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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi.I am a 35 year old married guy.Due to my Dad's health,me and my wife live with my parents.We have a 2 year old kid.The problem is my mom gets too involved with our lives,wants us to do everything that she wants and if we do not do them she gets angry and starts the usual emotional blackmail stuff .I have very politely asked her not to interfere but she still does not change. It has become extremely difficult staying with her. This has also started causing friction in my relationship with my wife. Me and my wife have our own place which is like 10 mins from my parents house. I have always thought it is better that we move back to our place but my mom is expecting that we stay with her until my dad recovers(which might take a long time). This is all causing me a lot of stress. What do i do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If your own home is just 10 mins, why not actually shift out and manage things from there.
Every growing family like yours need space in terms of mind and physical space. And you do have the option of being close to your parents and caring for them as well, then why not?
Yes, your mother will emotionally blackmail and hold you to ransom, but never ever yield to it as that becomes a template for life whenever she wants something from you. So, take a wise decision, and consider that your wife needs your love, care and support for her to be able to stand by you.
Most often relationships grow and flourish maintaining a distance; being on the face all through the day and being available 24/7 does not mean that you are fulfilling your duties as a son. You can still do what you need to by engaging a nurse (if needed) and explain to your mother that you are going to be around, but just that you need to do that from your own home.
Initially, it will be met with resistance, but do the right thing. You will be successful at not only caring for your father but also forge healthier relationships between your family and your parents. Long-term thinking is necessary as well...
All the best!

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I have been married for a little more than five years and I am living under tremendous stress and depression. We live in a joint family with my parents and an unmarried brother. I had told her all this before marriage. She loves me very much but her attitude towards my relatives has been a matter of concern right from the start. She does not want to keep a relationship with anybody apart from my immediate family. Slowly, she started having problems with my mother also; both have started having minor clashes at home. Many times, it is my mother’s mistake. The main problem is that she is very nagging and complains and gets irritated very frequently at the smallest instance. Frustrated, I planned on separating with her but the news came of her pregnancy and we were blessed with a baby girl. After the baby was born, my wife’s frustration and irritation has increased manifold because of her fear that my mother will give much more love to the baby then she can. So their clashes have increased. Now my wife has been putting a lot of pressure on me to look for a new house away from my parents, since she wants her own space. I already have a home loan on the existing home and a car loan. There is very less scope for me to purchase a new home and I don't want to leave my parents. She just doesn't understand my position and clashes happen between us. Looking at all this, I desperately want to separate from her but can't do so because of our daughter. I love her the most and can't live without her. So I just endure what is happening every day. This has resulted in me slipping into depression. It has affected my work in office as well. I am not performing well, I don't like to speak with any of my friends or relatives, I don't feel like doing anything. I’m living for the sake of my daughter, that's it. Even my parents are not in a position to understand me and my situation so I can't talk to them either. Can you help? Just don’t publish my name.
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Hi

It is unfortunate that you are in this situation.

Your wife is possibly not very inclined to be in a joint family set-up; the reasons maybe many. But isn’t it necessary for you as a husband and a father to look out for your family?

The misunderstandings caused between the two of you over the years because of being in a joint family set-up have never been addressed and much water has flowed under the bridge.

There is a slim chance that matters might get resolved if you get your mother and wife in the same room and iron it out, with you being a neutral person who does not take sides; this is the best option.

If this isn’t possible, kindly visit a family counsellor who can step in and show your family a way to live amicably or give you a perspective on how healthy it might be to live separately.

At the end of the day, you have responsibilities towards your wife and child too!

