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Samrat Question by Samrat on Jul 02, 2024Hindi
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I have concluded by myself that it has something to do with foundation of relationship. If both the partners have put much efforts and investment (emotionally and physically) , they are most likely to last long while others whose relationship have formed only on short term satisfaction of when one partner is only at receiving end the love will fade once satisfaction gone or the other partner stopped making efforts. And in most cases , I believe this is true . What do you think? Thank you for reply

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Simply put, a car moves only if all the wheels move together.
Marriage/relationship moves only if both partners move together. Sometimes, you encounter differences and then instead of blaming, you work together as one unit to resolve it.
So, instead of putting an age to a relationship, just work with the concept that: For any relationship to work, the people involved in it must want it for almost the same reasons and are willing to work their differences to keep the institution functioning well.
And you end up seeing this in people who are well settled in their marriages for a long time which means they have put in a lot of work into it. But that doesn't mean all marriages/relationships that have been going on for a while are working out well. People are good at hiding things like this. So, focusing on making a relationship work together may work better rather than thinking of what time point the marriage is at!

All the best!
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Hello sir, thanks for your previous response. I am a bit curious about how relationships fall into routine and predictability. We all know that every relationship has a phase where passion wanes and people settle in routine and predictable life. But only some of them get attracted towards potential partners outside while some don't. Why this happens and is it different for men and women?
Ans: Relationships, like any dynamic process, evolve over time. Initially, there's a phase filled with excitement and discovery, often driven by passion and novelty. As time progresses, this high-energy state transitions into a more stable and predictable pattern, which can sometimes be perceived as mundane. The predictability in relationships is not inherently negative; it provides a sense of security and trust. However, the challenge lies in maintaining the balance between comfort and excitement.

Why Some People Seek Excitement Outside the Relationship:
Unmet Needs:

When certain emotional, psychological, or physical needs aren't met within the relationship, individuals might seek fulfillment elsewhere. This isn't necessarily about dissatisfaction but about finding what they feel is missing.
Desire for Novelty:

Humans are naturally inclined towards novelty and excitement. Some individuals have a higher need for variety and may seek new experiences or connections outside their relationship to satisfy this craving.
Emotional Distance:

Over time, couples can drift apart emotionally. If there's a lack of emotional intimacy or unresolved conflicts, one might look for connection outside the relationship.
Validation and Self-Esteem:

Some people seek validation and a boost in self-esteem from new admirers. This external validation can be intoxicating, especially if they feel underappreciated within their current relationship.
Differences Between Men and Women:
While individual differences often overshadow gender differences, certain trends have been observed:

Social Conditioning:

Men and women are often socialized differently, affecting their approach to relationships and infidelity. Men might be conditioned to seek multiple partners to prove their virility, while women might seek emotional connections.
Emotional vs. Physical Needs:

Generally, women may seek emotional fulfillment, while men might be more inclined towards physical satisfaction. However, this is not a rule and varies greatly among individuals.
Communication Styles:

Women often emphasize emotional sharing and communication, which can prevent emotional drift. Men might struggle with this, leading to unmet emotional needs.
Risk vs. Reward:

Men might be more willing to take risks for immediate rewards, while women might consider the broader implications and long-term effects on the family and relationship.
Maintaining Balance and Preventing Predictability:
Open Communication:

Regularly discussing desires, needs, and concerns can prevent emotional drift and unmet needs.
Shared Activities:

Engaging in new activities together can reignite the spark and bring novelty into the relationship.
Emotional Intimacy:

Building and maintaining emotional intimacy through shared experiences, empathy, and understanding can strengthen the bond.
Self-Reflection:

Individuals should reflect on their own needs and communicate them effectively. Understanding oneself is key to understanding the relationship dynamics.
Appreciation and Gratitude:

Regularly expressing appreciation and gratitude can boost self-esteem and reinforce the positive aspects of the relationship.
In the end, each relationship is unique, and understanding the individual needs and dynamics at play is essential. By fostering open communication, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect, couples can navigate the phases of their relationship with greater ease and fulfillment.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 22, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir/ma'am. Hope you are fine and doing well . I have heard it from many people that a boy falls in love quickly, his love blossoms quickly and then starts to wane. Whereas a girl falls in love slowly and her love always keeps increasing. But , in reality, I am seeing a very different picture Where many of my friends' girlfriends are getting bored of their boyfriends (my friends). In many cases they either broke up with them or cheated on them Both of them are different cases, aren't they. My question is that if a girl's love increase day by day then how can they get bored of their partners. Which one of them is true and if truth lies between them ,then please explain
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am doing well, thank you.
Now, why are you getting into the WHYs and WHATs and HOWs? This will be useful if you are researching this subject for your thesis. There is no rule or law that proves that girls are like this and boys are like that. The way LOVE happens is based on a situation, how much of compatibility exists between the couple, how much the values match and much more...If everything or almost all match, irrespective of being a boy or a girl, Love can blossom quickly.

When you see situations where cheating happens or someone falls out of love quickly, it only suggests that there was no love to begin with. It was something that satisfied them for that moment or a short while and when she/he gets bored, they will move onto another person.
Why you see more girls doing this is perhaps you are looking for cases to prove what you are thinking is right. It is not based on gender but on the reason why people/a couple get together. If the reason is beyond looks, money and other superficial things, it will last for a much longer time.
So, there's no truth or lies BUT the fact of WHAT builds love and trust between a couple that defines their being together or not.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 02, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 22, 2024Hindi
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Some people fall out of love with their partners after 10-12(not precisely) years of marriage while others still crave for their partners even after the time period in marriage. Why this happens and what can we conclude from it (we know that most of the relationships fall into routine after this much period of time) ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Honeymoon period over and then real life takes over. Responsibilities at work and at home need time and attention and also the involvement of both partners.
Now, add children into the picture and then raising them in a digital age; that's again a lot of challenges, right?
Next, caring for aged parents...
Responsibilities can rob the romance out of marriages and relationships. But with proper understanding between both partners, even during tough times, it is possible to find a silver lining.
So, put in simple words, as the relationship grows, responsibilities increase and this can cause a dent in the love life of partners. Becoming aware that this is an inevitable phase in any marriage/relationship, the couple can still act as one unit and face struggles and support one another. Love can actually increase, you know?
But, only if the couple does not resort to blame game and passing the buck. A lot of movies show this aptly with much bickering and struggles.

