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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 04, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am 40 yrs old and married for 20 yrs.Our marriage was a love marriage after 2 yrs of dating each other.I have 2 kids one is 16 yrs and other one is 11 yrs old.Recently I had an STD I visited doctor and they said it's because of having multiple partners I am a housewife I don't have any partner other than my husband.but it was suspicious for me so I repeatedly asked my husband and he confessed he used to visit escorts in past.i was in a shock an tremendous pain I didn't expected from him to hide such things.i never expected that he is involved in such acts?I feel cheated now what do to can't understand ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are hurt right now. The best course of action would be to seek professional help. See a marriage counselor and get the right help to work through this issue.

I am not clear if past means when he was dating you, or when you two were newly married or when you two didn't know one another. I cannot comment without understanding it. Nevertheless, a professional therapist can guide you more structurally.

All I can say is that your emotions are completely valid. Whatever you decide is okay. Do not put society's needs or your family's and suppress your feelings.

Best Wishes.

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Dear Anu, I would like to discuss about a problem in my married life with you. Me and my husband had a love marriage 21 years ago. Before our marriage also my husband had many relationships and affairs but since he was very true about everything and he promised to change things, we married. Though, our family was a happy one and we have two grown up kids also, everything seems OK from outside. But actually, my husband has had many affairs after our marriage also. He has never left his habit of impressing females around him, it may be his colleagues or some common friends etc.. and I always come across some or the other female in his life. Some of the affairs have been so serious that they even went ahead and spent days and nights together. Every time, I discover some affair, he admits his mistake and tells me to move on, but he never believes in correcting his mistakes and either continues with the affair or finds a new partner. I have lost all trust in him but since I am not earning and have two grown up kids and also love him a lot, can't think of separation. I have tried confronting him though but he gets angry always and blames me for spoiling our family life and not moving on. Also, would like to accept that he is very supportive in family matters, loves his family a lot, is very dedicated to his work and to his kids, he is very empathetic towards people, helps everyone but needs his own space too. I am completely confused about what should I do. I am unable to trust him for anything and we keep arguing over smallest things. Hope you will reply to me. Thanks.
Ans: Dear TT, I can only imagine what you must be going through.

Since you want to continue in the marriage, that choice is something I presume that has emerged after a lot of thought and I respect it.

The way this marriage will work is communicate clearly to him that his philandering ways have to stop as it is affecting you and the marriage.

If this doesn’t work, he seriously needs help in dealing with this…sometimes people don’t realise that they are jeopardizing their marriages.

I am not defending him but simply stating that sometimes people get themselves into a trap of not so useful situations and quite don’t know how to get out of it.

Also, what he might gain from so many extra marital relationships is something that he needs to find in other ways rather than swaying outside of the marriage.

This requires him to work with an expert as he will most likely not yield to your requests like in the past. Mere talking will not be enough; he possibly needs intensive therapy.

This will help him reunite with his family that he loves so much and he can be around completely without having to seek pleasure outside eroding the foundation of marriage.

As he seems to get better, it’s time for you to live your life as well, right?

What is it that you haven’t done in years? What is it that you gave up after marriage or after having kids?

What excites you enough for you to step up for yourself and create your own happiness? Simply DO THAT.

This will help you get back on your feet; who knows you might discover something that actually may end up becoming a money generator as well!

I wish you the best!

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I am from Hyderabad. Age 40 years old . My name is XY and I’ve been married for 17 years. I have two boys. Ours is a love marriage.I felt like everything will be good and smooth but right after our elder kid was born my life changed. I am an MBA and several times I told my husband that I’d like to work. He said he’d help when the right time and opportunity comes. Until then I should nurture my kids as it's my responsibility and I should support him. But in the 2015, my kid noticed his chats with another lady. I was shocked because many times he’d refused sex with me. We’d get intimate maybe twice or thrice a year. I thought he was busy or maybe he doesn’t like my body. But when I caught him he said, what is over is over. Don't raise the topic. Leave me. I just kept quiet. He said what ever happened, I will be the same for my kids’ future sake. Many quarrels happened. But in 2020 his behaviour came to light. For example if I said anything, he'd punish me by not speaking to me for months. But he'd want me to wash his clothes and fulfil other necessities at home.Once I opened up and said I want to go for counselling. There he told the doctor, ‘She wants my property but she never allows me to care of my mom. She won't allow me to talk to my friends.’ I was shocked. I told him 'I never asked for money or property. I just want to quit.' I went home and told myself if he repeats this another time I won't take it for granted. But again in the month of February, he continued his behaviour. He shifted to another bedroom for a few months where he’d watch TV and have food. He'd even sleep in the kids’ bedroom. I stopped bothering. At some point, I felt like I deserved someone who trusts me.I want to quit because he thinks I am a loyal maid who will take care of kids and the household. He communicates with like ‘What I should get? Milk veggies etc?’ He never treats me with love and affection. Now everything is spoiled. I want to have a new life. I want to be set free from him. Please suggest what to do.
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Dear XY,

And may I ask what exactly are you waiting for?