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Hello madam, I have a very toxic environment at my house, my mother is depressed because my father is 55 years old and looks around other woman in the village, my mother warned him many times but he don't listen to my mother, actually my father is an army retired so during his job they had very little time together, and after retirement there are lots of fights between them, I think my father is such an animal that one day he asked my mother to let him sleep with her friend, so my mother's friend stopped coming in our house, and my mother is short tempered, controlling personality, she wanted to control each and every person in the house, even after my marriage my mother want to control me and my wife, she pulls out our strings , Can I change them ? Or should I leave the house and start living away from them, as I said she is very controlling personality so she will not allow us to live at some other place because she puts a society pressure on us that what people will think, actually I don't care about other people saying but she emotionally blackmail us that she has done a lot of things for me , don't leave me alone in this house like this, I don't know what could be the right step. Should I leave the house and start living on my own or there is some way by which I can change them . Please help me take decision
Ans: Navigating such a complex and toxic family environment is incredibly challenging. It's important to recognize that while you may deeply care for your parents and want to help them, changing deeply ingrained behaviors and dynamics within a family, especially those involving control and emotional manipulation, is extremely difficult. Your mother's controlling nature and your father's inappropriate behavior are significant issues that likely require professional intervention, such as therapy, which they may or may not be willing to pursue.

Given the emotional toll this environment is taking on you, it is crucial to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being. Establishing boundaries is key. If you and your wife are constantly subjected to a controlling and toxic atmosphere, it can severely impact your relationship and personal happiness. Moving out and living independently could provide the necessary space to foster a healthier and more peaceful life. While this decision might be met with resistance and emotional blackmail from your mother, it's important to remember that your responsibility is first to yourself and your immediate family—your wife and, if applicable, your children.

Living separately doesn't mean abandoning your parents. You can still support them from a distance, visiting regularly and offering help when needed. This arrangement can also give your mother the opportunity to address her issues with your father without involving or impacting you and your wife directly. It's about finding a balance between being there for your parents and protecting your own well-being.

Ultimately, moving out could lead to healthier relationships all around, as distance might lessen the daily tension and allow everyone to develop more respectful and less intrusive ways of interacting. This decision requires courage and clear communication. Discuss your plans with your wife, ensure you are both on the same page, and approach your parents with empathy but firmness about your need for independence. While you can't change your parents, you can change how you interact with them and set boundaries to create a healthier environment for yourself and your future family.

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I need advice on how to keep my wife and mom from fighting so much. We are currently staying with my mom due to her having so many health issues. It doesnt help that 3 people are living in a small camper with no privacy. I know most of that is the issue but im afraid to leave my mom alone but she doesn't want to move to a bigger place. I work about 50 hours a week and cannot mediate between them. Ive tried both talking to them separately and together. My mom says my wife does things to intentionally annoy her and my wife says my mom is to controlling. Im trapped in the middle because no matter what i do or say im defending someone. Help please..
Ans: Dear Jay,
Two grown-ups must be allowed to deal with their unique relationship their way. The responsibility of how it turns out is theirs and not yours. So, honestly step back. The reason you possibly might want to play the peacemaker is you feel responsible towards your wife and your mother; please don't and stay off of it. The more you play this role, the more you make them dependent on you.
Yes, it's a difficult thing as a son to leave your mother especially with so many health issues, BUT is she physically incapable of caring for herself? Is it possible that she can live with a sibling of yours or any other family member for a few weeks? This gives you some breathing space and some time with your wife where you connect without the external challenges that are creeping into your relationship with her.
Also, this space will allow both the women to appreciate one another and also learn the valuable presence each has on the family. So, no more mediation BUT time to do something different with less talk and more results. Try this...of course, you need to be prepared to move on from this fear of leaving your mother alone which you are not...it's just requesting her to live with another family member (your sibling OR her sibling).
Slowly, you can bring up the topic of shifting to a larger space whereby each of you have some space from one another. First things first is to diffuse the tension between the two before suggesting any big changes. You can give this a shot, yeah?

