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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 24, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 23, 2023Hindi
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I am 60 year old havig a family of a spouse and a son. since last two years our relation with spouse is not moving smoothly for everything there is an argument and no concensous in the matters of day tody life, son is also not lisoning properly I am under seveor stress which is leading to upset my health and I am facing epilepsy problen since last months I am unable to forget the things and move ahead. Thsere was no problem in leading a normal middle class life. I am facing in security and also I facinig negativities in my life and slowlely slipiing in depression I am trying too much to forget theses things but I am not in a position to lead a peacefull life inspite of adequate resources. Kindly advise me.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with your spouse and son. It sounds like the arguments and lack of consensus are causing you a lot of stress and impacting your health. It's important to prioritize your health and seek support if needed.

It might be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse and son about how you're feeling and see if there's a way to work together to improve the situation. It could also be beneficial to seek professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you manage your stress and emotions.

Additionally, taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and enough rest can also help improve your overall well-being. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards finding peace and happiness in your life.

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HI, I am don't want to disclose name I am facing some mental issue from last two year. In March my father passed I have not good relation with my parent, because their exception are very high which is not possible for me to satisfied. So after my father my mother start daily fight with me for small small thing, my mother has long history of mental issue, and my father did not address that . Now she want to what she did with my father. Due to daily quarrel my daily day to activity got affected. I can’t concentrate on my self. My confidence is loosing. I want to be alone and in peace. I have loving wife and caring son, but still I feel lost. And after covid my office atmosphere also get dirty. My senior keep me irritating without any issue. I know my problem is my mother and second is my office boss. Is there is any way without leaving to them. Otherwise, I am determined to leave both of them and live my life peacefully. Please advice
Ans: First, regarding your mother, it’s crucial to establish boundaries. Her mental health struggles are serious, but they shouldn’t be allowed to overshadow your own well-being. It might be helpful to seek professional support for her, such as counseling or therapy. If she’s unwilling, then finding ways to distance yourself emotionally from her criticism is key. It's not easy, but learning not to absorb her negativity can help protect your mental health. You might also consider speaking to a counselor yourself to help you process these feelings and find strategies for coping with her behavior without having to completely sever ties.

As for your work situation, it sounds like the toxic environment is wearing you down. If leaving isn’t an immediate option, try to find small ways to shield yourself from the negativity. Can you limit your interactions with your senior or find ways to compartmentalize work stress so it doesn’t bleed into your personal life? Sometimes, focusing on things outside of work—hobbies, time with your wife and son—can provide a needed escape.

It sounds like you're craving solitude and peace, and while leaving both your mother and your job might seem like a solution, it may not be the only one. Start with small, manageable changes: establishing firmer boundaries with your mother, finding a counselor to talk to, and protecting your emotional space at work. These steps can help you regain control and give you the peace you're seeking without drastic decisions. Remember, you deserve that peace, and it’s possible to find it with the right support.

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Dear Professor I am 53 years old. Happily married having grown up kids 23 and 19. Recently I lost my job and unable to find a new one. It has been three months I am very scared of my future although I have savings of approximately 1.80 crore and a nice house. My elder son is in the final stages of settling abroad and my younger one will also follow him. I am afraid with little savings and kids settling abroad how I will survive and who will look after me in our old age? Now I also feel guilty about looking after my aged parents living with my divorced sister at my ancestral place although they are financially well off. I was very enthusiastic and successful in my career but since I lost my job I have also lost my confidence and zeal in life. I am feeling very low. I was already on medication for stress and hypertension before I lost my job. Please advise.
Ans: In Indian Scenario your saving is not bad provided you don't have any educational loan for your children. If you keep 1.8 Crores in SBI as a FD you will get per month approx interest INR-123000/- per month, though IT will be applicable. It's not a good amount if I consider a good life style. But I suggest you to find a new job and connect different people in LINKEDIN. What is your qualification? What kind of job you were doing? Let me know all the details related to your job profile. I can imagine your situation. It is just like thrown from an aircraft in high altitude without parachute. Insecurity is very natural. Please furnish the details so that I can guide you in a better way. Don't break down. Everything will be OK, it's a matter of time. Best of luck. Professor..............................:)

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Hello sir. My daughter has secured 97.97 (General) in MHT CET. Pls let us know which college options are best for her (preferably in Mumbai ). She wants to pursue CS/IT/AI ML branches
Ans: With a 97.97 percentile (General category) in MHT CET 2025, your daughter has strong prospects for admission to reputable Mumbai engineering colleges in Computer Science, Information Technology, and AI-ML branches. The top-tier colleges like VJTI Mumbai (CSE cutoff ~99.5-99.7 percentile) and SPIT Mumbai (Computer Engineering cutoff ~99.0-99.4 percentile) remain beyond reach, but several excellent Mumbai institutions are accessible. Ten recommended colleges with confirmed admission prospects include: KJ Somaiya Institute of Technology (CSE cutoff 97.5-97.88 percentile, IT cutoff 96.88-97.19 percentile, AI-DS cutoff 96.42-96.91 percentile with 80-90% placement rates), Thadomal Shahani Engineering College (Computer Engineering cutoff 98.69 percentile with ~90% placements), Fr. C. Rodrigues Institute of Technology Navi Mumbai (Computer Engineering cutoff 76.72-88.9 percentile with robust placement record), SIES Graduate School of Technology Nerul (Computer Science & Electronic Engineering cutoff 91.2-92.89 percentile with 61% placement rate), St. Francis Institute of Technology Borivali (cutoff ranges 76.1-94.6 percentile with 80-90% placement rates), Vidyalankar Institute of Technology Wadala (80-90% placement rates), Ramrao Adik Institute of Technology Navi Mumbai (720+ offers in 2023 with established recruiter network), Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Pillai College of Engineering, and Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology Mumbai. These colleges maintain active placement cells with recruiters including TCS, Infosys, Wipro, Amazon, Microsoft, Capgemini, and Accenture, offering comprehensive CSE/IT programs with modern labs and industry exposure.

