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Dating Coach - Answered on May 13, 2024

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2024Hindi

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Hi I'm 32+ years old I'm quite chubby that's why didn't get any life partner most of gentlemenans are under qualified or their family is not good they are rejected me so I'm totally fade up now and relatives are also asking about marriage and they are telling. I'm choosy why I'm searching much ..I dnt know what's their problem pls suggest

Ans: So there are 2 concerns as I read (1) you are on the chubbier side (2) men being introduced to you don't match your education requirement and those who do are not taking it ahead for reason #1. Well you are the owner of your life - (1) can you look at correcting your weight if the increase is not due to medical reason. COrrect it not to marry but to feel healthy and fit (2) Look out for partners yourself vs completely relying on others to introduce you to. Look at attending single meetups. Google for them. And its ok to be choosy - after all its a life decision that you are making.

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Dear Love Guru I am 4 ft 8 inches, age 27 yrs and I work in the admin department of a leading MNC. I am the only daughter to my parents and they want me to get married soon. So far I have rejected at least 15 men because they are either too elder to me or have unreasonable expectations from me as a future wife. An equal number of them have rejected me because I am short and earn less than Rs 30,000 per month. I don't have a boyfriend either. My parents are getting worried and I am feeling depressed and hopeless. I don't know what to do. Pls help.

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If you think you're feeling depressed and hopeless now, just because you haven't found someone at 27, wait till you're trapped in an unhappy marriage with someone because you were in such a silly rush to get hitched!

Unreasonable expectations from a wife I can understand, but age is just a number. So, if you're attracted to someone, don't consider age enough of a reason to turn him down unless he's some 60-year-old uncle that wears a toupee. It's as superficial as someone turning you down because you're so short.

I would suggest you get off this fast train you're on and just take things slowly.

People today think nothing of getting married at 35 and having kids at 40; you have a long way to go still!

I know more than a couple of women who rushed into marriage for the same reasons as you -- they thought they were aging, other friends were getting married, they wanted to settle down like everyone else, etc. They got divorced eventually and remarried. In their 30s!

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