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I’m working woman around 35 age living in Chennai with my son aged 6. How can I save tax on my salary income through investments in mutual funds and other tax-saving instruments under Section 80C?
Ans: Understanding Section 80C
Section 80C of the Income Tax Act offers a deduction of up to ?1.5 lakh on your taxable income. This can be claimed by investing in various financial instruments. Here are some popular options that align with your goals:
1. Public Provident Fund (PPF):
• Pros: Safe, long-term investment with guaranteed returns.
• Cons: Lock-in period of 15 years.
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• Pros: Potential for higher returns, shortest lock-in period (3 years).
• Cons: Market-linked risks.
3. National Pension Scheme (NPS):
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• Cons: Early withdrawal penalties.
4. Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY):
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• Cons: Limited to two children, long-term investment.
5. Employee Provident Fund (EPF):
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Sir, I am 45 , lost 1 cr in business and shifted to Job profile and earning 24 LPA, have 1 home of 65 Lacs with 40 Lacs home loan , 20 Lakhs Mediclaim Policy , Nil Investment. what is the way ahead . 1. come out of depts urgently. 2. Build up a little for kids . Have 2 kids 9 and 8 yrs . school bit costly . 5 Lacs per Annum .
Ans: You’ve experienced a major financial setback with a business loss of Rs 1 crore and have since transitioned to a job with an annual income of Rs 24 lakh. Currently, you have a home valued at Rs 65 lakh but with an outstanding loan of Rs 40 lakh, and you’ve mentioned a costly school setup for your two children, with an annual fee of Rs 5 lakh. You also have a Rs 20 lakh mediclaim policy, which provides some security in terms of health coverage. Now, you are keen on clearing your debts, securing your children’s future, and building up a financial cushion.

Given your circumstances, it’s important to prioritize debt repayment, secure your children’s education, and rebuild your financial base. Here’s a step-by-step approach to achieving your goals.

1. Prioritize Debt Repayment
Paying Off the Home Loan
Your home loan of Rs 40 lakh is a significant liability. Considering that you pay Rs 5 lakh annually for your children’s education, this loan will be a major financial burden. However, paying off your home loan aggressively while maintaining your lifestyle is crucial for long-term stability.

Increase EMI Payments: Check if you can increase your home loan EMIs. You could redirect any excess income towards your home loan. Even a small increase in EMI can reduce your overall loan tenure, saving you substantial interest in the long run.

Lump Sum Prepayments: If you get any bonuses or financial windfalls, use them to make lump sum payments towards the principal. This will help reduce the loan quickly.

Refinance Your Home Loan: If your current interest rate is high, consider refinancing the loan to a lower interest rate. Even a small reduction in interest can lead to significant savings over the long term.

2. Build an Emergency Fund
Before starting any investments, you need to establish an emergency fund. This will prevent you from having to take on more debt in case of unforeseen expenses.

Target 6 Months of Living Expenses: Set aside enough money to cover at least 6 months of your family’s living expenses. This should include EMI payments, school fees, and day-to-day expenses. Aim for a fund of Rs 8-10 lakh for emergencies.

Place in a Liquid Fund: You can park this money in a liquid mutual fund or a high-interest savings account. The idea is that it should be easily accessible and provide some returns.

3. Address Kids’ Education
Your children are 9 and 8 years old, and their education is a significant ongoing expense. With annual fees of Rs 5 lakh, the costs are substantial.

Set Up a Dedicated Education Fund: You can begin a systematic investment plan (SIP) in mutual funds dedicated to their future educational needs. Equity mutual funds will provide the best growth over a 10-15 year period, but you’ll need to manage this carefully as they get closer to higher education.

Consider Education Insurance: Although you have a mediclaim policy, an education insurance plan can provide additional coverage in case something happens to you. This will ensure that their education is funded even if you're not around.

4. Start Long-Term Investments for Retirement
Since you have no current investments and a home loan to deal with, start slowly and steadily building your long-term savings. At 45, you have about 15-20 years until retirement, which is enough time to grow a retirement corpus if you act now.

Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs): Start with an SIP in equity mutual funds. Equity funds have the potential to give higher returns over the long term, which is crucial given the time frame. You can start small and increase contributions as your financial situation stabilizes.

Public Provident Fund (PPF): Consider opening a PPF account. Though it has a lower interest rate compared to equity, it provides tax benefits and a risk-free return. It’s ideal for building a portion of your retirement fund.

Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF): If your company provides EPF (Employee Provident Fund), consider contributing extra to the VPF. This will help build a tax-free retirement corpus.

5. Secure Health and Life Insurance
You already have a Rs 20 lakh mediclaim policy, which is good. However, with two young children, securing your family’s future through proper life insurance is critical.

