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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 17, 2024Hindi
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Hi I m 42 Years.old..i live wirh my wife and 8 year old Daughter ..I run A Recruitments business and Stock brokin business..My wifes works at Senior positon At a Bank..Till Covid all was Doin Good..After Covid My Business till today has not been Good..Now its reach to Bottom where i m Fully Broken..And Too much into Depression ..I Cant do A Job.as at this Age i m not getting A Job..We had planned after certain Time My Wife wil leave Job..but now i m not able to tell to To Leave Job..As my Into Lots of Financial Stress..i have Lived Life Kingsize wherein money is never problen ..but now i m too strssed..Getting Sucidal thoughts too But Seeing My Daugher Face i CNt take that Step...please Advicd me

Ans: I think you need professional help and you shouldn’t be ashamed to seek it. You’re in a depression and obviously not in a mentally healthy space, which is also probably why you are unable to get your business back on its feet. Look, your wife still has a job. Sort yourself out. Take some time to heal from the difficult times you’ve faced. Things will get better. Be strong for the sake of your family — they’re worth it!

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Maam sir good morn.I m K.S .i am.the sole bread earner of my.family .i m 52 and do.not have a job. I m not a spend thrift but due to lot of loans i have taken for education etc i m totally stressed up. I.get depressed and do not have the motivation to move ahead in life. I want to clear up all my dues and i fight day in and day out to find a job but to.no success. Finance are getting.lesser.. I m on the verge of breakdown. Plz help.
Ans: Dear KS,
First things first. A lot of decisions have gone wrong. It cannot be erased, but certainly you must find a way of recovering from it.
Yes, it is highly disheartening, but once you decide that you want to be in a better place, you have to take certain actions to reach that better place.
So, time to quit being upset and taking firm actions on what to do next to get out of this situation that you are in.
Seek the help of someone within your family or friends circle who is strong with their finances and managing their monies well. Of course, they must be someone you trust as well. Share everything with them (you need the help, so kindly be truthful and honest with them).
Let them put together a plan of action that manages your existing financial resources and inbound channels and match that with all the payments and debts.
Allow them to 'advise' you as you need this strong advice right now. Discuss what's possible and what's not and they will come up with something that is close to perfect.
Once, you start with the first small baby step. things start to look up. Even clearing a small debt will take a load off your chest. So, get into that action mode NOW. And yes, do promise yourself that this situation is teaching you a lesson on how to be financially prudent and that you will learn from it.

Best wishes and look bright and happy NOW!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 18, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 11, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu,Iam completely in to a bad a stage.I lost my job,my son is a disabled kid doesn't have money to run future completely in hell Been a banker for 19 years and not getting any jobs outside Please suggest what should be my next step
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do hear you...
It is perhaps time to do something different. You have a wealth of experience of 19 years and it can be put to good use.
Independent consulting in Wealth management maybe something that you might want to consider. There are courses online that help you get initiated in this and using your Banking knowledge it maybe possible to consider this option.
Also, speak with your close circle of friends and family and take their advice as well. It will also help you to take strategic advice from someone in your field and who has also is updated with all the current happenings. Someone senior is what I suggest...
What you need is some direction which this expert in your field can offer...what else you need is some confidence, which you need to instil within yourself.

When something does not work, do something else for a different result...But giving up hope is the worst option...Push yourself to think different and ask:
What else can I do to make things work?
What can I do differently than before for things to align better for me?
How can I keep my state of mind upbeat even though things are not going well for me?

Asking useful questions can change the course of one's life...So keep at it please...

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 11, 2025Hindi
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Hi, I am a 30 year old working woman. I am pretty introvert and never have been in a relationship. Men have never approached me maybe because of my closed off nature. My mother has been constantly pressing me to look for a potential match for last 3-4 years. I have been trying dating apps and matrimony apps and have gone on a lot of dates but till now there has been no success. This entire process is taking a toll on me. When I say this to my mother she will not listen and instead keeps on searching for matches herself and make me go on dates which ultimately doesn't last since none of them seem to be compatible (mainly because of difference in family background, salary differences , values mismatch,etc). At this point I am confused. I do want to settle down for the sake of life long companionship but feel that things aren't working for me and sometimes my frustrations make me feel that I am good not married. What should I do in this case?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When the right person comes along, you will know it. Until then, enjoy the process without being too attached to the outcome. If something clicks, then it does...why fret over anything?
Your mother is just doing what she is out of love and concern; so, let her! By pushing her back it will only heighten her concern and it will come back to you in other unhealthy ways. Go along with it and just play the wait and watch game. A good way to convert your frustration into something more useful and light.

