I already know that but girls are always surrounded with someone or when they are alone they are busy talking to someone or listening to music. How can I start in such cases. If you can mention the steps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Fixating yourself on a girl friends circle is going to cause you more anxiety, Instead, build a strong friends circle and eventually you will get comfortable interacting with just about anyone.
And oh, office romances are not cool...be careful lest one of you cross the boundary and put your jobs at risk...So expanding your social circle seems to be a better thing to do and slowly you will develop that confidence to approach women not to just have a relationship with them but also meaningfully engage with them. Who knows after that how things can turn in your favor!

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

If you are finding it difficult to meet girls IRL, why don't you try out dating apps? It can be perfect for you. First of all, the chances of getting friend-zoned on a dating app are comparatively lower because it is a dating app and most users are using it to find a date. Yes, some people look for friends too but they will either mention it on their Bio or match with people who mentioned the same on their Bio.

I suggest you research a bit and find a dating app that fits your requirements. For instance, some apps cater to people looking for serious commitment and some others are solely for casual relationships. You pick a dating app based on your preference. Next step- build an interesting profile. Put a display image that helps you put your best foot forward. Something recent, clear, and impressive. Do not overedit; it's not appealing. Write a clear and concise bio that gives a glimpse of who you are, what you want in a relationship, and what you can offer. This way, you will attract the right type of matches. Make it clear that you want a romantic relationship to avoid getting friend-zoned. Finally, once you match, spend some time chatting and getting to know each other. A match is not a commitment. If it doesn't go well, you can always tell them that it's not working out and unmatch.

It's the best way to meet a potential partner without leaving room for misunderstanding and ending up being friend-zoned.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Vivaansh,

Making female friends might seem daunting, especially for an introvert, but it is almost similar to making a male friend. All that matters is compatibility. You can try approaching girls in your college. Of course, if they seem interested too. Start with a hi. In case, they don't want to continue the conversation, please don't try to convince them.

You have another option- dating apps. They are not just for dating. You can make plenty of friends on dating apps. Write an engaging Bio. Write a little bit about yourself and the kind of friend that you are looking for to attract the right matches. Put a recent and clear picture as your display image. You can find like-minded people on these apps.

Try either option; it should work.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand what you are looking for and the best way to get there is baby steps. You can start by putting yourself a little out of your comfort zone every day- for instance, if you like someone, even as a friend, say your HIs and Hellos and try to make a conversation. It might be difficult at first, but you will get better at it soon. Then once you like a girl in more than friendly ways, you will be prepared for an interaction- you can start with a simple hi, and discuss matters that interest both of you. You can ask her out for coffee, and it does not have to be a date immediately. Make her feel comfortable around you and if she signals some form of boundaries, respect them. Rest, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. You are perfect the way you are.
Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Vidhan,
To identify if a girl is emotionally available, you need to pay attention to how she engages with you on a deeper level. Emotional availability shows in how openly and comfortably she communicates her feelings. If she talks about her emotions, her past, and her vulnerabilities without hesitation or discomfort, it’s a strong sign that she’s emotionally open. People who are emotionally available are consistent in how they treat you—they reach out regularly, show interest in your life, and don’t send mixed signals or create confusion about where you stand.

Another important sign is how she responds when you open up to her. If she listens attentively, responds with warmth, and shows genuine interest in understanding your emotions rather than dismissing them or changing the subject, she’s likely emotionally present. Someone who’s emotionally available will make you feel safe expressing yourself without fear of being judged or ignored. She won’t avoid emotional conversations or seem uncomfortable when things get deep. Instead, she’ll engage with you and try to meet you emotionally.