Term Insurance: You should get a term insurance policy that covers at least 10 times your annual income. With a Rs 24 lakh annual salary, consider a Rs 2.5-3 crore term policy. This will ensure your family’s financial security if anything happens to you.

Review Mediclaim Policy: With rising medical costs, a Rs 20 lakh mediclaim policy may not be sufficient. Consider increasing the coverage to Rs 30-40 lakh, depending on your budget.

6. Manage Current Lifestyle and Expenses
Your children’s school fees are Rs 5 lakh annually, which is a significant part of your income. You’ll need to make sure that this expense does not derail your financial goals.

Budgeting: Create a strict budget to ensure that you are able to save and invest every month. Keep discretionary spending to a minimum until you are able to stabilize your financial situation.

Avoid Lifestyle Inflation: As your income grows, it’s important to avoid lifestyle inflation (increased spending as income rises). Prioritize savings and investments instead of increasing your standard of living.

7. Rebuild Your Financial Confidence
Given the business loss, it's understandable to feel financial strain, but you’re taking the right steps by focusing on your job and rebuilding your financial base. The key now is to be consistent and disciplined with your finances.

Stay Positive and Committed: You have the earning capacity and time to rebuild your financial portfolio. Stick to your investment and debt repayment strategies, and you’ll find that progress happens gradually.

Focus on Long-Term Goals: Short-term market fluctuations and financial hurdles may cause concern, but your goal should always be long-term financial stability and security for your family.

Final Insights
Focus on Debt Reduction: Prioritize paying off your home loan and avoid new debts. Use any excess income or bonuses to prepay the loan faster.

Build an Emergency Fund: Secure at least 6 months of expenses in an easily accessible emergency fund before you start investing.

Start Investing for Kids’ Education: Start an education fund with SIPs in equity mutual funds. This will help you cover the cost of their higher education.

Plan for Retirement: Begin SIPs in equity funds and open a PPF account for long-term retirement savings. Consider VPF contributions if available.

Secure Your Family: Increase health insurance coverage if needed and take a term insurance policy of Rs 2.5-3 crore for your family’s protection.

With disciplined savings, prudent investments, and focused debt repayment, you will be able to rebuild your financial future and secure your children’s education as well as your retirement.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
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First of all I want to thank you sir for sharing your advice to the persons in need.I am Shiva and I am 28 years old. My father took a home loan of 35 lakhs in January 2019 .My father's current salary is 87000 rupees after deductions .My father is paying monthly installment of 33500 rupees for home loan.My father doesn't have pension and will retire in 2years. My salary is 50000 rupees after my deductions and I have term life insurance of 1.8 cr. my brother's salary is 1 lakh after deductions and both of us are married .After retirement of my father ,he will lumpsum of 40 lakhs and we do not want to use that to pay our home loan as there was no pension for my parents. How can we pay our home loan without affecting our children education and how can we manage my expenses for my parents and also for ourselves.I and my brother are interested in investing in mutual funds .My brother has health insurance of 10 lakhs which includes my parents .please suggest a way to manage our home loan , children education expenses and we want to become debt free as soon as possible and want to build our wealth. Please give your valuable advice sir.I will be eagerly waiting for that. Thanking you, Shiva
Ans: Hello;

You are most welcome for seeking probable answers to your queries.

After the retirement of your father he may buy immediate annuity from a life insurance company. Considering annuity rate of 6% he can expect to receive a monthly payout of 20 K immediately from next month. (You can try to shop around and negotiate for a better annuity rate).

Out of the monthly payout of 20 K your parents may keep 10 K for own expenses and balance 10 K may be earmarked towards loan emi.

Since home loan emi is 33.5 K, I suggest yourself and your brother can share the balance amount(23.5 K) in equal proportion(11750 per person, per month).

As rightly pointed out your family should focus on early repayment of this home loan by pre paying the principal as much as possible.

If the loan repayment tenure is more than 10 years then yourself and brother may be added as co-owners of the property alongwith your father.

This can then enable yourself and your brother to seek income tax deductions on account of home loan repayment.

