Hello . I am Samrat and in past I have asked many questions. Recently I have gone through a lot of infidelity cases. The one thing that crosses my mind is that ", Are those people who cheat in their relationship have some common personality traits " , not everyone but most of them ? Because I used to think that anyone can cheat based on circumstances and no one should judge earlier whether one is cheater or not and neither all the cheater are necessarily bad persons. But the more I am delving into it the more I am getting a feeling that these are specific kind of person not all but most of them like they basically withdraw themselves from relationship no what his/her partner is doing for them. they are mostly self-centred etc. because if any reason can support their argument about cheating it should be apply to everyone. But as we all know both male and suffer but don't get indulge into such kind of activities. I request please respond Hope you're fine Regards Samrat

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Cheating in a relationship is not only about getting physically involved with someone. Getting emotionally involved and developing crushes is also considered cheating; at least most people consider it so.

Here are some examples of what people consider cheating or toxic behavior in a relationship- *My GF of last 2 years gets attracted to men, She developed feelings for a guy, She has a crush another guy on insta and she plans to meet.* All of these are from your previous question. That's how I arrived at the "repeated pattern of cheating" conclusion.

But at the end of the day, it is your decision what falls within your idea of cheating.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are right from your point of view as that is what you are seeing around you...and what we see is what we believe...
But also remember, there are other points of view which you have started to ignore as your belief has grown stronger by the day!

Are all women cheaters?
Are all the women that are connected to you, cheaters?
Can a few women actually be loyal?

Universal statements like the one you make: "Every time I see a woman or girl my mind suggest me the word cheater or potential cheater." - This will only limit your view of the world and hence limit your experiences and joys of the world.

Let me give you an example for further understanding...
Your friend gets bitten by a stray dog. Your friend will declare: All dogs are bad. They all bite...If you are someone who loves dogs, will you believe this statement? No, right?
Another example:
While boiling milk one day, it curdles...will you declare that Milk is always bad...Is it true?

Kindly open your mind and understand that what you feed your mind with magnifies and makes it true...So, if you want a different view on women, you also need to know that there are two sides to a coin...People are different from one another...Women are all different from one another and there's goodness in each of them that I wish to see...
Doesn't this change your view of the world? If it still doesn't, then you will continue to worry about what's going to happen to your brother or you...Time to change your mindset?

All the best!

Ans: Hello Samrat,
It's important to recognize that every individual and relationship is unique, and there can be a variety of reasons why someone may seek emotional or intimate connections outside of their primary relationship, even when it seems satisfying. and there is no one-size-fits-all explanation for why some women may become involved in intimate relationships outside of their exclusive partnerships. People's motivations and actions are influenced by a complex interplay of psychological, emotional, social, and situational factors and this is not exclusive to women; individuals of any gender may experience this behavior.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for responding.
Short-term satisfaction is something that does not build much but it is important to have those moments like coffee dates, short vacations/trips, joining a gym together...
Compatibility is defined by value systems match. This value system is found in every area of our life right from food choices to intimacy to money matters to children...
These things require a clear discussion before a couple decides to make it official, well ideally...when these matters are never discussed, it definitely gives rise to issues later on in the relationship/marriage. Relationships require a lot of work to keep it going and it takes the effort from both partners to have an almost great relationship.

All the best!
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