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I recently came to know that he has her sensitive pictures how should I approach him

Ans: This is a serious situation, and it's crucial to handle it carefully to protect her privacy and well-being. Do not approach him directly, as it could escalate the matter and potentially put her at more risk. Instead, discuss this with her first. Let her know that you’re there to support her and help her take control of the situation. Encourage her to take legal action, as sharing or threatening to share sensitive pictures without consent is illegal in many places and can be addressed through cybercrime laws. If she feels comfortable, she can report this to the authorities or the college administration, who can take appropriate action. If needed, help her gather evidence (like messages or threats) to strengthen her case. The priority is to keep her safe and ensure that her privacy is protected.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 27, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 27, 2023English
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नमस्ते, मैं 18 साल की बेटी का पिता हूं, वह 1 साल की इंजीनियरिंग की छात्रा है और अपनी 12वीं कक्षा के एक लड़के के साथ टाइमपास करती है या बाथरूम से नग्न तस्वीरें साझा करती है, लड़का कभी-कभी पैसे की भी मांग करता है। हमें यह उसके इंस्टा चैट से मिला, इसलिए इसे कैसे संभालना है, कृपया इसे हल करने में मेरी मदद करें।
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
इससे बहुत सावधानी से निपटें क्योंकि यदि आप उसे डांटेंगे या इस पर आपत्ति जताएंगे तो वह और भी अधिक विद्रोह करेगी।
कृपया उसकी मां को भी इसमें शामिल करें।'
उसे इस बारे में बात करने के लिए प्रोत्साहित करें, बिना उसकी आलोचना किए या उसे यह बताए कि उसे क्या करना है। मुझे यकीन है कि वह पहले से ही लड़के की ब्लैकमेलिंग की धमकियों से डरी हुई है।
साथ ही, क्या आपने इसकी सूचना पुलिस को देने पर विचार किया है? अधिकांश माता-पिता ऐसा नहीं चाहते क्योंकि वे अपनी बेटियों को भुगतने वाले परिणामों से चिंतित हैं। लेकिन, इन 'ढोंगों' को और कैसे रोका जा सकता है।

आपके ढेर सारे प्यार और समर्थन से, आपकी बेटी को यह एहसास करने की ताकत फिर से मिल जाएगी कि उसने कुछ गलत विकल्प चुने थे और अब उसके पास उन सभी पर फिर से काम करके आगे बढ़ने के लिए एक बेहतर रास्ता बनाने का विकल्प है। आपको उसे यह बताने की ज़रूरत नहीं है कि क्या करना है क्योंकि वह पहले से ही जानती है। वह तो बस डरी हुई है...
बस उसका समर्थन करें और उससे प्यार करें; निर्देश इंतजार कर सकते हैं...हालांकि मुझे यकीन है कि आपकी चिंताएं आसमान छू रही हैं। लेकिन, याद रखें, जब लोग प्यार से घिरे होते हैं तो सब कुछ काम करता है। आपकी बेटी को अभी इसकी आवश्यकता है।

शुभकामनाएं!

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Kanchan

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 24, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2024
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I was in a relationship with a boy(he is 35 yrs old man, and a lawyer but not practising in a court, he had a lot of relationship during our relationship and after break up , He had changed 4, 5 women or used them physically) for 3 years. It has been three-four months. We are not in a relationship. We have broken up. I told him to delete our personal pics and videos. He is not deleting them and is not blackmailing me either. I told him that since we don't want to be together, we don't have a future together, then delete them. He is not deleting them and is not blackmailing me either and I want him to delete them. Who knows what will come to his mind in the future and what will happen. If we don't continue, he has no right to Keep the pics in your mobile, whatever video is personal to us, don't delete it and don't blackmail me either. I am not able to understand what should I tell him, although I have requested him a lot to delete it but he is not doing it either, He told me that I have kept ur pics and videos So that I cannot complain against him in future. so what should I do, please guide me. I know I had made a huge mistake to love him and gave him right to keep personal pics or videos..
Ans: At this point, it’s essential to protect your emotional and mental health while addressing this issue. You might consider seeking support from someone you trust, such as a close friend or family member, to share this burden. Talking to someone who knows you and your situation can provide comfort and practical guidance.

If he continues to refuse, you may need to explore your legal options. Many countries have laws that protect individuals from having private photos or videos kept or shared without their consent. Taking this step might feel daunting, but it could give you a sense of empowerment and security. It’s not about revenge or escalation; it’s about protecting yourself and asserting your right to move forward without this hanging over you.

On an emotional level, remind yourself that you are not defined by this relationship or the choices you made while in it. You trusted someone who didn’t honor that trust, but this doesn’t diminish your value or strength. It’s natural to feel regret, but you deserve compassion from yourself as you work through this.

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to seek help—whether that’s legal advice, emotional support from loved ones, or even professional counseling to navigate the stress and anxiety this situation might be causing. The most important thing now is to take steps that protect your peace of mind and ensure your future isn’t weighed down by his actions.

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MF, PF Expert - Answered on May 25, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 15, 2025
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I am 36 years old, earning around 1.6 lakhs per month, I have car loan for 7 years and paying 25000 per month, I bought a land property 3 years back and its current evaluation is 35 lakhs, I have a ulip plan of 2lakhs per years and the premium was for 7 years ( completed) and holding period is 3years, total fund accumulated is 22 lakhs. I have a liquid reserve of 20 lakhs. Can u tell me if I have to accumulate 8 crore at the age of 60 , what should I do?
Ans: Hi,

Lets look at your investments and see what you will be able to achieve at the age of 60.

ULIP - This is a insurance + investment product and as you have completed your premium term of 7 years you should be able to access this amount (now or 3 years later). It may seem to be a good product but I believe on both Insurance and Investments there are better products. First the insurance cover is not substantial and the charges are quite high. They will manage to invest the amount just like a Mutual fund. Its better to split insurance and investment. If you are looking at this amount like an investment, then the amount of 22 lakhs is available as a starting point, over the next 24 years if invested at 12% rate (typical returns in Mutual Funds), you will be able to accumulate 3.33 crores. You can buy a term life cover of a high value (much higher than the ULIP cover), for a very low premium and you should definitely get that and com out of the ULIP.

Savings of 20 lakhs - I suggest you keep about 10 lakhs aside in some FDs as your emergency fund - to be used only for any unexpected/emergency situation. This will grow to 40 lakhs at 6% over the next 24 years.
The remaining 10 lakhs should be invested in Mutual funds and at a 12% returns after 24 years this will accumulate into an amount of 1.51 crores.

Thus you can accumulate approx. 5.25 crores with these 2 amounts invested as above for the next 24 years.

To achieve 8 crores, you need to accumulate another 2.75 crores. If you invest 16500 monthly into similar investment (Mutual fund SIP) and assuming same return of 12%, you can accumulate this amount.

In this process we have not considered the land property you have, as its difficult to calculate its value without knowing its location and usage/type. So you can get some estimate for it in future then you can accordingly reduce the monthly SIP requirement.

Mutual Funds are a good investment option when you consider its long term benefits - as its managed by professionals. Its important to construct a good MF portfolio and with time of your side, you should be able to achieve your goal comfortably.

Consult a fee based Certified Financial Planner/Financial advisor who can help and guide you for this.

Thanks & Regards
Janak Patel
Certified Financial Planner.

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