This will involve stamp duty, registration and legal expenses so it will make sense only if loan repayment term is more then 10 years.

It would be better if you seek advice from a CA to pursue this option.

Despite the monthly payout of 11750, you and your brother will have surplus funds to invest for other goals.

Good to know that your parents are covered under healthcare insurance.

Your parents may not have left a huge fortune for you both but they have ensured best education for you by virtue of which you are decently settled in life. Keep that in mind.

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Sir I am age of 50 , present I am having own 2 house of buit up area 30 x40 , and gold 30 lakhs and fd of 10 lakhs and lic will come in next year around 40 lakhs , I have to kids one is studying in B.E 2nd yr, and one more 8th std , I have only 10 yrs in my hand I will get retired, presently I started 25000 sip and one ppf of 5k ,is it enough fr my next retirement life....
Ans: You have 10 years until retirement and are keen on assessing your current financial situation. With two kids, one in college and the other in school, it’s important to ensure that your retirement and their future are secure. Let’s analyze your financial position and evaluate whether your current plan is enough for a comfortable retirement.

Current Financial Position
Let’s take a quick look at your assets and existing savings:

Two Houses: You own two houses with a 30x40 built-up area. While real estate adds to your net worth, they may not provide immediate liquidity for retirement. We will focus on financial assets for now.

Gold Worth Rs 30 Lakh: Gold is a good long-term investment. It acts as a hedge against inflation, but it shouldn’t be the sole focus for retirement planning.

Fixed Deposit of Rs 10 Lakh: This is a stable, low-risk investment. However, fixed deposits generally offer lower returns, which might not be sufficient in the long run.

LIC Maturity Next Year: You expect Rs 40 lakh from your LIC maturity next year. This can be a good lump sum amount to invest further for your retirement.

Current SIPs: You’ve started a Rs 25,000 monthly SIP. This is a great step towards building your retirement corpus, especially in equity mutual funds.

PPF Contribution: You are contributing Rs 5,000 per month to PPF. This provides a safe and guaranteed return, ideal for retirement stability.

Assessing Your Retirement Goals
To determine if your current investments are enough, let’s break down some key factors:

1. Retirement Corpus Requirement
Based on your current lifestyle, you will need a retirement corpus that can generate enough income to cover your post-retirement expenses. Assuming your expenses continue to grow with inflation, you will need to account for this in your savings plan.

At retirement, you will need:

Monthly Income for Living Expenses: Estimate your monthly expenses post-retirement. This includes your daily living costs, medical expenses, and any other regular commitments. Typically, you should plan for at least 70-80% of your current monthly expenses, adjusted for inflation.

Inflation: Consider an inflation rate of 6-7% over the next 10 years. This will erode the value of money, meaning you’ll need a higher corpus to maintain the same standard of living.

2. Education Expenses for Your Kids
Your children’s education will likely require significant funding. With one child in BE 2nd year and another in 8th standard, you must plan for both higher education expenses. Factor this into your savings to avoid dipping into your retirement corpus later.

Allocate a portion of your investments for their education costs. Higher education can be expensive, so it’s important to set aside a separate fund for this purpose.
3. Health and Medical Emergencies
Medical costs tend to rise with age. Ensure you have adequate health insurance coverage for you and your spouse. This can safeguard your savings against unforeseen medical expenses.

If you haven’t already, consider increasing your health insurance coverage to Rs 20-25 lakh to cover any medical emergencies.

Evaluating Your Current Investments
Now, let’s assess whether your current investments are aligned with your retirement goals.

1. SIP Contributions
A monthly SIP of Rs 25,000 is a good start. Over the next 10 years, this can grow significantly, thanks to the power of compounding. Continue this investment in equity mutual funds to benefit from long-term market growth. You can expect a higher return from equity funds compared to traditional investments.

Consider increasing your SIP contributions annually. As your salary or income grows, increase your SIP by 10-15% each year. This “step-up” approach will ensure your investments keep pace with your growing needs.
2. Public Provident Fund (PPF)
You are contributing Rs 5,000 per month to PPF. This is a safe and tax-efficient investment that provides guaranteed returns. The current interest rate for PPF is around 7-7.5%. While this is stable, it might not be sufficient on its own to meet your retirement goals. However, it provides a good balance against your riskier equity investments.

