of these programs, you are likely to find a job quickly. The order of preference I would recommend is Nursing, Pharmacy, and then MLT.

If you are still interested in Biotechnology, some private institutions offer the course. Before enrolling, it’s advisable to visit the campus and check the infrastructure as well as the syllabus. Many programs focus on botany-related aspects of biotechnology rather than human and animal applications. If you pursue Microbiology, you may have better job prospects.

In addition to health-related fields, you may also consider pursuing agriculture-related courses.

Since you did not provide information about your locality, I cannot comment on the best institutions available in your area.

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Ans: Hello dear.
PEC Chandigarh is a reputed institute. It is a good idea to take admission to one of the core branches and then develop the skills by joining either online/offline courses. Many aspirants have completed engineering in core branches with additional skills in the past. But among the three branches you mentioned, Production, Civil, and Metallurgy, in which branch/field you are interested is not clear. Choosing the branch at random will create frustration in the future. You also mentioned that you have an interest in the tech field and may get a seat in UIET Chandigarh. Now, if you have an interest in the tech field, then it would be better for you to prefer a computer-related branch. Focus more on your interests rather than thinking that PEC has a strong alumni network. It would be a wise decision to opt for IT, considering your strong interest in it.
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Choose NSUT Delhi – ECE if you're inclined towards electronics, communication, or software roles, and wish to leverage the advantages. The average salary here is higher than Mech at Trichy.

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My Son resident of MUMBAI, has Secured 17K Rank in the VITEE ENTERANCE EXAM and 75% In His HSC (12th BOARD - PYSC 65 CHEM 71 MTHS 55). He wants to JOIN VIT - VELLORE for B.Tech. Computer Science and Engineering (Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning). Will He be able to QUALIFY for the Above Course At VIT - VELLORE and What are Your Suggestion / Recommendation to Him. Also Which GOOD & REPUTED INSTITUTES CAN HE TARGET FOR THE SAME COURSE IN MUMBAI.

Ans: Hi Amit
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Ans: Hello;

You may shortlist health insurers based on following factors:

1. Incurred claims settlement ratio for 3 years atleast, preferable if available for 5 years.

2. List of network hospitals across the country and around the places that you generally operate. The more the better.

3. List of black listed hospitals so as to avoid them.

4. Low waiting period for pre-existing illnesses.

5. Claim settlement through TPA or directly the insurer(better). Also cashless claim settlement feature is desirable.

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8. No sub limit on daily room rent.

9. Alternative therapies covered(Ayurveda, homeopathy etc).

10. Psychiatric treatments coverage.

Key is to disclose all existing conditions and conduct medical tests as requested by the insurer.

This way the chances of claim rejection are reduced.

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It is entirely your mistake therefore no point in your Mother bearing brunt for the same by suffering with the disease till health cover is back.

Pay it from your pocket. If she is above 70 then Ayushman Bharat Yojana is applicable. If she is above 60 some state govt schemes are there but you need to check with state of her domicile.

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Ans: Dear Shan,
That’s a really good question. Before going to her place, try to build a mindset of understanding her, without any preconceived notion or pressure to get married. In terms of discussion, to understand emotional compatibility you can observe her behaviour- how she deals with stress, or how she might deal with conflict. Discuss daily life expectations, like what you like to do on weekends, do you enjoy occasional drinking or partying, do you enjoy spending time with friends, family gatherings, disciplined lifestyle, etc. Discuss about each other’s work life balance, expectations from in-laws and any non-negotiables. You should also discuss kids- if they want them, if you want them, and also when. Get clarity on expected living arrangements to avoid any future conflicts. These should be more than enough for a first-time meeting.
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