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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 10, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2025Hindi
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Hi I am 18 year guy want to know how to approach a girl and communicate with them I don't know the right way to talk to girls I am little introvert and want to be a extrovert kindly give some tips for it

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand what you are looking for and the best way to get there is baby steps. You can start by putting yourself a little out of your comfort zone every day- for instance, if you like someone, even as a friend, say your HIs and Hellos and try to make a conversation. It might be difficult at first, but you will get better at it soon. Then once you like a girl in more than friendly ways, you will be prepared for an interaction- you can start with a simple hi, and discuss matters that interest both of you. You can ask her out for coffee, and it does not have to be a date immediately. Make her feel comfortable around you and if she signals some form of boundaries, respect them. Rest, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. You are perfect the way you are.
Best Wishes.

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Hi, I am 25+ years of old. Earning a handsome ammount of money arround 1lakh. I am a introvert, kind of kanjus you can say. I don't have any gf. I had one one one-sided relationship but because of low self confidence I didn't able to express my feelings. I don't feel myself as a ugly person but I am over waight, facing hair fall recently that's why I lose confidence approaching girls. I tried few dating apps but use. As I am a introvert I don't like to go to parties but definitely become comfortable after knowing the other person. Currently in Bangalore but being from a remote area I don't feel comfortable approaching a girl. What should I do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how you are feeling. First of all, you are not alone in this. Secondly, it's time you recognize how much you have achieved in life. Kudos to that.

Now, coming to your concern, being an introvert is not an issue, though it comes with its own set of challenges. I understand that you feel shy when it comes to talking to women. That's where dating apps come in. You have seen no results on them; I hear you. But give it another try, but this time, with a fool-proof strategy. First off, write an appealing bio. It's equivalent to writing a cover letter- you put forward your best attributes and convince people why they should date you. You can mention your achievements, you can be honest and disclose that you are an introvert, mention what you have to offer as a partner and don't forget to mention what you are looking for in your partner. This would give your potential matches a concise idea of you and also help attract the right people. Second, display image matters. While I am not encouraging you to put up an over-edited picture hiding your imperfections, do not put up the worst one either. Make sure it's recent, decent, and of you and you alone, and not in a group. Third, if you like somebody, don't be afraid to send a message. You are not committing to them, nor do you have to see them in person. Leave a message, interact, only if things go well, meet in person. There's no rush and no prior commitment. Fourth and the most important one, be patient. The right match can take a while but when you do find them, it will be worth the wait.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 30, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am 27 M. I am a introverted person but not that much I love meeting new people, party, travelling etc. But Whenever I try to talk with any girl I forgot everything that I want to express and also feels bit nervous and shy. So many thoughts are in my mind but I am unable to express that in front of others, I simply forgot. How can I improve my communication skills with other girls and feel confident about myself.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

What you are facing is very common. The first step is to remember that you are not alone. Even the best of us face it. Second, have you tried dating apps? There is no speaking face to face, which substantially helps with the nervousness. You can chat with people for days before you even decide to meet them in person. You can also attract the people who can perfectly match your vibe, making it easier for you to feel more comfortable and relaxed with them.

Other than that, here are few tips you can try-

Start small. Start with small talks. You don't need to have a full blown conversation in the very first attempt. Say Hi, smile, or ask her about her day. If you feel shy to speak, master the art of listening. Women love a man who can actively listen. Third, be genuine and be yourself. The more you pretend to impress a girl, the trickier it can be to keep up the act. Moreover, you will be preoccupied with your pretense and won't focus on the quality of the conversation. Be you. Fourth, learn from your experience. Good or bad, experiences can teach us a lot. Reflect on the past conversations; the ones that went well and ones that didn't. Identify what worked and what needs improvement. And lastly, be patient. Building confidence can take a while. Not all of us are naturally blessed with it. Some of us have to work for it. But in the end, it will be worth your while.

Best Wishes.

