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Manish Kumar Question by Manish Kumar on Nov 01, 2023Hindi
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hi there, I am worry about my self. every time I only think is about my self. I don't care about the people around me. I think I'm becoming a Selfish person bay by day. is there any... can I do with it.

Ans: Dear Manish,
Self-care and Self-love is a good thing but if you have begun to worry about yourself incessantly, then please evaluate:
- when did this actually begin? what led to this?
- what events or people trigger this worry?
Now,
- leave the house for a couple of minutes when you get into the loop of worry
- break into a run/brisk walk when you feel the discomfort from these thoughts that lead you to worrying
- journal every day about the things that you are thankful for
- create a good social circle that helps you grow and flourish
- indulge in some hobby for at least 15-20 mins in a day

These are mere suggestions; do try them...but if you find yourself not improving, kindly seek someone who can guide you to work with the mind. The mind needs to be trained in a manner that is conducive to your physical and emotional health. So, it requires a lot of dedication and persistence to want to make that change...
So, if you feel changing will do you good, then please do all that takes you to change...

All the best!

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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself. 6. Is there any way I can talk/chat 1 to 1 to U, so I can get more detailed & affective treatment/advice..
Ans: The key here isn't to focus on "doing everything" or even "doing it perfectly." It's about starting small, with manageable steps, and building trust with yourself that you can complete things. When we overthink, our mind creates these massive, overwhelming expectations that paralyze us. By breaking things down into smaller, more achievable actions, you give yourself the opportunity to build momentum, which in turn builds confidence.

Your mind may be craving structure and direction, which is why following orders from others feels easier. But when it comes to leading yourself, that fear creeps in because you’re stepping into uncertainty. It’s important to recognize that this fear is not a sign that you should quit — it’s actually a sign that you're stepping out of your comfort zone, which is where growth happens.

It's also okay to feel vulnerable or unsure about what you truly want from life, especially in your first year of college when everything is still unfolding. You're at a stage where exploring different interests and making mistakes is part of the process. It’s important to be kind to yourself in this phase, recognizing that it's okay to not have it all figured out yet.

I can sense the pain behind your words, especially with the thoughts you’re having about self-worth and even more distressing feelings. I want you to know that these thoughts, while deeply personal, are shared by many who feel overwhelmed or lost. You’re not alone in this, and there is always a way to break free from this cycle, but it requires a blend of compassion for yourself and small, committed action.

I’m here to support you as you navigate this. While I can’t do 1-on-1 real-time conversations, I'm always ready to guide you through these thoughts and help you find practical ways to move forward. You deserve to feel peace and purpose, and that starts with allowing yourself the grace to begin imperfectly.

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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.
Ans: Dear Harsh,
If in the past you have had the urge to QUIT, how is this time going to be different? This is not to discourage you from taking up 'new work' but pointing out that there is some amount of work that you need to put to clear the mind out of blockages.
-What is limiting you?
- What is the reason for putting off things?
- What comes first to the mind when you start something new?
Also, focus on one thing at a time; study and go deep into it...what's this thing with work? I don't understand. When the mind is unsettled, take one thing/activity, pursue it and finish it. It could simply be studying for Year 1 of your college...just only do that...once your mind is trained in completing an activity, you can add another one the next year along with studying and then pursue both...it could be some sport and studying...then the next year, you could add a third activity. This is called 'training the mind in discipline'. Discipline will make sure that you start and finish things...So, go slow and do one thing at a time.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hello mam I'm Ankur , CSE(1 yr), 20 yr old boy and Every new day is new hope, but when it ends ,I'm still same & now I have lost the belief in me & everything else also. But still I get voices/images in my head of being good, doing work, making money, changing lives and things which i want to do, but fear/hesitate to do them. And that's why I try to find solutions of it by reading(self help, comedy)books, yoga(sometimes),.. but after 3-4 days I get defeated. And the vicious life starts again..(quiet, distracted, alone,..). I use mobile a lot( Yt, Po*n, reading material(self- help), speech(motivation), ..) but I use this as a way by which I can forget the stress/life condition/problems.. clearly "NO CONTROL". I'M writing so maybe i can get some relief & solution..
Ans: Dear Work,
Well if motivational gyaan helped all of us, there would be no sadness or anger or anxiety in any of us, right? All this material available in plenty, and it helps to make us aware of what can be done to improve oneself. But what is also required is to find the root cause of the stress and looping into things that add more stress.
See an expert who can work on core issues that you carry within you. Without knowing details, I will be generalizing and what you require now is for someone to guide you not just through motivation but also touching through the root cause of what is not working for you.

All the best!
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