Why did you think that by you going for counselling, your husband will change his behaviour towards you?

How is that he cheats on you and still you allow him to treat you this way?

This only shows that you have lost your strength which you need most right now.

What if you were a strong independent woman who has been working?

Would you still subject yourself to this? You know the answer!

Bring back that woman who had dreams, who knew how to walk the path, who knew how a man should treat her, who knew what a marriage really is.

Can you do this?

Your kids need their mother to stand up for herself and do the right thing.

Be the woman who will not settle for anything that disrespects a woman or another human.

Seeing this, they will also know how to treat a woman and what a woman can bring into their lives.

Do the right thing, for yourself and them. Bring back that strong, independent woman who knew this and more.

Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir/Madam I'm going through a rough time of my life and want some help from you I am a professional and 48 years old and I have 2 grown up children My problem is that I had a love marriage with my husband22 years back and his family didn't accept me whole heartidly since we belong to different castes and culture .they wanted to take advantage of me financially My husband has strained his relationship with my mom n only sister after my father's death in 2008 over money matters Me, my husband and children live in a house provided by my parents in a different city from my inlaws They always create differences between us still Now another problem has cropped up in our relationship I spied on my my husband's mobile n discovered tha that he has sex chats with other women and is involved in mastrubating sessions with them over phone I am completely broken from inside n not able to decide what to do coz when i confronted him , he flatly refused n fought with me and started putting false allegations on me .I am quite disturbed as i dont want to end my marriage eventhough he behaves very bad with me at times Kindly advice me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since you know that you want this marriage still, then the best way to not be hurt and strained around him, is to:
Either:
- Ignore what's happening and what he's doing and he leads his life and you lead yours (This is not easy, let me warn you!)
OR
- Live separately; you are financially independent and have your home to live in; he can go live with his parents and see if this works

Sadly, you married someone who has not learned to appreciate his partner and is perhaps playing to his own insecurities. It's totally on him and why I say that you are not to blame is: the fact that you still want to continue in this marriage, you may have to face more of this humiliation and hurt. If this is your decision, you really need a very steely interior and a facade that can face it all.
Yes, counseling is an option for him and the two of you as couple, BUT I don't see that in him as yet...Instead of addressing his wife's hurt and pain, he has refused to acknowledge what he's been up to. It doesn't say a lot about him to me.
So, strengthen yourself into your decision and check the two choices above and see what works best for you...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi, my husband has been talking to my maid from last 3 years. Also, helped her for raising funds for her daughter's marriage without my knowledge. However, I caught him through his phone. That maid called him every now and then. They spoke for hours without my knowledge. Last time also the same thing happened but he promised me it will not happen again, hence I let it pass. Last time though his phone statement I caught him after which they started talking through what's app call. My husband is apologizing me and saying he didn't had a physical relationship with her and this will not happen again. I completely lost my trust on him. I didn't had intimacy from last 2 years and now after knowing this whenever he comes close I feel disgusted with his touch. I am the major contributor to the family financially. After doing so much for him and supporting him though his rough patch, this is what I got from him. I feel shattered now, what should I do? please help ????
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Clearly this is not the first time that your husband has been involved in 'something on the side'.
When he shows no remorse and no willingness to change his ways, obviously he's seeking a lot of validation from external sources. In this case, it happens to be the maid. (I hope you have sacked the maid already!).

Obviously with repeated instances of him going back on his word, the trust factor is in question. Does he even care? Your marriage is in a place where you must now either work on putting it back OR give him an ultimatum. What will work in your case, is something that only you will know...
Time to bring your husband to his senses; which means perhaps involving a professional to guide you. You may have to go at this by yourself, seek help in managing your husband and his waywardness. Then your husband will be roped in to deal with his deep down need for validation and succumbing to it over and over again. Then you can begin to function as a single unit towards making the marriage work. This looks like a lot to go through BUT the decision is yours.