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My daughter is currently doing ICSE 10th and is performing very well in the class in Kochi. I would like to know what are the options of preparing for entrance exams such as KEAM and NEET without putting a strain or off-balance of her regular class work. What are options of attending online and offline coaching? What would be effective ? What are some good study materials ?..etc
Ans: Hello CJ
Here is the point-wise reply to your question: (1) To appear for KEAM or NEET, you have to take PCMB subjects in the 11th and 12th and appear for the respective entrance tests (2) If you are not interested in giving her stress then either she can prepare it via self-study or by joining any coaching classes (3) It is recommended to join offline classes and if your financial situation permits, then you can join any online classes only for "revision purpose". You should not remain dependent on online classes as they have huge drawbacks. (4) Related to the material, the concerned subject teacher will guide her. Yet it would be highly recommended to contact the recently passed students who cracked KEAM/NEET with high scores. Everybody referees different authors' books. But some of them are common for which your daughter can take the help. (5) Please keep in touch with the NTA website which offers free test series for NEET/JEE. (6) Ask her to focus on the interested subject either Bio or Maths. (7) Joining any coaching either offline or online mode does not carry a guarantee of success. One has to try himself. I hope, your daughter will also follow the same path of hard work to get success in either KEAM or NEET.
Best of luck to your daughter for her upcoming bright future.

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 18, 2025Hindi
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Hi ... I am a 48 year old male and need some specific financial advice on my finances. Here is a detailed breakup of my income, assets and liabilities Income from Salary : 4.6L per month after taxes Assets & Investments : Apartment - 4 crore at current value Savings & Equity - 35L SIP - 40L corpus (75K per month being invested) EPF & VPF - 60L (I contribute around 15K every month to VPF) Liabilities : Home Loan : 1.1 Crore (Tenure remaining 9 yrs) Other Loans : 45L (Tenure remaining 5 yrs) Monthly household Exp : 2.2L Insurance : Health Insurance Coverage : 25L (Company provides 5L and I have upgraded to 25L) Life Insurance : 1cr for wife & 6cr for self Future Milestones : Retirement Son's Education & Marriage (Currently 17 yrs old) I don't think I have enough savings and assets to head to a comfortable retirement and this gives me sleepless nights. Can you please help by providing a detailed plan of where I should invest more and by how much? Please note that I don't have much room to save more given my expenses. Thank you.
Ans: You're in a solid financial position but carrying a heavy loan burden, which is affecting your retirement confidence. Here’s how you can optimize your finances:

Debt Management
Prioritize clearing your Rs 45L loan in the next 3-5 years.
Try prepaying Rs 5-10L annually from bonuses, RSUs, or other windfalls.
Keep your home loan for tax benefits, but consider refinancing if a lower rate is available.
Investment Strategy
Your SIPs are strong; continue the Rs 75K/month allocation.
Increase your equity exposure post-loan repayment for better growth.
Review your portfolio to balance large caps, mid-small caps, and debt.
Retirement Planning
At 48, you should aim for Rs 12-15 crore by 60.
Your current investments will compound, but increasing contributions post-loan repayment is key.
Consider a mix of mutual funds, PPF, and NPS for tax efficiency.
Son’s Education & Marriage
With 1-2 years left, ensure Rs 40-50L liquidity for college fees.
If not done yet, set aside a lump sum in debt mutual funds or a fixed deposit.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 18, 2025

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Dear Sir, I took a loan of Rs. 44 lakhs @ 8.70% floating with 216 EMIs in August 2019 from HDFC Housing. Till recent, i'm not aware that the rate of interest being applied is 10.5% and still it is shown as 213 EMIs balance to be remitted as on 18.02.2025, despite no pending or late payments at my end. Please advise what to be done sir!
Ans: Your situation is a classic case of interest rate hikes affecting floating-rate home loans. Since you took the loan in August 2019 at 8.70%, and now the rate has increased to 10.5%, your EMI is going more towards interest rather than the principal. That's why your loan tenure has barely reduced.