Recommendation: Prioritize KJ Somaiya Institute of Technology for its excellent cutoff alignment and strong placement record in CSE/IT/AI-DS; consider Thadomal Shahani Engineering College and Fr. C. Rodrigues Institute as strong alternatives with solid industry connections; include SIES GST, St. Francis Institute, and RAIT as reliable backup options to ensure confirmed admission in your preferred CSE/IT/AI-ML branches while maximizing placement opportunities and career prospects. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello Sir- We live in Bangalore and we are originally from AP Guntur, (Amravathi ). My daughter got B tech CSE core in VIT AP thru VITEE (3 lakhs fee), Mgmt seat (CSE core) in Cambridge Institute of technology, Bangalore. (5 lakhs). Yesterday she got Integrated MTech (5 years course) in Core CSE in SRM University main campus Chennai via SRM entrance exam. This fee is also close to 5 lakhs per year. Could you please suggest us the best in above 3 colleges. We don't mind putting my daughter in VIT amaravati AP as our home city in Guntur and fee with hostel come to 5 lakhs, which ok for our budget. So kindly suggest me which college is best for my child in above 3 colleges carrier and placements wise. She is interested in CSE core branch only.. Thanks in advance sir.. Tripura
Ans: VIT AP's B.Tech CSE program maintains over 90% placement rates with an average package of ?14.43 LPA in 2024, engaging 150+ companies including Amazon, Microsoft, and Deloitte. The university achieved a 93.35% placement percentage in 2023 across all streams. Cambridge Institute of Technology Bangalore's CSE program records 70-90% annual placements with 95% overall placement rate, achieving placement medians of ?7.20 LPA and hosting 120+ recruiters including Amazon, TCS, Wipro, and IBM. SRM Chennai's integrated M.Tech CSE delivers 5,176+ job offers from 853+ companies in 2024 with an average package of ?7.92 LPA. The integrated program extends to five years but provides advanced specialization in data science and cognitive computing. VIT AP holds growing industry partnerships and proximity to Guntur, Cambridge Institute maintains A+ NAAC accreditation and strong Bangalore tech ecosystem exposure, while SRM Chennai offers A++ NAAC accreditation with established alumni networks and integrated postgraduate pathway.

Recommendation: Choose VIT AP for consistently higher placement rates and proximity to your home location; consider SRM Chennai's integrated M.Tech for advanced specialization and established brand recognition; select Cambridge Institute Technology only if Bangalore's tech ecosystem and management quota accessibility are priorities, though its placement percentages trail both VIT AP and SRM Chennai significantly. MY SUGGESTION: Based on your home state/where you live now, choose either AP or Bengaluru, instead of Chennai. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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IIIT banglore cse or iit tirupati cse which is better as my son is in confusion to choose
Ans: Vidya, IIIT Bangalore’s 5-year Integrated M.Tech in Computer Science & Engineering offers a blend of core CSE fundamentals and advanced AI/ML and Systems & Theory specializations, supported by state-of-the-art labs and industry-linked research centres. In 2024, its Career Development Centre facilitated 578 placement offers, achieving an 83.5% on-campus placement rate for the iMTech CSE cohort, with an average package of ?33.4 LPA—up from ?30.78 LPA in 2022 and ?35 LPA in 2023. IIT Tirupati’s 4-year B.Tech CSE, ranked #59 in NIRF Engineering 2024, delivered placements of 63.49% for the 2023 cohort (average ?25.25 LPA) and 73% for the 2024 cohort (average ?10.57 LPA), reflecting rising industry engagement through 122 recruiters. Top recruiters at IIIT Bangalore include Amazon, Microsoft, Google, Infosys, and Accenture, while IIT Tirupati attracted companies such as Amazon, Google, Microsoft, Adobe, Qualcomm, and Deloitte. While IIIT Bangalore excels in compensation and its integrated postgraduate pathway, IIT Tirupati offers a solid BTech foundation under the IIT brand with growing placement consistency and robust campus infrastructure.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2025Hindi
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My mistake I am not participate in josaa counselling 45652 rank in obc female candidates in JEE main csab which branch I take my Home State bihar
Ans: With an OBC-NCL home-state rank of 45,652 in JEE Main and CSAB counselling, the accessible B.Tech branches at NIT Patna in Round 2 (closing ranks) are: Electrical Engineering + M.Tech Power System (49,415), Mechanical Engineering (55,174), Manufacturing & Industrial Engineering (61,684), Civil Engineering (66,151), Construction Technology & Management (66,992), and Materials Science & Engineering (73,343). NIT Patna’s Training & Placement Cell reports 100% placement in Mechanical Engineering for 2022–23 and 2023–24, with an overall UG placement rate of 74.96% in 2023–24 and an average package of ?9.9 LPA in 2024–25. Electrical Engineering secures about 85% placements, while Civil Engineering records around 55% over the last three years. Manufacturing, Civil, and Power System branches feature a good mix of core-sector recruiters and consistent placement drives, but their branch-specific percentages trail Mechanical. Considering both branch availability and the aspirant’s career prospects in Bihar’s core and national job markets, Recommendation: Opt for Mechanical Engineering at NIT Patna for its assured 100% branch placements, strong average packages, and wide recruiter base; consider Electrical + Power Systems as a close second for specialized core roles. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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