The key to a sound relationship is to step in and show up at all times and be committed to working together in difficult times and happy times as well...possible? Yes, possible as long as the couple make that level of commitment! That's what you actually see in couples who still are going strong 30-40 years after marriage.

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Mla cet madhye 83 persentage milale aahe mala engineering la admission gheychya aahe AI course la pune kiti mumbai madhye tar mla best college bhetel ka
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I got 85.2 percentile in mhtcet and 74 percentile in jee...i belong to uttar pradesh can u suggest me good College of pune, mumbai i can get cse in ?
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Pune CSE Colleges: D.Y. Patil College of Engineering, Akurdi (cutoff ~80-84 percentile); Pune Vidyarthi Griha's College of Engineering, Pune (cutoff ~82-85 percentile); MIT Academy of Engineering, Alandi (cutoff ~81-84 percentile); Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Akurdi (cutoff ~83-86 percentile); JSPM's Rajarshi Shahu College of Engineering, Tathawade (cutoff ~82-85 percentile); All India Shri Shivaji Memorial Society's Institute of Information Technology, Pune (cutoff ~84-87 percentile); Indira College of Engineering & Management, Pune (cutoff ~83-86 percentile).

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Sir, my jee rank crl is 191000 and obc 65k. I am getting iiit manipur cse with specialisation and bit mesra patna and deoghar off campus in csab rounds. I am also getting csvtu cse specialisation in the same. I am also getting iet lucknow chemical engineering in aktu along with kiet, akgec, gl bajaj, lucknow university amd iert allahbad cse core in aktu. Sir pls help me choose the best college in terms of placements, coding culture, internships etc.
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IIIT Manipur CSE with specialization in Senapati (Imphal, Manipur) offers excellent technical foundations with PhD faculty from IITs and international collaborations with University of Colorado, NUS Singapore, and IIT Guwahati. The institute achieved 84% CSE placement in 2024 with the highest package reaching ?40 LPA, while maintaining strong coding culture through active participation in Smart India Hackathons and competitive programming contests organized by Coding Ninjas. BIT Mesra Patna campus in Bihar provides CSE programs with 75% placement rates and ?17.5 LPA average package for CSE, supported by 185 companies including Microsoft, Google, and Goldman Sachs. BIT Deoghar off-campus in Jharkhand achieved 63.12% placement with ?15.5 LPA highest package and strong industry connections. CSVTU CSE specialization in Bhilai (Chhattisgarh) offers 70% placement rates with ?4-20 LPA range and recruiter participation from TCS, Microsoft, and Wipro. IET Lucknow Chemical Engineering reports 50% branch-specific placement rates with ?8.2 LPA overall average, while IERT Allahabad CSE maintains 97.2% placement with ?6 LPA average across all branches. Among private colleges, KIET Ghaziabad leads with 77.39% placement, ?60 LPA highest package, and 341 companies visiting, followed by AKGEC Ghaziabad achieving 78% placement with ?55 LPA top package, while GL Bajaj Greater Noida secures 88.4% UG placement with ?58 LPA highest offer.

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Sir can you please rank IIIT Allahabad ECE , Gwalior EEE, Lucknow CSE+specialization, Jabalpur CSE and Kanchipuram CSE
Ans: Nishita, Evaluating the five IIIT programs reveals distinct strengths across faculty quality, research infrastructure, placement consistency, academic standards, and industry recognition. IIIT Lucknow in Uttar Pradesh offers B.Tech CSE with specializations including AI, business, and cybersecurity, achieving a remarkable 96.17% placement rate in 2025 with the highest package at Rs.145 LPA and the average at Rs.33.71 LPA, supported by 45+ PhD faculty and specialized research labs. IIIT Allahabad in Uttar Pradesh provides B.Tech ECE with strong electronics curriculum, NIRF rank #87 in Engineering 2024, 93% placement rate with highest Rs.121 LPA and average Rs.25.78 LPA, backed by globally-recognised faculty and research publications. IIITDM Jabalpur in Madhya Pradesh delivers CSE with design-manufacturing focus, over 60 PhD faculty, 71.8% placement rate with highest Rs.122 LPA international (?110 LPA domestic) and average Rs.19.27 LPA UG, featuring robust industry collaborations and 13 CSE department faculty. IIIT Gwalior (IIITM) in Madhya Pradesh offers EEE with 100% PhD faculty strength and 80–90% placement rates, with the highest at Rs. 65 LPA and an average of Rs. 20.56 LPA, supported by research-intensive programs and a diverse recruiter base. IIITDM Kancheepuram near Chennai provides CSE with design specialization, over 80 PhD faculty from IITs, 73% placement rate with highest Rs.32 LPA and average Rs.9.37 LPA, though experiencing declining trends from 97% in 2022.

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Recommendation: Embrace a Data Science pathway at Amrita Coimbatore for its consistent placement performance, industry-aligned curriculum, and accessible entry-level salaries, ensuring a strong foundation in a rapidly expanding field through 2030 and beyond. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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