hi there, I am worry about my self. every time I only think is about my self. I don't care about the people around me. I think I'm becoming a Selfish person bay by day. is there any... can I do with it.

Ans: Dear Deepak,
To clarify to you:
Negative thoughts and depression are not the same. Also, negative thoughts that are not handled well can over a period of time lead to low moods, fatigue and in chronic cases lead to depression.

This should tell you that what you possibly are dealing with is negative thoughts or what i would like to call: Not-so-useful thoughts.
Does anything trigger this in you?
Is it any particular time of the day?

What you can do:
Introduce walking/jogging/exercise everyday at least for 30-40 mins
Journal your thoughts whatever they may be
Move around in social circles that talk about positive things
Check what you watch on the OTT platforms and if it's dark and dreary, change your watchlist
Spend a lot of time in Nature

All the best!

Ans: Dear Tapash,
Overthinking happens when you try and control the result of anything/situation. These can be from a past event or a future happening both of which are not in your control.

The simple ways to move away from overthinking are:
1. Be in the NOW; start by paying attention to what you do...even if you are brushing your teeth, observe how you are doing it, how you drink of a cup of tea/coffee, how you travel to work
2. Focus on your breath; simply observe how your breath falls and rises
3. Spend time at parks and green places; you will find yourself calming down
4. Journal; every night before you sleep, write about your day - all good and not so good
5. Express gratitude; simply being thankful can change the patterns of thinking and help you calm down

Do this everyday for a month to notice a change that you will be happy about.
If you still find that things can better, seek professional help someone who has dealt with anxiety cases. But. the one month remedy does work wonders and continue even after that month to sustain the changes...

All the best!

Ans: You need to help yourself, you need to talk to yourself to forget things...no one else can do it for you. Those who overthink usually have enough time in their hands, work in doing something productive in this 'overthinking time' - read a book, watch a fun movie with the wife, go for walks with the wife or without her, help her in the house , play board games as a family, learn yoga, join dance or painting classes together or solo.... You are responsible on how you behave and wish to lead your life. I may not be able to respond beyond this....however it will be nice to get an update after 30 days. All the best