My Husband had recently gone for a Business Trip to Thailand, along with his Colleagues. After he returned, accidentally, I found out some Reports of STD Tests (Thankfully, Negative). But when I interrogated his Colleagues (without my Husband's knowledge), I found out some shocking things. When in Thailand, my Husband & his Male Colleagues had Partied like Bachelors going to Beaches, Massage Parlours, Bars, Pubs & even Strip Clubs, indulging in many Sexual Encounters, to fulfill their kinky fantasies. I was crying when I confronted my Husband about this. He doesn't even seem to feel any Guilt & casually admitted that he was just 'enjoying' for some days. But he promised that he wouldn't do it again, if it is Hurting me. My Husband has a Huge Appetite for Sex & we both used to enjoy a blissful Sex Life for a couple of years after our Marriage, until my Pregnancy. I understand that he might have been Sexually Frustrated while my Body was not available to Sexually entertain him, during the course of Pregnancy & soon after Childbirth. But I never expected that he would resort to something so Dirty, just to satisfy his carnal urges. Should this be counted as 'Cheating' or not? He doesn't even feel that he'd 'Cheated' on me & he's also trying to convince me that this isn't really 'Cheating'. We are New Parents of a Toddler Boy & I'm completely dependent upon him for a while, this is the Main Reason, which is preventing me from Divorcing him, otherwise, I wouldn't tolerate something like this. Now I don't understand how to proceed with the Marriage, without Divorcing him. How can I prevent him from doing it again & again? Shall I expose his philanderous acts in front of both our Families & Humiliate him? Or shall I keep this to myself & use this as a Bargaining Chip, to emotionally blackmail & manipulate him, in the future, to make him do something for me, which he wouldn't have done, otherwise? Or, is there any other way ahead? At present, my Toddler Son is my Priority & I don't want him to suffer unnecessarily, due to no fault of his. Please advise me.

Hi I am 40 yrs old and married for 20 yrs.Our marriage was a love marriage after 2 yrs of dating each other.I have 2 kids one is 16 yrs and other one is 11 yrs old.Recently I had an STD I visited doctor and they said it's because of having multiple partners I am a housewife I don't have any partner other than my husband.but it was suspicious for me so I repeatedly asked my husband and he confessed he used to visit escorts in past.i was in a shock an tremendous pain I didn't expected from him to hide such things.i never expected that he is involved in such acts?I feel cheated now what do to can't understand ?

Hello Anu, I am married for 14 yrs. I have 5 yrs old twins. Currently I am dealing with my husband's extra marital affair with his ex colleague. In 2022 we went to abroad with my husband. But I found it very difficult to adjust with 2 3.5 yrs kids with my son diagnosed with ASD. I came back to India in 6 months.In April 2024 I came to know that my husband went on vacation with his ex colleague in abroad. He even sponsored her flight ticket and entire vacation. They spent 3 nights in a single hotel room. In 14 yrs old marriage despite being love marriage, I had to sponsor my honeymoon and first anniversary. With me he is always on savings mode where as with this woman he does not even care about money. When I confronted, he and his family blamed everything on me. They said it was my fault that I came back to India. Also as per him and his family it is nothing. Friends can travel like that. They pointed everything on my trust issues. He came back to India but he did not even contact me. He just wanted to meet kids. He never accepted his affair. As per him she is just a friend. I wanted divorce first but I asked him whether he wants to marry that woman he said NO. So we started couple therapy. During therapy he accepted his mistakes and said he was alone. That woman was going through her second divorce. And they started chatting on what's app frequently. Then calls and video calls. That woman was in India. He said he wants his family. But he never gave me any details about his affair. I came to know that when he was in India during holiday they went to pune , he lied to me and went to pune to be with her. There also they spent night in 5 star hotel room. I was devasted. This also he did not tell me. Going on vacation, sharing a hotel room , sharing a bed is nothing for them. I am also BE but I feel like he has crossed all boundaries. I was devasted. I felt so much betrayed that I was getting thoughts of suicide but looking at my kids I decided to work on our marriage. In diwali he gifted me a saree, we spent quality time as family. I said let's forget all and start a new life in our new house but please leave that affair. He said ok. But again he cheated. He booked 5 star resort room for her. He even sponsored her flight ticket. I was genuinely trying to save my marriage, to build our bond but he messed it. Even after that he wants to be with me. Recently I lost my job as well. Counselor told me to ignore his affair. But my husband wants me to pay half EMI, half of everything even though he has onsite money. I feel stuck in this marriage now. This man has always neglected my needs.He never respected me, he never valued me the way he is treating that woman. He wants me to perform all wifely duties but also wants to enjoy his time with that woman. Now he is saying he has stopped contact with her. But in Diwali he said the same in temple .when I am asking for divorce he is saying I want his money. He has zero regrets , no remorse of his actions. I am mentally very much disturbed now. I feel worthless and hopeless because of all these things. Now he wants to live with me but he wants me to share all the expenses. I don't trust him now and I don't want to invest my money in this marriage as there is no transparency. He has also disrespected my parents when they went to ask him about his affair. If he loves that woman this much why can't he accept that and leave me? He wants me to take a call. He leaving me would have helped me to move on. Is it worth saving such marriage where there are insecurities, no trust , no transparency, no respect? I put my ego aside for many times but should I also loose my self respect? I have decided to protect myself now.