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Manoj Question by Manoj on Dec 10, 2024Hindi
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Exactly the same issue with my Son. Has started bad habits which is in early stage & doesn't seem it had engulfed him. Took him to doctor, In vain. The psychiatry docs charge so heavy for nothing actually. Never understands whatever i sugest, careless, adult friends are misleading him. I have left for his fate to carry forward. i cant help him any more

Ans: Don't lose hope please, look for a psychologist, keep looking till you find the right fit for your son. As a father you need to keep striving till your son is no tack, you are faced with a challenge, face it boldly but calmly, like an adult, you are the adult here Manoj ji don't give up on your son. You keep your efforts going...of course there is fate, but you can't stop trying, he is just 17, not even an adult. Go talk to his friends, their parents, anything that can help your son. You are hurt that your son has become like that... but without getting your emotions out, just calmly look for a solution, you'll find it, I am very sure of that.
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