Immediate Steps to Take
1. Contact HDFC Housing Immediately
Visit or call your bank and ask for a detailed loan amortization statement.
Get clarity on why the tenure is not reducing despite timely payments.
Request a break-up of the outstanding loan amount and revised interest calculations.
2. Ask for an Interest Rate Reduction
HDFC allows you to reduce your floating rate by paying a nominal fee (loan conversion charge).
Check the current floating home loan rates for existing borrowers and ask them to apply the lowest possible rate.
If HDFC refuses, ask about switching to a better scheme within HDFC itself.
3. Consider Balance Transfer to Another Bank
If HDFC does not reduce your interest rate significantly, you can transfer your home loan to another bank with lower rates.

Banks like SBI, ICICI, and Axis Bank may offer interest rates below 9% for a balance transfer.
Check with a few banks and negotiate for the lowest possible interest rate.
Ensure that the processing fee and other charges do not offset the savings from lower interest.
4. Prepay a Part of Your Loan (If Possible)
If you have some savings, prepay at least 5-10% of the loan principal.
This will reduce your interest burden and EMI tenure.
Ensure that prepayment charges (if any) are minimal or waived.
5. Monitor Your Loan Regularly
Floating-rate loans fluctuate based on RBI policy changes.
Check your home loan rate every 6 months to avoid sudden increases.
Opt for automatic rate conversion with HDFC, if available.
Final Insights
You should first try to reduce your rate with HDFC.
If they do not offer a better rate, go for a balance transfer.
If you have surplus funds, consider prepayment to reduce your tenure faster.
Always monitor your home loan rate every 6 months to avoid overpaying.
Would you like help in evaluating a balance transfer option with a different bank?

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 18, 2025Hindi
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Hello Team, Please advice from the below stocks which are not good from long term perspective of 3-5yrs with reasons: 1.Bajaj Housing Finance 2.BEL 3.Coal India 4.Dixon 5.Deepak Nitrite 6.Escorts 7.First Source Solution 8.Gareware Fiber Textile 9.Greaves Cotton 10.IRCTC 11.JK Paper 12.Maruti 13.Mazgon Dockyard 14.RVNL 15.Pidilite 16.Trent 17.Titan 18.Zen Technologies Regards, Amarendra
Ans: Your stock portfolio consists of companies from various sectors, including finance, defense, auto, infrastructure, and manufacturing. While some of these stocks have strong long-term potential, a few may face challenges over the next 3-5 years. Below is an analysis of stocks that may not be the best fit for long-term holding.

Stocks to Reconsider for Long-Term Investment (3-5 Years)
1. Bajaj Housing Finance
Housing finance companies are highly dependent on interest rate cycles.
RBI rate hikes can impact lending growth.
Competition from banks and fintech players is increasing.
2. Coal India
Coal demand may decline due to a global shift towards renewable energy.
Government regulations on carbon emissions could impact future growth.
The company has strong dividends, but capital appreciation may be limited.
3. Greaves Cotton
Faces stiff competition in the electric vehicle (EV) and auto component space.
EV transition is challenging for traditional engine manufacturers.
Growth prospects depend on EV adoption, which is uncertain.
4. First Source Solutions
IT services firms face margin pressure due to automation and AI.
The company lacks strong global scalability compared to bigger IT players.
Growth in the BPM (Business Process Management) industry is slowing down.
5. IRCTC
Revenue depends heavily on Indian Railways policies.
Any policy change by the government can impact profitability.
Stock is overvalued with limited growth potential.
6. RVNL (Rail Vikas Nigam Limited)
PSU infrastructure stocks depend on government projects.
Execution risks and delays affect revenue growth.
Limited innovation and scalability compared to private players.
Stocks with Strong Long-Term Potential
The remaining stocks in your portfolio have strong fundamentals and long-term growth potential. However, active management is necessary to ensure continued performance.