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Sir my daughter got Air 31,203 (GEN category) in JEE Mains. She got NIT Calicut energy engineering and BITS UB 2+2 CSE. She is interested in both computer science and physics.Should she choose between the two or participate in csab. which would be the best choice? and is doing the bits ub 2+2 really worth its money based on how much they learn from both the colleges will it be equal to or better than normal bits CSE program.
Ans: Based on the following insights and information, as well as your daughter's interests and long-term goals & affordability of the fee, choose the most suitable option for her: The BITS Pilani–University at Buffalo 2+2 CSE dual-degree offers two years at BITS Pilani (or Goa/Hyderabad) and two years at UB’s Jacobs School of Engineering, delivering a unified NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited curriculum. It features PARAM supercomputing access, global immersion, capstone projects and a centralized Career Development Centre recording over 90% CSE placement consistency. The dual alumni networks and international accreditation improve top-tier software recruitment and global mobility; however, the total fees and overseas living costs are significantly higher.

As a general-category candidate, the CSAB-Special Round 2025 closing ranks for mid-tier IIITs and GFTIs provide tertiary backup options: IIIT Ranchi’s CSE (AI quota) closed at ranks 31,909–34,325, IIIT Manipur’s CSE-Quantum closed at ranks 45,341–53,737, and peripheral GFTIs such as PEC Chandigarh admit CSE candidates up to rank ~40,000. These options are less attractive than the secured dual degree and energy-engineering seats but remain feasible contingencies.

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recommendation Embrace the BITS-UB 2+2 CSE dual-degree for premier global CS training, robust >90% placements, and dual alumni networks. Secure NIT Calicut Energy Engineering for specialized power-sector expertise and strong core-energy placements. Treat CSAB general rounds (IIIT Ranchi CSE, IIIT Manipur CSE-Quantum or PEC Chandigarh CSE) as third-tier backups, focusing on peripheral institutes with closing ranks above 31,203. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my son got 77377 crl rank in mains and 24k obc ncl rank with homestate rajasthan can he get any college with branch like cse/it/ai/ece Or what about gl bajaj delhi
Ans: Ashish Sir, With an OBC-CL home-state rank of 24 000, admission into core branches at Rajasthan’s MNIT Jaipur and IIIT Kota via CSAB-Special is feasible for certain programmes, while seats at other NITs/IIITs will likely remain out of reach.

At MNIT Jaipur, the Home-State OBC-NCL closing rank for Computer Science & Engineering extended to about 49 000 in CSAB-Special Round 2, making CSE admission virtually assured with your daughter’s rank. However, ECE seats under HS-OBC-NCL closed near 3 400, and AI/Data Science around 6 800, both well below 24 000, so these branches are not attainable at MNIT Jaipur.

IIIT Kota, as a Rajasthan campus, offers Home-State HS-OBC-NCL seats in CSE closing near 67 000, Artificial Intelligence & Data Engineering near 10 500, and ECE close around 12 600, all of which comfortably cover an OBC-NCL rank of 24 000, making these programmes strong targets in CSAB-Special.

Beyond these, other NITs in non-home-state quotas (e.g., NIT Calicut, NIT Uttarakhand) and peripheral IIITs may fill seats well below 24 000 under OS-OBC-NCL quotas, but they will not benefit from Home-State priority. Government-Funded Technical Institutes like PEC Chandigarh and MIET Jhansi admit CSE/ECE under OBC-NCL up to ranks of 40 000–70 000, offering additional assured pathways. GL Bajaj Delhi, as a private institution, participates in state or university counselling (e.g., JAC Delhi), not CSAB, and hence is not an option in this process.

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Prioritise Computer Science & Engineering at MNIT Jaipur under HS-OBC-NCL for its assured cutoff. Simultaneously apply to IIIT Kota’s CSE and AI/DE programmes under HS-OBC-NCL for guaranteed admission. As backups within CSAB, list IIIT Kota ECE and GFTIs like PEC Chandigarh for core-branch seats under OBC-NCL quotas. However, have some Private Engineering Colleges as back-ups with son's JEE Score instead of relying only on CSAB. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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