I already know that but girls are always surrounded with someone or when they are alone they are busy talking to someone or listening to music. How can I start in such cases. If you can mention the steps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

What you are facing is very common. The first step is to remember that you are not alone. Even the best of us face it. Second, have you tried dating apps? There is no speaking face to face, which substantially helps with the nervousness. You can chat with people for days before you even decide to meet them in person. You can also attract the people who can perfectly match your vibe, making it easier for you to feel more comfortable and relaxed with them.

Other than that, here are few tips you can try-

Start small. Start with small talks. You don't need to have a full blown conversation in the very first attempt. Say Hi, smile, or ask her about her day. If you feel shy to speak, master the art of listening. Women love a man who can actively listen. Third, be genuine and be yourself. The more you pretend to impress a girl, the trickier it can be to keep up the act. Moreover, you will be preoccupied with your pretense and won't focus on the quality of the conversation. Be you. Fourth, learn from your experience. Good or bad, experiences can teach us a lot. Reflect on the past conversations; the ones that went well and ones that didn't. Identify what worked and what needs improvement. And lastly, be patient. Building confidence can take a while. Not all of us are naturally blessed with it. Some of us have to work for it. But in the end, it will be worth your while.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Vivaansh,

Making female friends might seem daunting, especially for an introvert, but it is almost similar to making a male friend. All that matters is compatibility. You can try approaching girls in your college. Of course, if they seem interested too. Start with a hi. In case, they don't want to continue the conversation, please don't try to convince them.

You have another option- dating apps. They are not just for dating. You can make plenty of friends on dating apps. Write an engaging Bio. Write a little bit about yourself and the kind of friend that you are looking for to attract the right matches. Put a recent and clear picture as your display image. You can find like-minded people on these apps.

Try either option; it should work.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand what you are looking for and the best way to get there is baby steps. You can start by putting yourself a little out of your comfort zone every day- for instance, if you like someone, even as a friend, say your HIs and Hellos and try to make a conversation. It might be difficult at first, but you will get better at it soon. Then once you like a girl in more than friendly ways, you will be prepared for an interaction- you can start with a simple hi, and discuss matters that interest both of you. You can ask her out for coffee, and it does not have to be a date immediately. Make her feel comfortable around you and if she signals some form of boundaries, respect them. Rest, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. You are perfect the way you are.
Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Vidhan,
To identify if a girl is emotionally available, you need to pay attention to how she engages with you on a deeper level. Emotional availability shows in how openly and comfortably she communicates her feelings. If she talks about her emotions, her past, and her vulnerabilities without hesitation or discomfort, it’s a strong sign that she’s emotionally open. People who are emotionally available are consistent in how they treat you—they reach out regularly, show interest in your life, and don’t send mixed signals or create confusion about where you stand.

Another important sign is how she responds when you open up to her. If she listens attentively, responds with warmth, and shows genuine interest in understanding your emotions rather than dismissing them or changing the subject, she’s likely emotionally present. Someone who’s emotionally available will make you feel safe expressing yourself without fear of being judged or ignored. She won’t avoid emotional conversations or seem uncomfortable when things get deep. Instead, she’ll engage with you and try to meet you emotionally.