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Self-improvement Expert - Answered on Jan 30, 2023

Virender Kapoor is the former director of Pune's Symbiosis Institute of Management and the founder of the Management Institute for Leadership and Excellence in Pune.He has authored more than 36 books on self-improvement designed for school students, senior managers and CEOs.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jan 17, 2023Hindi
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If you’re serious about getting better at something, then one of the first steps is to know—in black-and-white terms—where you stand. Do we need self-awareness before you can achieve self-improvement.

Ans: Of course this is the most important- Self awareness, your SWOT ANALYSIS. Do this before you work on self improvement.
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Reflect and Learn: Take some time to reflect on what went wrong and what you could have done differently. This reflection can help you identify areas for improvement in your study habits, strategies, or approach to exams.
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Positive Self-Talk: Replace self-criticism with positive self-talk. Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with constructive and encouraging ones. Remember that setbacks do not define your future success.
Focus on Well-being: Pay attention to your physical and mental well-being. Exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, get enough sleep, and practice relaxation techniques like meditation or deep breathing to reduce stress.
Stay Motivated: Find sources of motivation and inspiration. This could be reading success stories, attending motivational talks, or connecting with people who have achieved similar goals.
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Consider Alternatives: If you find that pursuing a competitive exam isn't the right path for you or that it's causing you too much stress, it's okay to explore alternative career options that align with your interests and strengths.
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Hello Archana mam, I’ve always been fascinated by fashion, styling, and personal transformation, and back in 2022, I dreamed of joining the ICBI. Unfortunately, life had other plans, and I couldn’t pursue it at the time. But now, I’m finally on this journey to becoming an image consultant and soft skills trainer, and I’m loving every step of it! One thing I’ve realised is how much this process is helping me grow—not just professionally but personally too. My mentors have emphasised the importance of transforming yourself first before guiding others. My question is: As someone stepping into this field, how do I ensure that my own journey of self-improvement stays consistent while also balancing the responsibility of helping others? How can I make sure that my growth inspires others authentically?
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While on this journey, you can look up to someone and be inspired, but do not compare yourself with others and be sad! It’s your journey to live at your pace.
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It shows persistence, effort, and desire to improve.

Most people give up.
You didn’t.
That means you will succeed — but with the right method, not the old one.

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