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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 22, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir Sir meri ek friend relationship mai hai lekin uska boyfriend usko bohot torcher karta hai abuse bolta hai jis karn meri friend uske sath break up karna chahti hai but wo ladka usko blackmail kar raha hai ke wo uske maa baap ko bata dega aur ladki Aisa nhi chahti uske maa baap ko pata chala to uski study rukwa denge meri friend bohot pareshan hai usko kya Karna chahiye

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Trust me, the right thing is to inform her parents about this. Torture is a serious matter and she should not have to tolerate that. I am very sorry that this is happening to her, but please encourage her to break up with the guy and tell her parents the truth. She can simply tell that she used to like someone, but does not anymore. This way, the guy can't blackmail her anymore and her parents will also know that she is not involved with him anymore.

Hope this helps.

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Aap toot chuke ho, yeh toh samajh aa raha hai aur kyon nahin...jab baar baar kisi insaan ke saath dhokaa hota hai woh aise hi tootne lagta hai.
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- Kya aap sab kuch bhulaakar phir se apni vaivaahik jeevan ko sudharna chahenge?
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What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

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