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Aruna Agarwal |57 Answers |Ask -Follow

Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on May 09, 2023

Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more

Question by Trilok on May 09, 2023Hindi

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Thanks for your quick response Aruna. He does not want to mingle with us...He has his own set of friends and will always hang around with them. As parents we are totally confused.... how to make him understand that if he studies well then only he can fulfill his desires by getting good job etc. He has a liking for cars, branded shoes, branded dresses. etc

Ans: I can understand your concerns.
If you can not get to him ,start getting closer to his friends and be there with out any judgements .
I know that it's going to be difficult initially but believe me,it is going to help you get closer to him.
First Target should be behavior control.
Talk to him about his liking but give options too to choose.

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Dear Aruna, My child is 16.5 year old and is in 12th Standard. He wanted to pursue JEE and hence we got him admitted to a school who has integrated program where along with CBSE they impart JEE training as well. They also had a hostel facility. We had shifted him to this hostel during his 11th after lot of thinking as he used to waste lot of time gaming and hanging around with his friends...he had got 78% in his 11th and this was because he stayed in the hostel. Now he is saying that he will not go back to the hostel at all and prepare at home. But he does not seem to be serious at all...he has been gaming, hanging around with his friends etc.When asked about all this he says that he is well ware and will do the needful..Off late he started saying that he is not interested in doing JEE and make basket ball as his career...we as parents are very confused...I even have fights with my son because of this...Please advise what needs to be done. I would like that he rejoins hostel as this would make him disciplined and responsible...It is important that he completes his 12th standard with good marks and i feel that staying back home is not going to help at all. he is intelligent and teachers appreciate him a alot..he is also talented but is wasting lots of time...he says that he knows everything and no one need to tell him anything. Whenever he hears abt hostel he gets irritated. This hostel does not allow mobile phones or any electronic gadgets at all.

Ans: As the child is an adolescent and he knows well about the repercussions since he is as intelligent child. You can make the child write down the number of hours he used , let it be as a visual for him on paper. Make a excel sheet for him and ask him to write on this the number of hours being spent on the mobile or gadget each day for next 5 days.

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My Son is in Std 12th and is pursuing PCMC and aspired to appear JEE along with SAT, CET. Now he says that he will not pursue JEE and will be interested to appear CET & SAT...he seems to be without any aim ...When asked abt his dream he is saying he is not sure or rather does not want to convey to parents. We put him in a school with is integrated and gives CBSE with JEE coaching. I would like you to suggest how can we bring out what he wants to do ..He is taking things very casually..whenever he studies he keeps his headphone on and when asked he says that this is the he remembers things...He is not giving hajjis 100 % and always into an argument whenever we ask questions on his career/studies. He was in a hostel in his 11th and now not even interested to go back there but at home he is not even focused. As parents please advise us what need to be done and what will be best for him..He is intelligent and scores 80% but has a capability to get 95%

Ans: Hello Trilok,
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With parents child usually feels the fear of being judged & avoids sharing all things with them.

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Hi Ma'm I have a son studying in Class 9th except school he was not interest in books he alway want to play that too max time on Mobiles. We are trying to avoid him with mobile. if mobile is not available he is busy with TV, if any scold on him he will leave home and go for play with his friends at ground but he is not showing any interest on studying. can you suggest how to handle this situation Hari Krishna Visakhapatnam (AP)

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