All the best!
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Hello sir. I am 46 looking for advice . I want to increase my 50 L to 1 crore mf portfolio in next one year and my end goal is to achieve 5 to 7 crore by 10 years . I will invest Sip 12 lakh per year for next 5 years . I am getting 32 lakhs cash in next 6 to 9 manths. I am thinking to invest 8 laksh every quarter additional lumpsum by distributing to different mf. I have mf portfolio as large cap 3 including 1 index fund 23% . Midcap 3 23% and small cap 3 23% and flexicap 2 8% and sectorial 2 10% hybrid 2 13%. Based on overlapping fund I see large cap as potential to balance as it's 54% overlapping stocks ,other funds are 0verlapping is 8 to 14%. For each areas . I would like to know is my strategy right to distributing lumpsum quarterly wise right ? . I will be mostly distributing same % ? . Please let me know any other method to achieve the goal. Also all mfs iam keeping are 5 or 4 rated funds with consistent return of 15 to 20% with alpha more than 1 . I am reducing investment on 3 rated funds below alpha 1 funds. Please confirm the approach and Your guidance will be really appreciated
Ans: At 46, you are in a strong financial position with Rs. 50 lakh in mutual funds. Your goal is to grow this to Rs. 1 crore within a year and Rs. 5 to 7 crore in the next 10 years. You plan to invest Rs. 12 lakh per year through SIPs for the next five years, and you will also receive Rs. 32 lakh in cash in the next 6 to 9 months, which you plan to invest in a staggered manner. Your current mutual fund portfolio includes a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, sectoral, and hybrid funds.

Now, let's evaluate and assess your strategy from all angles to ensure it is aligned with your financial goals.

Evaluating Your Portfolio Composition
Current Allocation: Your portfolio includes a diverse range of mutual funds. You have 23% in large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds, 8% in flexi-cap, 10% in sectoral, and 13% in hybrid funds.

Large-Cap Overlap: You mentioned that 54% of your large-cap funds overlap, which indicates some redundancy. Reducing overlap will streamline your portfolio and improve diversification.

Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Allocation: With 23% allocated to mid-cap and small-cap funds, you are well-positioned to benefit from higher growth potential. However, this also comes with higher volatility, which we will discuss in a later section.

Sectoral Funds: Sectoral funds make up 10% of your portfolio. These funds can be risky as they are dependent on the performance of specific sectors. Limiting exposure here is wise.

Hybrid Funds: Hybrid funds, at 13%, provide a mix of equity and debt, which adds a layer of stability. This is a balanced approach and complements your aggressive equity investments.

Lumpsum Strategy: Quarterly Distribution
Your Plan: You plan to distribute Rs. 8 lakh every quarter from your Rs. 32 lakh cash inflow, over the next year. Distributing lumpsum investments quarterly is a prudent way to mitigate market timing risks.

Staggered Approach: By staggering your lumpsum investment, you can take advantage of rupee cost averaging. This reduces the impact of market volatility, which is particularly important given the uncertain nature of markets.

Potential Risks: One concern with lump sum investments is the temptation to invest during market highs. Timing the market is difficult, and a disciplined staggered approach, as you’ve chosen, helps mitigate this risk.

SIPs for Consistent Growth
Annual SIP Commitment: You are investing Rs. 12 lakh annually in SIPs over the next five years. This is an excellent strategy, as SIPs benefit from market volatility. You are disciplined, which is crucial for long-term growth.

Rebalancing Strategy: You are reviewing funds based on their ratings and alpha. Reducing investments in 3-rated funds with lower alpha and focusing on 4- and 5-rated funds is smart. It is essential to continuously monitor fund performance, but avoid making impulsive changes based on short-term fluctuations.

Overlap in Large-Cap Funds
Issue of Overlap: You observed a 54% overlap in your large-cap funds, which is quite high. This can limit your exposure to new opportunities and reduce diversification. It is worth considering consolidation of your large-cap holdings to reduce this overlap.

Action Plan: You can replace some of the overlapping large-cap funds with high-quality actively managed funds. Actively managed funds can provide better opportunities for returns compared to index funds, as fund managers can take advantage of market inefficiencies.

Avoid Index Funds: While index funds can provide low-cost exposure, they often mirror market indices and cannot outperform them. Since you are aiming for a higher growth rate, actively managed funds are likely to be more beneficial. Index funds also lack flexibility in adjusting to changing market conditions, which is essential for achieving higher returns.