Continue your PPF contributions, but rely on it as the stable portion of your retirement corpus. It will act as a safety net in your portfolio.
3. Fixed Deposits (FD)
You have Rs 10 lakh in fixed deposits. While this is a low-risk option, fixed deposits typically offer lower returns. Over time, inflation will erode the purchasing power of these funds.

Consider moving a portion of your FD into better-performing instruments like debt mutual funds, which offer slightly higher returns and are still relatively safe.
4. LIC Maturity
You expect Rs 40 lakh from LIC next year. This is a significant amount, and how you invest it will be crucial for your retirement. Lump-sum investments in mutual funds, balanced between equity and debt, can help grow this corpus efficiently.

Equity Mutual Funds: Consider investing a portion of the Rs 40 lakh into equity mutual funds. This will give you market-linked growth, essential for building a larger retirement corpus.

Debt Mutual Funds: For the more conservative part of your portfolio, invest in debt mutual funds. These are less risky and provide stable returns, balancing your overall investment.

5. Gold as a Backup
You have Rs 30 lakh in gold. While gold is a good hedge against inflation, it’s not a liquid asset that can easily fund regular retirement expenses. You can keep it as a backup or sell it during emergencies if needed. Avoid depending solely on gold for your retirement.

Recommendations for a Secure Retirement
Here are some key actions you should consider:

1. Increase Your SIP Contributions
As mentioned earlier, consider increasing your SIP contributions each year. A gradual increase will help grow your retirement corpus significantly. You might also want to explore investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid mutual funds for diversification.

2. Diversify with Debt Mutual Funds
Debt mutual funds are a safer option for the conservative portion of your portfolio. As you approach retirement, you’ll need to gradually shift your equity investments towards debt to reduce risk. Start with a 10-20% allocation in debt funds now, increasing it as you near retirement.

3. Create a Separate Fund for Children’s Education
Ensure you have separate investments for your children’s education. You can start a dedicated SIP for this purpose, or invest a portion of your LIC maturity and FD towards their higher education needs.

4. Health Insurance
Increase your health insurance coverage if it is insufficient. Medical expenses tend to rise with age, and a higher health insurance cover will prevent you from dipping into your retirement funds.

5. Emergency Fund
Keep at least 6 months of your living expenses in an emergency fund. This fund should be easily accessible and should cover any unexpected expenses, such as job loss or medical emergencies.

6. Avoid Real Estate Investments
As you already own two houses, you should avoid putting more money into real estate. Real estate is not very liquid, and it may not generate the regular income you need during retirement. Focus on financial assets like mutual funds for liquidity and growth.

7. Regularly Review Your Plan
Review your investment portfolio every year. Rebalance it to ensure that your equity-to-debt ratio remains appropriate for your risk appetite and changing goals. As you get closer to retirement, shift more towards conservative investments.

Final Insights
Your current investments are a great starting point, but there is room for improvement. By increasing your SIP contributions, diversifying into debt funds, and planning for your children’s education separately, you will be on track to meet your retirement goals. Ensure that you have enough health insurance and keep a portion of your assets in safe investments like PPF and debt funds. Regularly review and adjust your portfolio to ensure that your investments are aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dear Experts, I am 33 years old now my salary is 35000 per month, i haven't made any investments as of now, I have 1 year girl baby now i wanted to invest now please suggest how i will get 2 to 3 crore while i get retired and my daughter future plan
Ans: You are 33 years old, earning Rs 35,000 per month. Your goal is to accumulate Rs 2 to 3 crore for retirement while also planning for your daughter’s future. Let's break down the process to help you achieve these goals, keeping in mind both your long-term financial security and your daughter's education and other expenses.