Switch to Active Mutual Funds for Better Growth
Managing an individual stock portfolio requires constant tracking, analysis, and decision-making. Instead of investing in individual stocks, switching to actively managed mutual funds can offer several benefits:

? Professional Management – Fund managers actively monitor and adjust holdings.
? Diversification – Reduces risk by investing in multiple sectors.
? Consistent Returns – Actively managed funds can outperform the market over time.
? Tax Efficiency – Mutual funds offer better tax advantages compared to stocks.

You can invest in large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap mutual funds based on your risk appetite. Consider consulting a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for personalized investment advice.

Would you like a detailed mutual fund recommendation based on your goals?

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 18, 2025Hindi
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Hello Ramalingam, Could you provide your feedback on my active SIPs? Axis Bluechip Fund Direct Plan Growth - 5k DSP Global Innovation FoF Direct Growth - 10k ICICI Prudential Tech Direct Growth - 8k Axis Small Cap Fund Direct Growth - 10k Mirae Asset Large & Midcap Direct Growth - 2.5k PGIM India Midcap Oppurtunites Fund Direct Growth - 6k Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Direct Growth - 15k Nippon India Pharma Fund Direct Growth - 10k Quant Small Cap Direct Plan Growth - 10k Axis ELSS Tax Saver Regular Growth - 2.5k Kotak Emerging Equity Fund Regular - 4.3k Mirae Asset Large & Midcap Direct Regular - 2.5k Kotak Small Cap Fund Growth Regular - 2.5k
Ans: You have a well-diversified SIP portfolio, but some improvements can be made. Below is a detailed review of your portfolio with suggestions.

Portfolio Diversification
Your portfolio covers large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, pharma, technology, and international exposure.

There are too many funds in the portfolio, leading to duplication.

A more focused approach can improve returns while maintaining diversification.

Large-Cap Exposure
Your portfolio has a large-cap fund. Large-cap funds provide stability.

Consider keeping only one large-cap fund instead of multiple overlapping ones.

Large-cap funds deliver steady growth but may not beat inflation significantly.

Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Exposure
You have multiple mid-cap and small-cap funds. These funds offer high growth potential.

Overexposure to small-cap and mid-cap can increase risk.

Reducing the number of mid-cap and small-cap funds will avoid redundancy.

Flexi-Cap and Multi-Cap Exposure
Flexi-cap funds allow fund managers to invest across market caps.

One flexi-cap fund is sufficient. Multiple flexi-cap funds lead to overlap.

A well-managed flexi-cap fund can balance risk and returns.

Sectoral and Thematic Funds
Pharma and technology funds are sectoral funds. They perform well in specific market cycles.

Sectoral funds are high-risk and should not exceed 10-15% of the total portfolio.

Consider reducing exposure to sectoral funds unless you have a long-term view.

International Fund Exposure
Global exposure adds diversification. However, international markets have different risks.

Foreign exchange rates and geopolitical risks can affect returns.

A single international fund is enough for diversification.

Tax-Saving ELSS Fund
ELSS funds help save tax under Section 80C.

ELSS has a lock-in period of three years.

One ELSS fund is enough instead of multiple tax-saving funds.

Direct vs Regular Funds
You have invested in direct funds. Direct funds require active tracking.

Regular funds provide guidance from an MFD with CFP credentials.

If you are not monitoring regularly, consider switching to regular funds.

Overlap Analysis
Some funds have similar stocks, leading to portfolio overlap.

Reducing overlapping funds can make your portfolio more efficient.

A focused approach improves returns without excessive diversification.

Debt Fund Allocation
There is no debt fund in the portfolio.

Debt funds provide stability and liquidity.

A small allocation to a short-duration debt fund can help manage short-term goals.

Portfolio Simplification Suggestions
Reduce the number of overlapping funds.

Keep one large-cap, one mid-cap, one small-cap, one flexi-cap, and one sectoral fund.

Limit international exposure to a single fund.

Maintain tax-saving investments only if needed under Section 80C.

Final Insights
Your portfolio is well-structured but has too many funds.

Streamlining the portfolio will improve efficiency and returns.

Reduce sectoral and mid/small-cap exposure for better risk management.

Add a debt fund for stability and liquidity.

Monitor the portfolio regularly or consult a Certified Financial Planner for guidance.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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