Dear Sir,
I had done counselling 4 times he behave very well manner child in front of counselor but again behaving same when he started avoiding to come to counselor i arrange counselor to come at home but result is same good behavior front of counselor he agreed everything what counselor is saying but after counselor session is over result is same watching mobile not eating food not doing exercise sitting in one place watching mobile and every time is saying i am not feeling well my body paining almost 6 month had past saying the same word my body is paining i had shown to doctors check the blood also report are normal in his mind is that if i am not felling well dad will not send me to college and his body also reacting the same when he get in morning always saying my body is paining.
we are both working parent he alone at home we hardly get time to watch gadgets,we always encourage him about his Carrier to do something and explain the fact also we are getting retired soon then how you manage your expenses he is saying i am not worried about any thing
please suggest sir how can i make him understand his responsibility he is the only child of us .
Ans: Pravin Sir,
One of the important points that you have mentioned is that you BOTH are working, and he has been alone at home which should not have happened. And since which standard he has been alone at home & since when he has been using mobile are also 2-other important factors that have led to this problem.
One of the reasons, I had already & correctly mentioned is that, 'lack of communication/interaction' by parents, which is applicable to your son.
Now, the first (and may be only) solution is that either you or your mother have to quit the job and look after him at home. If you both are in Govt. Jobs, it is difficult to quit, but no other option in the interest of & for the future of your son.
If you want to have control over / get something, you will have to lose something.
(Or) if you both cannot leave the job, you have to arrange for a male caretaker / any of your close / trustworthy relatives who can take care of him.
(Or) You will have to drop him from the college and make him join some short-term courses with any of your nearby reputed institutes which provide job assistance/job guarantees. And he should keep upgrading his skills (by joining online/offline short-term part-time courses) after he joins any job, & gains experience.
Above all, you should definitely make sure that someone is available with him at home from now. If you fail to do this, new problems will come, Sir. You can seek the help of his (good) friends to change his behaviour as one of the options.