Flexi-Cap Funds: Adaptive and Flexible
Flexi-Cap Allocation: Your allocation of 8% to flexi-cap funds is solid. Flexi-cap funds offer the advantage of flexibility in investing across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap segments based on market opportunities.

Balancing Act: These funds can adapt to market conditions, providing a more balanced risk-return profile. Increasing your allocation to flexi-cap funds could further enhance the flexibility of your portfolio. These funds can help reduce the impact of volatility while still capitalizing on growth opportunities.

Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Funds: Growth with Volatility
Growth Potential: Mid-cap and small-cap funds provide significant growth potential. However, they are also more volatile compared to large-cap funds.

Current Allocation: Your allocation of 23% each to mid-cap and small-cap funds indicates a high-risk appetite. While these funds can deliver high returns, they can also experience sharp declines in the short term.

Risk Management: Since you are aiming for long-term growth, holding these funds makes sense. However, it’s essential to ensure that your portfolio is not overly concentrated in these high-risk categories. You may want to consider reducing your exposure slightly to mitigate risk, particularly as you approach retirement.

Sectoral Funds: Strategic but Risky
Sectoral Allocation: Sectoral funds can deliver outsized returns, but they are also highly risky as they depend on the performance of specific sectors.

Limiting Exposure: Keeping sectoral funds at 10% of your portfolio is reasonable. However, be cautious about increasing this allocation further, as these funds are more vulnerable to sector-specific downturns.

Hybrid Funds: Stability and Safety
Hybrid Allocation: Your 13% allocation to hybrid funds is a good way to balance your portfolio. Hybrid funds combine equity and debt, providing a safety net during market downturns.

Importance of Stability: These funds offer lower returns compared to pure equity funds, but they also provide stability, especially during market corrections. It’s a good idea to retain this allocation to hybrid funds as part of your overall strategy.

Monitoring Fund Ratings and Alpha
Fund Selection: You are making fund selections based on ratings and alpha. This approach is effective as it helps filter out underperforming funds.

Consistent Review: Continuously monitoring the performance of your funds is crucial. However, avoid making frequent changes based on short-term performance. Focus on long-term consistency and the overall trajectory of the funds.

Reducing 3-Rated Funds: You are reducing your investment in 3-rated funds with an alpha below 1. This is a sound decision as these funds are underperforming. Focus on high-quality funds that have consistently delivered strong returns.

Achieving Your 5 to 7 Crore Goal
Targeting 5 to 7 Crore: Your target of achieving Rs. 5 to 7 crore in 10 years is ambitious but achievable. With disciplined SIPs, a staggered lumpsum approach, and strategic fund selection, you are well on track.

Strategic Rebalancing: It’s important to regularly rebalance your portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your goals. Focus on actively managed funds, reduce overlap, and avoid index funds to maximize your growth potential.

Consistency: The key to achieving your goal will be consistency. Stick to your SIP schedule, invest your lumpsum funds wisely, and avoid chasing short-term gains.

Final Insights
Your Strategy Is Strong: Overall, your strategy is solid. You have diversified your portfolio across different types of funds, and your disciplined approach to SIPs and lumpsum investments is commendable.

Focus on Large-Cap Overlap: Reducing the overlap in your large-cap funds will improve diversification and provide new growth opportunities.

Continue Monitoring Performance: Keep reviewing your fund performance, but avoid making hasty changes based on short-term trends. Focus on long-term growth.

Stay Disciplined: The key to success is discipline. Stick to your investment plan, and you will be well on your way to achieving your financial goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Mr Vivek Lala, Good Morning. Can you please tell me , 1) where all the places we can invest in SWPs. 2) Is there any age limit for SWP. 3) Is there SWP facility in NPS also?.4) Any upper ceiling limit to invest in SWP?. Thank you.
Ans: A Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) is a facility offered by many mutual funds. It allows investors to withdraw a fixed sum from their investments at regular intervals. Let’s dive into each part of your query to provide detailed insights.

1. Investment Options for SWPs

SWPs are primarily associated with mutual funds. Here are the various options where you can invest through SWPs:

Debt Mutual Funds: These are one of the most popular options for SWPs. They provide stability, with low-risk returns.

Equity Mutual Funds: SWPs can also be done in equity mutual funds. This option is riskier, but it can offer better returns in the long term.

Hybrid Mutual Funds: These funds combine equity and debt, offering balanced risk and returns. SWPs in hybrid funds can help diversify risk.

Balanced Advantage Funds: These are dynamic funds that shift between equity and debt based on market conditions. SWPs in these funds could provide more stability.

