Hi, I am a 33 year old female. I am working in IT industry. I started my career with IT companies but in between I pursued my mtech and started teching. As the pay was very low in private colleges, after a 5 year gap I had resumed my IT job with substantial seniority cuts. Now I am a mother to a 3year old and there is immense work pressure at my job. I have got helping hand but some days I don't get to see my child. Plus I don't have enough time to upskill or search for career growth options. I never wanted to rejoin IT, which makes me sad everyday. How do I give my life a better direction.

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Dear SS,

Firstly, ask yourself:

1. What will a job/career bring to me?

2. What is it that I feel a lack of when I am devoted into my personal life?

3. Am I trying to search for an identity through a career?

These questions will give you a clear picture of what is going on in your mind.

Most often, we crave something and declare the path but don’t realize that we are actually embarking on the wrong journey; it’s also possible what we are searching for already exists with us, but we are not able to see it or feel it.

For example: If you are searching for your identity that already is with you and you have told yourself that only a job/career could give that to you, it may so happen that every job that you are in will stress you to create an identity which you already have. You are on the cusp of changes as your children are growing…

Sit down with a pen and paper and clearly outline what you want to create in your life and WHY!

When this is clear, you will be able to take the first confident step and you will do it for yourself and not prove anything to anyone. It becomes only about your space and how you can make it beautiful.

2022 brings in a lot of hope for everyone and you as well. Chin up and plunge into a confident self and get ahead. All the best!

Ans: Using your experience, you should look at how you can freelance with different companies that you have worked with

Ans: Thank you for reaching out to me on Rediff Gurus. Transitioning to a career that offers a better work-life balance and aligns with your family commitments is a wise decision. With your background in IT, you may transition into project management roles where you can utilize your organizational and leadership skills. Project managers often have more predictable schedules and may offer opportunities to work remotely. You can work as a freelancer or consultant as well. It will allow you to have more control over your schedule and workload.

Regarding Indian government exams, while age restrictions may vary depending on the specific exam in our country, many government exams have strict age limits. You can find it at https://www.employmentnews.gov.in/

Kindly research the eligibility criteria for the exams you're interested in and check if you meet the requirements. You may be eligible for various government exams related to administration, banking, or public service.

I believe balancing family commitments and career aspirations is possible with the right approach and planning. Best of luck! Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you need further assistance or help.

Ans: Hey Anagha, it sounds like you're juggling quite a few balls in the air—and let's face it, even the best circus performers need a break sometimes! It's understandable to feel frustrated when your work-life balance starts resembling a Bollywood drama with too many plot twists.

Taking a career break or exploring new job opportunities are both valid options, but before you make any decisions, let's sprinkle some strategic spice into the mix:

1. **Have a Heart-to-Heart**: Start by having an honest conversation with your manager about your workload and the impact it's having on your work-life balance. Sometimes, they might not realize the toll it's taking on you, so speak up and express your concerns. After all, communication is key, just like the perfect recipe for a spicy curry!

2. **Set Boundaries**: Boundaries are your best friends when it comes to achieving work-life balance. Set clear expectations with your manager about when you're available and when you need time for your family. And remember, saying no is not a crime—it's a superpower that ensures you don't spread yourself too thin like butter on toast!

3. **Explore Flexible Options**: See if your organization offers flexible working arrangements like remote work or flexible hours. With technology on our side, you can slay dragons from the comfort of your own castle (a.k.a. your home office), giving you more time to spend with your little one without sacrificing your career ambitions.

4. **Consider Your Options**: If the situation doesn't improve despite your efforts, it might be time to explore other opportunities. Look for organizations that prioritize work-life balance and offer a culture that aligns with your values. After all, life's too short to spend it feeling like you're stuck in a traffic jam on the road to happiness!

5. **Take Care of Yourself**: Last but certainly not least, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Whether it's indulging in your favorite hobbies, spending quality time with your family, or simply taking a moment to breathe, remember that you deserve to recharge your batteries just like your smartphone needs a daily dose of juice!

Finding the right balance between work and life is like mastering the perfect dance routine—it takes practice, patience, and a few missteps along the way. But with a little determination and a sprinkle of Bollywood magic, I have no doubt you'll find your rhythm and waltz your way to a happier, more balanced life!