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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on May 09, 2023

Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more
Trilok Question by Trilok on May 09, 2023Hindi
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Thanks for your quick response Aruna. He does not want to mingle with us...He has his own set of friends and will always hang around with them. As parents we are totally confused.... how to make him understand that if he studies well then only he can fulfill his desires by getting good job etc. He has a liking for cars, branded shoes, branded dresses. etc

Ans: I can understand your concerns.
If you can not get to him ,start getting closer to his friends and be there with out any judgements .
I know that it's going to be difficult initially but believe me,it is going to help you get closer to him.
First Target should be behavior control.
Talk to him about his liking but give options too to choose.
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Addition to electronic gadgets is one of the problems, some parents face nowadays.

First of all, approach a good Professional / Qualified Student Counsellor along with your son in your locality. Make sure, the Counsellor has Psychology Background also. There might be some changes. If needed, you can approach a Psychologist, having specialised knowledge in Counselling the children of your son's age.

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5) Make sure, atmosophere at home is good. Such as, parents also should avoid spending too much time on Electronic Gadgets. Most of the children imitate only their parents.
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