Maam sir good morn.I m K.S .i am.the sole bread earner of my.family .i m 52 and do.not have a job. I m not a spend thrift but due to lot of loans i have taken for education etc i m totally stressed up. I.get depressed and do not have the motivation to move ahead in life. I want to clear up all my dues and i fight day in and day out to find a job but to.no success. Finance are getting.lesser.. I m on the verge of breakdown. Plz help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do hear you...
It is perhaps time to do something different. You have a wealth of experience of 19 years and it can be put to good use.
Independent consulting in Wealth management maybe something that you might want to consider. There are courses online that help you get initiated in this and using your Banking knowledge it maybe possible to consider this option.
Also, speak with your close circle of friends and family and take their advice as well. It will also help you to take strategic advice from someone in your field and who has also is updated with all the current happenings. Someone senior is what I suggest...
What you need is some direction which this expert in your field can offer...what else you need is some confidence, which you need to instil within yourself.

When something does not work, do something else for a different result...But giving up hope is the worst option...Push yourself to think different and ask:
What else can I do to make things work?
What can I do differently than before for things to align better for me?
How can I keep my state of mind upbeat even though things are not going well for me?

Asking useful questions can change the course of one's life...So keep at it please...

All the best!

Ans: It's essential to recognise that your situation is serious and needs immediate attention. You're facing significant financial stress, but there are steps you can take to manage this situation. It's commendable that you're reaching out for help, which is the first step toward resolving your financial challenges.

Understanding Your Debt Situation
You have Rs. 10 lakhs in debt, mostly from credit cards and loans. The charges and interest have made it difficult to repay. Your monthly income of Rs. 25,000-30,000 is insufficient to manage these debts effectively. The pressure from bank agents is adding to your mental stress, which needs to be addressed immediately.

Emotional Well-being and Mental Health
Your mental well-being is as important as your financial situation. Experiencing suicidal thoughts is a sign that the pressure has become overwhelming. Please consider speaking to a mental health professional immediately. They can provide you with the support you need to navigate this difficult period.

Immediate Steps for Debt Management
1. Prioritise Your Mental Health:
The stress of debt can cloud your judgment. Take small steps to manage your mental health. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a counsellor who can offer support.

2. Assess Your Debts:
List all your debts, including principal amounts, interest rates, and due dates. This will give you a clear picture of your financial obligations.

3. Negotiate with Creditors:
Contact your creditors to negotiate better terms. Explain your financial situation and request a reduction in interest rates or a more manageable payment plan. Creditors might agree to a settlement amount that is less than what you owe, but it will require a lump sum payment.

4. Consider Debt Consolidation:
If possible, consolidate your debts into a single loan with a lower interest rate. This can simplify repayments and reduce the overall interest burden.

5. Stop Using Credit Cards:
Stop using credit cards to avoid further debt accumulation. Focus on paying off existing balances.

6. Create a Budget:
Create a strict budget that focuses on essential expenses. Allocate any remaining income toward debt repayment.

7. Look for Additional Income:
Consider taking up a part-time job or freelance work to supplement your income. Even a small increase in income can help you manage your debts better.

8. Explore Financial Assistance:
Seek assistance from a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can provide guidance tailored to your situation. They may help you find government or non-profit programs designed to assist people in financial distress.

Long-term Financial Planning
1. Build an Emergency Fund:
Once your debts are under control, focus on building an emergency fund to avoid falling back into debt. Start small, even if it's just Rs. 500 per month.

2. Rebuild Your Credit:
Work on improving your credit score by paying your bills on time and keeping your credit utilisation low.

3. Start Saving for the Future:
Gradually start saving for your future goals, such as buying a home. Start with small, regular contributions to a savings account or a low-risk investment.

4. Educate Yourself Financially:
Take the time to learn about personal finance, budgeting, and debt management. This knowledge will empower you to make better financial decisions in the future.

Addressing Your Emotional Well-being
1. Reach Out to Support Groups:
Join support groups for people facing similar financial challenges. Sharing your experiences and hearing from others can provide relief and practical advice.

2. Practice Stress-relief Techniques:
Engage in activities that help reduce stress, such as meditation, exercise, or spending time with loved ones. These activities can improve your mental clarity and resilience.

3. Maintain Open Communication:
Discuss your financial situation with your family, if possible. They can provide emotional support and might help you in finding a solution.

Finally
You are in a challenging situation, but you have options. Taking small, steady steps can lead to significant improvements over time. Focus on both your financial and emotional well-being, and don't hesitate to seek professional help when needed.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's not easy being away from your family. The possible cause for your health issues can be loneliness...Can you at least start reconnecting with your daughter, other family members? What about close friends?
Once you are surrounded by people who care for you, you will find better focus in life and at work. This will help you achieving work goals as well. Do focus on your physical health by exercising regularly too.
Also, join a social circle that is filled with people who are like-minded and have similar interests as you. This will ensure that your mind is focused on positive things happening.
A small change in the way you think and do things can bring about better results.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

Ans: I think you need professional help and you shouldn’t be ashamed to seek it. You’re in a depression and obviously not in a mentally healthy space, which is also probably why you are unable to get your business back on its feet. Look, your wife still has a job. Sort yourself out. Take some time to heal from the difficult times you’ve faced. Things will get better. Be strong for the sake of your family — they’re worth it!