Retirement Planning: Building a Rs 2 to 3 Crore Corpus
A time horizon of 25-30 years for retirement gives you an opportunity to build significant wealth. Here's how you can approach this:

1. Start with Equity Mutual Funds
Equity mutual funds are ideal for long-term wealth creation. Since you have a long investment horizon, equities can deliver inflation-beating returns. A Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in diversified equity funds can help you build your retirement corpus.

Make sure to invest a percentage of your monthly income towards equity mutual funds. Start with at least 20-30% of your salary (Rs 7,000 to Rs 10,000 per month). You can increase this amount as your income grows.

Invest in funds that focus on:

Large-cap and mid-cap stocks to balance risk and reward.

Diversified portfolios with exposure to different sectors.

Equity mutual funds offer compounding benefits over time. The longer you stay invested, the greater your potential returns.

2. Increase Your SIP Annually
As your salary increases, increase the amount you invest. Even a 10% increase in your SIP annually will have a significant impact over 25-30 years. This is called the step-up SIP approach.

3. Tax-Saving Investments
You can also consider investing in Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) under Section 80C for tax benefits. ELSS has a lock-in period of 3 years and offers equity-like returns. The tax-saving aspect makes it an attractive option as you build your retirement corpus.

4. Keep Debt Funds for Stability
Although equity funds offer higher returns, it’s good to have some portion of your investment in debt mutual funds for stability. This will help balance market volatility. Start with 10-20% in debt funds. You can increase this allocation as you approach retirement.

Planning for Your Daughter's Future
1. Education Planning
Your daughter’s higher education will likely require a substantial sum when she turns 18. You need to start early to accumulate this amount without putting pressure on your finances.

Equity Mutual Funds for Long-Term Education Planning
A separate SIP for your daughter’s education can be started in equity mutual funds. Education inflation is quite high, and equity investments will help you stay ahead of rising costs. A monthly SIP of Rs 5,000 to Rs 7,000 could be a good start.

Consider Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY)
You are already contributing to Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY), which is a great scheme for your daughter. Continue contributing the maximum possible each year (Rs 1.5 lakh per annum), as this offers a guaranteed return and tax benefits. SSY can form the low-risk component of your daughter’s education plan.

2. Insurance for Protection
Ensure that you have adequate term insurance coverage. You are the primary breadwinner, and your daughter’s future is dependent on your income. A term insurance cover of at least 10 times your annual salary is essential to secure your family’s financial future. Term plans are affordable and should be a priority.

3. Health Insurance for the Family
In addition to life insurance, comprehensive health insurance for your family is essential. Medical emergencies can deplete your savings, so it's better to be prepared. Family floater plans can provide coverage for you, your spouse, your daughter, and your mother. Opt for a policy that covers critical illnesses as well.

Regular Monitoring and Adjustment
1. Review Your Investments Annually
It’s important to track your investments and adjust as needed. Equity funds may need rebalancing based on market performance and your changing risk profile. As you approach retirement, you should gradually shift your portfolio to more stable debt funds.

2. Emergency Fund
Keep at least 6 months’ worth of expenses in an emergency fund. This will provide a financial cushion during unexpected situations. This fund should be liquid and easily accessible, such as in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.

3. Avoid Unnecessary Loans
Try to minimize or avoid unnecessary loans, especially for lifestyle expenses. Paying high-interest loans can drain your resources and slow down your wealth-building process.

4. Stay Disciplined with Long-Term Goals
Discipline is key to achieving long-term financial goals. Avoid the temptation to redeem your investments prematurely. Equity markets can be volatile in the short term but tend to deliver robust returns over the long term.

Final Insights
You are at the perfect stage to start investing for both retirement and your daughter's future. By allocating your resources wisely, you can meet your long-term goals of accumulating Rs 2 to 3 crore and securing your daughter’s education and future.

Start with equity mutual funds through SIPs for long-term wealth creation.

Consider Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter’s secure future.

Balance your portfolio with some debt investments for stability.

Ensure you have sufficient insurance coverage to protect your family.

Regularly review and increase your SIP contributions as your salary grows.

With disciplined savings and strategic investments, you can achieve both your retirement goal and secure your daughter’s future. Remember, the earlier you start, the better your chances of reaching your targets.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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