Notably, SWPs are not available in direct equity, bonds, or other such traditional investments. They are mainly associated with mutual funds. It’s a simple and flexible option for generating regular income.

2. Age Limit for SWPs

There is no age limit for investing in an SWP. Whether you are young and looking to generate additional income, or you are in retirement, anyone can opt for SWPs. You can start an SWP at any stage in your life, as long as you have a mutual fund investment.

For young investors, it can be used to fund specific needs like education, travel, or other personal expenses. For retirees, it acts as a regular source of income to meet living expenses.

3. SWP in National Pension System (NPS)

Unfortunately, there is no SWP facility available in the NPS. The NPS is structured differently from mutual funds. It is a pension scheme meant for long-term retirement savings. The withdrawals from NPS are governed by specific rules, and it doesn’t offer the flexibility that SWPs do.

NPS provides partial withdrawal options, but these are limited. Upon maturity, you can withdraw 60% of your corpus, but the remaining 40% must be used to purchase an annuity. So, NPS does not have the same withdrawal flexibility as SWPs in mutual funds.

4. Upper Ceiling Limit for SWPs

There is no upper ceiling limit for investing in SWPs. You can invest as much as you want in mutual funds and set up an SWP accordingly. Your SWP amount depends on the size of your corpus and the returns it generates.

However, it’s crucial to be cautious. Withdrawing more than the returns can eat into your capital. Therefore, it is advisable to carefully calculate how much you wish to withdraw through SWP to ensure that your capital lasts for the desired period.

Advantages of SWPs

Here are the key advantages of opting for SWPs:

Regular Income: SWPs provide a steady and regular stream of income.

Tax Efficiency: SWPs in equity and hybrid funds are more tax-efficient compared to traditional income sources like Fixed Deposits.

Customisation: SWPs allow you to customize the withdrawal amount and frequency.

Flexibility: You can start or stop an SWP anytime. You can also increase or decrease the amount as needed.

Capital Protection: SWPs allow you to withdraw just the returns, protecting your capital.

Disadvantages of SWPs

Despite the advantages, there are a few downsides to SWPs:

Capital Erosion: If your withdrawals exceed the returns, your capital could reduce over time.

Market Risks: In equity-based SWPs, market fluctuations can impact returns, especially if you’re withdrawing regularly.

Lower Returns in Debt Funds: Debt funds provide stability but generally have lower returns compared to equity funds.

Comparison: SWPs vs Direct Investments

Some investors prefer direct mutual fund investments. However, direct plans, while having lower expense ratios, lack professional advice. Certified Financial Planners (CFPs) have extensive market experience and can tailor investments according to your goals and risk appetite.

Direct funds are usually opted by those who understand markets well. However, many investors lose potential returns by making emotional or uninformed decisions. That’s where regular funds managed by an MFD with CFP credentials can provide significant benefits. The guidance of a professional can ensure that your investments stay aligned with your goals and market conditions.

Why Actively Managed Funds are Better than Index Funds

If you’re considering mutual funds for SWPs, actively managed funds are a better option compared to index funds. Here’s why:

Market-Beating Potential: Actively managed funds have the potential to outperform the market, while index funds can only mirror the market returns.

Professional Management: Actively managed funds are run by experienced fund managers who actively adjust portfolios to seize opportunities and mitigate risks.

Customisation and Flexibility: Active funds allow fund managers to customize portfolios according to changing market conditions, unlike index funds which are rigid.

While index funds offer low-cost investments, they don’t offer the flexibility and potential growth that actively managed funds do.

No Ceiling on SWP Investments

As mentioned earlier, there is no ceiling on the amount you can invest in SWPs. However, you must consider how much you are withdrawing monthly. Over-withdrawing can erode your capital.

A Certified Financial Planner can help you plan an optimal withdrawal amount. They will ensure that your corpus is not depleted quickly while generating consistent returns.

Final Insights

SWPs are an excellent way to generate regular income, especially for retirees or those looking for a steady cash flow. The flexibility and tax benefits make it an attractive option for many investors.

You should remember, though, that SWPs in equity funds carry market risks, while debt funds offer stability with lower returns. A balance between the two, or opting for hybrid funds, may offer a safer bet for long-term withdrawal plans.

Lastly, avoid direct and index funds if you prefer peace of mind and professional management. By investing through a Certified Financial Planner, you can make sure your investments are aligned with your long-term financial goals, especially if you are considering SWPs.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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