Thanks for your quick response Aruna. He does not want to mingle with us...He has his own set of friends and will always hang around with them. As parents we are totally confused.... how to make him understand that if he studies well then only he can fulfill his desires by getting good job etc. He has a liking for cars, branded shoes, branded dresses. etc

Ans: Social skills are a very important part of over all development which helps the child to learn emotional growth too. You can invite one or two of his friends for a week and keep introducing him to more people gradually in your presence and fade away your self gradually.

Ans: First, consider his feelings and intentions. If he's already decided to follow his family's wishes and marry someone else, talking to his parents might not change his mind. It's crucial to understand where he stands and whether he's willing to fight for your relationship. If he isn't, even if his parents were supportive, it might not lead to the outcome you hope for.

Also, think about the dynamics within his family. If his family is very traditional or if they've already made up their minds about his marriage, your conversation with them could potentially create tension or conflict. It might also put additional pressure on him, which could strain your relationship further.

Your emotional well-being is another important factor. Speaking with his parents could be emotionally challenging, and if they don't respond positively, it might lead to further hurt. It's important to weigh whether the potential outcome is worth the emotional risk.

If you do decide to talk to his parents, it’s essential to have his support or at least inform him beforehand. Going behind his back could cause issues between you two, especially if he’s already made his decision.

If you still feel strongly about talking to his parents and believe it could make a difference, approach the conversation calmly and respectfully, explaining your feelings and the depth of your relationship. However, be prepared for the possibility that it might not lead to the outcome you desire.

Ultimately, the decision should be based on what you believe is best for your emotional well-being and future. If you feel that talking to them might bring you some closure or help you better understand the situation, then it could be worth considering. Just make sure you're prepared for whatever response you might receive.

Ans: Pravin Sir,

Addition to electronic gadgets is one of the problems, some parents face nowadays.

First of all, approach a good Professional / Qualified Student Counsellor along with your son in your locality. Make sure, the Counsellor has Psychology Background also. There might be some changes. If needed, you can approach a Psychologist, having specialised knowledge in Counselling the children of your son's age.

Follow-up counselling sessions with the counsellors are also important until he changes his attitude.

If possible, visit his college and request for couselling your son. Almost all colleges have counsellors who can help.

Some other tips:

1) Tell him, he also can become YouTuber. But ask him what plans he has to become a YouTuber?
2) Switching off WiFi & being authoritarian will not work.
3) Communicate or interact with him politely whenever possible.
4) Tell him he can use his mobile but, at the same time should focus on his studies as well.
5) Make sure, atmosophere at home is good. Such as, parents also should avoid spending too much time on Electronic Gadgets. Most of the children imitate only their parents.
6) If possible, tell him to participate in physical activities as well.

All the BEST for Your Bright Future.

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